DD & MIL's Issues

[busymom]

Sorry your DD is making this harder for you.   If you haven't gotten someone to come along with you tomorrow, definitely have her seat belted in the back seat, in the opposite corner, so she doesn't try to wreck the car (and you) on the way there.  Please give us a quick message when you arrive safely back home!

If you need to take her there without her suitcase of clothes, do it!  It'll be easier on you later to deliver her things once she's there.

Keeping you in prayer!

[Ombud]

Does your car have a trunk where the suitcase can be hidden? If not, take 1 day change and overnight the rest

[NastyWoman]

Stay safe @patstab. It's almost done.   And 

[debthaven]

I wish your DH could have come home to help you with this, so that your DD can see it's both your decision. Hugs Pat. 

[suesinfl]

Wishing you the best of luck Pat, hang in there.

[dannylion]

Thinking of you today, Pat.

Please let us know when you're home and safe.

[Wisconsin Beth]

They're not going to call you to come get her tomorrow/today Pat.  Like The Captain said, it's basically first day of preschool and they'll handle it.  They're trained in this.  It's gonna be ok. 

[taz157]

Sept 9, 2015 6:53:33 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

They're not going to call you to come get her tomorrow/today Pat.  Like The Captain said, it's basically first day of preschool and they'll handle it.  They're trained in this.  It's gonna be ok. 

Yeah that. ((((Hugs))))

[kjto1]

I hope you are successful at the doctor's office and taking her to her new home.  My thoughts and good vibes will be with you today. 

[resolution]

You are in my thoughts and prayers today. You are one strong lady and I know you can make it through the day! 

[tcu2003]

Thinking about you and your DD today, Pat.

[mollyanna58]

Sept 9, 2015 7:32:57 GMT -5 resolution said:

You are in my thoughts and prayers today. You are one strong lady and I know you can make it through the day! 

[Tennesseer]

Pat-better for you and your daughter to be able to come to terms with her new life while you and your husband are still alive to help her along than your daughter having to begin a new life because you and your husband have passed away and she is suddenly lost because you are no longer around for comfort and familiarity.

She and you will need time to adjust and it will be rocky for a while, but better for her this way with you than without you.

[busymom]

We're here for you, Pat! <HUGS> and prayers!

[mmhmm]

Thinking of you Pat, and wishing the best for both of you. I know this is hard and I'm so very sorry. 

[Opti]

Good luck and be careful. I hope for the best for DD and yourself.

[bean29]

Pat, I am thinking of you. Hope everything goes well today.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

 Well sh** she got into the glucose tablets, I forgot to lock them up and can't figure out when she took them so she just screwed up the lab tests. She took all of them, she said it made me feel better, no doubt. I had to call and they had to put on it fasting unknown. All that work for nothing. It will all have to be done again, why didn't I think about those. 

Pat if I had everything on my plate you have I think I'd consider myself lucky to remember my name and address.   Don't beat yourself up, you have A LOT going on and our brains can only handle so much. Unfortunately our brains do not let us choose what to forget, it does the for us.

[wvugurl26]

They can rerun the blood work later. You've been dealing with so much and you are only human. I don't see why they can't have some one come draw her blood later when they can keep her from eating. When I did a stint as a temp admin for a lab we had traveling phlebotomists that went out to the nursing homes and stuff.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I am surprised they don't make her come in early so they can watch her.   They'll make you do that when you're pregnant if you can't pass the glucose test and have to take the 3 hour  one.  They make you stay in the office so they can monitor you and make sure you aren't eating.

[NastyWoman]

Sept 9, 2015 8:55:19 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Thinking of you Pat, and wishing the best for both of you. I know this is hard and I'm so very sorry. 

  . Please let us know when you are safely back

[Works4me]

Check with her doctor - as best you can, tell him what she ate and when. Quite often they can still make sense of the results if the know to allow for it. On at least one occasion, my previous doctor was able to compensate for my forgetfulness and same with my father's doctor. 

I am sending support and positive thoughts your way. Just keep in mind that you are doing what is best for your DD too. She is not going to be happy about moving no matter when it happens. As PP's have stated, it will be far easier for her to adjust now than after a tragic loss. She is not able to be happy at home with you any longer and that is not your fault. She may refuse to be happy or she just may not be able to be happy as part of her condition.

Some things just cannot be. I liken it to the concept that we cannot expect a quadriplegic to walk - it just cannot be. No matter how much we all want him to, he can't do so. The unpleasant reality just is.

I know that after placing my father I slept for days and I had only been caring for him for about 2-1/2 years. Be good to yourself, be kind and allow yourself time to heal. In some ways I am still recovering and may always be. 

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

I know you are not particularly religious, Pat, but I hope you don't mind if I offer up some ferverent prayers for you and DD.

Stay calm. Stay focused. Stay safe.

This day was always coming. May it lead to a bright new beginning for both of you.

[Waffle]

Sept 9, 2015 10:29:30 GMT -5 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:

I know you are not particularly religious, Pat, but I hope you don't mind if I offer up some ferverent prayers for you and DD.

Stay calm. Stay focused. Stay safe.

This day was always coming. May it lead to a bright new beginning for both of you.

   - Absolutely, that!

[Green Eyed Lady]

Please let us know that you get home ok. I sure would have gone along on the ride with you if I could.

[zibazinski]

I can't believe you have no friends to help you. I hope you're able to get some after she's placed. I have to have a friend take me to my colonoscopy bcuz DH can't. What would I do otherwise? Never get one done?

[CCL]

Thinking about you and your daughter today, Pat. I hope all goes well. Change is never easy, but often is a lot better.

[Opti]

I'm wondering what happened. I would love to read Pat is OK, DD is OK, and things mostly worked out.

[Blonde Granny]

It won't surprise me if DD comes home with her today.....I hope not, but it might happen.

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Sept 9, 2015 15:22:05 GMT -5 Blonde Granny said:

It won't surprise me if DD comes home with her today.....I hope not, but it might happen.

That's what I was thinking too... but I hope she does get settled-in to the group home today once and for all.

Pats, it's going to be tough on both of you for a while during the transition & re-adjustment period, but you know in your heart of hearts that it's best for all concerned. Don't rush to her rescue at the first sign of an outburst.