Abby Normal
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Post by Abby Normal on Nov 19, 2014 17:31:46 GMT -5
Mid said her daughter was sleeping 12-14 hours a day at a couple weeks. My friends was never more than 6-7 with a couple 15 minute power naps thrown in. So it's not the same scenario.
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michelyn8
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Post by michelyn8 on Nov 20, 2014 8:25:12 GMT -5
I think that there are many things that can affect the sleep of a new baby. Two of my three were sleeping through the night by 6 weeks (and by through the night I mean from at least 11 p.m. to 5 a.m.) DD2 was nearly 18 months before she reached that point although she still did some good stretches most nights. But DD2 was diagnosed with hip dyplasia at a few weeks old and spent her first six months in braces and casts. DS and DD2 are very much alike is how they were about getting to sleep though. Both had to be rocked or in bed with me and would toss and turn and fight going to sleep. DD2 could be laid down and would pass out with no problem. She was about a year old when she really started fighting me on rocking her or even holding her while she had her bottle before bed time and out of frustration one night I just put her in her crib and she went right to sleep with no fuss. I could never do that with DS or DD2. When I tried to determine why they were so different, I came to the conclusion that some of it could have come from my stress levels during pregnancy. DD1 was the only one that was fairly calm for me. With DS, I was a teenager and my parents had sent me to live in a maternity home away from family and friends. With DD2, The Ex and I had separated just before I found out I was going to have her and I was going through that chaos on top of some very stressful financial and legal problems.
In any case, all of my children did well with a schedule/routine. That could have been because they needed the structure or it could have been because I thrive on having routines and was able to be more tolerable of their quirks because we kept them on one. And since we lived with my mother after my divorce and she is extremely particular about so many things, keeping a schedule/routine helped keep things they way she wanted around the house and prevented any conflicts that could have made all our lives more difficult.
In any case, what works for one family may not work for another and we need to remember that and be tolerant of those differences. Some families need schedules because its helps them maintain a peaceful home. Others thrive on chaos which those of us who are stressed out by it will never understand how they make it work.
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gooddecisions
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 20, 2014 13:14:10 GMT -5
I had a friend whose daughter was like that. She was born one day after my DS. She had a full head of hair at birth and within a couple months had rubbed off a ring of it and had a rash on her scalp from turning her head to see what was going on. She was up most of the day, and only slept like 6 hours a night. It was so bad, the ended up putting her (the daughter) on some medication to try and get her to sleep more. It was so hard on my friend, so I can completely sympathize. Did it get better? That sounds just like DD. I have to put her down in a completely dark room and basically bore her to sleep. If there is anything at all going on, she has to be a part of it. Please tell me your friend's daughter turned out to be some sort of super genius or musical prodigy or something. ![](//images.proboards.com/v5/smiley/tongue.png) My first was like that. I tried everything there was to get her to sleep longer- whether during naps or at night. She took three 15 minute naps a day and woke up 5-10x a night for 11 months. But, she was healthy and somehow happy as long as she was held or played with. I was very unhappy because I was super sleep deprived. Regardless of all my attempts to solve it, she figured it out and slept 10 hours at night after she turned 11 months old. If I had been attempting a sleep training technique at that time, I would have given the credit to sleep training, but it would have been a coincidence. She's 3 now. On the other hand, my 7 month old sleeps great. She sleeps 10 hours straight, wakes up to be fed around 5am and goes right back to sleep for another 2 hours plus takes great naps during the day. I have done nothing different- same crib, same pajamas, same diet, same dark quiet room, same video monitor. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/idunno.gif)
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