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Post by cktc on Oct 16, 2014 15:07:53 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t?
I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people.
We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work.
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Post by Bonny on Oct 16, 2014 15:12:34 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. Tell your SO's sister about your new favorite wine.
Re-gift the rest. Just keep track of who they came from so you don't commit the ultimate re-gifting faux pas!
ETA: Our wine-loving friends know I like white wine and I've gotten a lot of buttery chardonnays. But I'm a picky PITA and hate those oaky wines. Gradually I'm training them...
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Oct 16, 2014 15:13:16 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. After the first bottle, the next 4 will taste great.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 16, 2014 15:13:21 GMT -5
Ugh. The problem with being grateful and saying how much you appreciate something you really don't want is more of it. My only solution is to be honest and say that you really like <<insert favorite>> and wish you had more of it. Or you can lie your ass off and say you used to really like Riesling but now it upsets your stomach. Just remember to leave out "because somebody keeps buying me this crap". I like sweeter wines but that one is over the top! It even makes my teeth hurt if I try to drink it. Bleh!
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Post by Abby Normal on Oct 16, 2014 15:17:47 GMT -5
Buy a bottle of something you really like. Invite SO's sister to dinner and say " I've been waiting to share this with you. It's my new favorite and it's amazing. I hope you like it as much as I do"
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Post by tractor on Oct 16, 2014 15:26:30 GMT -5
My bosses wife hates good and plenty candy. Her dad thinks she loves it and buys her several boxes of it every time she visits. She says thank you, and brings it home to be quickly brought into our office to be consumed. This has been going on for years. I guess she doesn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him she hates it. This works out fine for me because I love the stuff.
I would tell her the wine gives you gas so you had to switch to another kind to keep your friends around.
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Post by Bonny on Oct 16, 2014 15:28:33 GMT -5
And if you don't want to go the re-gifting route you can do what one of my friend's ex-DH does. He washes his windows with it!
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Post by cktc on Oct 16, 2014 15:46:46 GMT -5
Buy a bottle of something you really like. Invite SO's sister to dinner and say " I've been waiting to share this with you. It's my new favorite and it's amazing. I hope you like it as much as I do" Good idea except 3 of the 5 people don't even drink anymore. In fact the sister is the one who used to like sweet wines, so I used to always keep a bottle on hand to offer her, and try not to talk about how horrible I thought it was to be polite. Ooph. Hahaha, I don't hate it that much, but will keep this in mind when I run out of Windex.
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Post by Abby Normal on Oct 16, 2014 16:00:15 GMT -5
Buy a bottle of something you really like. Invite SO's sister to dinner and say " I've been waiting to share this with you. It's my new favorite and it's amazing. I hope you like it as much as I do" Good idea except 3 of the 5 people don't even drink anymore. In fact the sister is the one who used to like sweet wines, so I used to always keep a bottle on hand to offer her, and try not to talk about how horrible I thought it was to be polite. Ooph. Yes, but if she's spreading the word about the Riesling, she can spread the word about the one you really do like. If she's one of the one's that doesn't drink- then you just exclaim with all glee and happiness " This is my new favorite!"
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2014 16:49:42 GMT -5
Casually mention that you've been experimenting with new wines and you've discovered something you like even better. Or your taste buds seem to be changing and the sweet wines aren't as delicious to you anymore.
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Post by Abby Normal on Oct 16, 2014 17:43:39 GMT -5
You could always go for the less tactful, but more fun way of-
Taking a sip, spraying it out of your mouth, running to the sink and drink directly from the tap, spitting and rinsing several times followed by loudly proclaiming " Who the hell pissed in the bottle. God that tastes AWFUL."
Yeah- that might be more fun.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Oct 16, 2014 18:18:42 GMT -5
I feel for you, lol! My mom and grandma do this to me I think I am getting through to them though because the last bottles I received were more to my liking. I am a picky bitch when it comes to wine. No sweet wine and no chardonnay
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Post by Tennesseer on Oct 16, 2014 18:26:05 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. Recipes using riesling wine: Riesling Recipes
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Post by cktc on Oct 16, 2014 18:34:31 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. Recipes using riesling wine: Riesling Recipes Awesome idea!
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 16, 2014 18:41:01 GMT -5
We don't drink wine. We don't drink coffee. Our friends know this. They are welcome to bring wine to a dinner at our house for themselves and others, but have learned not to bring it (or bags of fancy coffee) as housewarming or host/hostess gifts. Still some people have given us wine or coffee over the years as thank you gifts. We smile and thank them, and then add them to our pile for re-gifting. We never have to worry about giving them to the people who gave them to us, because we give them to friends who know enough not to have gotten them for us. Those friends also know that the wine or coffee we may bring are being re-gifted. (Because really, I know nothing about either, so I'm never going to try and buy one myself.) If it turns out to be something they would never drink, they can then happily re-gift it, knowing for certain it won't be going back to the person who gave it to them.
It's a really great circle... though I don't actually want to encourage anyone to buy me wine or coffee.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2014 18:44:54 GMT -5
The other thing you can do is tell people you've decided not to drink wine anymore for a while (to lose weight, or just because). Give it a year (during which you will have to buy your own wine), then decide to go back to it, and discover a new wine you love, because your taste buds have changed.
ETA: Obviously I'm NOT suggesting you need to lose weight, I have no idea what your weight is! But since many people would do better with a few pounds less, I'm just thinking it could be a convenient excuse for "giving up drinking", even temporarily.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 16, 2014 19:35:02 GMT -5
I guess you're just going to have to eat Thai food for dinner from now on.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 16, 2014 19:49:20 GMT -5
I just regift wines that I don't like. I try to regift them to people that I know will like them. Or I save them for Christmas gift exchanges. Alcohol is a HUGE hit at our office dirty santa party
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Post by imawino on Oct 16, 2014 19:53:16 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. Tell your SO's sister about your new favorite wine.
Re-gift the rest. Just keep track of who they came from so you don't commit the ultimate re-gifting faux pas!
ETA: Our wine-loving friends know I like white wine and I've gotten a lot of buttery chardonnays. But I'm a picky PITA and hate those oaky wines. Gradually I'm training them...
Bonny, you can send them to me! I mostly drink reds but I like an oaky chardonnay once in a while. Thanks!
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 16, 2014 20:21:47 GMT -5
I was going to say or send them to me shipping will probably be cheaper, but I don't like white wines. A nice red wine is always better (see RED wine is the good one)
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Oct 16, 2014 22:24:03 GMT -5
I would go with the statement that your taste buds have been changing as you've gotten older ( ! ), and that you're finding that you are " developing a preference for the dryer wines now. Isn't that something ?! "
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Post by Formerly SK on Oct 16, 2014 23:04:48 GMT -5
Man, I can't eat about 1/2 of the stuff I used to eat. As I'm getting older, my body is getting very very picky. I would have no problems saying that sweet wines don't agree with me anymore and I can only drink X now. Oh the joys of aging.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Oct 16, 2014 23:24:41 GMT -5
I agree, Formerly SK. I've noticed a lot of changes. Things that I've enjoyed eating or drinking no longer taste good, or they upset my innards something terrible.
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Post by Opti on Oct 17, 2014 7:54:35 GMT -5
Do you know for sure these are all the sweet version of Reisling? While I generally prefer reds, the Reisling I drink is usually dry unless it is a dessert wine.
It could be the world’s most misunderstood grape variety and wine. A common misconception is that Riesling only produces sweet wine. Although sweet wines dominate this category, there are some amazingly dry and complex wine is produced in Alsace, Germany and the United States. At its best, it offers fabulous floral aromas with crisp and highly flavorful pineapple, apricot, honey and citrus fruit flavors. Known for its crispness, or acidity, even sweeter style Rieslings are not overly thick and syrupy.
This grape variety dominates in Germany and the majority of the white wines produced there are made in the sweeter style. There is a classification system in place, which categorizes wines by their sweetness. From driest to sweetest, they are Kabinett, Spätlese, Auslese, Beerenauslese and Trockenbeerenauslese. These whites range from the semisweet, lighter style to the extremely sweet, lush and dessert wine style.
www.totalwine.com/eng/guide-to-wine/riesling.cfm
Not sure about American producers, but I usually buy German wine with Kabinett on the label unless I am looking for a dessert wine like a nice ice wine.
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Post by Opti on Oct 17, 2014 7:56:58 GMT -5
Have you talked to her and told her what your preferred wines are? Or perhaps that you prefer gifts that aren't wine?
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Post by cktc on Oct 17, 2014 9:38:47 GMT -5
Have you talked to her and told her what your preferred wines are? Or perhaps that you prefer gifts that aren't wine?
No, we don't talk about drinking very much since she quit two years ago. You do raise an interesting point though, non wine gifts tended to be owl themed because she also thinks I'm owl obsessed. My SO's people have specific fixations; horses, wolves, dragons, batman, skulls, so when they saw that I had a few owl cups that became my thing. The Riesling's are most certainly preferable. I should probably ride it as long as it lasts, and hopefully they will notice my "changing" preference for reds.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 17, 2014 9:54:46 GMT -5
My grandparents and great uncle kept giving me pig related knick knacks for awhile. I lived in a 10x11 dorm at the time I had no place to put all this junk. What I ended up doing was saying it is a shame that all these nice things have to sit in a box at home, I'd hate it if anyone got me more only to watch them collect dust.
It got the message across without being rude.
Maybe say you have so many bottles of this wine you don't know what to do and it's going to be a shame if it goes to waste, how about we skip giving X wine this year so I can finish all the lovely bottles already given to me? If you still want gift ideas I am experimenting and would really like to try X wine.
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Post by flamingo on Oct 17, 2014 10:53:43 GMT -5
I have family members who make their own wine. There is nothing good about it. But they love giving it as gifts. Mostly to my parents. Who barely drink. My dad only drinks wine if he's with me (so like 3-4x a year), because he doesn't like to drink alone and my mom only drinks sangria at home when no one but my dad is around. Yes, my parents are weird. Anyway, every holiday they can, they give my parents at least one bottle, sometimes more, of their home made wine. My mom tried to pawn it off on me (in private) but it's so terrible, it's undrinkable. We laugh as we pour it down the sink. When these family members asked me one year whether my parents would prefer white or red, I said, well, I don't know, as I've never seen them drink wine before. I went on to say that I've never actually seen my parents drink anything, except the occasional beer when they are with my grandfather. These family members took this to mean that my parents are closet drinkers and therefore should give them at least 1 bottle of each (red and white) at every holiday from then on. They don't give me any because until recently, I had to fly to see them and you can't take wine on the plane in a carry on!
Sometimes, there is no discouraging people. We've found it easier to take the wine and laugh as we pour it out. It's only problematic when they want to host dinner and serve their wine. Then we all feel obligated to either lie-wine gives me a headache-or if we aren't quick enough, to try to choke down a few sips. Then we laugh later. They mean well, they just don't make wine well
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Post by cktc on Oct 17, 2014 10:58:58 GMT -5
flamingo, I've heard homemade wine can be pretty terrible, but using it to make sangria is another great idea!
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Post by tloonya on Oct 17, 2014 11:31:20 GMT -5
What do you do when you errantly get a reputation for loving something you really, really, don’t? I got 5 bottles of sweet wines for my birthday this year. I love wine, but my SO’s sister has come under the assumption that Riesling is my absolute favorite, and is spreading the word. It is really my least favorite wine, and I don’t know how to correct that assumption without looking like an ingrate to 5 generous people. We’ve been exchanging gifts for a few years, so I don’t think opting out of gift exchange will work. What a bitch!!!!!!!!
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