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Post by cktc on Oct 3, 2014 13:09:55 GMT -5
June of '85? That's the is the event of my ultimate room silencer. That's the month my mom died suddenly at 26. I was a year and 9 months. Let the awkward conversation commence.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 3, 2014 13:15:56 GMT -5
Can we do awkward silence instead?
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Post by cktc on Oct 3, 2014 13:39:06 GMT -5
Can we do awkward silence instead? The awkward silence is a given, it's the return to normal conversation that is a challenge. I suppose this is the part where I must apologize for being a thread killer and assure everyone that it is okay to go back to the joyful topic of replacing his or her spouse
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 3, 2014 13:45:32 GMT -5
Can we do awkward silence instead? The awkward silence is a given, it's the return to normal conversation that is a challenge. I suppose this is the part where I must apologize for being a thread killer and assure everyone that it is okay to go back to the joyful topic of replacing his or her spouse [img src=" images.proboards.com/new/grin.png" src="http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png"] I probably should let my back up know that he is my back up......
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 3, 2014 13:48:25 GMT -5
I've spent my life making DH's easier/run smoother. He's on his own after I croak.
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Post by Opti on Oct 3, 2014 13:52:48 GMT -5
I was just barely incubating in June of 85. And I started at AT&T as a member of technical staff, i.e. MTS. I think we were on Computer Inquiry Law #2 or some such of the Ma Bell break up years. -secret-Sorry about the Mom.
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Post by Opti on Oct 3, 2014 14:00:48 GMT -5
Everyone has different tastes and not all "young" ones are the same. Personally I'm a huge fan of the good ones, however, there is a lot to be said for people who are around your own age.
(Of course I don't talk about age all that much. I usually talk about experiences or in June of 1985 I was doing X. I've found it is amazing how much commonality I have with people of most ages speaking that way, but YMMV, etc.)
Let's see, June of 85... I was 4 years old and looking forward to kindergarten. What were you up to? Well, I moved across a few states with a Uhaul after graduating with my Master's in Electrical Engineering and started work on the 25th with AT&T in Lincroft, NJ as a MTS for ATT-IS(Only the telecom folks will probably get that. )
That was back in the beginning when Microsoft only had MS-DOS and it came with real manuals that were useful. RAM was 64K and the 286 would later come out and be a PC, me and my office-mate tested out for our department.
So, a bright young 25 year old STEM graduate who thought she'd be living the AT&T dream...
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 3, 2014 14:18:21 GMT -5
I've spent my life making DH's easier/run smoother. He's on his own after I croak. Amen sister. I love my DH and hoping he sticks around deep into old age, but if I croak first he is totally on his own. But he's a big boy - he can take care of himself. Thank goodness for working mothers who teach their sons to be self-sufficient (thanks RIP MIL ).
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 3, 2014 14:21:40 GMT -5
I've spent my life making DH's easier/run smoother. He's on his own after I croak. Amen sister. I love my DH and hoping he sticks around deep into old age, but if I croak first he is totally on his own. But he's a big boy - he can take care of himself. Thank goodness for working mothers who teach their sons to be self-sufficient (thanks RIP MIL ). I only need to live 8 more years to be sure he doesn't screw up the kids too bad, that's all.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 3, 2014 15:13:30 GMT -5
In 1985 I had been divorced for 3 yrs and still perfecting the plan that cael brought up
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Oct 3, 2014 19:07:09 GMT -5
Nope - no backup and I don't want one. I'm nine years older than DH so I'll probably kick off first. If he goes first, I'll be too old to care anyway since I'm 67.
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Post by Opti on Oct 3, 2014 22:12:12 GMT -5
In 1985 I had been divorced for 3 yrs and still perfecting the plan that cael brought up No wonder you are ahead of me. My divorce was in 1993. Unfortunately for me, I really thought then my better marriage, etc. was possible in the next decade or so. (Feeling sorry for myself now, maybe its SAD. Was happier before and during dusk.)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2014 22:14:24 GMT -5
Nope - no backup and I don't want one. I'm nine years older than DH so I'll probably kick off first. If he goes first, I'll be too old to care anyway since I'm 67. Ha! So you think. My Grandma landed #3 at 82! And he was an older man! ROFL. They were married over 10 years too. She passed away 10 days after he died.
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Post by Opti on Oct 3, 2014 22:16:54 GMT -5
Go MPL Grandma.
Everyone is different. I personally am not finding ultimate enjoyment living alone year after year after year. Talking to guys about cool cars yesterday helped, but tonight is really sucking.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2014 22:29:36 GMT -5
She used to brag about being married 75 years. Not to the same guy...but total. She outlived them all. First marriage was very young...possibly 15. He was killed when the furnace blew up and left her a widow with three kids...at 18! Then she married my Grandpa a few years later and they were married for over 50 years and had 5 more kids. After he died at 82 (she was a little younger), she met hubby number 3. She wanted to just shack up, but he was a little old fashioned . I think they were 82 and 87 when they walked down the aisle. They traveled all over for several years including one trip to Europe until his health got a lot worse and then she mostly took care of him still at their own house. I think outliving a third was all she could take and she was done living after that. It was only a few days after his funeral that she was admitted to the hospital and her funeral was the following week.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2014 22:36:28 GMT -5
Ebola. Get a couple spares.
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Post by qofcc on Oct 4, 2014 7:47:29 GMT -5
In 1985 I was in 11th grade. Just turning Sweet 16 & never been kissed working very hard to fix that situation & worried about getting a date for the junior prom in November.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Oct 4, 2014 9:04:59 GMT -5
The lady next door has a home cleaning service with a company called " Muscles and Mops." The guy is cute and muscular, so I guess he'd do for a back-up boy toy. P
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 4, 2014 11:42:46 GMT -5
The lady next door has a home cleaning service with a company called " Muscles and Mops." The guy is cute and muscular, so I guess he'd do for a back-up boy toy. P If he cooks too I would reconsider the marriage thing
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Oct 4, 2014 14:45:48 GMT -5
...:::"Are you offering your services in general or do you have a back up wife in mind?":::... Bonny can't it be both?
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Oct 5, 2014 13:03:48 GMT -5
My "backup" plan should something happens to my wonderful DH involves a housefull of cats
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Post by Malarky on Oct 6, 2014 10:34:37 GMT -5
LOL, saw my lawn boy at a neighborhood cookout last weekend. He said he'd marry me if I were single. He likes my cooking. He's 25 and hot! I'm 52 and so not. I offered to get him drug tested.
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Post by Firebird on Oct 6, 2014 10:46:00 GMT -5
I haven't read the thread, but I love how the article linked riiiiiiiight under the title of the article - "Is He Cheating On You?" I'm sure he is but maybe he would stop if you quit talking about your auxiliary backup husband?
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Post by Opti on Oct 6, 2014 10:54:29 GMT -5
Ebola. Get a couple spares. I'll just make sure mine aren't tagged with, visited Africa recently, or at least the hot spots.
I have a feeling certain countries are going to be on a list of questions blood donors are asked just like back in the day when mad cow disease was rampant.
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Post by Firebird on Oct 6, 2014 11:11:07 GMT -5
I was just barely incubating in June of 85. Me too! ETA: I looked up your birthday - we are exactly one day apart. Are you my long lost twin...?
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Post by justme on Oct 6, 2014 20:33:01 GMT -5
I was just barely incubating in June of 85. Me too! ETA: I looked up your birthday - we are exactly one day apart. Are you my long lost twin...? Lol! Well I look too much like my mom, so if we are I guess she decided to send you away.
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