Knee Deep in Water Chloe
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 30, 2014 22:30:51 GMT -5
Nope. I'm quite thoroughly happy right now, and I cannot imagine that happening again. I'd rather not try. I've never lived by myself as an adult, and I think I'd give that a try for a long while.
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Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 1, 2014 0:00:31 GMT -5
Any of the women I have ever dated I would not attempt a relationship with again, much less "drop everything" for. Once rejected I never look back.
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quince
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Post by quince on Oct 1, 2014 0:45:33 GMT -5
No back up husband. I have a hard time imagining a fellow who would measure up to the current model, flaws and all. I figure the current one has spoiled me for any others, which is unfortunate, because we're still young.
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Post by msventoux on Oct 1, 2014 0:46:27 GMT -5
A backup? I couldn't even deal with having an original one.
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Post by Opti on Oct 1, 2014 0:50:43 GMT -5
Damn. I'm single. And I'm not sure that originally intended second husband is available.
Double damn. I think if I had a back up, I would have had him here by now... (Yet another failure to plan... )
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Post by bobosensei on Oct 1, 2014 1:22:21 GMT -5
I'm not sure how real this "phenomena" is.
I think those who think like this are engaging more in wishful thinking than any real plan.
That is especially true for these women who think there are one or more men out there with "unrequited feelings" for them and would drop everything for them. I don't think there are too many men waiting in the wings pining after married women and willing to wait seven or more years for her. Dream on sister. lol, I agree with this. Now there may be single dudes out there saying this to married women they know in unhappy marriages because they think it could lead to easy sex, and the women that believe it are delusional. But the fact that they might be delusional doesn't mean it does any less damage to their marriage. Edited to add- phoenix just in case you still aren't sure what women consider funny, when I read your last sentence I burst out laughing.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 1, 2014 1:24:07 GMT -5
I don't even want a first husband. I am selfish and I own it. I have spent my adult life caring for my kids. I am a single parent without a dad in the picture. I don't want to have to share my girls or take a spouse's feeling into consideration. When I am on my own without the kids, I just want to live my life just for me. Well, and grandbabies when the time comes.
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Post by achelois on Oct 1, 2014 4:27:05 GMT -5
Nope. Don't have a husband or a backup one.
There is a little business in my town called Rent-A-Husband. It is a group of handymen who fix things, I guess mostly for single women. I rented one a couple times to put shutters on my house and ceiling fans in; he turned out to be a retired State Trooper who is a friend of my State Tooper neighbor. (I cannot be up on ladders--inner ear problem.)
That is plenty. And I have a nice relationship with my UPS driver: he brings packages, we chat a bit and then he goes away.
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Post by achelois on Oct 1, 2014 4:43:03 GMT -5
I'm starting to feel lame that I didn't leave a train of men with unrequited feelings for me who'd drop everything to marry me. Not that I requited everyone . . . that sounds a bit slutty. You can't requite EVERYONE. It is simply too time-consuming. Anyway, ones you DO requite should think they're special.
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Peace77
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 1, 2014 4:51:13 GMT -5
No back up husband here. I'm very happy with the one I have now.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 1, 2014 6:46:34 GMT -5
No! I'm not being a nurse with a purse.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 1, 2014 6:46:36 GMT -5
But you DO have a back up wife for your husband!
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Post by swamp on Oct 1, 2014 8:06:17 GMT -5
But you DO have a back up wife for your husband! Yes I do. He needs one.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Oct 1, 2014 8:38:28 GMT -5
No. Just no.
Not to say I wouldn't remarry if something happened to DH, but I don't have anyone I know in mind.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 1, 2014 8:57:55 GMT -5
Yes, but he is married as well...so I am not sure if it is legit 'back up'.
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Oct 1, 2014 9:00:22 GMT -5
I'm starting to feel lame that I didn't leave a train of men with unrequited feelings for me who'd drop everything to marry me. Not that I requited everyone . . . that sounds a bit slutty. What's wrong with slutty?
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 1, 2014 9:12:32 GMT -5
No, I don't want to train another one. Unless Benedict Cumberbatch falls at my feet, then I might reconsider
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ohmomto2boys
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Post by ohmomto2boys on Oct 1, 2014 9:35:53 GMT -5
Heck no I don't have a back-up. If something happens to DH before me - there is no way I would marry again.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 1, 2014 11:53:38 GMT -5
No backup husband, but I would consider a short term rent-a-hunk as a possible backup.
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 1, 2014 14:03:24 GMT -5
No back-up here, and telling The Universe every day that I need to keep the original model I have . But unlike others here if I were to be widowed I actually probably WOULD at least consider trying to marry again. I like being married. Call me crazy . . .
But I'm also acutely aware of how tough it is out there - I know several women my age (50's) who are single and can't get anyone their own age to take even a first (let alone second) look at them. Men their own age are chasing women half their age. Younger men just want their "older woman experience," not a serious relationship. Older men (who are looking at all) for the most part want that "nurse with a purse." It really sucks out there for women my age. Every once in a while I wag a finger in DH's face and tell him to take care of himself because I need him to last me deep into old age. I would hate to have to get out there and try to find a suitable mate in the short time I have left before I hit an age where I'm too old for anyone to want me .
Nope, with any luck and good health - - I'm hanging on to DH.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 1, 2014 14:09:54 GMT -5
Dang, and I thought all of us YM'ers were uberplanners. So not the case as proven by these posts . maybe we are all lying our butts off just in case current hubby sees our posts and we are great planners after all.
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Post by lexxy703 on Oct 1, 2014 14:14:54 GMT -5
I haven't figured out a first husband yet. A back up is getting a little ahead of myself.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Oct 1, 2014 15:32:31 GMT -5
Well, mine was Brad Pitt then he went off and got married. Not sure what I'm going to do now. Mine was George Clooney. We're in the same boat.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 1, 2014 16:15:24 GMT -5
Well, mine was Brad Pitt then he went off and got married. Not sure what I'm going to do now. Mine was George Clooney. We're in the same boat. At least mine's still available. And, no, I'm not sharing.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 1, 2014 16:39:59 GMT -5
Wait, what?! It's supposed to be with somebody we already know? I thought it was somebody we would want (as in wishful thinking) and hope to get if we lose who we have now because we smothered them in their sleep lost them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2014 16:54:30 GMT -5
Nope. Once was enough for me.
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Post by cktc on Oct 1, 2014 16:56:51 GMT -5
No. I’m not opposed to remarrying, but I find the idea of a back-up repugnant.
A guy who remains single so he can pine after married women for years, what a catch!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2014 16:58:33 GMT -5
Wait, what?! It's supposed to be with somebody we already know? I thought it was somebody we would want (as in wishful thinking) and hope to get if we lose who we have now because we smothered them in their sleep lost them. NO!!!! It's a whole lot of guys who you left pining for you that YOU think would drop everything in a heartbeat if you just said the word because they can't get over your hot self. But the thing is, neither can you. Get over your hot self, that is. There's apparently an epidemic going on. I blame FB, Fifty Shades of Grey, old people hooking up at funerals, reunions and retirement homes, and Obama. ...that was FUNNY !
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 1, 2014 17:05:43 GMT -5
Wait, what?! It's supposed to be with somebody we already know? I thought it was somebody we would want (as in wishful thinking) and hope to get if we lose who we have now because we smothered them in their sleep lost them. NO!!!! It's a whole lot of guys who you left pining for you that YOU think would drop everything in a heartbeat if you just said the word because they can't get over your hot self. But the thing is, neither can you. Get over your hot self, that is. There's apparently an epidemic going on. I blame FB, Fifty Shades of Grey, old people hooking up at funerals, reunions and retirement homes, and Obama. LOL! Well, there were a few of those too that would at least drop everything for a hook up. Maybe.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 1, 2014 17:14:12 GMT -5
LOL! Well, there were a few of those too that would at least drop everything for a hook up. Maybe. Drop trou doesn't count as "everything". Fine. Add their keys and cell phone. And to be a true YMer - some cash.
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