lisamomof4
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Post by lisamomof4 on Sept 6, 2014 17:44:04 GMT -5
to some extent i might have believed the 'cultural' thing...except DSIL is not that way...and honestly neither are any of our friends and they come from a broad immigration group ... i've had a ruff time working up to saying 'no'...my family background is southern and there is a style of manners that is deeply ingrained as to how visitors to your home/family are treated....but over the years i've come to learn that this group has none of that...and in fact appears to feel entitled to help themselves to what ever DH and i have....though i have found some amusement in the fact they seem to think 'we are rich and can afford it'....
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Knee Deep in Water Chloe
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 6, 2014 17:45:47 GMT -5
I am so thankful my in-laws are mostly normal (except for the druggies that we don't deal with much)! My DH got lucky, my family consists of my mom and two aunts (who are actually just my moms bffs). He has to deal with 3 ladies who think he is the awesomest dude ever.
I will never understand how people can act this way and think it is acceptable. It's like their brain isn't running on all cylinders or something... This one should blow your mind. The SIL I was just talking about will now be L and the other SIL (brother in law's wife) is J. L had a baby with brain cancer and J was running the fundraising. First it was to move him to a different hospital but since none contacted (including St. Jude's) could help it became the fund to help with eventual funeral expenses. So, after L lost her child, J gives her the money but asks if she can borrow some of it for a car payment. When we were still there after the funeral and everyone else had gone we said something about J's new $600 phone. L's DH starts adding and says yep, that matches. Add that to the amount "borrowed" for the car payment and that's exactly how much was missing from the money they did get. J doesn't know that we know anything about this and never will if I can help it because I'm never interacting with her again. This is precisely why I will not donate to these types of family fundraisers. I know I come off as being unsympathetic, but I cannot trust that my money will be used as intended.
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