how good are you at keeping secrets?

[beergut]

 I think I'm pretty decent, but I have a hard time if it is a secret about good news.

 I had a friend reveal something to me this weekend that made my month, it is such awesome news, but I promised him I wouldn't tell anyone. It is the fact that it is such great news that is honestly making me want to burst and tell someone. I haven't told anyone yet, even my GF.

 I also received some really bad news about someone I know and love. That secret is easier to keep, because it would be embarrassing for them if it came out. 

 The first one will come out in the next few months when they are ready to tell everyone. The second one will (hopefully) never come out.

 How good are you at keeping secrets?

 Do you have a more difficult time when it is good news, and the secret is 'benign'?

[chiver78]

sorry for the bad news, and I'm pretty sure I can guess what the good is from your description.

myself, I am really good at keeping secrets. I can't say it's easier or not when the news is good vs. bad. if the person telling me tells me they don't want it shared, it doesn't get shared.

[NancysSummerSip]

I'm really good at it. Mostly comes from being old and forgetting what people tell me.

[Sam_2.0]

I am terrible at keeping secrets from DH, but otherwise it's usually not a problem

[MJ2.0]

I'm actually pretty good at keeping secrets - both good and bad.


beergut, we don't count as people - spill already!!!!

[Wisconsin Beth]

Somebody's pregnant. 

[ArchietheDragon]

Aug 25, 2014 14:20:57 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

Somebody's pregnant. 

It's just a beergut. 

[CarolinaKat]

I'm fantastic at keeping secrets. You know, the kind that are actually meant to be kept. Not the kind where your husband peed on a couple of kittens. That's not a secret meant to be kept.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 25, 2014 14:20:57 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

Somebody's pregnant. 

I figured, but I wanted HIM to spill it! LOL

[Wisconsin Beth]

Aug 25, 2014 14:24:10 GMT -5 CarolinaKat said:

I'm fantastic at keeping secrets. You know, the kind that are actually meant to be kept. Not the kind where your husband peed on a couple of kittens. That's not a secret meant to be kept.

No but it's probably the kind that they're hoping never gets out. 

[Regis]

About six weeks ago, DS called me to tell me that he had purchased an engagement ring for his girlfriend.  He asked me not to tell DW because he wanted to surprise her once he popped the question.  When I asked when that might be he replied that he was waiting for the right moment.  Well...the right moment apparently didn't happen for three weeks.  One of the hardest secrets I've ever had to keep - but I did it!

[MJ2.0]

Aug 25, 2014 14:24:10 GMT -5 CarolinaKat said:

I'm fantastic at keeping secrets. You know, the kind that are actually meant to be kept. Not the kind where your husband peed on a couple of kittens. That's not a secret meant to be kept.

LMAO - wtf?!?!

[beergut]

Aug 25, 2014 14:25:15 GMT -5 Regis said:

About six weeks ago, DS called me to tell me that he had purchased an engagement ring for his girlfriend.  He asked me not to tell DW because he wanted to surprise her once he popped the question.  When I asked when that might be he replied that he was waiting for the right moment.  Well...the right moment apparently didn't happen for three weeks.  One of the hardest secrets I've ever had to keep - but I did it!

   When my brother proposed to my now SIL 10 years ago, my father kept the fact that they had been shopping for a ring a secret from my mother. She was furious he didn't trust her, and was angry for months. 

 She got him back, though. Brother bought a motorcycle right before he got married, and didn't tell Dad for several years. Mom delighted in knowing this secret, because it was 'proof' she could keep a secret. She kept that one for several years, until she told brother he had to let Dad know, because she kept having nightmares about him dying in a motorcycle accident.

[Ryan]

I'm really good at keeping secrets.  When someone tells me something in confidence that they tell me not to say anything, I don't even tell my wife because I don't want her leaking the information (accidentally).  

I'm like that because my mom is so horrible at keeping secrets and it really really pissed me off growing up.  I would specifically tell her not to say anything to anyone and she would turn around and tell her sisters.  

[CarolinaKat]

Aug 25, 2014 14:25:15 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Aug 25, 2014 14:24:10 GMT -5 CarolinaKat said:

I'm fantastic at keeping secrets. You know, the kind that are actually meant to be kept. Not the kind where your husband peed on a couple of kittens. That's not a secret meant to be kept.

LMAO - wtf?!?!

So, I live out in the country. And when you live out in the country, occasionally you get a feral kitty who can't/doesn't/won't care for her litter of helpless, starving kittens. So I take them in, care for them, socalize them, teaah them how to be a cat, you know, the whole surrogate mommy thing then I do my best to find them homes. DH fully supports this, acd actually physically rescued this litter.

Anyway, this was a litter of 3, who were about 5 weeks old, maybe 6. They were kept in our skinny bathroom and laundry room so they had playspace and our adult cats had peace. Around 2 or 3 in the morning, DH has to go pee. He goes over to our bathroom and lifts the seat up and starts peeing. Immediately, a kitten comes flying through the air into the toiletbowl with a big splash!. DH was so stunned he kept peeing on him a second. Then he called for me.

I get up and walk to the bathroom, where I am handed a screaming wet kitten and told that I have to 'take care of it.' DH explains to me the kitten jumped in the toilet and it needed to be washed. So I took the poor little guy (henceforth known as Michael Phelps) to the kitchen sink and gave him a bath. He was NOT happy with me. As I was getting him dried off, I realized we had a jailbreak so we spent the next 30 mins or so looking for his brother and sister.

Anyway, Michael Phelps and his sister went to a good home (to a pair of adult sisters actually) and the brother was kept by my parents. When he was about 3 months or so, my parents were visiting and kitty was loose to play with mine. DH was yet again in the bathroom. He lifted the lid to go pee, and once he started to pee *SPLASH* he's peeing on another kitten, who I also had to give a bath in the sink....


So yes, my DH has peed on kittens. Twice.

[Deleted]

When people confide something personal, I keep my mouth shut about it whether it's suppose to be a secret or not. It helps avoid a lot of problems for me.

It's funny how the same people that feel comfortable telling me things because I won't repeat it, get exasperated with me because I didn't or won't tell them something about somebody else. And the people that tell everything they know, can't seem to understand why I don't tell them much about me.

[Deleted]

Hum....No one ever tells me secrets. I wonder why that is.

[Peace Of Mind]

Depends on the secret but let's just say that my freezer is full so you'll need to get help elsewhere! 


I have another secret.  Braaaaaains! 

[Jaguar]

I'm good at keeping secrets. I kept one for so long the guy died and I was still holding onto his secrets. I found out that he had died 3 years earlier. There's some stuff you just don't repeat, ever.

[Deleted]

I'm very good except that I tend to tell DH, whom I know can be trusted. (He met a guy with whom I'd had a previous relationship and whom he knew was probably wearing women's underwear beneath his sober business suit and kept a straight face.)

I'm great about keeping secrets from everyone else and got told a lot by work colleagues because of that. One boss told me he tended to test people with secrets that wouldn't cause a lot of harm if they got out and if they didn't leak, he trusted them with bigger ones. I ended up reviewing processes in the department of a guy I knew was about to be canned because the boss had told me. They'd already hired his replacement. I never said a thing.

When it's a "good" secret (e.g. pregnancy or a job change), I always ask the teller to let me know when it's public. That way I still get the fun of springing news on people but it's right after I've been told it's OK.

[giramomma]

It depends what the secret is.

Most of the time I don't keep secrets really well. DS is the same way, and it's pretty funny.

There are things, that I don't share IRL much. It's not that they are secrets, per say. I've just learned that there are some things you don't share.

[Deleted]

Aug 25, 2014 14:33:06 GMT -5 Ryan said:

I'm really good at keeping secrets.  When someone tells me something in confidence that they tell me not to say anything, I don't even tell my wife because I don't want her leaking the information (accidentally).  

I'm like that because my mom is so horrible at keeping secrets and it really really pissed me off growing up.  I would specifically tell her not to say anything to anyone and she would turn around and tell her sisters.  

If you tell my Mom something, you might as well put it on the news. If I'd rather the whole world not know it, I don't tell my Mom. I wish I could confide in my Mom and it stay just between us, but that's not gonna happen.

[billisonboard]

If it makes sense to me why I am keeping the secret, I can keep it.  If I think it is a stupid game, I struggle. 

[Wisconsin Beth]

Aug 25, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Depends on the secret but let's just say that my freezer is full so you'll need to get help elsewhere! 


I have another secret.  Braaaaaains! 

I was so happy to see someone bit me.  I'm about to go into a confernece call and managed to bite 2 people!  Woohoo!

[Chocolate Lover]

Aug 25, 2014 14:48:41 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Aug 25, 2014 14:33:06 GMT -5 Ryan said:

I'm really good at keeping secrets.  When someone tells me something in confidence that they tell me not to say anything, I don't even tell my wife because I don't want her leaking the information (accidentally).  

I'm like that because my mom is so horrible at keeping secrets and it really really pissed me off growing up.  I would specifically tell her not to say anything to anyone and she would turn around and tell her sisters.  

If you tell my Mom something, you might as well put it on the news. If I'd rather the whole world not know it, I don't tell my Mom. I wish I could confide in my Mom and it stay just between us, but that's not gonna happen.

I have coworkers I call the 6 O'Clock news.  My younger sister was the same way, I still don't say much to her. lol

I don't tell Mom anything because everything gets a judgement or some sort of teaching moment crap. I'm almost 40, she can stop teaching and just sympathize now and then. 

[Bonny]

I'm good as long as somebody tells me it's a secret. Otherwise I figure if they told me they've told other people.

I've learned the hard way that there's very few people besides DH that I can trust to keep a secret. And I don't have very many secrets.

[NoNamePerson]

I will go to my grave with some folks secrets. As for me, I don't tell a living soul something that I don't want repeated. Will go to my grave with MY secrets too. 

[flamingo]

I think I'm pretty good at keeping secrets. Even things that aren't really "secret". My DH came to me one day and thought he was going to surprise me by telling me a secret about a mutual friend of ours and I just nodded, smiled, and said, I know. He was shocked I hadn't told him, and I just replied with "It wasn't my secret to tell."

To this day, he tells me all the gossip he hears and then when he asks me for gossip and I have none, he'll say "Oh, I get it. It's not your secret to tell." But I think he really appreciates that I don't tell anyone his secrets . I will say though, that when I had some big things going on that I didn't want people to know about, he asked me before he told each and every person he told. So he might tell me everyone's secrets, but he's good at keeping mine.

[sesfw]

I'm really good at it. Mostly comes from being old and forgetting what people tell me.

Age does have it's advantages. 

I'm good at keeping secrets, even the ones people want me to talk about.  I don't hear anything any more and it's because people think I don't care.

I care enough not to talk about any one else.  I don't want others talking about me.

[Deleted]

I'm really good, or really bad.  Mostly really bad, I guess.

I tend to not talk out loud very much, so secrets often don't come up.  

If someone does asks me a direct question, I tend to just state the situation, or I remember the secret status and hold back, trying to lie by omission, but my facial expressions say everything    As long as no one asks, I can take secrets to the grave.  If someone asks directly, they'll get answers in an embarrassingly short amount of time.