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Post by sheilaincali on Aug 6, 2014 14:44:16 GMT -5
US Air Force Tech School. DH was a "rope" (given extra freedoms and extra responsibilities). He handed out our bedding when I moved from Basic to Tech School and I asked him to escort me (required during first week of tech school) to the PX so I could pick up an alarm clock. The rest as they say is history.
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Post by lynnerself on Aug 6, 2014 14:45:51 GMT -5
High school, calculus class.
(Not much help to you, I guess.)
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 6, 2014 14:46:11 GMT -5
I met DH at work.
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Post by billisonboard on Aug 6, 2014 14:57:15 GMT -5
She picked me up in a bar. We did horizontal dancing until the band stopped and then back to my place for some more dancing.
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Post by emma1420 on Aug 6, 2014 14:58:20 GMT -5
Somehow the online world of dating just seems icky - haven't done it but can't shake that "don't go there" feeling. My dad and step-mom met via an online dating site. My step-mom met quite a few people via online dating and they were all very nice (my dad only met my step-mom). I know a few people who met their spouses via online dating sites. Depending on where you live and your hobbies, it's often one of the only places to meet people once you get over the age of 30-35. So I wouldn't discount online dating in the future even if you don't want to try it now.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 6, 2014 15:04:03 GMT -5
She picked me up in a bar. We did horizontal dancing until the band stopped and then back to my place for some more dancing. LOL! You guys did it in front of everybody? I would think the horizontal dancing happened after you went to your place.
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Post by billisonboard on Aug 6, 2014 15:05:15 GMT -5
She picked me up in a bar. We did horizontal dancing until the band stopped and then back to my place for some more dancing. LOL! You guys did it in front of everybody? I would think the horizontal dancing happened after you went to your place. Whoops. Got me there.
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Post by Abby Normal on Aug 6, 2014 15:15:20 GMT -5
We met at age 16 when we were working as summer camp counselors and became good friends. Didn't get together until six years later when we ran into each other at college. Switching from friends to more was a little like "Ross and Rachel". We still laugh about it.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 6, 2014 15:15:28 GMT -5
POM - that is what I have been doing for the last 5 years...focusing on self and child. I think the BAM he will be there only works for some people. Most people find someone because they are looking even if it happens in unexpected ways.
I'm not sure what the magic thing is, but I think you have to be attuned to what you really want for it to happen. I think the BAM happens to people who are attuned that are just trying too hard, so once they stop trying too hard, there's room for it to happen.
I liken it to people who are struggling to conceive. Some do actually conceive after giving up trying to become pregnant. However, most actually go through the fertility process in order for it to work. Then there are those who never have that issue. You don't know which category you fall into, until it happens (or doesn't).
Does this mean your date doesn't show promise for the future?
Since I mentioned the Bam! in my post I will tell you that I was already married and we just built our dream home on a lake so I'm pretty sure I wasn't "trying so hard" for the Bam! at the time it happened. It was more of an "Oh shit" and I hope I can ignore these feelings. After 27 years together I can honestly tell you that I couldn't.
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Post by emma1420 on Aug 6, 2014 15:35:19 GMT -5
I think the BAM he will be there only works for some people. Most people find someone because they are looking even if it happens in unexpected ways.
I'm not sure what the magic thing is, but I think you have to be attuned to what you really want for it to happen. I think the BAM happens to people who are attuned that are just trying too hard, so once they stop trying too hard, there's room for it to happen.
I liken it to people who are struggling to conceive. Some do actually conceive after giving up trying to become pregnant. However, most actually go through the fertility process in order for it to work. Then there are those who never have that issue. You don't know which category you fall into, until it happens (or doesn't).
Does this mean your date doesn't show promise for the future?
Since I mentioned the Bam! in my post I will tell you that I was already married and we just built our dream home on a lake so I'm pretty sure I wasn't "trying so hard" for the Bam! at the time it happened. It was more of an "Oh shit" and I hope I can ignore these feelings. After 27 years together I can honestly tell you that I couldn't. I think when you've single for a long time you hear a lot of people say that you meet someone when you aren't looking. And I'm sure that happens, but, it's not a forgone conclusion. Or at least I haven't been looking for the last 20 years and I'm still single (although I like being single). Most people I know who are married met their spouse in college or grad school. The few that didn't put themselves out there. Although to be fair, I know a lot of people who manage to meet people and date like crazy at all ages, and I've never quite worked out how they manage that.
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Post by Angel! on Aug 6, 2014 15:39:33 GMT -5
I am loving the online dating thing, but then maybe I got lucky that I totally hit it off with the first guy I met. But, I know a lot of people that do it & like it. I think you need to use a pay site though because that way there is some barrier to entry & the people on there are serious enough about looking that they are willing to pay for it.
I think it is great because you have a huge pool of people all looking for sort of the same thing & you can screen out for any dealbreakers immediately. They also can screen out for dealbreakers immediately, which is good. I can't imagine how long I would have to go about my life to eventually find a single guy looking for a serious relationship, that finds me cute, that I find cute, that is around my age, that doesn't smoke, that doesn't want any more kids, that is a good father if he has kids, that has a job & can take care of himself, and most importantly isn't bothered or freaked out by the fact that I have 3 young kids & my schedule & life basically revolves around them right now. I can wait for years hoping that guy will fall into my lap or go online click a few buttons, shoot off an email to a guy that seems to meet my requirements & see what happens. If that doesn't work, on to the next guy.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 15:47:05 GMT -5
I am loving the online dating thing, but then maybe I got lucky that I totally hit it off with the first guy I met. But, I know a lot of people that do it & like it. I think you need to use a pay site though because that way there is some barrier to entry & the people on there are serious enough about looking that they are willing to pay for it. I think it is great because you have a huge pool of people all looking for sort of the same thing & you can screen out for any dealbreakers immediately. They also can screen out for dealbreakers immediately, which is good. I can't imagine how long I would have to go about my life to eventually find a single guy looking for a serious relationship, that finds me cute, that I find cute, that is around my age, that doesn't smoke, that doesn't want any more kids, that is a good father if he has kids, that has a job & can take care of himself, and most importantly isn't bothered or freaked out by the fact that I have 3 young kids & my schedule & life basically revolves around them right now. I can wait for years hoping that guy will fall into my lap or go online click a few buttons, shoot off an email to a guy that seems to meet my requirements & see what happens. If that doesn't work, on to the next guy. Have I missed the thread on these details? Please fill us in!!
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Post by steph08 on Aug 6, 2014 15:50:53 GMT -5
At work. I was summer help and he was my "boss," I guess. We were the talk of the factory that summer.
Last month was 9 years together and October will be 5 years married.
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Post by Angel! on Aug 6, 2014 16:23:17 GMT -5
I am loving the online dating thing, but then maybe I got lucky that I totally hit it off with the first guy I met. But, I know a lot of people that do it & like it. I think you need to use a pay site though because that way there is some barrier to entry & the people on there are serious enough about looking that they are willing to pay for it. I think it is great because you have a huge pool of people all looking for sort of the same thing & you can screen out for any dealbreakers immediately. They also can screen out for dealbreakers immediately, which is good. I can't imagine how long I would have to go about my life to eventually find a single guy looking for a serious relationship, that finds me cute, that I find cute, that is around my age, that doesn't smoke, that doesn't want any more kids, that is a good father if he has kids, that has a job & can take care of himself, and most importantly isn't bothered or freaked out by the fact that I have 3 young kids & my schedule & life basically revolves around them right now. I can wait for years hoping that guy will fall into my lap or go online click a few buttons, shoot off an email to a guy that seems to meet my requirements & see what happens. If that doesn't work, on to the next guy. Have I missed the thread on these details? Please fill us in!! I think I mentioned it when we first met for coffee, but probably not much since. We have dating for a little over 2 months now & he is fantastic!! Has 3 kids & is a super involved dad. Has a good job & is in the reserves on top of that. My kids adore him, far more than I expected which kind of worries me...might be a lesson learned on that for the future if the relationship doesn't last. It is great because he is as busy as me, so there is no one-sided pressure that we aren't spending enough time together & he totally gets that sometimes kids mean that dates have to be cancelled. It has just been really great & gives me a lot of hope for the future. 3 months ago I never would have dreamed I would be dating with a kid under 1, I honestly just signed up to see what would happen & to give it a shot.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 16:24:49 GMT -5
Awesome!! I hope it goes well for you
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Post by Opti on Aug 6, 2014 16:29:22 GMT -5
I think the BAM he will be there only works for some people. Most people find someone because they are looking even if it happens in unexpected ways.
I'm not sure what the magic thing is, but I think you have to be attuned to what you really want for it to happen. I think the BAM happens to people who are attuned that are just trying too hard, so once they stop trying too hard, there's room for it to happen.
I liken it to people who are struggling to conceive. Some do actually conceive after giving up trying to become pregnant. However, most actually go through the fertility process in order for it to work. Then there are those who never have that issue. You don't know which category you fall into, until it happens (or doesn't).
Does this mean your date doesn't show promise for the future?
Since I mentioned the Bam! in my post I will tell you that I was already married and we just built our dream home on a lake so I'm pretty sure I wasn't "trying so hard" for the Bam! at the time it happened. It was more of an "Oh shit" and I hope I can ignore these feelings. After 27 years together I can honestly tell you that I couldn't. I wasn't saying those were the only three possibilities, but just one theory as why BAM happens to some people not others.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 6, 2014 16:30:24 GMT -5
She picked me up in a bar. We did horizontal dancing until the band stopped and then back to my place for some more dancing. Woo hoo!
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Post by Opti on Aug 6, 2014 16:32:43 GMT -5
I know a couple and they are men. They are always looking when they aren't in a relationship. They do not wait. They go find.
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Post by giramomma on Aug 6, 2014 16:34:10 GMT -5
DH and I met in freshman English in high school. Were friends throughout HS and college. We fooled around first semester of our junior year in college. Then he studied abroad. It was messy when he came back. Then we decided to be exclusive.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 6, 2014 16:37:23 GMT -5
I posted an ad on Craigslist for shits and giggles. Hubs emailed me after I deleted the post (there is a delay before ads disappear). We chatted all day via email on a Friday and I gave him my number before I left work. He called the next day when I was at a friend's cookout and three margaritas in, so I thought it was a genius idea to meet him at a bar near my apartment. I took him home.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 16:40:33 GMT -5
I met DH in an AOL chatroom back in 1998. We drifted in and out of each other's lives until about six or seven years ago.
I don't think they have chatrooms on AOL any more. Does AOL even still exist? Just kidding . . . sort of.
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Post by t-dog on Aug 6, 2014 16:44:54 GMT -5
Glad to hear its working for you Angel.
My boy is a huge, huge baseball nut. So yeah, its me and the dads and a couple other single moms at every practice/game. But all the dads are married guys, so while we can chat it up through practice/game that doesn't help my social scene any.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 16:56:02 GMT -5
Glad to hear its working for you Angel.
My boy is a huge, huge baseball nut. So yeah, its me and the dads and a couple other single moms at every practice/game. But all the dads are married guys, so while we can chat it up through practice/game that doesn't help my social scene any. Any of them have friends or brothers? Guys generally don't pick up on subtle hints, I've learned, so just tell one of them you are looking to meet someone and see what happens. They may not realize you want a matchmaker
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 6, 2014 17:02:18 GMT -5
Met DH on match.com. FIL and sMIL met there too. BIL met his wife on Christiansingles. So far, so good for all of us!
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Post by sesfw on Aug 6, 2014 17:21:40 GMT -5
DH#1 at church. He had just come back from a Navy cruise and I thought he would make a good husband for me. Six months later we married. For 37 years
DH#2 in a grief recovery chatroom. I lost DH#1 in 1998 and found a website for grief recovery. He lost his DW#1 in 1999 and found the same site. He lived in Michigan and I in AZ. He had to come to AZ for a conference and we met. Married a year later. 13 years so far.
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Post by t-dog on Aug 6, 2014 17:21:51 GMT -5
Sam that had me laughing quite literally out loud. Yeah, some of them are a bit shall we say focused on only talking baseball. At least they have realized I can hang with them on that topic!
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Post by justme on Aug 6, 2014 17:40:47 GMT -5
I am loving the online dating thing, but then maybe I got lucky that I totally hit it off with the first guy I met. But, I know a lot of people that do it & like it. I think you need to use a pay site though because that way there is some barrier to entry & the people on there are serious enough about looking that they are willing to pay for it. I think it is great because you have a huge pool of people all looking for sort of the same thing & you can screen out for any dealbreakers immediately. They also can screen out for dealbreakers immediately, which is good. I can't imagine how long I would have to go about my life to eventually find a single guy looking for a serious relationship, that finds me cute, that I find cute, that is around my age, that doesn't smoke, that doesn't want any more kids, that is a good father if he has kids, that has a job & can take care of himself, and most importantly isn't bothered or freaked out by the fact that I have 3 young kids & my schedule & life basically revolves around them right now. I can wait for years hoping that guy will fall into my lap or go online click a few buttons, shoot off an email to a guy that seems to meet my requirements & see what happens. If that doesn't work, on to the next guy. Yeah, you did get lucky! I actually went on a pay site and didn't even get one date from it. And since I'm on YM I was furious at wasting $100 for bupkis. The few guys that did message me did not fit what I was looking for at all (too young, too old, etc) and the only guy that messaged me back responded with he forgot to take his profile down but he has a gf (not sure why he was checking his account then). I get A LOT of duds on the free sites. I'm probably batting 1/20 response rate (sometimes higher), but at least I don't feel bad when I get nothing worth my time since I haven't paid for it.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 17:43:26 GMT -5
Dating is mostly just talking to somebody to find out if you're compatible. You're sitting on the internet right now talking to people.
I agree with this. As I've mentioned before, I "met" DH when we were little kids (5 and 8) on a camping trip. Met him for real at a cousin's wedding 13 years later. Weddings are good for meeting people But I met an ex on an online journal site which is now defunct. Didn't think of him romantically at all when we first met, he was just amazing to talk to and read. Then we met in person and it got to be more. A friend of mine met her husband on the same site. A friend of mine met a guy in a bookstore over the last Harry Potter book (being well into their twenties, both were slightly embarrassed to be reading it and had a good laugh over that). She went on a date with him and they hit it off but it didn't go anywhere. I eventually dated him for awhile I think it just happens when it happens. I've never had much luck with online dating but a) other people have, I'm only one person and b) I've definitely had good luck with meeting people from online sites not geared toward dating, like this one. You already know a lot about each other and automatically have something in common.
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Post by Baby Fawkes on Aug 6, 2014 17:44:23 GMT -5
We met in a local bar. I was new to the US and knew nobody. I went out and decided to stop by the bar as it looked fun. The only seat in place was at a table with five ladies so I offered to buy a round if I could chat and learn more about the area. They were all friends of DW and the seat was saved for her bit it all worked out fine. Met her an hour later when she got off work and started dating.
Less than 2 weeks in the country and I was in a relationship. Didn't live out any single male adventure stories afterall !
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 17:47:15 GMT -5
Angel!, I'm so happy and excited for you.
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