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Post by swamp on Aug 6, 2014 11:06:52 GMT -5
WBV?? AAP?? I don't know these things. C-Section was mentioned briefly with my first. At that point I had been in labor for ~24 hours, been hooked up to picotin for like 10 hours, and was still stuck at 4 cm. They were getting to the point where they were concerned things weren't progressing & didn't want to wait too long. Turns out I go from 4 cm to baby popping out in about 30 minutes, happened with all 3 of mine. Well-baby visits and American Academy of Pediatrics - you weren't given a schedule before you left the hospital? No. Just told to make an appointment with our family doc.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 11:09:24 GMT -5
Shoot, I vaccinated my kid - on schedule, did all of the well baby visits, and this time I am planning an induction at 37 weeks (not just for personal choice, but I have to admit I am ready to be done and have him out). I think those that do unmedicated home-births are brave but I also think they are taking risks that I am not willing to. I am too risk-averse to attempt a midwife in a birthing center, but I have several friends that have used one locally and all seem to love it. It looks like a really nice place, just isn't for me at this point in time. Depending on how the induction goes maybe I can make it without the epi this time. I made it 7 hrs without one for Aly, but requested it the second that I could with Aubree because I just wanted to sleep through as much of the process as possible. I figure I know my body and have been informed on my choices, and if I decide I want something to help with the pain then I know what is available. I get crazy looks when I tell people that ask if I am planning on an epi "I don't know" or "Ehh, depends on how it goes" I have a friend that is an L& nurse though and she said almost everyone ends up getting the epi. Maybe that's why they questioned you so much, Rae, because to them it was probably rare that someone would keep toughing it out? I was really shocked to see the CDC stats that c-section rates are about 33% right now. And yet when I think about it, I would rather have 100 unnecessary c-sections that result in live births than to see one person go through the pain of losing a kid in labor like the women in my pregnancy after loss group. It's just personal experience that has really changed my perspective on what I am and am not willing to take a risk on.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 6, 2014 11:11:49 GMT -5
Dang, I had an epi in 1983. I still could push and I was up and about the next morning. I had DS at 8pm though. I wasn't bothered AS MUCH with him as when I had DD but I had a private room with him and that helped SOME. With DD I had the roommate from hell and all her relatives from hell with the loudest voices on earth. They didnt like that she had been messing with a married man whose wife found out and delayed her divorce until after the baby was born so it'd be illegitimate. Remember when that actually mattered? Plus, I was jumpy about the baby swap thing which was popular at the time so all I kept saying was for my then husband to keep an eye on the baby.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 6, 2014 11:15:13 GMT -5
I've found even if the hospital markets itself one way that the opinions of the doctors/nurses varies wildly on the subject.
I had a couple make cracks about me wanting to go without an epidural despite the fact Creighton advertises itself as being turbo "natural" child birth. Everyone else I dealt with including the resident who delivered Gwen didn't say anything after I informed them I'd pass and they didn't say anything when I changed my mind.
Both my OBs were totally supportive of me going at it drug free but they did advise me to keep an open mind because I couldn't 100% predict how I'd feel once I was actually in labor.
I probably would have stuck it out if I hadn't been sicker than a dog that week. I was on the floor nauseous, feverish with chills and coughing. I was also dehydrated because I had such a swollen sore throat I could barely swallow so I hadn't been meeting my 2 litre fluid requirements.
The epidural allowed me the rest I hadn't gotten due to being sick. I don't think my labor would have been as smooth if I had forced myself to stick with my original plan.
I'm considering water birth this time around TNMC has birthing tubs in every room. I need to ask my midwife for more details at my appointment on Friday. I've been doing a lot of homework and the policies on water birth vary wildly since it isn't universally accepted. Depending on TNMC's policies it might not be worth the hassle.
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Post by Annie7 on Aug 6, 2014 11:15:42 GMT -5
They are working on getting me into see the other three before I give birth so I'll be familiar with whomever is on call when I go into labor.
Just to scare you - there were two Drs in the practice for DS1's birth. Both were on vacation when he was born and it was a third Dr whom I'd never seen who delivered him. I was too busy giving birth to care at that point and as I said, all he did was come in just when DS1 was coming out.
I'm glad there are many more midwives in your practice. The odds are good that it will be one of them for your delivery
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 6, 2014 11:18:37 GMT -5
According to the head midwife there is always a midwife on the floor 24/7. Unless there are complications if I am with the midwifery department it will be a midwife that delivers Abigail. Of course it could all end up like the movie Nine Months and I get stuck with Robin Williams delivering my baby.
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Post by swamp on Aug 6, 2014 11:19:17 GMT -5
They are working on getting me into see the other three before I give birth so I'll be familiar with whomever is on call when I go into labor.
Just to scare you - there were two Drs in the practice for DS1's birth. Both were on vacation when he was born and it was a third Dr whom I'd never seen who delivered him. I was too busy giving birth to care at that point and as I said, all he did was come in just when DS1 was coming out.
I'm glad there are many more midwives in your practice. The odds are good that it will be one of them for your delivery
Meh. My doc is a sole practictioner. I went into labor on Saturday night, so I got the on call guy. There were whopping total of 3 OB/GYN's on staff at the hospital. I got the one I liked. I think the other guy was a dick.
We now have 2 OB/GYN's. One retired, one went back to the competing hospital 30 miles away because he can't play nice in the sandbox, and there is a brand spanking new one.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 11:22:41 GMT -5
My birth experience sucked in every way but I too was happy to stay in the hospital for 4 days. I didn't even leave the room until Sunday (discharge day). I was a mess and very happy to let other, more capable people help take care of my baby until I felt a little more human.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 6, 2014 11:24:56 GMT -5
Well-baby visits and American Academy of Pediatrics - you weren't given a schedule before you left the hospital? I don't know, I probably was. I just schedule my next appointment when the doctor says I should be back. I'm guessing that follows AAP recommendations. What schedule do the other women follow? The schedule of "my baby doesn't need to see a pediatrician bc they are all evil and it's govt's way to keep track of my baby"
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 6, 2014 11:30:31 GMT -5
With the two that I was induced, I had epi and still could feel a lot of pain.
I found out after my 3rd kid that there are two different kinds of epi - the one they give you during active labor, which I had with my 1st and it was AAWEEESOME and another kind, which I got with my inductions. I wish I knew that earlier so I wouldn't have been so pissed at the epi person for "doing it wrong"
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 6, 2014 11:33:22 GMT -5
Let's see I was woken up at least 3x a night so they could check my blood pressure, take my temperature and ask me if I peed/pooped that day. Then I had the social security guy show up at 1 am wanting me to fill out birth certificate paperwork and he got quite pissy when DH tried to throw him out because I was sleeping. Then there was the welfare office lady who showed up and grilled me about whether or not I was married and if I needed welfare. Then there were the janitors that came in/out mopping up the floors and taking out trash on a regular basis. Hospitals SUCK. I have no problems when it came to the actual birth but hospitals aren't five star hotels. Getting any kind of rest/relaxation was a joke. At home it was just myself, DH and Gwen. DH would leave the dogs in their kennels/boot them outside if they got too loud, handled all phone calls from curious relatives and did all the chores around the house. I had as much peace/quiet as I wanted. I also prefer my own bed, hospital beds are horrible uncomfortable, especially for someone with stitches in her nether regions. lol, it's a question of perspective! I saw it as people taking care of me! Making sure that my room was clean and help with navigating all the paperwork was also great! Last year I got the unique experience* of being in the hospital to have a baby - in a very uncomplicated way (other than the induction, but even that wasn't complicated) and for being extremely sick. I stayed on the same floor, but different wards. Being in the hospital after having my baby was a pain. I was healthy, my child was healthy, we were gone less than 33 hours after I showed up to be induced (we had to stay 24 hrs because I had GD and DD needed her blood sugars checked every 4 hrs). I felt constrained and not able to do things I wanted to do. When I was in the hospital 8 months later for being sick, I was glad to be there. I didn't say once, I can't wait to go home because I knew I was too sick to go home. Once I was well enough to go home, I couldn't get out of there fast enough. In my experience being a well person in the hospital is awful. Being a very sick person in the hospital, you know you need to be there. Let's be honest, without medical intervention I probably would have died from dehydration. Having some one serve me my meds and keep track of how many times I pooped blood in the toilet was a relief. Honestly, not having my kids around was also a relief at that point. I could not care for them, but they didn't know that. So at home, they wanted me to do things, at the hospital while the seperation was painful, it was what I needed. *-I say unique experience because most people don't have a baby and spend a week in the hospital for a separate reason within the same year. Considering my husband also had back surgery in that time frame, I feel like I can critique my hospital on a bunch of different levels of care in a short time frame and most people don't get that comparison.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 6, 2014 11:35:00 GMT -5
I got what is called the "walking epidural" which is a misnomer because they don't allow you to walk with one in case you slip/fall and then try to sue.
It came with a little push button so I could control how much drug I wanted. That's different from the one that is a constant drip.
I didn't feel pain but I could feel pressure just fine so I knew when to push. DH asked me what it felt like and I said honestly it felt like I really really REALLY needed to go the bathroom.
In my experience being a well person in the hospital is awful
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Post by Angel! on Aug 6, 2014 11:38:37 GMT -5
I don't know, I probably was. I just schedule my next appointment when the doctor says I should be back. I'm guessing that follows AAP recommendations. What schedule do the other women follow? The schedule of "my baby doesn't need to see a pediatrician bc they are all evil and it's govt's way to keep track of my baby" It is also the pediatricians way to catch any problems early so they can be addressed quickly. I want to know if my kid's aren't growing at the right pace, if their head isn't growing quickly enough, if they are showing signs of eye problems, leg problems, speech problems, hearing problems, or early signs of autism. Sure, for 99% of kids there are probably never any problems. But, for those that have a problem, having it addressed ASAP is going to provide a far better outcome that it not getting addressed until the parent realizes something doesn't seem right. I feel the same way about pre-natal care and those required (in my state) tests they do within the first weeks of birth.
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Post by yogiii on Aug 6, 2014 11:39:04 GMT -5
Like everything else, it all depends on the hospital. I had my kids at different ones and had no problem with either one. In labor, the worst part for me was when I first got there and they made me stay in the bed to monitor the baby's heart rate. Once that was over and I could pace around the room I felt fine (well, relatively speaking) and that's really all I wanted to do so the nurses just left me alone and told me to page if I wanted something. Yes, it's annoying post birth how people seem to pop in every two minutes but my kids never slept as infants, so I was just as interrupted when I got home .
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 11:39:30 GMT -5
In my experience being a well person in the hospital is awful
Maybe that's the distinction because I didn't feel remotely like a well person after having Babybird.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 6, 2014 11:40:59 GMT -5
With my first, I was actually more scared of getting an epi than labor pains. At the time, I didn't know pitocin would make it worse. I don't think I even needed the pitocin, and wonder if it had contributed to my having back labor and the umbilical cord getting wrapped around DS's neck. Like, maybe allowing things to progress more slowly would have allowed him to get in a better position?
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Post by Angel! on Aug 6, 2014 11:42:30 GMT -5
With the two that I was induced, I had epi and still could feel a lot of pain. I found out after my 3rd kid that there are two different kinds of epi - the one they give you during active labor, which I had with my 1st and it was AAWEEESOME and another kind, which I got with my inductions. I wish I knew that earlier so I wouldn't have been so pissed at the epi person for "doing it wrong" That must explain why I felt my 2 epis were very different. I don't remember any pain with DS1 at all. With DS2 there was a fair amount of pain & pressure. Nothing compared to natural birth of course, but enough that I was uncomfortable & surprised by it. I was also able to get up and about much quicker with DS2.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 6, 2014 11:43:12 GMT -5
I felt like a million bucks after I gave birth.
But to be fair it was the hottest summer on record that year being pregnant in 115 degree heat is NOT fun. I also had the joy of constant BHs from about week 36 onward, endless heartburn and Gwen rode high till the very end so I felt like I couldn't breath for most of the third trimester.
To be rid of all that and just be "me" again was great.
First words out of my mouth were "OMG I feel so much F-ing better now!". Nurses cracked up, they said they hadn't heard the experience of giving birth put quite that way before.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 6, 2014 11:44:11 GMT -5
Speaking of pediatricians - we had to do our first sick kid visit for DD today (she's 19 months old). She's polk-a-dotted! The doctor says it is just an allergic reaction to a virus. Holy cow, the kid looks terrible!
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Aug 6, 2014 11:45:25 GMT -5
Speaking of pediatricians - we had to do our first sick kid visit for DD today (she's 19 months old). She's polk-a-dotted! The doctor says it is just an allergic reaction to a virus. Holy cow, the kid looks terrible! Our 2 1/2 year old just had a rash simliar to that. Mostly on her toushie, though.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 6, 2014 11:46:43 GMT -5
I felt like a million bucks after I gave birth. But to be fair it was the hottest summer on record that year being pregnant in 115 degree heat is NOT fun. I also had the joy of constant BHs from about week 36 onward, endless heartburn and Gwen rode high till the very end so I felt like I couldn't breath for most of the third trimester. To be rid of all that and just be "me" again was great. First words out of my mouth were "OMG I feel so much F-ing better now!". Nurses cracked up, they said they hadn't heard the experience of giving birth put quite that way before. I felt the same way after both of my kids. Well it wasn't 115 since it was January, but yeah I felt absolutely amazing after the birth of both kids. It was best I had felt in 9 months. Especially with Jocelyn. She was riding on my sciatic nerve the last 4 weeks and once she was off of it, I immediately felt better (what I didn't know is that now it acts up every couple of months, but at least she was no longer on it).
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 6, 2014 11:49:17 GMT -5
archie - the rash on her is from the top of her head to the bottom of her feet. It comes and goes in places. Those pics are from last night and her face is better today, but her bum is a lot worse. We just got back from the ped and said it was probably a virus. But my goodness the kid looks like the walking plague.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 11:49:40 GMT -5
I felt like I'd been in a car accident. I'm totally judging you mothers who felt great after giving birth, you ain't better'n me!
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Post by Abby Normal on Aug 6, 2014 11:50:45 GMT -5
This thread cracks me up. Why is it that women are so critical of what others choose to do?
Everyone is different and everyone body is going to react differently. So what is right for some is not for another. I laughed when I was pregnant too because people are so opinionated on what is "right" and having the perfect experience. I got so tired of the birth plan question. My only instruction was to my husband. I told him under no circumstances, regardless of what I said during delivery, was he to let my mother in the room. Lover her dearly, but she makes me nuts. I told him only that if I lost my mind, he needed to keep his.
My water broke at 5:00 pm at home. We went to the hospital and got there about 6. ER sent my up to admin and I was so pissed I walked the whole way. Admin had a cow when they found out my water had already broken and rushed me upstairs. I immediately asked for an EPI because we knew DS was going to be big. I could still push and could tell when it was time to. Good thing, because DS got stuck and if I managed to get him out. Dr was considering emergency C section and said not to push. But my body was already gearing up for the next one and I managed to get him out. Tore the heck out of me. He was born at 1 am. 9lbs 8 oz and nearly two weeks early. Next day I was already restless and wanting to get out of bed. Only issue we had was DS was born with a heart defect.
A week later, DS was labeled with failure to thrive. My boobs didn't work right. We had to switch to formula to supplement. After three weeks of constant nursing and pumping, we gave up and switched fully to formula. Later, we didn't feed organic baby food, or make our own. We had him vaccinated when his pediatrician suggested. Despite all the "your child is going to be fat and sickly" comments- he is neither. He has missed exactly 1 day of school and he just finished sixth grade.
Choose what is you think is best for you and your family, and to hell with what everyone else thinks of it.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 11:53:28 GMT -5
This thread cracks me up. Why is it that women are so critical of what others choose to do?
Because it's funny!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 6, 2014 11:54:32 GMT -5
Why is it that women are so critical of what others choose to do
Cause men can't give birth/get pregnant/nurse so we can't judge them?
I'm totally judging you mothers who felt great after giving birth, you ain't better'n me! If it makes you feel better around 3 weeks post partum I was going insane due to my stiches itching.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 6, 2014 12:01:08 GMT -5
If it makes you feel better around 3 weeks post partum I was going insane due to my stiches itching.
It does. Thank you.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 12:31:37 GMT -5
Ahh, Drama brings up the fun part. Isn't karma lovely? No matter how the child is birthed, there's always the sweat, hot-flashes, hair falling out, jiggly belly, and just generally all around sexy post-birth body to deal with. I wish someone would have given me an epi for that
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 6, 2014 13:24:20 GMT -5
idk, my baby belly was totally gone by 7 days pp, and I was back to my exact starting weight by my 6 week pp check-up. Bring the hate, bitches!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 6, 2014 13:32:42 GMT -5
I'd take my starting weight, at least. Please? (Milizard slinks off to exercise...)
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