Daycare lady/neighbor rant --UPDATE post #81

[Lizard Queen]

Jan 19, 2015 14:54:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Would the DC lady be willing to put in a complaint for you?

Honestly I get your DH's logic but this is a different kind of crazy.  You don't want her thinking she can get away with stuff like this. 

I also wouldn't want to expect my daycare provider to put up with this BS just because I don't want to deal with it right now.

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Yeah, our DC lady is going to file a complaint.  I gave her our neighbor's business card.  I did some digging on the state licensing website and found out some really interesting stuff.  Basically, we weren't the first people she's told off.  I could have sworn I looked last summer and didn't find anything.  I know that I looked her up on there when DS1 was an infant, and there was nothing bad.  Of course, back then she had a full allotment of kids and they looked happy when they were outside playing.  I wonder if she suffered a mental breakdown somewhere in between. . This just reinforces my not wanting to go with any other daycares.  I hope to God we never have to and can SAH once our kids age out of this one.

[Wisconsin Beth]

WTF? 

And I'm so sorry about your Mom.  That has got to be hard. 

[Lizard Queen]

Jan 26, 2015 13:05:49 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

WTF? 

And I'm so sorry about your Mom.  That has got to be hard. 

Thanks.  It is.  Unfortunately, my mood follows how well she's doing that day.  Not the healthiest way to live, but what can I do?  My mom seems to be improving mentally again, which is huge for me.  Physically, she's still weak and pretty much a mess.  Today was gastro issues.   That seems to be on the mend now. Her heart is the main issue though.

 I am just so thankful for the helper that we have for her.  She's been an absolute Godsend.  She stayed with her a bunch over the weekend so I got to see my kids most of the time they were awake.  I don't know how that lady does it.

[kcladyjane]

Lizard Queen Any more updates?  Sorry you had to deal with this.  Glad your kids are back with their normal DCP.

[Lizard Queen]

Feb 10, 2015 11:09:52 GMT -5 kcladyjane said:

Lizard Queen Any more updates?  Sorry you had to deal with this.  Glad your kids are back with their normal DCP.

Thanks.  I haven't heard any more about the neighbor lady.  A strange coincidence--my daycare lady is taking the kids to the mall again today.  Hopefully they won't run into each other again!

My mom is doing pretty darn good considering everything.  Her Dr figured out that her meds were dropping her heart rate down too much, which caused a lot of the sleepiness and falling over.  We're still staying with her most of the day and night.  She had fractured her spine in a fall last year, and the series of falls she had a few weeks ago made it worse.  We don't want her to fall again.  But, she's got some of the pep back in her step.  I am amazed and thankful, as I had really thought she had reached the end of the line.  She had an echocardiogram last week, the results of which weren't too bad.  I was surprised by that as well.  

I don't know what all this means for me.  It's incredibly hard to plan for anything, but I'd like to at least get back to work a little.  If not, it would be nice to know as i could plan for my son to go to a charter school.  If I were to go back to work, I would try to get him in the regular school closer to my sitter's so that he could ride the bus from there.

[Lizard Queen]

I looked on the state site again to see if another investigation may have been started.  I kind of doubt it, though, since she didn't do anything technically wrong--just acted weird.  Anyway, this is some stuff from last year's investigation (taking out her name for privacy), that was very much what we experienced:


Child D’s Guardian removed Child D (male, age 8 months) after one day. She said
that as she was leaving with Child D and chatting about his day, Ms. all of a
sudden became angry and told her “you have crossed a line.” When Child D’s
Guardian asked Ms.  what she said or did to make her angry, she said Ms.
 continued to tell her, “You know what you did.”
Child E’s Mother said she has seen Ms.  become angry with other parents and
she does not trust Ms.  to watch Child E (female, age 6) any more.
Child F and G’s Mother said that she never questioned Ms.  ability to provide
care and supervision of Child F (female, age 7) and Child G (male, age 8). The only
exception was a few days in the summer when she would pick up the children and
Ms.  appeared to be staring into space. Ms.  would respond to Child F and
G’s Mother, but in a vague off hand manner. Child F and G are in school now and no
longer attend Ms.  child care.

There were other interviews with parents that were fine.  DH and I spoke to DS1 about her after the mall incident.  He actually never noticed her there, nor heard anything that she said about him. We told DS that the neighbor was a little sick, and she didn't think quite right.  We told him that, if she told him to do something, he didn't have to listen to her.  DS kind of smiled at that.  He's a really high-strung kid with a shrill voice, so we didn't worry too much about someone snatching him or something (other than the general worry any parent might have).  Now that he's getting a little older, I think we'll elaborate more on strangers, and just using judgment if things don't seem right.  I don't think she's a danger right now, but who knows in the future.

[zibazinski]

Build a really tall fence. I'd never want to see her, her house, or hear from her again.

[Lizard Queen]

Feb 10, 2015 17:24:18 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Build a really tall fence. I'd never want to see her, her house, or hear from her again.

Yup, got that right. A fence and a bigass bush or tree in the corner would help.  I've been growing increasingly disenchanted with my neighborhood, and she's just icing on the cake.  I wish we could move, but don't want to lose $30k+ on the house.