Sleeping with the Boss's Wife??

[CarolinaKat]

So I heard the following on the radio this morning:

A guy  (early 30's) moved to town for a job. He really likes his job and it is a good fit and he has a great boss. After being in town a month or so, he decided to try online dating to meet people and hopefully find a lasting relationship. He meets a lady a little older than him and they really hit it off. They eventually end up sleeping together. She goes out of town to visit family and celebrate her mother's birthday.

The guy's boss is also on vacation the same week. He goes into his office to pick up some papers and notices the family pictures. The lady that the guy has been dating is his boss's wife! What should he do?

Listener responses ranged anywhere from 'drop the lady and find a new job' and 'come clean with the boss and hope he doesn't fire you.'

What says YM?

[zibazinski]

Hope she has more to lose than he does.

[chiver78]

it's not like he went out and sought the boss's wife.....but damn, that's a tough spot to be in. I hope it all works out for him.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

He's screwed. If he dumps her she'll be in a position to make his life miserable. Confess and not only will he get fired but he'll probably get punched in the face. Keep having the affair and he'll have to constantly look over his shoulder.

Wow, that sucks. I vote for keep mouth shut and get another job/quit. THEN the boss's wife.

[CarolinaKat]

Jul 22, 2014 8:19:35 GMT -5 @missmargarita said:

Hahahahahaha! Wow! That's a mess. the lady, keep the job and don't tell the boss. And avoid any social work situation where you may be introduced to the boss's wife!

This is kinda along the lines I was thinking.

Also i forgot to mention. This guy, very wisely, did not provide his name when describing the dillema 

[Tennesseer]

Jul 22, 2014 8:19:35 GMT -5 @missmargarita said:

Hahahahahaha! Wow! That's a mess. the lady, keep the job and don't tell the boss. And avoid any social work situation where you may be introduced to the boss's wife!

This.  But I would tell the lady why she ìs being dumped and if possible, retrieve any of the on-line dating posts/messages and print them out to prove innocence as to who she was (or was not).  Paper trails can and do save career lives.

[billisonboard]

An important question not yet asked nor answered: how good is the sex? That has to be factored into the decision. 

[zibazinski]

BILLS!!! Honestly this sound like a bad Lifetime movie.

[Deleted]

You don't knowingly crap where you eat, hit the eject seat on all of it ASAP.

[justme]

I think it all hinges on whether he's told her where he works. If he didn't tell her, then fade into obscurity/ her - it's not like she'd know to say anything to the boss. An event where the wife shows up would be awkward and I might be looking for a job in case she's not stable and would blow up at the event.

If she knows where he works, uh, she most likely knows she has him by the balls.

[Pants]

Jul 22, 2014 8:15:59 GMT -5 CarolinaKat said:

So I heard the following on the radio this morning:

A guy  (early 30's) moved to town for a job. He really likes his job and it is a good fit and he has a great boss. After being in town a month or so, he decided to try online dating to meet people and hopefully find a lasting relationship. He meets a lady a little older than him and they really hit it off. They eventually end up sleeping together. She goes out of town to visit family and celebrate her mother's birthday.

The guy's boss is also on vacation the same week. He goes into his office to pick up some papers and notices the family pictures. The lady that the guy has been dating is his boss's wife! What should he do?

Listener responses ranged anywhere from 'drop the lady and find a new job' and 'come clean with the boss and hope he doesn't fire you.'

What says YM?

Chances are this was a voice actor, so don't worry about him too much.

[CarolinaKat]

Jul 22, 2014 9:25:59 GMT -5 Pants said:

Jul 22, 2014 8:15:59 GMT -5 CarolinaKat said:

So I heard the following on the radio this morning:

A guy  (early 30's) moved to town for a job. He really likes his job and it is a good fit and he has a great boss. After being in town a month or so, he decided to try online dating to meet people and hopefully find a lasting relationship. He meets a lady a little older than him and they really hit it off. They eventually end up sleeping together. She goes out of town to visit family and celebrate her mother's birthday.

The guy's boss is also on vacation the same week. He goes into his office to pick up some papers and notices the family pictures. The lady that the guy has been dating is his boss's wife! What should he do?

Listener responses ranged anywhere from 'drop the lady and find a new job' and 'come clean with the boss and hope he doesn't fire you.'

What says YM?

Chances are this was a voice actor, so don't worry about him too much.

It was actually an e-mail that the morning hosts read. This show isn't syndicated and doesn't normally do things like 'let's call the cheating spouse' or whatever. If they call anyone it's like the mayor of some town that's having a festival that weekend.

So I'm 50/50 that this could be legit. Usually their morning stuff comes out of dumb stuff they/their spouse/kids did over the weekend.

[damnotagain]

Ask for a raise , his wife is giving him one! 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 22, 2014 9:12:58 GMT -5 justme said:

I think it all hinges on whether he's told her where he works. If he didn't tell her, then fade into obscurity/ her - it's not like she'd know to say anything to the boss. An event where the wife shows up would be awkward and I might be looking for a job in case she's not stable and would blow up at the event.

If she knows where he works, uh, she most likely knows she has him by the balls.

Actually, I'd think it is the other way around.  She would no more want him to let this cat out of the bag than he would.  For her, it would be the end of her gravy train marriage.  For him, it's his job.

[michelyn8]

Jul 22, 2014 8:36:02 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

BILLS!!! Honestly this sound like a bad Lifetime movie.

Sounds like beginning of The Secret of My Success when Brantley finds out he's just screwed the wife of the man who is not only his boss but also his uncle by marriage to some distant family member.

BTW: I say he should look for another job while gathering his "evidence" that he had no idea who she was.  For all he knows they have an open marriage and bossie is ok with her extra curriculars.  But that doesn't mean he wants anyone he works with to know about this agreement.

[justme]

Jul 22, 2014 10:47:15 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Jul 22, 2014 9:12:58 GMT -5 justme said:

I think it all hinges on whether he's told her where he works. If he didn't tell her, then fade into obscurity/ her - it's not like she'd know to say anything to the boss. An event where the wife shows up would be awkward and I might be looking for a job in case she's not stable and would blow up at the event.

If she knows where he works, uh, she most likely knows she has him by the balls.

Actually, I'd think it is the other way around.  She would no more want him to let this cat out of the bag than he would.  For her, it would be the end of her gravy train marriage.  For him, it's his job.

Yeah, unless she's a little crazy. All bets are off then. 

[greeniis10]

I can't get past the fact that the WIFE is on and online dating site!  She may have a whole list of guys just like this one.  This won't last long.  Someone will find out.  (Or am I so old-fashioned that spouses can actually do this and get away with it??)

[Bonny]

Dang! I saw this thread and thought Carl was back!

[CarolinaKat]

Jul 22, 2014 11:20:07 GMT -5 greeniis10 said:

I can't get past the fact that the WIFE is on and online dating site!  She may have a whole list of guys just like this one.  This won't last long.  Someone will find out.  (Or am I so old-fashioned that spouses can actually do this and get away with it??)

Depends on how tech-savvy the husband is and how paranoid/suspicous that his wife is cheating on him.

[michelyn8]

Jul 22, 2014 11:20:07 GMT -5 greeniis10 said:

I can't get past the fact that the WIFE is on and online dating site!  She may have a whole list of guys just like this one.  This won't last long.  Someone will find out.  (Or am I so old-fashioned that spouses can actually do this and get away with it??)

Have you ever actually been on an online dating site?  I gave up on them years ago after seeing one to many ads for a man who was otherwise "happily" married but looking for a little fun to break up the monotony.  And those were the ones who were honest about actually being married. 

[greeniis10]

No, I've never used an online dating site and I never will.  I don't trust what people say about themselves and clearly, you've reinforced my feelings on that. 

[movingforward]

Jul 22, 2014 11:31:43 GMT -5 greeniis10 said:

No, I've never used an online dating site and I never will.  I don't trust what people say about themselves and clearly, you've reinforced my feelings on that. 

Same here.  From what little I know (and this is just from people I know who have tried on-line dating and from stats I have seen) there is a large % of people online who are married and just looking for sex.  I also have a few friends who have done online dating and the stories they tell make me cringe.  One ended up with a borderline stalker that took her forever to get rid of and another one ended up with a lot of guys that completely misrepresented themselves.  I also know some people who met online and are very happy (my brother met his 2nd wife online) but it just isn't for me. 

ETA: I am also a person who just started dating a man I was friends with for 2 yrs and never knew he had an interest in me so obviously I probably shouldn't give advice - LOL

[Sunnyday]

Before doing anything, I would find out if the woman he was dating was a twin.

[Sam_2.0]

I was just going to say that, rainyday!! A twin or a sister that looks very similar.

[Peace Of Mind]

Jul 22, 2014 12:15:48 GMT -5 Sunnyday said:

Before doing anything, I would find out if the woman he was dating was a twin.

He needs to put her picture on his desk so he can find out! 

[Gardening Grandma]

What says YM?

A lot depends on whether the wife knows where he works and who he works for. If she doesn't know, he should drop her and continue working but look for another job.

If she does know, and he fears her reaction if he dumps her, he needs to introduce her to a friend who is more attractive than he is

He should not say anything to his boss.

[souldoubt]

I'd go with what MM said and add for him to keep emails from her along with a few screen caps of her dating profile.  At least this way if it ever comes up he can show his boss that he's not a dirt bag, she was pretending to be single and he had no idea who she was.  

[Miss Tequila]

LOLOLOLOL ...assuming this is real and not some way for the DJ to get phone calls, I would not tell the wife or the boss...it doesn't matter if he prints the evidence or not, even if the boss realizes it was the wife who was in the wrong, there is probably no way to repair that working relationship. I would stop seeing the wife and pray no one ever makes the connection

[lexxy703]

I say he invites her to a work function!

[souldoubt]

Jul 22, 2014 13:41:43 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

LOLOLOLOL ...assuming this is real and not some way for the DJ to get phone calls, I would not tell the wife or the boss...it doesn't matter if he prints the evidence or not, even if the boss realizes it was the wife who was in the wrong, there is probably no way to repair that working relationship. I would stop seeing the wife and pray no one ever makes the connection

Agreed but I'd be saving emails/screen caps just to save face.