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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2014 15:40:50 GMT -5
Was it a one hitter or a continuing thing? If he was actually "dating" her...I'm thinking if he likes his job to cut the ties and shut up.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 15:46:45 GMT -5
He needs to decide whether he likes the woman or the job more. No way in hell he gets to keep both. Most likely he gets to keep neither, but he might have a shot at one or the other.
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Post by hoops902 on Jul 22, 2014 16:06:06 GMT -5
He needs to decide whether he likes the woman or the job more. No way in hell he gets to keep both. Most likely he gets to keep neither, but he might have a shot at one or the other. He has a far better shot at keeping the job IMO. I have literally never met my boss's spouse at my current company, and I've had nearly a dozen managers. He's almost definitely not keeping the woman (assuming this is even the same woman, because let's be honest, guys are stupid, and if he is basing this all on a photo he saw he kind of deserves what he gets. People look alike, people have twins, people have siblings and cousins who look a LOT like them).
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Post by movingforward on Jul 22, 2014 16:23:39 GMT -5
He could always suggest a threesome
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 22, 2014 16:47:46 GMT -5
He could always suggest a threesome I'm so glad somebody else went there. I was wondering if he's in on the entire situation and watches. Maybe that's why the guy was hired!
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Post by truthbound on Jul 23, 2014 4:50:50 GMT -5
So I heard the following on the radio this morning: A guy (early 30's) moved to town for a job. He really likes his job and it is a good fit and he has a great boss. After being in town a month or so, he decided to try online dating to meet people and hopefully find a lasting relationship. He meets a lady a little older than him and they really hit it off. They eventually end up sleeping together. She goes out of town to visit family and celebrate her mother's birthday. The guy's boss is also on vacation the same week. He goes into his office to pick up some papers and notices the family pictures. The lady that the guy has been dating is his boss's wife! What should he do?
Listener responses ranged anywhere from 'drop the lady and find a new job' and 'come clean with the boss and hope he doesn't fire you.' What says YM? LOL this must be a troll thread. There is no question here. You don't bang other people's wives!
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Post by nutty on Jul 23, 2014 7:54:54 GMT -5
Life is very messy, as I am finding out. A year ago I would be shocked at this, now I am not.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2014 8:06:01 GMT -5
Well, it's not like he knew it was his bosses wife or even that she was married for that matter.
I'd just break it off and keep my mouth shut.
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Post by hoops902 on Jul 23, 2014 9:37:16 GMT -5
So I heard the following on the radio this morning: A guy (early 30's) moved to town for a job. He really likes his job and it is a good fit and he has a great boss. After being in town a month or so, he decided to try online dating to meet people and hopefully find a lasting relationship. He meets a lady a little older than him and they really hit it off. They eventually end up sleeping together. She goes out of town to visit family and celebrate her mother's birthday. The guy's boss is also on vacation the same week. He goes into his office to pick up some papers and notices the family pictures. The lady that the guy has been dating is his boss's wife! What should he do?
Listener responses ranged anywhere from 'drop the lady and find a new job' and 'come clean with the boss and hope he doesn't fire you.' What says YM? LOL this must be a troll thread. There is no question here. You don't bang other people's wives! This must be a troll answer to boost post count. Of course there is a question here. Much of the thread has been about whether he should admit it to the boss, try to keep a trail showing he didn't know, tell everyone the truth, tell no one, look for a new job, try to retain his current job. If you'd bother to read the thread before labeling it as a troll you'd have probably noticed this.
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Post by truthbound on Jul 24, 2014 5:04:41 GMT -5
Boosting my post count on some internets forum will do exactly shit for me. So unless there is some check waiting for me that I don't know of I am not a troll..
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Post by tloonya on Jul 25, 2014 12:46:44 GMT -5
Hahahahahaha! Wow! That's a mess. the lady, keep the job and don't tell the boss. And avoid any social work situation where you may be introduced to the boss's wife! Why top tell the boss? Just tell her, her (they did it anyway already, so does it matter how many times? so maybe don't the lady?) and do not tell the boss. Keep working but start sending out resumes.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 25, 2014 12:47:47 GMT -5
He needs to decide whether he likes the woman or the job more. No way in hell he gets to keep both. Most likely he gets to keep neither, but he might have a shot at one or the other. That was brilliant
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jul 25, 2014 14:52:53 GMT -5
Nah, he can just buy a CZ/sterling silver "engagement" ring and a bouquet of roses, and at their next tryst, kneel down and most sincerely ask her to marry him. She'll run like she just got burned ! Problem solved.
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Post by Bob Ross on Jul 25, 2014 15:11:25 GMT -5
I'm thinking that some sort of blackmail situation is probably in order. When you find yourself in a deep hole with a shovel, might as well keep on digging.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jul 27, 2014 11:58:40 GMT -5
I wouldn't recommend playing games with peoples lives. however I do like the invite her to a work function when she returns / one last sex romp / then confront her telling her he found out she is the bosses wife
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 27, 2014 13:24:45 GMT -5
Now that he knows who she is, if he's anywhere near to being a self-respecting man, he won't be having anything more to do with her - let alone "one more romp" - SHE's the one who's married and was falsely posing as a single woman on an online dating site.
He could happen to be in the boss's office one day and say - "Is that your wife?? I'm pretty sure I saw her picture & profile on an online dating site recently" - then pull up her profile on the computer.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jul 27, 2014 15:38:40 GMT -5
playing games like that I think would back fire in dudes face. because it will probably blow up and he will be seen / caught responding on her dating profile, and conversations back and forth. he will eventually get caught and though he most likely NOT be fired - there WILL be some tension at work.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 27, 2014 16:55:26 GMT -5
On Dating sites, you can see a person's profile & pic - vital statistics, interests, etc - without making contact. There's pages & pages of people & their profiles. It's a way to narrow down your search.
If the boss's wife was showing herself as single on the website, she's the one who was being misleading & dishonest about herself.
I hope he at least contacted the site and reported her as a misrepresentation. I know of a couple married guys that got their profiles immediately yanked from dating sites once it was discovered they were being deceptive on their profiles by lying about (or not revealing) their marital status.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2014 18:38:43 GMT -5
On Dating sites, you can see a person's profile & pic - vital statistics, interests, etc - without making contact. There's pages & pages of people & their profiles. It's a way to narrow down your search.
If the boss's wife was showing herself as single on the website, she's the one who was being misleading & dishonest about herself.
I hope he at least contacted the site and reported her as a misrepresentation. I know of a couple married guys that got their profiles immediately yanked from dating sites once it was discovered they were being deceptive on their profiles by lying about (or not revealing) their marital status.
The sad thing about situations like this is the person that was cheated on is often harder on the other person than the cheater. I guess it's easier to focus on your anger with the other person than it is to deal with your SO's part in the situation. So, even if this guy is honest about the woman misrepresenting herself on the dating site where he met her, how he had no idea she was married at all, let alone to his boss, and it's all the absolute truth, he's probably going to suffer some consequences.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 27, 2014 19:34:08 GMT -5
A real azhat would continue with the wife. Then at the company get togethers take another hot babe and act like nothing ever happened in front of the couple. Maybe sit at the same table.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jul 27, 2014 20:02:49 GMT -5
On Dating sites, you can see a person's profile & pic - vital statistics, interests, etc - without making contact. There's pages & pages of people & their profiles. It's a way to narrow down your search.
If the boss's wife was showing herself as single on the website, she's the one who was being misleading & dishonest about herself.
one- going to his boss at a new job or not - I would think his boss would be embarrassed. two- Showing him the web site, and her profile - I would think the boss would confront his wife, show her the site and when she asks how did he find out! probably for trying to reverse attention back on him, seeing if he was looking around. Dudes name would come up and he will be caught sleeping with his wife. causing more embarrassment on the bosses behalf. causing additional tension at work. three- more times the one being cheated on will take out their pain and frustration on the other person, not the spouse. (as pink just mentioned) but hey - maybe going to the boss and pointing out the profile of his wife. he may have an open marriage and show him his profile. still causing uneasy tension at his place of work.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 27, 2014 20:18:02 GMT -5
My post was more to clarify more to Zaire than anyone, that this male employee had been duped by the false information provided by the wife of the boss on the dating site. He probably would never have contacted her in the first place to meet her, if she'd been up-front & honest in the first place as to her marital status.
(Most reputable dating sites don't accept married people's profiles for consideration - although there are some sites that condone extra-marital hook-ups.
And most guys don't want to get involved with a woman who's a stranger to him if he knows she's married. He was probably not even aware of her status - SHE was the one who probably lied.
Zaire on the other hand, thinks this guy should "bang" her one more time - even though he now knows it's the boss's wife.
I wouldn't recommend playing games with peoples lives. however I do like the invite her to a work function when she returns / one last sex romp / then confront her telling her he found out she is the bosses wife
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jul 27, 2014 20:31:41 GMT -5
Zaire on the other hand, thinks this guy should "bang" her one more time - even though he now knows it's the boss's wife.
I wouldn't recommend playing games with peoples lives. however I do like the invite her to a work function when she returns / one last sex romp / then confront her telling her he found out she is the bosses wife when the sex is good! Hellz yea! "bang" her one last time. who knows how long before his next sex will come along. two- who knows if there is real chemistry between the two and she leaves her husband. which would cause tension at work for him with his boss. three- her husband is obviously not giving her enough pleasure and he is. good-by sex / break up sex! try it I guess you'll be surprised Scottish Lassie
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Post by hoops902 on Jul 31, 2014 12:43:38 GMT -5
::good-by sex / break up sex! try it I guess you'll be surprised Scottish Lassie::
Break up sex is defined by the fact that you've broken up, THEN have sex again. You're advocating he have sex with her and then confront her after. Not only does he now know that he would be sleeping with a married woman, he's sleeping with someone he has no intention of continuing to be in a relationship with and hasn't informed her of that. Ignoring the fact she's already a shitty person, he has just become just a shitty of a human being.
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