Are you taken for granted?

[imawino]

Jul 3, 2014 13:52:14 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

my dogs will eat stuff that isn't even food...



I swear my lab has Pica.

I bought Blue Buffalo once in the name of being a "good" pet owner. That's the first thing I found that dog wouldn't eat. She didn't eat for a week. Maybe if BB came in used Q-tip flavor she'd eat it.

LOL. And I think my dog has Prader Willi. She'd eat until she exploded if I would let her.

[imawino]

Jul 10, 2014 8:51:56 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

I am, apparently, the only one in this house that knows how to clean a dish (or stack a dishwasher.)  My husband always says "Thanks for cleaning the kitchen."  Talk is cheap.  

yeah that!

Also, he likes to announce to me that he scrubbed the shower like he's expecting some sort of award. I'm always like "soooo, the toilet, the vanity and the floors are all still waiting for me to clean them, then?"

[michelyn8]

Jul 2, 2014 16:47:11 GMT -5 oped said:

That's good. I was worried for a minute. 

I ran ran into a homeschool mom friend today I think is depressed. I'm not sure how to help her. I'm a 'do something' type. But I don't know how to help...

When a person is truly depressed, telling them they need to do something different or think differently can only make things worse.  When a person is depressed, they can't always tell you why they feel that way, they just do.  I've been down this road many times and can now recognize when I have spell coming on.  I've tried meds but stopped them after a couple of years because I didn't like the idea they could potentially effect my physical health.  So I developed a routine that works for me.  I allow myself to wallow and tell myself its ok to feel the way I do.  And for me, by giving myself this permission and the time to feel down, I snap out of it faster and can usually pinpoint what is bringing me down.  Sometimes I'm just overwhelmed and feeling taken for granted, sometimes its PMS or another health related issue, and sometimes its more and I know I need to go see someone for professional help. 

The best thing you can do is let her know you've noticed and you're there if she needs anything.  If she chooses to confide in you and the problem is more than just being overwhelmed, encourage her to get a check up. Depression can be triggered by various physical issues or can be a chemical imbalance in the brain.

As to the question in the OP - I feel taken for granted quite a bit at home and at work.  Work is usually the worst - asked to do stuff that is someone else's job by boss because he knows I'll do quickly and correctly.  I've gotten better about letting him know I don't mind helping others when its needed but I also expect others to do all of their own jobs and not pawn off stuff on me because they can't be bothered.  And I have issues at home with DD2 and her not doing enough to help out around the house.  Working on the second and have been getting better about letting her know I will help with DGD but she needs to start asking me to do the things that she assumes I'll do for her (and sadly will do because they need to be done).  I did real good about making sure she knew that just because I was on vacation last week didn't mean I was going to spend my time babysitting and that if she was scheduled to work during the day, she still had to arrange a sitter same as if I was working.  Its hard for me not to just do what needs to be done for her and DGD and easy for her to let me which creates hard feelings so we are both working on changing things on that front so she can become more independent and I can begin to have a life that doesn't revolve around the needs of a child.