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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 24, 2014 12:36:17 GMT -5
And yet the Boy is in Germany right now.
Yup and it's killing me. I didn't want to let him go at all. I was at near panic levels waiting for regular updates. Fortunately his host mom has been good about updating us. He is staying with the family of the German boy that stayed with us. I have communicated with this family every week for over a year. He is there with 3 chaperons for the 16 America Students. He is part of a "travel buddy" group with 2 other kids (one of which just graduated from Ds' high school). He spends the bulk of his time with the Host Family and attending high school there. As part of the exchange agreement he is not allowed to drink, smoke, ride on any scooters, etc. The list of rules is like 5 pages long. Any violation and he would be immediately sent back to the United States.
My friends and family have been placing bets on whether or not I will last the whole month or will break down and fly to Germany to check on him.
I am trying to lighten up on the reigns and let him off his leash so to speak. Hell he had his permit for like 9 months before I really encouraged him to practice driving. I'm a work in progress but it's not been easy.
Rukh- for me or the girl that was killed? When DS was younger we had a riding lawn mower because we had a big yard, now we have a push mower. I believe with regards to Big Mike's little sister they had a riding mower as well. I'm guessing based on knowing the size of the yard (it was a huge farm type yard) that it was a riding mower but I honestly couldn't say for sure. I'm fb friends with another of the sisters but I don't exactly want to message her and ask "what kind of mower was your brother using when your little sister died?"
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Post by swamp on Jun 24, 2014 12:43:33 GMT -5
h. " Kids are safer with strangers? Statistically, yes.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 13:45:38 GMT -5
"Statistically, yes. More kids are harmed by someone you know. Similar to the sexual assault stats where most people are assaulted by someone they know, not a stranger."
I wasn't talking about intentional harming. Is it true for unintentional?
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Post by justme on Jun 24, 2014 13:48:40 GMT -5
It depends what you consider unintentional. It's such a vague term that I doubt there's anyway to run the stats on it. Most of the times kids die in the car is unintentionally being forgotten. Or it's unintentional to harm the kid while driving and a car accident happens. So there's plenty of unintentional harm being done by people the kids know.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 24, 2014 14:16:42 GMT -5
Just to throw this out there, the only time (so far) we have taken DS to the ER is when I unintentionally dislocated his elbow. It was something we had done hundreds of times before and have done with him and his sister hundreds of times since. We change diapers on the floor and I was helping him gently to his feet afterwards and his elbow just happened to dislocate that time. I wasn't being rough or playing around. Just gently helping him to his feet.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 14:35:42 GMT -5
I agree 100 percent. Its just about the extra effort. Not always. Sometimes it is about the sleeping baby and taking the sleeping baby out of a car for 5 minutes when it is 20 degrees outside. Baby seats slide out quite easily without waking baby. It IS about the extra effort.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 24, 2014 14:37:53 GMT -5
Not always. Sometimes it is about the sleeping baby and taking the sleeping baby out of a car for 5 minutes when it is 20 degrees outside. Baby seats slide out quite easily without waking baby. but it still woke up MY baby. It IS about the extra effort. Fixed it for my baby ETA: Your post also assumes that the baby is still in the bucket infant seat as well.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 24, 2014 14:39:09 GMT -5
You didn't even have to move the car seat to wake DD up, soon as the car went off, she was awake and angry about the seat. She HATED that thing.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 14:41:11 GMT -5
Baby seats slide out quite easily without waking baby. but it still woke up MY baby. It IS about the extra effort. Fixed it for my baby ETA: Your post also assumes that the baby is still in the bucket infant seat as well. Yes because the word BABY was used. INFANTS require an INFANT seat. Where I live that would be the bucket style.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 24, 2014 14:41:47 GMT -5
You didn't even have to move the car seat to wake DD up, soon as the car went off, she was awake and angry about the seat. She HATED that thing. WE had a 1 year stage with Cabe - after about 30 minutes, he'd be asleep in the seat. AS soon as the car slowed down, he was awake and crying. It sucked.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 14:42:30 GMT -5
You didn't even have to move the car seat to wake DD up, soon as the car went off, she was awake and angry about the seat. She HATED that thing. Its funny how some kids are like that. My oldest would start waking every time I was at a red light.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 24, 2014 14:45:30 GMT -5
You didn't even have to move the car seat to wake DD up, soon as the car went off, she was awake and angry about the seat. She HATED that thing. Its funny how some kids are like that. My oldest would start waking every time I was at a red light. It was almost like she KNEW she was stuck with it if the car was on, but as soon as the vibrations from running stopped, BAM!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 24, 2014 14:46:30 GMT -5
Fixed it for my baby ETA: Your post also assumes that the baby is still in the bucket infant seat as well. Yes because the word BABY was used. INFANTS require an INFANT seat. Where I live that would be the bucket style. Convertable Car seats are allowed on infants. Many go down to 5 pounds. While it isn't the best option or highly recommended, it isn't that unusual for someone to just use a convertible from the beginning. We stopped taking the bucket seat out of the car at 6 months with my kids. DD outgrew her Chicco Keyfit30 lengthwise well before a year. On the particular day in question that I was talking about, at that point in time i did not have the physical strength left to carry my daughter in the carseat up a flight of stairs. So, yes I would have had to take her completely out of the carseat.
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Post by midjd on Jun 24, 2014 14:46:39 GMT -5
I want one of these non-waking-up-child carseats!
Can I also get one that will convert DD's 20-odd lbs into something a 5'1" person can easily lift and carry long distances without whacking against things?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 24, 2014 14:47:03 GMT -5
Its funny how some kids are like that. My oldest would start waking every time I was at a red light. It was almost like she KNEW she was stuck with it if the car was on, but as soon as the vibrations from running stopped, BAM! She probably did know CL. IT's not like you have stupid kids or anything.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 24, 2014 14:48:48 GMT -5
It was almost like she KNEW she was stuck with it if the car was on, but as soon as the vibrations from running stopped, BAM! She probably did know CL. IT's not like you have stupid kids or anything. Probably did, and being non verbal at the time, I couldn't ask her. Ok, I did, but she didn't answer in any language that I understood. And thank you! I think they're smart, but I'm biased.
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Post by Firebird on Jun 24, 2014 22:45:02 GMT -5
Convertable Car seats are allowed on infants. Many go down to 5 pounds. While it isn't the best option or highly recommended, it isn't that unusual for someone to just use a convertible from the beginning.
Totally illegal in my state at least (unless you're talking about a rear facing convertible seat). Kids under 20 pounds (I think, might be slightly off on the weight but it's something close to that) MUST be restrained in rear facing car seats.
Here, you can't leave the hospital without the staff signing off on you having the proper rear-facing car seat safely installed for your newborn.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 24, 2014 23:52:51 GMT -5
"How many parents turn carseats FF at 1yr for the convenience factor instead of waiting until the recommended 2+ years? " Maybe that is the difference. I waited until he was 2, past 2 even to turn his car seat. ... Now that is cheating. Your Bunny lived with your family for a year or so, so you didn't really deal with this issue for quite a while. Please know that I am not picking on you Bunnysmom. I have been a great admirer of yours for having the strength to do what was best for Bunny even if it broke your heart that you were apart for so long. Still it does mean that certain experiences others had to deal with were not yours.
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Post by yogiii on Jun 25, 2014 5:31:44 GMT -5
Convertable Car seats are allowed on infants. Many go down to 5 pounds. While it isn't the best option or highly recommended, it isn't that unusual for someone to just use a convertible from the beginning. Totally illegal in my state at least (unless you're talking about a rear facing convertible seat). Kids under 20 pounds (I think, might be slightly off on the weight but it's something close to that) MUST be restrained in rear facing car seats. Here, you can't leave the hospital without the staff signing off on you having the proper rear-facing car seat safely installed for your newborn. I can guarantee she was talking about a rear-facing convertible.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2014 8:23:36 GMT -5
"Now that is cheating. Your Bunny lived with your family for a year or so, so you didn't really deal with this issue for quite a while. "
It was 8 months and you are right i didn't have to deal with it then but i have been dealing with it now and all on my own. I don't have somebody else to leave him with but i am not choosing to leave him in a car. Sure it is not convenient to drag him inside everytime but it was my choice to have him, i am not going to treat him like an inconvenience.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 25, 2014 8:25:28 GMT -5
Convertable Car seats are allowed on infants. Many go down to 5 pounds. While it isn't the best option or highly recommended, it isn't that unusual for someone to just use a convertible from the beginning. Totally illegal in my state at least (unless you're talking about a rear facing convertible seat). Kids under 20 pounds (I think, might be slightly off on the weight but it's something close to that) MUST be restrained in rear facing car seats. Here, you can't leave the hospital without the staff signing off on you having the proper rear-facing car seat safely installed for your newborn. Of course I am talking about a rear facing convertible seat. Why would I be talking about a forward facing seat? That is what a convertible seat is - a car seat that can face forward or backwards. Is your DD still in her bucket seat? I'm assuming she is still rear facing? Honestly, you are just trying to pick a fight over this. A convertible seat can be a prorper rear-facing seat safely installed for your newborn. WTF. Why would you think i was talking about forward facing?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2014 8:27:07 GMT -5
Convertable Car seats are allowed on infants. Many go down to 5 pounds. While it isn't the best option or highly recommended, it isn't that unusual for someone to just use a convertible from the beginning. Totally illegal in my state at least (unless you're talking about a rear facing convertible seat). Kids under 20 pounds (I think, might be slightly off on the weight but it's something close to that) MUST be restrained in rear facing car seats. Here, you can't leave the hospital without the staff signing off on you having the proper rear-facing car seat safely installed for your newborn. I can guarantee she was talking about a rear-facing convertible. This is mine. It goes from 5 pounds to 65 pounds. www.diapers.com/p/britax-marathon-g4-convertible-car-seat-cowmooflage-969584?noappbanner=true&utm_source=Diapers_SG&utm_medium=PDP_SG&utm_campaign=di-sg-to-mobileMy boys were both in bucket seats at first, but outgrew them really fast. Like in 5 or 6 months.
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Post by Firebird on Jun 25, 2014 8:42:25 GMT -5
I'm not trying to fight. I've just only seen convertible car seats in the upright face forward position. Not even sure how to go about turning ours backward. We've always had it facing front.
Babybird was in a rear facing bucket seat (I'd never heard that term before so now I think I get what you're saying) until she was a little over one year and her legs flat out didn't go that way anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2014 8:46:41 GMT -5
I'm not trying to fight. I've just only seen convertible car seats in the upright face forward position. Not even sure how to go about turning ours backward. We've always had it facing front. Babybird was in a rear facing bucket seat (I'd never heard that term before so now I think I get what you're saying) until she was a little over one year and her legs flat out didn't go that way anymore. You just turn it around.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 25, 2014 8:48:24 GMT -5
I'm not trying to fight. I 've just only seen convertible car seats in the upright face forward position. Not even sure how to go about turning ours backward. We've always had it facing front. Babybird was in a rear facing bucket seat (I'd never heard that term before so now I think I get what you're saying) until she was a little over one year and her legs flat out didn't go that way anymore. Seriously?? On my facebook page, from May 26th, there is a video of the kids in the car as we travel down the road and DD is in a rear-facing convertible seat. She outgrew her little infant or bucket seat or whatever you want to call it lengthwise by 9 months. But she still rearfaced until 3 weeks ago. DS rearfaced until 23 months. I never would have guessed you would have gone straight from an infant/bucket seat to forward facing. Especially with the way you have talked on this thread.
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Post by midjd on Jun 25, 2014 8:54:11 GMT -5
When I was carseat shopping, it seemed like 75%+ of the selection were convertibles...
Ours goes from 5-45lbs because I didn't see much sense in spending $100 on a seat that would be defunct in 6 months (especially since you can't really resell them or buy used).
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Post by Firebird on Jun 25, 2014 9:07:07 GMT -5
To be honest, I don't really deal with the carseat much, it's usually in DH's car. Especially after we switched to a convertible, because those things are a bitch to move from car to car. That's why I'm not super familiar with the details/terminology. DH has always taken point on that because he does 90% of the kid hauling.
But our doctor said it was fine to have her front facing after one year. She said the longer she was rear facing the better, but front facing was okay after one year.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 25, 2014 9:16:12 GMT -5
Ours goes from 5-45lbs because I didn't see much sense in spending $100 on a seat that would be defunct in 6 monthsDH's is a Graco convertible. We saw no point in getting another bucket seat when they only last about 6 months. I had one because I did most of the pick up/drop off. We switched to an Evenflo convertible in my car once she got too big for me to carry around in the seat. Now Gwen has a convertible 5 point harness booster. It'll go up to 100 lbs so this should be the last car seat I ever need to purchase for her.
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Post by midjd on Jun 25, 2014 9:33:11 GMT -5
And then you can use it for yourself! I think ours is a Safety First model. I like it because you can order the bases separately - there is one in my car, one in DH's truck, and one in MIL's SUV. So as long as I drop the seat off with her at daycare, anyone can pick her up. I have a hard time picturing how a 45lb baby would fit in it, though.
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