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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 13:53:09 GMT -5
Try water.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2014 14:02:05 GMT -5
I think people are fooling themselves thinking they are healthier by drinking energy drinks and flavored water. Nope. Still full of sugar and chemicals. If people would start having their babies and toddlers drink lots of water on a daily basis a lot of unhealthy habits would be eliminated. But, instead, let's blame an entire for-profit industry.  I remember seeing an advice column from a nutritionist. One letter was from a mother whose precious 2-year old was not permitted anything with refined sugar in it. He likes her vitamin water, though. Was that OK for him to drink? She named the brand, and of course it was just about as bad as feeding him a can of pop.
We didn't have pop around the house when DS was little and he drank a lot of water. His babysitter thought it was kind of funny that water was his drink of choice; her own son got into the same habit! I think we did him/them a favor.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 18, 2014 14:04:32 GMT -5
I know. And I do agree. I don't drink it myself. I try to not get overly preachy about things like this and try to stay on topic. What I meant by "it's not poison" is that thankfully none of my children nor DH has died from it (yet). |
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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 14:09:39 GMT -5
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jun 18, 2014 14:15:46 GMT -5
WS raises a good issue. I'm a die-hard diet soda drinker. Have been for years. I don't have weight issues, but I couldn't see the need for all the sugar, and now it just tastes better to me than regular. Unfortunately, at every physical for the last 3 years, my blood sugar (if that's what the "glucose" reading is) has been creeping up to the point it's in the high part of the normal range. I'm weaning myself. If my blood sugar levels go down, I'll know why.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 18, 2014 14:18:06 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change.
I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health.
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Post by movingforward on Jun 18, 2014 14:18:39 GMT -5
I drink water all day long. If I don't then I feel extremely dehydrated when I exercise after work. Do I get points for that because no matter what I don't think I will ever consider yogurt with blueberries to be "a treat."  |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 18, 2014 14:19:40 GMT -5
Do I get points for that because no matter what I don't think I will ever consider yogurt with blueberries to be "a treat."Yogurt is dairy and dairy is bad. A kale smoothie should be your "treat" for the day.
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Post by yogiii on Jun 18, 2014 14:20:46 GMT -5
I drink water all day long. If I don't then I feel extremely dehydrated when I exercise after work. Do I get points for that because no matter what I don't think I will ever consider yogurt with blueberries to be "a treat." You've just outed yourself as a sane person |
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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 14:21:12 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change. I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health. As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? |
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 18, 2014 14:28:25 GMT -5
Do I get points for that because no matter what I don't think I will ever consider yogurt with blueberries to be "a treat."Yogurt is dairy and dairy is bad. A kale smoothie should be your "treat" for the day. Why do you hate me?!  |
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 18, 2014 14:30:57 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change. I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health. As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? We each cook our own food. There is nothing that we both eat the same thing of, actually. A "wife" is not a mom and if he doesn't want to get healthier than so be it. He is 10 years older than I am anyway. I'm sure I'll outlive him. He'd rather die "happy". His choice. |
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 18, 2014 14:33:02 GMT -5
Do I get points for that because no matter what I don't think I will ever consider yogurt with blueberries to be "a treat."Yogurt is dairy and dairy is bad. A kale smoothie should be your "treat" for the day. Why do you hate me?!
Here ya go, Chocolate Lover:
1/2 cup fresh or frozen berries 1/2 cup (dairy OR non-dairy) yogurt or milk/"milk" (almond, rice etc.) 2-3 kale leaves 1 large TBSP raw cacao powder 1 cup crushed ice sweetener to taste (I use a few dates or a TBSP or raw honey or Grade B maple syrup)
whirl on high speed in a blender with just enough water or coconut water to get the blades moving. 
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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 14:33:13 GMT -5
As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? We each cook our own food. There is nothing that we both eat the same thing of, actually. A "wife" is not a mom and if he doesn't want to get healthier than so be it. He is 10 years older than I am anyway. I'm sure I'll outlive him. He'd rather die "happy". His choice. My my... |
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jun 18, 2014 14:34:22 GMT -5
Why do you hate me?!
Here ya go, Chocolate Lover:
1/2 cup fresh or frozen berries 1/2 cup (dairy OR non-dairy) yogurt or milk/"milk" (almond, rice etc.) 2-3 kale leaves 1 large TBSP raw cacao powder 1 cup crushed ice sweetener to taste (I use a few dates or a TBSP or raw honey or Grade B maple syrup)
whirl on high speed in a blender with just enough water or coconut water to get the blades moving.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 18, 2014 14:35:07 GMT -5
As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? We each cook our own food. There is nothing that we both eat the same thing of, actually. A "wife" is not a mom and if he doesn't want to get healthier than so be it. He is 10 years older than I am anyway. I'm sure I'll outlive him. He'd rather die "happy". His choice. Amen. I have a husband like this too. Yes I put healthier choices in front of him when we are home, but ultimately it is his decision whether to eat it or not. And I have ZERO control over what he eats away from home. I REFUSE to be his "mother" and monitor his diet. |
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 18, 2014 14:35:35 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change. I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health. Um, yeah- I totally tell my family what they can it. I'm mean like that. When I made a huge lifestyle diet change I came home and said "Here's the deal....." and they had a choice- either get on the bandwagon or get on the bandwagon. Frankly I do the grocery shopping and the bulk of the cooking so their only choice is to eat what I buy/make.
I did actually lay out my logic and asked nicely that they support me in my efforts. I told DS that at school and when he was away from us he could eat how he wanted but that I hoped he would try to use the lessons we've taught him. DH tries to follow along with my plan because when he doesn't he feels bad (physically).
Granted I had a significant amount of weight to lose (down 90 lbs since October and hope to be to my goal weight by the end of the summer) and I knew if I was eating plain chicken and steamed veggies and they were sitting next to me eating pizza and ice cream my resolve would never last. They claim they understand and so far they've been really supportive.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 18, 2014 14:36:12 GMT -5
Here ya go, Chocolate Lover:
1/2 cup fresh or frozen berries 1/2 cup (dairy OR non-dairy) yogurt or milk/"milk" (almond, rice etc.) 2-3 kale leaves 1 large TBSP raw cacao powder 1 cup crushed ice sweetener to taste (I use a few dates or a TBSP or raw honey or Grade B maple syrup)
whirl on high speed in a blender with just enough water or coconut water to get the blades moving.
Except for the kale part, that sounds yummy! You don't taste the kale - - that's the whole point! You "get in" your nutrition without the pain of bad taste. |
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 18, 2014 14:38:57 GMT -5
I don't monitor DH's diet when he's away from me. We don't keep bread in the house (except for the Dog's weekly loaf- she is an addict), buns, etc. So when DH goes out to lunch with his co-workers if he gets a burger and fries he will come home and say "Ugh, remind me not to eat like that again". He feels so gross and bloated if he has a big bread sandwich or something like that because for months he hasn't had any bread.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 18, 2014 14:40:48 GMT -5
I control nearly everything that my husband consumes in the house... but short of taking away access to our bank accounts I can't control outside of the house. He can buy whatever he wants with his money. And while I do get annoyed at some of his habits I feel like taking him off our accounts to so I can be 100% in control of his diet is like using a nuke to kill a fly. Also sounds like a fast track to divorce. If you had seen his diet pre-meeting me you'd agree he's made HUGE progress despite his current bad habits. He credits me for being the sole reason he hasn't dropped dead from a heart attack yet. |
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Post by movingforward on Jun 18, 2014 14:42:16 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change. I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health. As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? So what is she supposed to do... become one of those stereotypical nagging wives people love to talk about? He is a grown ass adult and she can't MAKE him eat the way she wants him to. She can express her concern but that's about all IMO. She can't be with him 24/7 so the chances are when she isn't around he will just eat what he wants anyway. A change has to come from within. |
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 18, 2014 14:42:41 GMT -5
Not yet, but again, I can't change my husband's nor my kid's diets. (Kids are all grown, live on their own.) And if DH does have issues from it it will still be up to him to change. I can't get him to stop eating so much meat, processed foods, fast food and ice cream. He's an adult. I believe all that stuff including pop is terrible for your health. Um, yeah- I totally tell my family what they can it. I'm mean like that. When I made a huge lifestyle diet change I came home and said "Here's the deal....." and they had a choice- either get on the bandwagon or get on the bandwagon. Frankly I do the grocery shopping and the bulk of the cooking so their only choice is to eat what I buy/make.
I did actually lay out my logic and asked nicely that they support me in my efforts. I told DS that at school and when he was away from us he could eat how he wanted but that I hoped he would try to use the lessons we've taught him. DH tries to follow along with my plan because when he doesn't he feels bad (physically).
Granted I had a significant amount of weight to lose (down 90 lbs since October and hope to be to my goal weight by the end of the summer) and I knew if I was eating plain chicken and steamed veggies and they were sitting next to me eating pizza and ice cream my resolve would never last. They claim they understand and so far they've been really supportive.
About 10 years back I significantly changed the family diet too. I just started substituting healthier choices for junk food (veggies and dip, fruit, homemade popsicles etc). And cooking with "better" ingredients (whole grain bread instead of white, whole-food and from-scratch ingredients without preservatives and chemicals etc). Then one day after several months, I announced that the family food budget would no longer include junky snack foods and sodas. If they (DH and the girls) wanted any of those things, they needed to buy it with their own money. It rarely came into the house after that time - but it DID occasionally (and still occasionally does) come in. I am not the food police. I do my very best for them but after that time it's their choice what they put in their mouths - for better or for worse. |
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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 14:52:05 GMT -5
As his wife it all affects you as well. You most assuredly have the right to protest, and also present a healthier diet. Who cooks? So what is she supposed to do... become one of those stereotypical nagging wives people love to talk about? He is a grown ass adult and she can't MAKE him eat the way she wants him to. She can express her concern but that's about all IMO. She can't be with him 24/7 so the chances are when she isn't around he will just eat what he wants anyway. A change has to come from within. I guess nothing given her disinterest. Change can be influenced |
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 18, 2014 14:53:37 GMT -5
Sheila, that's great that that worked for you and your family, but it didn't with mine. I did try to "convert" them several years ago, but there was too much resistence and figured by that time they were adults (or almost adults) and it was their choice. I am responsible for myself only.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 18, 2014 14:55:19 GMT -5
So what is she supposed to do... become one of those stereotypical nagging wives people love to talk about? He is a grown ass adult and she can't MAKE him eat the way she wants him to. She can express her concern but that's about all IMO. She can't be with him 24/7 so the chances are when she isn't around he will just eat what he wants anyway. A change has to come from within. I guess nothing given her disinterest. Change can be influenced Sorry, do you know me?? Seems personal. Maybe I'm missing something... Anyway, yep, if/when DH dies I'll get life insurance, the house to myself (glorious peace!) and can sell his car and get me a big(ger) ass truck! Win-win! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2014 14:57:23 GMT -5
Well, I guess I think that at least one of the reasons the "Freshman Fifteen" is a thing... is because freedom from family food 'rules' suddenly give kids the ability to indulge in whatever they like. I am not a bid fan on completely limiting anything for someone else that is legal and readily available, because then how do they make the decision later to monitor/limit for themselves... kind of like video games.
I understand the idea of not having in the house what you can't have and might want. Generally I'm not a fan of pizza, but if I feel like I want one and shouldn't have it, i'll ask the kids not to buy pepperoni, for instance, because i'll just eat it (I'm not tempted by the extra cheese one...).
However, ultimately I want to be there to try to mold them into making good decision for themselves. So we talk. I do place some limits, but I don't try to impose complete control over what they eat...
I often will say, hey, this is what I'm making, feel free to make something for yourself if you don't want it.. |
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 18, 2014 14:58:28 GMT -5
So what is she supposed to do... become one of those stereotypical nagging wives people love to talk about? He is a grown ass adult and she can't MAKE him eat the way she wants him to. She can express her concern but that's about all IMO. She can't be with him 24/7 so the chances are when she isn't around he will just eat what he wants anyway. A change has to come from within. I guess nothing given her disinterest. Change can be influenced
But not forced. At least if one wants to stay happily married in an adult-to-adult relationship.
IMHO most people have at least *some* level of resentment at having things forced upon them.
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Post by Willing Sniper on Jun 18, 2014 14:58:44 GMT -5
I guess nothing given her disinterest. Change can be influenced Sorry, do you know me?? Seems personal. Maybe I'm missing something... Anyway, yep, if/when DH dies I'll get life insurance, the house to myself (glorious peace!) and can sell his car and get me a big(ger) ass truck! Win-win! I guess I do know you after all |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 18, 2014 14:59:14 GMT -5
You really can't MAKE people change. You can force them to cooperate which turns you into the parent and them into a child, which isn't good for a marriage. No grown adult is going to appreciate a spouse trying to monitor everything they put into their mouths.
You do what you can. I cook dinner at home to mitigate whatever my husband might consume when at work. I don't buy junk food type things and keep them in the house for easy access.
I am not going to spend the hours of 8-4:30(which should be spent doing MY job) trying to monitor/nag him about his diet outside of the house. I have to have faith he'll do the "right" thing and if he doesn't he's 40 years old, he doesn't need me to bitch at him for his decisions. He already knows.
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