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Post by zibazinski on May 30, 2014 14:53:47 GMT -5
Thank you. I will surely try.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2014 14:54:18 GMT -5
What are you going to wear for the wedding?
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Post by zibazinski on May 30, 2014 14:55:53 GMT -5
I have a nice dress. I think, weather permitting, we will get married outside the temple. It has pretty grounds.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2014 14:57:05 GMT -5
Well come on! Describe the dress and shoes and hairstyle...are you new here?!?!?
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Post by Blonde Granny on May 30, 2014 15:09:13 GMT -5
Speaking of shoes, I don't think she bought the ones that were so expensive.
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Post by zibazinski on May 30, 2014 15:21:16 GMT -5
Didn't buy the shoes or the dress. But I will post pics after I do it. I'd hate to chicken out!!!
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Post by The Captain on May 30, 2014 15:58:51 GMT -5
Michigan. He can't travel. His ring will take 3 weeks so tomorrow we order it. By then we should have an actual date. Darn. If you were here, I could do the ceremony. Ok, since you've been so good about explaining the questions of the uninitiated (but curious)... I thought only men could be rabbi's, and that only rabbi's could marry someone? Must be wrong (which is kind cool - in my religion apparently women aren't good enough to perform some of the sacraments ). The grand total of two Jewish weddings (which are a blast!!!) I've been to had male rabbi's performing the ceremony. Another question - are rabbi's allowed to drink wine, lots of it?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 30, 2014 16:10:09 GMT -5
Darn. If you were here, I could do the ceremony. Ok, since you've been so good about explaining the questions of the uninitiated (but curious)... I thought only men could be rabbi's, and that only rabbi's could marry someone? Must be wrong (which is kind cool - in my religion apparently women aren't good enough to perform some of the sacraments ). The grand total of two Jewish weddings (which are a blast!!!) I've been to had male rabbi's performing the ceremony. Another question - are rabbi's allowed to drink wine, lots of it? To answer your last question first (because it's the important one): yes, rabbis can drink wine. Alcohol is not forbidden by Jewish law (in fact, there is quite a market for Kosher wines, and I've had a few that were quite good). Judaism condemns drunken behavior, of course, but we consider a drink or two to be in keeping with conviviality. Women can be rabbis under Reform Judaism (the first was ordained in 1972). Not really in Orthodox or Hasidic Judaism, though this is starting to change. Conservative Judaism has a few female rabbis (the first was ordained in 1985). And both male and female rabbis perform the same duties.
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 30, 2014 19:18:38 GMT -5
Darn. If you were here, I could do the ceremony. Ok, since you've been so good about explaining the questions of the uninitiated (but curious)... I thought only men could be rabbi's, and that only rabbi's could marry someone? Must be wrong (which is kind cool - in my religion apparently women aren't good enough to perform some of the sacraments ). The grand total of two Jewish weddings (which are a blast!!!) I've been to had male rabbi's performing the ceremony. Another question - are rabbi's allowed to drink wine, lots of it? Thanks for asking. I hated to ask another "question but curious". I love learning about things/subjects that I only have a minimal knowledge of and to get answer from someone who know the ins and outs. Thanks NancysSummerSip for your patience in answering our questions.
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Post by Jake 48 on May 30, 2014 19:48:13 GMT -5
My thoughts and prayers for you both
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Post by zibazinski on May 30, 2014 19:53:10 GMT -5
Thank you to all.
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Post by Bonny on Jun 1, 2014 9:01:14 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip,
Can you perform a marriage in another state or do you have to licensed in each state?
I think CA anyone who is licensed can perform a marriage ceremony.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 1, 2014 9:05:27 GMT -5
Well, went and bought his ring yesterday. Dang!!! Spendy IMHO. But it's going to be engraved both with LOML which is love of my life and the Hebrew characters for Bashert which is destiny/soulmate. It's what he wanted. He sees lawyer Friday for prenup. I'll look it over and probably add my two cents then I have a lawyer here to represent me. Otherwise it's not a legal prenup. What a pita.
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 1, 2014 9:19:29 GMT -5
Aww. Good news, zib! Congratulations and wishes for a bright and healthy future for the two of you.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 1, 2014 9:21:49 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip,
Can you perform a marriage in another state or do you have to licensed in each state?
I think CA anyone who is licensed can perform a marriage ceremony.
I am a notary. Three states (Florida, Maine and South Carolina) allow a notary to perform a wedding service. And it can only be done by a notary registered in that particular state, or at sea, as long as the waters are those belonging to that state. In Florida, that means three miles out to sea on the Atlantic side, and nine miles out to sea on the Gulf of Mexico side. The marriage license must be issued in Florida.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 1, 2014 9:23:54 GMT -5
Well, went and bought his ring yesterday. Dang!!! Spendy IMHO. But it's going to be engraved both with LOML which is love of my life and the Hebrew characters for Bashert which is destiny/soulmate. It's what he wanted. He sees lawyer Friday for prenup. I'll look it over and probably add my two cents then I have a lawyer here to represent me. Otherwise it's not a legal prenup. What a pita. Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's about time he made you an honest woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Gawd, his princess DD may flip out. She's getting married soon, right? Heaven forbid you dare steal any of her matrimonial thunder. On second thought, she deserves it.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jun 1, 2014 9:29:47 GMT -5
I'm just catching up on this as I was away. It sounds like I have a lot to read, so let me just address the OP.
I've long considered many of the folks I know here to be better and more meaningful friends than some I have in real life. This board (in its many forms) has been a part of my life for nearly a decade. It has been a constant source of all sorts of emotions. The near loss of it when the transition from MSN took place was scary, and the ultimate move and chance to actually be a staff member was a profound joy.
What makes this place so special is the people. There are lots of boards, but they won't have YOU (plural you).
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 1, 2014 11:31:39 GMT -5
Next year. I won't be stealing her thunder as she is having a platinum wedding and I'm just getting married. Outside, weather permitting. Inside if it doesn't.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 1, 2014 11:48:52 GMT -5
Yay for being home! Yay for getting Married!
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Post by dannylion on Jun 1, 2014 11:50:45 GMT -5
Sending more good thoughts for you and DF, Zib.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 1, 2014 13:04:47 GMT -5
Next year. I won't be stealing her thunder as she is having a platinum wedding and I'm just getting married. Outside, weather permitting. Inside if it doesn't. Aw, shucks. But you could always drop fake hints. Sometimes, some people need their buttons pushed. I wouldn't personally mind mashing a few of her buttons, just to see her throw a three-year-old's tantrum.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jun 1, 2014 13:15:00 GMT -5
I wanna play too.....
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 1, 2014 14:49:32 GMT -5
I can't believe I have to scrabble around and pay for some lawyer. Talk about a pita on top of everything else.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 1, 2014 15:12:26 GMT -5
Best wishes, Zib, I'm so happy for you and DF. My DH sends his best and is glad things are going better for your DF.
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Post by Bonny on Jun 1, 2014 15:13:45 GMT -5
I can't believe I have to scrabble around and pay for some lawyer. Talk about a pita on top of everything else. Get a referral from his.
You know they have to CYA as to not to not to appear to take advantage of poor innocent Zib!
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 1, 2014 15:15:23 GMT -5
No one has taken advantage of me in almost 14 years. Ain't happening now.
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Post by Bonny on Jun 1, 2014 15:28:59 GMT -5
No one has taken advantage of me in almost 14 years. Ain't happening now. Not unless you've wanted to be taken advantage of
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Post by Ombud on Jun 1, 2014 15:33:51 GMT -5
Judaism condemns drunken behavior, of course, .... Women can be rabbis under Reform Judaism [1] Except on Purim [2] Plenty of Conservative women rabbis
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 1, 2014 19:40:14 GMT -5
Judaism condemns drunken behavior, of course, .... Women can be rabbis under Reform Judaism [1] Except on Purim [2] Plenty of Conservative women rabbis Purim is indeed a time of great celebration. My mention of the drunken behavior referred to chronic drinking, or drinking heavily for the sake of it. We can do booze within reason and for a reason. And I did mention women rabbis in Conservative Judaism. Their numbers, compared to Reform Judaism, are lower. Not sure what you mean by "plenty." Women won the right to become rabbis in Reform congregations in 1972, Conservatives did not allow it until 1985. By 1996, 255 women were ordained Reform rabbis, compared to 51 for Conservatives. These numbers come from the Jewish Women's Archive. Currently, according to the Women's Rabbinic Network, there are 650 Reform female rabbis, compared to 257 Conservative female rabbis.
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