kid brag thread

[swamp]

You know how I tell you I'm at wits end with DD and that she is disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

I attended a lunch at school today. I sat with the Gramma Classroom Helper/Lunchtime volunteer.

She told me DD has impeccable manners. Everything is "please/thank you/you're welcome," always raises her hand to get up, does not interrupt, is polite and respectful, and very kind to the other kids.

I think she was talking about someone else's kid.

[Jaguar]

LOL

[Chocolate Lover]

She's learning something from you. I tell my youngest so often that it's my job to teach him how to act in public so he stays out of trouble that THAT is what he wrote on the whiteboard in the picture they took for the Mother's day card he made at school. It has this bulletin board behind him that says "I love my Mom because..." and the kids finished the sentence on a whiteboard.  His says ..."she taught me how to act right"

Holy terror at home though.

[The Captain]

You know the old saying about the apple never falling far from the tree....


JUST KIDDING!!!

In my experience, kids who have parents that try to teach them manners are always better behaved in public then at home. 

[giramomma]

May 21, 2014 14:22:58 GMT -5 The Captain said:

In my experience, kids who have parents that try to teach them manners are always better behaved in public then at home. 

I always figured too, as a parent, I'd prefer that my kids were well behaved in public rather than well behaved at home and acting like apes in public.

We got the same report from one of DS's teachers. How lovely he is and what a pleasure it has been teaching him. I think we are now hitting the tween stage with DS. I'm not really liking it much.

[swamp]

She also told me that DS is very calm for a boy and the group "peacemaker" and will walk away from a confrontation.

Which confirms my suspicion that some little bastard is bullying him at lacrosse.

[NoNamePerson]

May 21, 2014 14:17:22 GMT -5 swamp said:

You know how I tell you I'm at wits end with DD and that she is disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

I attended a lunch at school today. I sat with the Gramma Classroom Helper/Lunchtime volunteer.

She told me DD has impeccable manners. Everything is "please/thank you/you're welcome," always raises her hand to get up, does not interrupt, is polite and respectful, and very kind to the other kids.

I think she was talking about someone else's kid.

For a long time I used to think I had dropped off one kid and picked up his evil twin!!!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was told by someone that kids tend to act up with their parents more because they know we'll always love them.

I said maybe I should love my kid a little less, I'd like her to behave at home like she does at daycare!

She's been a snot off/on lately and she's only 3.5. Nobody warned me about attitude problems this early. It's like getting a glimpse into my future. I should probably start drinking now.

[Deleted]

May 21, 2014 14:52:00 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I was told by someone that kids tend to act up with their parents more because they know we'll always love them.

I said maybe I should love my kid a little less, I'd like her to behave at home like she does at daycare!

She's been a snot off/on lately and she's only 3.5. Nobody warned me about attitude problems this early. It's like getting a glimpse into my future. I should probably start drinking now.

My almost 4 year old is horrible about attitude.  His brother was never like that at all.  Maybe this means someone screwed up and you're getting the difficult one first.

[swasat]

May 21, 2014 14:17:22 GMT -5 swamp said:

You know how I tell you I'm at wits end with DD and that she is disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

I attended a lunch at school today. I sat with the Gramma Classroom Helper/Lunchtime volunteer.

She told me DD has impeccable manners. Everything is "please/thank you/you're welcome," always raises her hand to get up, does not interrupt, is polite and respectful, and very kind to the other kids.

I think she was talking about someone else's kid.

O.M.G. Do we have the same DD      

Mine is EXACTLY the same. With a mile long attitude and throws that attitude at home for anything and everything. Its irritating beyond belief.

We get the same feedback as you. She is most well behaved at school and at friends houses. Never a complaint about her. Her teachers love her as she is "such a good kid"   I always feel they are talking about someone else's child. The monster I see at home is not the same one.

[Chocolate Lover]

May 21, 2014 14:52:00 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I was told by someone that kids tend to act up with their parents more because they know we'll always love them.

I said maybe I should love my kid a little less, I'd like her to behave at home like she does at daycare!

She's been a snot off/on lately and she's only 3.5. Nobody warned me about attitude problems this early. It's like getting a glimpse into my future. I should probably start drinking now.

Yes, yes you should. It takes time to build up the tolerance you need for teenagers.  

[NoNamePerson]

Ladies, repeat after me:

They will grow up one day and make me proud.

This from a mother whose son was born with a "eat shit and die grin" I let him live and he still turns on that grin from time to time   

[Chocolate Lover]

May 21, 2014 15:10:42 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

Ladies, repeat after me:

They will grow up one day and make me proud.

This from a mother whose son was born with a "eat shit and die grin" I let him live and he still turns on that grin from time to time   

I think you're just lying to us to make us feel better 

My oldest thinks he knows it all but, overall, isn't that difficult. Or I haven't caught him yet. (It's nice & warm down here in the sand, join me) The youngest may be the death of me once he hits his teens. DD.....I"m holding my breath and saying lots of prayers that she won't be quite as insane as I was. Funny right?

[NoNamePerson]

May 21, 2014 15:13:55 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

May 21, 2014 15:10:42 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

Ladies, repeat after me:

They will grow up one day and make me proud.

This from a mother whose son was born with a "eat shit and die grin" I let him live and he still turns on that grin from time to time   

I think you're just lying to us to make us feel better 

My oldest thinks he knows it all but, overall, isn't that difficult. Or I haven't caught him yet. (It's nice & warm down here in the sand, join me) The youngest may be the death of me once he hits his teens. DD.....I"m holding my breath and saying lots of prayers that she won't be quite as insane as I was. Funny right?

I would not lie to you. It's gonna turn out OK I promise. But having said that, I am glad he is grown and now he has to worry about me going thru second childhood. Turnabout is fair play     

[Chocolate Lover]

May 21, 2014 15:17:54 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

May 21, 2014 15:13:55 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

I think you're just lying to us to make us feel better 

My oldest thinks he knows it all but, overall, isn't that difficult. Or I haven't caught him yet. (It's nice & warm down here in the sand, join me) The youngest may be the death of me once he hits his teens. DD.....I"m holding my breath and saying lots of prayers that she won't be quite as insane as I was. Funny right?

I would not lie to you. It's gonna turn out OK I promise. But having said that, I am glad he is grown and now he has to worry about me going thru second childhood. Turnabout is fair play     

LOL! Should I be watching the news?

[Deleted]

I actually teach my students about the importance of "company manners." Another adult walks in the room, and I suddenly have a room filled with happy engaged students. That adult walks out, and they say, "You owe us!"

[NoNamePerson]

May 21, 2014 15:19:20 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

May 21, 2014 15:17:54 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

I would not lie to you. It's gonna turn out OK I promise. But having said that, I am glad he is grown and now he has to worry about me going thru second childhood. Turnabout is fair play     

LOL! Should I be watching the news?

 Tune in - news at 5!!!

[Chocolate Lover]

May 21, 2014 15:22:09 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

May 21, 2014 15:19:20 GMT -5 Chocolate Lover said:

LOL! Should I be watching the news?

 Tune in - news at 5!!!

Oh boy!!! 

[Jaguar]

Breaking News.......

[chen35]

We did a joint birthday party for one of the kids and his friend, at the friends house. After everyone had left and we were cleaning up, DS14 walks in and asks the friends mom, "What can I do to help?" I was beyond shocked. I told DH about it later, as he had been in the other room, and he said, 'Wait, what happened?' 

[Chocolate Lover]

May 21, 2014 15:47:09 GMT -5 chen35 said:

We did a joint birthday party for one of the kids and his friend, at the friends house. After everyone had left and we were cleaning up, DS14 walks in and asks the friends mom, "What can I do to help?" I was beyond shocked. I told DH about it later, as he had been in the other room, and he said, 'Wait, what happened?' 

Apparently, my oldest is talkative,friendly and generally a decent guy around non relatives. I wouldn't believe it if one of his friends didn't regularly hang out at my house and bring that out of him.

[kent]

May 21, 2014 14:17:22 GMT -5 swamp said:

You know how I tell you I'm at wits end with DD and that she is disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

I attended a lunch at school today. I sat with the Gramma Classroom Helper/Lunchtime volunteer.

She told me DD has impeccable manners. Everything is "please/thank you/you're welcome," always raises her hand to get up, does not interrupt, is polite and respectful, and very kind to the other kids.

I think she was talking about someone else's kid.

That's the way the little buggers do things - they don't want you to know you're providing a positive influence on them.  When my son was in his teens you'd think was raised in a horrible environment based on his sentence structure, etc.  Of course he got straight A's in English because his writing skills were outstanding - go figure.

I don't know who said it but.....When I was 16, I was embarrassed by how little my father knew.  When I reached 21. I was impressed but how much he had learned in a few short years.  

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[tloonya]

I am almost ashamed that I have no understanding HOW is that parents let their small children to be
disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

And it seems like you, parents are all so merry about it making jokes and all.
I am seriously concerned. Why is this ok for you people to have disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious children?
Small children!!! not adapted teens...your own small children!!!

[Deleted]

Well, I can't control my kids thoughts. And when they do something disrespectful they get punished. I am hopeful that they'll "get it" and learn to control themselves.  Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.  It appears they've "gotten it" enough to be upstanding citizens while out in the world.  I will keep drumming it into their heads that that is the correct behavior at home as well.

I am only halfway through raising them right now, so I think I am going to have a few more bumps in the road. That's parenting.  

[Jaguar]

Beer you can do it.

[Deleted]

I know I can. And I think we should be able to commiserate and laugh about it instead of pretending our children are perfect. 

[milee]

May 22, 2014 11:42:56 GMT -5 @beerwench said:

I know I can. And I think we should be able to commiserate and laugh about it instead of pretending our children are perfect. 

Amen.

Competitive parenting has become very common in our area. Not sure if it's going on everywhere, but it's really tough to avoid down here, especially in some of the private schools or schools with upper middle class and above socioeconomics.  There appears to be an unspoken contest to see who can put on the best show - most perfect children, nicest car, most volunteer hours, best dressed in car line, children with the most awards.

It's not only weird and uncomfortable, IMHO it's counterproductive. Parenting is tough enough without needing to put on a show on top of it. I have a very large pool of casual acquaintances - many of whom are competing in the Parenting Olympics - but only a small circle of true, close friends. My true, close friends are the ones who can honestly talk about the things their kid screws up, not just the latest award.

[Deleted]

May 22, 2014 11:30:01 GMT -5 tloonya said:

I am almost ashamed that I have no understanding HOW is that parents let their small children to be
disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious, and generally a pain at home?

And it seems like you, parents are all so merry about it making jokes and all.
I am seriously concerned. Why is this ok for you people to have disrespectful, mean, rude, obnoxious children?
Small children!!! not adapted teens...your own small children!!!

I punish my kids when they're disrespectful, but it seems they test that...Every. Single. Day.  Mostly the younger one.  I'm hoping it's just figuring out where he stands and he'll outgrow it. 

[yogiii]

He's 3 right?  That was a tough year for us.

My DS just turned 4 and one thing I tell him sometimes when he gets upset about something is that he needs to learn how to be more flexible.  Well one time when I asked him recently to please not do x he turned around and said "You need to be more flexible".