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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 18:30:13 GMT -5
With nose piercings, at first glance, I'm thinking they need a tissue. Yeah, a few people have been nice enough to tell me I have something on my nose.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 18:35:44 GMT -5
Her hair is multicolored right now... This is the zoo the other day.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 18:39:07 GMT -5
Her answer to why is ' cause I think it'll be cool'.
Im im not sure yet. I think she is young. Unfortunately I expected husband to be the heavy and he said he was fine with it...
I told her to do some research and I'd do some research, and we'd talk about it. She can make her case...
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 8, 2014 18:44:10 GMT -5
so i got my ears pierced without telling my parents. I was....13 or 14. I did on the last day of school bc we weren't allowed to wear earrings to school, so I needed to make sure that my holes were holes "enough" and wouldn't close, and I was told that if it's pierced for 3 months, I should be good Not only I didn't tell my parents, I actually "took" my mom's gold earrings. I still wear them to this day, but that's probably not the point LOL I just "liked the way it looked". that was MY reason. I didn't think anything beyond that.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on May 8, 2014 18:55:16 GMT -5
That's simply face-paint, oped - not a tattoo - and temporary colored hair tint (washes out..)
The zoo here does it for the kids (paint their faces up as tigers, or other animals.) Again, washes off.
My niece does this as one of the side-aspects of her art business - she does face-painting for kids' Birthday Parties, and other family events (also for Halloween she does some really great ghoulish ones):
She paints pregnant bellies too - some of her work:
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 18:59:38 GMT -5
I know SL. That's my daughter The hair color is a mix of semi permanent and 'short term' but we do bleach so that she can do color. That was the only recent multi color hair picture I had, and I figured it didn't really show her face, lol.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on May 8, 2014 19:12:48 GMT -5
I hadn't read back on the previous page, but after I'd started composing my post, I realized it was probably a pic of your daughter - I was just to lazy to edit my opening paragraph.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on May 8, 2014 19:44:38 GMT -5
Does her school have any rules regarding piercings?
I've thought about a nose piercing... i think the studs are cute, but I have horrible allergies and blow my nose way too much.
also- for cartilage piercings in the ear... NEVER a gun. it needs to be done with a hollow needle at a piercing shop. it hurts, but it removes the cartilage. I had mine done 15 years ago and stopped wearing an earring in it years ago, but at any point I could put an earring in if i break through the skin (EEK!) because the cartilage was removed.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 19:47:05 GMT -5
She is homeschooled.
I am thankful for the info about where to get piercings. I don't know that I'll even do ears any other way from here on out...
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Post by sarcasticgirl on May 8, 2014 19:55:26 GMT -5
in that case, I'd probably be fine with it. nose piercings can be very tasteful and there are options (as others have mentioned) that easily fit into corporate life should that be a need in the future.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 20:00:40 GMT -5
Part of me actually thinks maybe if she gets it now, she might 'outgrow' it... Not that I think there is anything wrong with a nose piercing... But she's got a few years before it interferes with work. By then if it's needed she might not be as attached, as it were.
So, if I don't find the care issue compelling, I think the thing that gives me the most pause is that I wonder if its yet another thing that will make her appear older than she actually is...
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on May 8, 2014 20:32:12 GMT -5
IMO, "nose piercing" can mean many different things -- from the subtle little stud through a nostril, to the ring on the bottom, to a bar straight through the cartilage at the top.
I am SO with DramaQ on those ear gauge thingies, and things which cause permanent alteration. While intellectually I think people can comprehend that it will stay that way; it takes more life experience to understand the full magnitude of the decision. Guess that is part of being an uncool parent. Heck at least I know my cat will never ask for a piercing.
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At one point i had an upper ear piercing, belly button and tongue. I was around 21 when i had all. I no longer have any of them, the only one that left a little scar is the belly button one. I think 13 is way too young, i'd have her wait at least until high school, if not longer. As far as tattooes, i got my 1st tattoo at the age of 37. I never wanted them as they are so permanent and i couldn't think of anything i wanted permanent on my body. Well, i found one thing, my son's name
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Post by justme on May 9, 2014 10:42:49 GMT -5
I probably wouldn't at 13, but if I was considering it I'd stick with the piercings that close nice. Most additional ones in the ear do, lip piercings do (when I have mine out no one knows I have the piercing), noses do, eyebrows do not, I think a normal sized libre does, belly button depends, tongue does often enough but I wouldn't for the teeth reasons. Those are about the only ones I know. No one can tell I had my eyebrow pierced. It is more of a hit or miss one I guess. I have definitely seen people with one that I could tell, maybe they screwed it up or something? Was enough to make me steer away from them, but glad to know it doesn't leave a scar for everyone!
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Post by Pants on May 9, 2014 12:04:23 GMT -5
I think I would be ok with it. Nose piercings in particular are pretty normalized now. DH would die. If this comes up in our house it will be an interesting conversation.
And yes, it is a form of decorating your body. There are a lot of anthropological reasons that we peirce/tattoo/brand etc. - current standards of beauty, actual in-group vs. out-group identification, and aspirational group identity/status markers as well. I've had my belly button and my tongue pierced, although I don't have either now. Got them both in college and grew out of them afterwards as I moved out of that phase of my life, but I don't judge others who still have them. Usually I'm envious that they can get away with that in their particular career.
I will also point out that DD's daughter is wearing a shirt that (I'm assuming based on the top) says "Normal is boring." A nose ring is another way for her to set herself apart from her peers and establish her identity outside the preppy set. Nose rings, as long as you get them done properly at a piercing parlor and observe proper piercing care, are a pretty low risk way to do that. I'd rather a low-risk way than a high-risk way.
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Post by CarolinaKat on May 9, 2014 13:12:53 GMT -5
At one point i had an upper ear piercing, belly button and tongue. I was around 21 when i had all. I no longer have any of them, the only one that left a little scar is the belly button one. I think 13 is way too young, i'd have her wait at least until high school, if not longer.
As far as tattooes, i got my 1st tattoo at the age of 37. I never wanted them as they are so permanent and i couldn't think of anything i wanted permanent on my body. Well, i found one thing, my son's name Some of us were 13 in high school
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Post by Shooby on May 9, 2014 13:39:28 GMT -5
I think ear piercing for girls is fine. Maybe a boy nowadays. But, that is all I would allow. Definitely no tattoos or other piercings. But, when they are adults they can pay for it and decide for themselves.
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"Some of us were 13 in high school " you know what, when i wrote it high school seemed so much later than 13 but i guess it really is not. I was 14 let's just change that to senior in high school
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Post by achelois on May 11, 2014 6:41:58 GMT -5
My son got his ears pierced as an adult. He asked me to go with him, so I did. He did get conservative studs, though.
I have aves two piercings in each ear. If I had to do over again, I would just get the usual one in each lobe.
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Post by billisonboard on May 11, 2014 9:27:34 GMT -5
I went back to the hometown shortly after Christmas one year, took my two young nieces (they must have been about 14 and 12) out to lunch, and asked what they wanted for a belated gift. The older said second holes in the earlobes and the younger one first ear piercings. So I took them to the mall and got it done. All my sister said was "You probably should have talked to their parents first". It is great having a sister who is so understanding of who her brother is!
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2014 17:25:04 GMT -5
Oped, you say that one of your concerns is your daughter appearing older than her age.
I'm not sure why I'm the only one addressing this issue, but I think it's a very valid concern.
I'm not into tats or piercings, although I'm becoming more tolerant of them than I was. But even if I was OK with it, I think 13 is too young, if only because you're concerned about it "aging" her. It will, inevitably. How many parents do you know who would let their 13YOs get a nose stud? IMO, very few. So yes, people will assume that she is older.
Given the photo I would have thought that your 13YO DD was 15. A nose stud is NOT going to make her look any younger.
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Post by sheilaincali on May 12, 2014 9:55:25 GMT -5
Oped- Only you know your daughter. Personally if it were me and she came to me with a well thought out argument in support of it and proved she was responsible enough to take care of it (hygiene and maintenance) I'd let her do it.
Especially something as small as a nose piercing. I think that when you stifle kids and tell them "No" constantly they'll fight to rebel. I'd rather give pick my battles and nose piercing isn't a battle I'd fight. That's just my opinion.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 12, 2014 11:31:28 GMT -5
Well, I told her already that tongue is out. Which she finds gross anyway, but I explained that tongues and belly buttons i KNOW require more care and attention that ears. But I honestly couldn't say whether noses were any more likely to get infected, etc. than ears. belly button isn't any big deal....you clean it in the shower. I don't think a nose piercing is a big deal either. I find piercings fascinating in a creepy way. Tats too. I can't get them done on me. I've got single holes in my ears and that's it for me. DD is 6, I refuse to get her ears pierced until she's old enough to take care of them herself AND deal with sports. My sisters have shared horror stories about their daughters' ears and sports. If DH wants to override me on this, he can though.
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Post by raeoflyte on May 12, 2014 11:36:50 GMT -5
belly button isn't any big deal....you clean it in the shower. I don't think a nose piercing is a big deal either. I find piercings fascinating in a creepy way. Tats too. I can't get them done on me. I've got single holes in my ears and that's it for me. DD is 6, I refuse to get her ears pierced until she's old enough to take care of them herself AND deal with sports. My sisters have shared horror stories about their daughters' ears and sports. If DH wants to override me on this, he can though. What's the issue with sports? I was still playing basketball when I got my ears pierced at 13 and I don't remember any issues. Is it the style of earrings that is an issue?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 12, 2014 11:41:26 GMT -5
Taking them out for games, not putting them back in, losing the earrings, getting infections, etc. It's all stuff that happens anyway, I know that. But both my sisters said that sports and pierced ears equaled problems with the girls. K is 6 now, i figure I've got a couple of years to go.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2014 11:51:00 GMT -5
I got my first ear piercing when I was 8, after begging my Mom since I was in kindergarten (one of my classmates had hers done and it was the first time I ever saw pierced ears on a kid).
I got my second ear piercing when I was in MS (12th Bday, I think?). I never had any issues wearing earrings while playing sports. But I agree that I would wait until they're old enough to take care of it themselves. And not for any other reason than I already have enough on my plate and I don't need another thing to keep and eye on.
All of my other ear piercings I did myself with a piercing earring (even the cartilage one).
I had my belly button done at a piercing salon and the only thing that was different was I was told to clean it with anti-bacterial soap (the place at the mall gave me some solution when I had my ears done). No issues with any of them.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 12, 2014 11:53:03 GMT -5
And she's cute oped.
Maybe I'm just a cowardly conservative.
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Post by Phoenix84 on May 12, 2014 12:19:53 GMT -5
Personally I wouldn't give consent to my kid (if I had one) for tats or piercings. You can wait a few years until you're 18, and then do what you want.
13 seems kinda young for a piercing like that. As DramaQ said, it is probably just a passing infatuation she has.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 12, 2014 13:47:48 GMT -5
I have 2 holes in each ear and never wear earrings. Front hole on the left side is a tiny bit crooked so it's a chore to put an earring in it in the first place and I have long hair and you'll never see them in the 2nd. My DD has never seen the attraction of putting holes in your ears and doesn't get why someone would hurt themselves to do so. She's 12. Lucky me. I wouldn't do it just because of the "aging" concern alone, but that's me.
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Post by raeoflyte on May 12, 2014 13:55:07 GMT -5
Oped--what did you decide?
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