dcmetrocrab
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Post by dcmetrocrab on May 3, 2014 1:53:19 GMT -5
It happens. Nature or nurture, environment, a whole bevy of things. To be so lazy to not be willing to support yourself or your family, there's something not "normal" about it, but I rarely think able bodied mentally healthy people fall into this category. There will always be outliers to this. If you have demons to fight with (alcoholism, drugs, etc), yeah it's going to be difficult for them to hold a job. I don't see lazy as the equivalent of lack of ambition or hard work either. It sounds oxymoronic, but I've known people who claim they are lazy and belly ache about not wanting to work but externally are ambitious, hard working, and do all they can to make a good sum of money. They have lazy personalities. The absolute laziest, whiniest friend I know quit a lucrative job as an engineer after 5 years, went to law school, then got into a top big law firm and is now pulling mega bucks after many years of crazy hours, survived a firm implosion and countless layoffs, has won awards and has her mentors all telling her she is on track to make partner. Yet when I hang out with her, she has not changed a bit and complains about how she doesn't want to work and how absolutely lazy she is and is a complete slug at home. Wha? DH is in another class of lack of ambition all together. He grew with parents who spent a great deal of time "obsessed" with making money. This fostered a distaste for it and has this rather bohemian approach of money isn't important and wanting to make more is greedy. He has no ambition in climbing the ladder or even asking for raises or promotions and has been perpetually underpaid all his career, but it doesn't bother him. He wears it almost as a badge of honor. He also has a large family trust that he will inherit as the only child, which I also think subconsciously makes him either self money loathing or not feel the need to make a lot to save a lot. Yet at the same time, I do not see him as lazy. He has his full time 50+ hour week job and 2 side jobs that he does for fun, which of course don't bring in a lot of money. I'm a lucky gal.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2014 12:37:53 GMT -5
I heard someone recently refer to clinical depression as:
"the opposite of depression is not happiness it is vitality."
I completely agree. I am not "sad" but I have little vitality or energy to accomplish anything - even on a good day.
Intellectually I have a million and one things I want to do and accomplish.
Every.single.day I fight my brain that tells me I have zero energy and cannot possibly accomplish anything today....
For myself, this leads to days and days on end where I know I need to work and make some money, but I just cannot get myself over that hump of being able to get to work. It frustrates me to no end, and I am actively working on it.
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finnime
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Post by finnime on May 4, 2014 7:29:12 GMT -5
I heard someone recently refer to clinical depression as: "the opposite of depression is not happiness it is vitality." I completely agree. I am not "sad" but I have little vitality or energy to accomplish anything - even on a good day. Intellectually I have a million and one things I want to do and accomplish. Every.single.day I fight my brain that tells me I have zero energy and cannot possibly accomplish anything today.... I know exactly what you mean. And in the midst of depression, I cannot imagine feeling, although I do remember it. And when I'm well, it seems impossible to have been there, struggling with no relief. I'm sorry you are there.
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Post by Shooby on May 4, 2014 7:32:37 GMT -5
I heard someone recently refer to clinical depression as: "the opposite of depression is not happiness it is vitality." I completely agree. I am not "sad" but I have little vitality or energy to accomplish anything - even on a good day. Intellectually I have a million and one things I want to do and accomplish. Every.single.day I fight my brain that tells me I have zero energy and cannot possibly accomplish anything today.... For myself, this leads to days and days on end where I know I need to work and make some money, but I just cannot get myself over that hump of being able to get to work. It frustrates me to no end, and I am actively working on it. Have u been checked for Lymes disease or anything like that?
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