formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 25, 2014 19:21:22 GMT -5
When DH and I got married, we split the duties of wedding planning. DH had quite the time convincing the vendors that I would allow him to make a decision about anything without micromanaging him. Honestly, I don't know why any woman would marry a man in whom she had so little faith.
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formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 25, 2014 19:31:15 GMT -5
...yes... we're evangelical Christians and have been ridiculed/passed over in the secular work world since obviously we're loony tunes for believing in such mishmash... meanwhile, some churches have just plain said that they wanted only certain genders doing certain work... so, c'est la vie... Hmmm, I'm a Christian and can't really say I've personally ever felt discriminated against, at least in "real life." I don't really discuss religion at work, and I don't think any of my co workers even know I'm a Christian. I have noted however, from reading various articles and online comments and message boards (not this one), that there is a lot of hostility towards Christians out there though. I've seen a great deal of dehumanizing language, which is a common theme before violence and discrimination occur, but no, I've never felt discriminated against because of my faith. I find it interesting that someone can talk about sports incessantly, even when they are around people they know aren't sports fans, and nobody thinks anything of it. But if someone talks about religion, they're being unprofessional or a wacko.
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Apr 25, 2014 20:46:53 GMT -5
...milee and lily... I'm a seminary grad and former missionary... resume or educational background come up in conversation during the interview, water cooler chat, etc.... I might try to downplay my past experiences in the secular world, but, it is hard to hide... ...and no, I don't preach at work... although at times it's tempting...
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Apr 25, 2014 20:57:54 GMT -5
Hmmm, I'm a Christian and can't really say I've personally ever felt discriminated against, at least in "real life." I don't really discuss religion at work, and I don't think any of my co workers even know I'm a Christian. I have noted however, from reading various articles and online comments and message boards (not this one), that there is a lot of hostility towards Christians out there though. I've seen a great deal of dehumanizing language, which is a common theme before violence and discrimination occur, but no, I've never felt discriminated against because of my faith. I find it interesting that someone can talk about sports incessantly, even when they are around people they know aren't sports fans, and nobody thinks anything of it. But if someone talks about religion, they're being unprofessional or a wacko. ...I do talk a lot about sports... I rarely mention my faith... so maybe that was it? Secret Steelers opponents?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2014 23:02:06 GMT -5
We got kicked out of an apt in the 80's when new management took over and didn't like us living in sin. Does that count?
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truthbound
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Post by truthbound on Apr 26, 2014 4:40:39 GMT -5
Yeah that counts. The drug addled hypocrite pastor of my wife's church refused to marry us because we were living together. She came home crying. He was crying too when I got done with him. But that is another story.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2014 7:56:57 GMT -5
When I got my actuarial credentials, only 10% of the members of my society were female. At one point I was working in a company run by Old White Males and when I told one of them I'd passed a recent actuarial exam he said, "That's impressive- I've known MEN who couldn't pass those exams." Ummm. thanks. I think. I interviewed for another position when I was 30 and wearing an engagement ring. The President of the company, a jovial German guy who had no clue about US employment law, asked me if I'd quit if I had kids. I decided to address the legitimate business concern and tell him that (a) I didn't sweat through 8 years of taking exams just to keep busy till I found a husband and (b) if we had kids it would be economically necessary for me to keep working. He actually did end up making me an offer, which I didn't take because commuting costs would have eaten up the raise. It turned out that I got pregnant within +- 1 week of that interview. Good decision! (Boss at the job I had was far more enlightened- happy for me and willing to do anything reasonable to support my returning to work.) Someone mentioned being discriminated against because he was a male with no kids- my nephew was passed up for promotion, and the position was given to a woman who "couldn't travel" because she was a single mother. Nephew got sent on all the trips she couldn't take. He ended up in some high-visibility jobs and impressed some key people. They found a way to promote him, too.
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NoNamePerson
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 26, 2014 8:02:06 GMT -5
We got kicked out of an apt in the 80's when new management took over and didn't like us living in sin. Does that count? Holy crap, I thought all of us singles in the 80's were living in sin
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Apr 26, 2014 8:45:38 GMT -5
@beerwench..test and thanks to Kat as well
Good, it worked! Except it doesn't tell you what post you are replying to...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2014 8:57:10 GMT -5
Wisconsin Beth, it was at a Jobs Networking event and I guess she thought it might hold me back? I view it as a positive suggestion which would make mine an inappropriate response. But I'm working (FT to 5/2 then MWF) and she's still looking Ok. I guess what I'm missing is why anyone would care what religion you are, as long as you can work the shifts being hired for or have an acceptable plan to cover the shifts. I work with fire personnel who work every 3rd day. They're free to make trades with other personnel as long as it's the same rank and the person's not already on the day in question. And we do have some personnel who schedule days off, vacation time and make trades to accommodate their religious beliefs. Also court ordered visitation schedules. The only reason I know this is happening is because every once in a while stuff gets screwed up and they have to write an explanation of why they need help with their schedule. I've had backlash for my religion too. When people believe their religion is the one true way, there ends up being issues for others.
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Post by Ombud on Apr 26, 2014 20:28:07 GMT -5
@gin1984, really sad when they don't realize that everyone experiences and worship in their own fashion. This dichotomy exists sometimes within the same religion
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Post by vonna on Apr 26, 2014 21:28:06 GMT -5
My first two commanding officers said the same thing to me during my 'welcome aboard' interview: " Women don't belong in MY navy"
Well, how do you respond to that? Especially when you are an O-1 being interviewed by your O-6 commanding officer?
Anyway, I know several posters on this board think women don't belong in the military. But that same commanding officer ranked me number one of thirty after I had been there eighteen months, so I think he must have changed his mind . . . And my second commanding officer in his retirement speech said that the women officers at our command (there were four of us) changed his mind, and he welcomed women in "his Navy" and recognized (three of us) by name. One of the four was downright useless, which gave ALL women a bad name since at the time there were so few of us...
I think times are changing, and with time the bias will change as well.
As with any group, there are good and bad . . . It's just that the bad usually get more press . . .
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