nutty
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Post by nutty on Apr 23, 2014 18:54:43 GMT -5
I am reading everything I promise.
This thread is really a post of my emotions at the time I post but I love all the advice.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2014 19:00:30 GMT -5
I've read through this thread too. I've seen similar threads in the past so it's hard for me to determine whether this is really happening or whether it's just another crisis. Nutty, you say you would "die for your DD or your DGD". That's nice, but frankly, your dying probably wouldn't help either of them very much. I presume most of us feel that way about our kids, but nonetheless, we have to keep the heat on, pay bills, and buy food. I know things are very difficult for you right now but I think consciously stepping away from the dramatics and being proactive is a good place to start. Since the ONLY thing that seems to motivate you AT ALL is caring for your granddaughter, could / would your DD/SIL be able to pay you to do that? IF they (the parents) are happy with that solution, I'm thinking that could be a solution for you. But, you need to know, it would be a temporary one. And I know that YOU would be THRILLED with that solution, but would they? 20 years ago, my ex dumped me with 3 kids under 6. It was hell, but I got through it too, and I recreated a new life for myself and my kids and I remarried. We are all doing great. It didn't happen overnight, but it happened. If you want to, you will too. But I know it's hard at first. VERY hard. Hugs to you, I wish you the best.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Apr 23, 2014 19:45:23 GMT -5
Thanks Debt, she seemed to make me smile everyday, it is hard to get out of that caring phase I think.
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Post by sapphire12 on Apr 23, 2014 19:49:44 GMT -5
-hug-Nutty.
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Post by nutty on Apr 23, 2014 20:46:09 GMT -5
Thanks Sapphire. I love the support.
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