Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 7, 2014 10:49:39 GMT -5
Do you get emotionally attached to any of your possessions? These can include specific houses, cars, photos or family heirlooms, or anything else really. I suppose even pets could be considered possessions.
If so, what do you have a emotional attachment to?
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Post by milee on Apr 7, 2014 10:50:53 GMT -5
Yes. Homes, boats and sometimes cars. And yes, I know none of that is smart or a good idea.
Oh, and a few pieces of clothing my boys have outgrown.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Apr 7, 2014 10:52:20 GMT -5
If I have it I'm emotionally attached to it. If I'm not, I throw it out and replace it with something else.
Downsizing our house from 3000sf to 1700 sf was a very difficult task. Sometimes I just told DH to do whatever he wanted with it, but only after I walked away so I didn't have to watch. How's that for being a grown up?
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Post by whoami on Apr 7, 2014 10:54:19 GMT -5
DH...absolutely.
Me...no way.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 7, 2014 10:56:26 GMT -5
Yes. We're attached to the sleepy time giraffe we used when Gwen was a newborn. I also saved a few pieces of her baby clothing that were my favorites.
I'm also weirdly attached to my boppy pillow, I couldn't bring myself to donate it or give it away to a friend. That attachment paid off, I'm going to be using it again here very soon.
I'm attached to my grandmother's set of Chinese lions. My grandfather brought them back with him from Korea. I loved them as a child and they became mine when she passed, I have them displayed on my dresser.
Then my wedding bands and my grandmother's ring neither of which I take off.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 7, 2014 10:57:27 GMT -5
I'm emotionally attached to my teddy bear. Which my daughter snagged and is now emotionally attached to him too. The joys of parenting- we get to pass our own neuroses on. ETA - I've got a dresser about 3/4 full of infant clothes my kids outgrew. Some of which I just need some distance from in order to pass on. I haven't sorted though it in a while though, so I'm not sure what's all in there anymore. I could probably pass on a lot of it now.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Apr 7, 2014 10:57:36 GMT -5
Does a wife count? When we moved she told me not to bring anything I haven't used/touched in 5 years. No these statements aren't related.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2014 11:01:27 GMT -5
I'm way too attached to my house. Not so much the house, but the property.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 7, 2014 11:10:42 GMT -5
my DH does... i swear he'd be a hoarder if i let him.
Me, not so much... Obviously, i'm attached to my dog. I have a few sentimental items that belonged to family members or something of the like. and photos, for sure. but cars or houses- not so much.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 7, 2014 11:13:49 GMT -5
I can't think of any specific item I have a great emotional attachment to. Sometimes I'll acknowledge my history with a particular place/item, but in general I don't form emotional attachments. For example, I might acknowledge my history with the house I grew up in, or my current car (which used to be my Dad's), but in the end I view them as utilitarian items and don't feel much about letting them go.
Obviously it may be different when/if I have kids, but for right now, I can't really think of anything.
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Post by steph08 on Apr 7, 2014 11:18:07 GMT -5
I'm attached to different objects because they bring back memories.
If we aren't counting people/animals, the things I would save from a fire in my house would be the scrapbooks from my wedding, London living experience, and European trip with my brother. And my 10 point buck that I have mounted on the wall.
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Post by Otto the Orange on Apr 7, 2014 11:23:41 GMT -5
I don't have any emotions... so the answer is no...
don't forget your vibrator...I heard your attached to that
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Post by nutty on Apr 7, 2014 11:32:32 GMT -5
The only thing I am attached to are the baby clothes my kiddos came home from the hospital in. Though I don't know why I have legos, cars and that American Doll in my attic.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 7, 2014 11:38:32 GMT -5
Yes. We're attached to the sleepy time giraffe we used when Gwen was a newborn. I also saved a few pieces of her baby clothing that were my favorites. I'm also weirdly attached to my boppy pillow, I couldn't bring myself to donate it or give it away to a friend. That attachment paid off, I'm going to be using it again here very soon. I'm attached to my grandmother's set of Chinese lions. My grandfather brought them back with him from Korea. I loved them as a child and they became mine when she passed, I have them displayed on my dresser. Then my wedding bands and my grandmother's ring neither of which I take off. What's a boppy pillow? Is that something you use when pregnant?
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Post by tloonya on Apr 7, 2014 11:38:38 GMT -5
I don't have any emotions... so the answer is no...
don't forget your vibrator...I heard your attached to that
Women do not attached to vibrators. If some person attached to phallus-shaped object - it is a man.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 7, 2014 11:41:02 GMT -5
www.boppy.com/I find it weird b/c I disliked breastfeeding and couldn't wait to everything else associated with it once I stopped. But I could not bring myself to get rid of my boppy.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 7, 2014 11:42:24 GMT -5
OMG! I am so attached to my clothes I have everything I had ever bought...I had just almost passed out when I saw my DD is wearing sweater I had purchased on my first days in USA in 1993! I think I have every piece of clothes I had ever bought. Unless someone got rid of it and I don't know. I have a coat from 1993. If I was born here I would have everything since 1966...and NO, my house is not cluttered. I have a huge attik and lots of closets...and basement...
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 7, 2014 11:44:02 GMT -5
www.boppy.com/I find it weird b/c I disliked breastfeeding and couldn't wait to everything else associated with it once I stopped. But I could not bring myself to get rid of my boppy. OH yeah, I dumped baby gear as soon as I could. I'm having a harder time with toys because a. there's so many; b. the kids are 18 months apart and what one's done with, the other's not and 3. everytime I try, they decide to play with the toys I was gonna get rid of.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 7, 2014 11:44:38 GMT -5
Does a wife count? When we moved she told me not to bring anything I haven't used/touched in 5 years. No these statements aren't related. I suppose it does if you live in Sadi Arabia.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 7, 2014 11:46:44 GMT -5
I do not consider myself to be overly attached to things. DH's dad passed when he was 5 so he has a few things from his dad that he has an emotional attachment to: his leather chair from his dad's office, his medals and flight jacket (Marine Corps pilot) and a corner cabinet that his grandfather built. It's a nice corner hutch that Grandpa built using wood he salvaged from his grandfather's farm.
Of DS' things the one thing we will never get rid of is Spot. Spot is a Dalmatian stuffed animal that DS got when he was a baby. That dog has gone everywhere with us, went to daycare every day with DS and buys DS a Christmas present every year. DS will be 16 this month and Spot still has a place in DS' room.
Me- the only things I have that I'd want to keep for ever is my hat collection. My family realized I had a hat collection so they gave me some of my grandparents' hats. I have my grandma's little nurses uniform hat and a hat from both of my grandfathers.
In 10 years we went from 6,000 sf to 3,000 sf to 2,400 sf. When DS leaves from college we're talking about going down to like 1800 sf. I don't need or want an abundance of space.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2014 11:46:57 GMT -5
I have a few baby clothes, animals... A bowl that was my great grammas, a bell from my grandmother... Few and far between, but there are some. I could live without them, but seeing them makes me happy.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2014 18:20:04 GMT -5
I like my stuff because for the most part it is really NICE stuff. I like the Wedgwood dishes, the Oneida heirloom flatware, the expensive knives, the nice cookware, etc. I liked some of it enough to take it with me in the divorce, and I didn't take much. The rest I bought for me, myself, and I after the divorce.
That said, I am in a purging mood, and there is almost nothing really sacred. Yes, I will keep both of my kids' wedding books and my college scrapbook. But I'm not attached to the objects but rather the memories. I keep the Wedgwood and Oneida because they have function and value. But I'd probably sell them if someone offered me what I consider them worth.
I'm more practical than Romantic, which has irritated more than a few people in my lifetime.
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Post by Ava on Apr 7, 2014 19:02:23 GMT -5
In general; no. Sometimes I get attached to something, or want to own something, but it happens once in a blue moon. For instance, all my life I wanted a Paul McCartney autograph. I don't have one. I always tell myself "things" are not important. In the end, for the most part they aren't. I cannot think of a single object I own that I feel attached to. I could leave my condo tomorrow, or have a different car, and I wouldn't mind. Clothes, cooking utensils (I love to cook); I can get different ones. I don't feel "things" give me status. I don't want an expensive car or house. They only mean more expenses in my mind. Money I could use to travel, or to visit my family. I get insanely attached to people and animals, though. One month after I changed to a new location I still miss my coworkers like crazy. People don't realize it because I'm very quiet. But I do get very attached. I don't care about objects, and that makes me feel free. I actually don't have many possessions. And I don't want any, except for the Paul McCartney autograph.
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Post by quince on Apr 7, 2014 19:08:46 GMT -5
I'm a little sad about us selling the house- but more than the idea than the thing itself.
My husband-Nope. Not even a little bit.
I get the feeling that I should be attached. I kept my kid's bracelet from the hospital, even though I really don't care, because it's small...and what if I want it someday?
Which I probably won't.
Blah.
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Post by Bonny on Apr 7, 2014 19:26:48 GMT -5
It's a very long list which is why I'm spending a lot of time over at the WIRR 2014 Decluttering thread.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Apr 7, 2014 19:32:40 GMT -5
I can honestly say I like my house more than most people and I'm very attached to it along with my pets and then maybe my DH.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 7, 2014 19:36:30 GMT -5
While I am getting more sentimental as I am getting older, except for pictures and a few pieces of jewelery, I can't think of anything I wouldn't walk away from.
I LIKE a lot of the things we have, but attached? I don't think so
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Post by Shooby on Apr 7, 2014 19:45:54 GMT -5
I only care about photos and things my kids made. That's it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2014 19:52:31 GMT -5
I'm kind of attached to my car. I'm not sure why, it's not fancy or anything. I once briefly considered buying another one and giving mine to DD, but I couldn't stand the thought that she might not take care of it.
I have a few things I kept from when my children were smaller, not a lot though. I kept an item of DD's clothing from when she was a newborn and I recently dug it out and gave it to her for her baby girl that's arriving soon. It's still soft and pretty.
If my house burned down, I would be very sad about losing years and years of family pictures. I not only have pictures I took as my children grew up, but pictures that were taken before I was born and from my own childhood. Everything else is just stuff. It's stuff I like and I'd like to keep it, but not irreplaceable.
One thing I'm sentimental about is my great-grandmother's quilts, and I don't even have one. I remember her working on them when I was a very little girl. She'd stopped making them by the time I moved out on my own so I've never had one of my own, my family had some. I really wish I'd asked someone for one of theirs way back when. Even if it was in tatters, I'd love to have one.
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Post by mmhmm on Apr 7, 2014 20:03:42 GMT -5
I'm very attached to my cats and my family, but certainly not to inanimate objects. My daughter serves the purpose of packrat of historical items for our family.
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