Do you get emotionally attached to objects?

[NastyWoman]

I still miss my grandma's house.  Iwas sold in the late 90's but there was so much family history tied to it.  My GGGF (yes I meant the 3 Gs) bought it when he was a newly wed.  GGF was born and raised in it and lost it in a poker game, only to work his butt off to buy it back a few years later, GM and my mom where born there and I spent a goodly part of my childhood there, only to take my kids there when they were little.  Then DA2 passed away and she had no kids and the house was sold.  Whenever I am in my hometown and pass the house I still want to go inside but no mas...

And that was just my family's history in the house it was a very old when GGGF bought it.  In fact the cellars were part of the old city walls from the 13th century, and they too played a big part in my family's life including (believe it or not) my FIL's life.  These cellars were part of an escape network during German Razzia's in WWII.  Dang I miss that house

[Virgil Showlion]

[steff]

things that have passed down thru the family or from my grandmothers to me I'm deeply attached to.  I have china from both of my great great grandmothers.  I have quilts made by my great grandmothers & ones by my mamaw specifically for me.  She made one when I was born, one when I turned 16, and one when I got married.  My great gramma on my mom's side did hand painted pottery & I have things she made specifically for me (a beautiful tea set & a doll where she painted the face & hands and my gramma made the body & clothes).  From time to time I have purged some of the smaller things I've been given (a collection of mini-vases & some very nice crystal).  I have 4 china hutches.  One filled with tea cups/pots, one filled with crystal & china, one filled with carnival glass that was my mamaws, and one filled with my sports collection stuff (cars, signed balls, figurines, signed helmets). 

In cleaning out a hutch that I'm getting rid of (I have to get rid of something to bring something new in per a deal with hubby & I have an antique black walnut desk coming in..it was my carnival glass hutch. Now there's carnival glass everywhere.), I found 2 gift bags filled to bursting with cards kiddo & hubby have given me over the years.  I also found the card my aunt gave me concert tickets in when I turned 16 (and get this, the musical card STILL PLAYS! 30 years later!).  I did a purge & got rid of them all (except the musical card & another musical card my brother gave me Crue tickets in one year). 

[cronewitch]

I am trying to get over it. I threw out three candles this week that were table decorations at my nephew's wedding because they were in jars and almost empty. I liked having them in case of power outages and remembering his wedding. I have things like my dad's fishing trophy that are really meaningless. I remember when he won and wasn't happy because his fish was normal sized not special everyone had a bad day. So it didn't mean anything to him, I could throw it away, it has no value. My memory is excellent so I remember where everything I had came from and it almost all means something to me.

[aliciar6]

my cat, the corvette, and my shoe collection

[Deleted]

When I posted in this thread, I mentioned my Great-Grandmother's quilts and how I wish I had one.

Today I was talking to my Mom and out of the blue she asked if I wanted one of the quilts. There were 4 stored in my Grandma's house when she died year before last, 3 are still in great shape. I was so surprised to hear about the quilts and excited to be offered one! Lol

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

I am attached to pictures and things related to my kids (clothes, toys, art projects, etc.).  Otherwise, not really.

However, I do miss one item in particular.  When my mother died, we divided up her things and had a yard sale for those items none of us children wanted.  

As usually happens at yard sales, we were inundated with Early Birds while still setting up.  A woman ended up buying a cook book -- nothing too special -- a Betty Crocker cookbook, IIRC, BUT it was stuffed with many of my mother's handwritten recipes and recipe notes and we didn't realize it until the woman had driven away.  

It still hurts to this day to think that someone threw out family recipes held by and written on by my late mother.  

[Deleted]

I have a few things that used to belong to my grandmother. They remind me of her and I like having them but I wouldn't get overly upset if anything happened to them. I have pictures in my house of my trips and the GWs. There is a story with everything I have here. I wouldn't be upset about any individual thing missing but if I lost all of it I would be devastated.

[MarleyKeezy78]

Besides family, yes I am attached to objects. Things I loved of my Grandma's she has recently started to give to me, her nativity set that I had put up every year since I was a small child, the bottle of liquor with a ballerina under a shot glass that dances when you wind it up her and my grandfather got as a anniversary gift, the set of pearls my grandfather gave her which I never even knew about until a couple years ago and a pearl ring. There are other things I would love of hers but have been encouraging her to give to other cousins because I know they would love the items. Her and I have a very close relationship because she delivered me. I would give up all that stuff to keep her forever

[resolution]

Apr 27, 2014 19:54:04 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

When I posted in this thread, I mentioned my Great-Grandmother's quilts and how I wish I had one.

Today I was talking to my Mom and out of the blue she asked if I wanted one of the quilts. There were 4 stored in my Grandma's house when she died year before last, 3 are still in great shape. I was so surprised to hear about the quilts and excited to be offered one! Lol

I am glad you got a quilt. My husband is extremely attached to the quilts that his mom, great aunt, and grandmother made. We are planning to move to Hawaii where we won't need any quilts on the bed and we are already discussed setting up some quilt hangers for the walls so we can rotate them as wall decorations.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

I'm attached to old family photos - it's my past/history in pictures.

Also the china settings I acquired - which are a unique design. I also have some original plates and other porcelain pieces that my mom designed/painted. Purely decorative.

She was (like me) and artist, and painted some beautiful pieces. She made me a small porcelain clock that I love. I just have to remember to replace the battery in the tiny clock when it dies.

This requires a jeweler since the clock inside the porcelain piece is abut he size of wristwatch & takes watch batteries.

I have a couple of pieces of jewelery that are special to me too - and close to my heart. I'd hate to see them go missing or see them fall into the wrong hands.

As far as furniture etc, no. Those things can be replaced. Same with cars, property, or houses.

[msventoux]

I have stuff I kept because I thought I should feel an emotional attachment.  Most of it is gone now after my big clean out last year.  I scanned a bunch of photos and wouldn't care now if the originals were destroyed.  I like my stuff but I'm not all that attached to most of it.

My parents and grandparents weren't overly sentimental and I guess I'm not either.  There's not really any family heirlooms or anything of that nature, so most of it doesn't matter all that much and isn't irreplaceable. 

[resolution]

This move is going to be a real test for DH. It will be the first time he will actually have to get rid of stuff. I gave away half of what I owned five years ago when I moved here, so I am in a little better shape going through things.

[haapai]

I own two scythes and two lifetimes of replacement blades.

I own a kraut crock.

I have a collection of little triangular files for sharpening hand saws.

I own a hoe. 

I saw my grandfather using each of these items exactly once, and quite frankly, he never looked like he knew what he was doing or made it look like fun.

And I cannot get myself to part with this stuff.  This would make sense if I'd adored my grandfather, but I don't remember that being the case.  He was mildly interesting but had a nasty temper if you pushed too far.  Mostly, he just collected stuff. 

I feel kinda sorry for my father and uncle.  They inherited even more archaic, non-motorized man-cave clutter and they feel compelled to use each piece at least once.  I've watched my father tap maple trees using a hand drill and galvanized taps.  My uncle inherited most of the planes and within a year, he had run off to sea leaving his collection of woodworkery in the garage of his soon-to-be-ex wife. 

I figure that providing a home for two scythes, a crock, and a collection of files for the rest of my life is getting off pretty easy, although I do sometimes pray for lightening to hit my father's garage before he passes.  My garage and my brother's are already full of grandpa's stuff and we have no idea what to do with dad's share of it. 

[tskeeter]

Yup.

The pictures of DW's Grandparents and an Uncle who died as a child.

Mom's krumkake iron.  It's a symbol of Mom's Norweigian heritage.  Her talent as a cook and baker.  The large clan gatherings of a family whose older children raised the younger kids after their parents died.  And, it's an old, cast iron set that works much, much better than more modern cast iron or aluminum sets.

Probably Mom's sterling, when Dad passes away.  It's not generations old, but maybe it will become generations old if it gets passed along to family members who value the history more than the money it can be sold for.

A copy of an Uncle's compilation of family history, including newspaper clippings, wills that contain interesting bequests (or explanations for lack of bequests), photos, and the like.

And a C. Skalbeck original quilt.  Made by one of my aunts.  

[tskeeter]

Apr 27, 2014 20:43:30 GMT -5 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:

I am attached to pictures and things related to my kids (clothes, toys, art projects, etc.).  Otherwise, not really.

However, I do miss one item in particular.  When my mother died, we divided up her things and had a yard sale for those items none of us children wanted.  

As usually happens at yard sales, we were inundated with Early Birds while still setting up.  A woman ended up buying a cook book -- nothing too special -- a Betty Crocker cookbook, IIRC, BUT it was stuffed with many of my mother's handwritten recipes and recipe notes and we didn't realize it until the woman had driven away.  

It still hurts to this day to think that someone threw out family recipes held by and written on by my late mother.  

Or someone went, hot damn!  I have bought a collection of great family recipes that will make a long history of memories for my family.

[tractor]

Yes, sadly I get attached to everything. I have stuffed bears from both grandfathers, and the one I loved to death over 40 years ago. I save all kinds of family stuff that I use to fondly remember my connection to the past. I have a garage, barn, and field full of antique farm equipment that I cherish, the list goes on and on. At some point I will have to start letting things go, but it might not be until I'm dead.

I'm one of those people who runs out of room only to build more space to put it. I wish I didn't care about most of it, but I still do...

[kittensaver]

Hubby. My wedding rings. My four cats. Family photos. My grandfather's unsold artwork (he was a noted early 20th century sculptor and painter, and as the older generation has passed on I've gotten a few things). My plot in the community garden. "My spot" at the weightlifting rack at the gym . My old fashioned featherbed.

Chocolate. Any kind of chocolate.

[Artemis Windsong]

Yes, I have a lot.  It took me years to get settled moving to another state.  I was in shock and had to function as a parent and on a job. 

So, my list is, my home, my possessions in it and my car.  My bank accounts.  What do I rescue if there is bad weather or a flood?  The photo albums followed by financial papers.
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I am planning on selling a piece of property we have owned for over 30 years.  I am trying to decide what my emotional condition will be like on the other side.  This was the back up plan in case things didn't work out.  We had planned on retiring there but all of our friends are here.

[busymom]

Yes, I've got some things that are special to me. Probably too many.

I kept a lot of my Mom's familiar cookbooks. And, I've got a quilt (not a fancy one) that she & my Grandmother worked on together. Also, a winter scarf that Mom made, & 2 others that were made by other relatives. I've got a bird house & some doll furniture that my Grandfather made (are you seeing a pattern here?). I've also got a HUGE plastic tote crammed full of pictures from my Mother's house.

One thing I've hung onto is a very old & pretty perfume bottle that my Mom always kept on top of her dresser. It probably isn't worth a lot of money, but whenever I look at it, I think of her.