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Post by mmhmm on Apr 3, 2014 13:54:38 GMT -5
I think I might just tell DS and DH that you know the coach as you used to date him a long time ago. Let them know you think he's a good, caring person and let it go at that. There's certainly nothing about which to feel guilty, IMO.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Apr 3, 2014 14:00:49 GMT -5
Since I live in a very small rural area, this is actually quite common...........
what - parents having affairs with the coach - or people running into exes in coaching situations? My guess would be both
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 3, 2014 14:09:17 GMT -5
Buy him a pair of coach shorts and tell him that you've always wanted to see him in them because you think they're sexy. Then if he wears them, point and laugh. Then buy DH a pair of coach shorts, and go to town.
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Post by swamp on Apr 3, 2014 14:09:40 GMT -5
You could tell them that you don't miss all of the crazy hot monkey sex you used to have with him all of the time! LMAO! And you sure don't miss the extra expense of those custom-made condoms you had to buy for his enormous dingaling! I hate it when that happens.
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Post by swamp on Apr 3, 2014 14:10:40 GMT -5
Buy him a pair of coach shorts and tell him that you've always wanted to see him in them because you think they're sexy. Then if he wears them, point and laugh. Then buy DH a pair of coach shorts, and go to town. You mean those skimpy 70's polyester ones where you can see the junk outline? That's hot.
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Post by bimetalaupt on Apr 3, 2014 14:11:29 GMT -5
My ex-bf is going to be coaching my son's baseball team. We're not on bad terms or anything, but it feels weird. Would you ask to switch teams? I'm leaning towards leaving it "as is" because last year ds wouldn't even sign up for baseball due to the fact that the year before his coach was an old, miserable @!$hole and ruined the game for him. But I have a guilty, yucky feeling in my stomach like I'm doing something wrong. Thoughts? 30+, But you need to give him a chance. What baseball does he know and how does he couch? I know base ball from my father who played sand lot in Brooklyn. He couched my brother's team and they did well. He couched my couch at the undefeated team I played for. Dad knew baseball like no one else In Midland. Does he understand the position your son is best at?
Just give him a chance, Bruce
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Post by whoami on Apr 3, 2014 14:13:33 GMT -5
I'm not sure what there is to tell about an ex to DH.
We dated prior to us dating. We don't date anymore. The only ex's my DH knows about is the guy who slashed my tires and I had to go court over and my ExH. The only guy he knows for sure I had sex with is my ExH as evidenced by the two kids. Other than that, it has never come up. I am FB friends with a couple ex's. Nobody cares.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 3, 2014 14:22:08 GMT -5
Eh- Doesn't phase me. My town's not tiny (50,000 people) but I run into people I graduated with and/or dated on a regular basis. It's only a big deal if you make it one. I'm FB friends with some of my ex's and DH is FB friends with some of his. I wouldn't hide it or lie if DS had an ex of mine as a coach. My only concerns would be if he was a good coach, good with the kids, and treated my kid fairly.
No need to feel guilty unless you start lying or evading the truth.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 14:35:54 GMT -5
As far as my Dad is concerned, I was a virgin until I got married!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Apr 3, 2014 14:36:39 GMT -5
The only ex's my DH knows about is the guy who slashed my tires and I had to go court over and my ExH. The only guy he knows for sure I had sex with is my ExH as evidenced by the two kids. Other than that, it has never come up. I am FB friends with a couple ex's. Nobody cares. DH is my first husband and I didn't have kids when we met... I sure as hell hope he knows I was not a virgin when we met. I need to ask him and clear this up! I'm pretty sure he figured that out all on his own
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 14:38:06 GMT -5
He knows better. Remember, I didn't get hitched until I was 35.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 14:42:45 GMT -5
That's better than the "harlot" I was getting for living in sin...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 14:46:00 GMT -5
D'oh! And yes...yes they do.
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Post by lazysundays on Apr 3, 2014 15:14:06 GMT -5
So who ended that relationship?
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Post by cktc on Apr 3, 2014 15:35:37 GMT -5
How do much you typically interact with coaches? It shouldn't be weird if you keep a professional parent/coach relationship. No coffee to catch up, no emailing/texting about anything other than the schedule and your kid, no one-on-one time, and no need to chit chat about your personal lives. Do let you DH know. If you feel weird about it and don't say anything you will fell even weirder.
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Post by lazysundays on Apr 3, 2014 15:36:35 GMT -5
Eh than it's ok. Keep the kid there. If he was the one that got away, you might have to think about it.
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Post by imawino on Apr 3, 2014 15:41:51 GMT -5
That's better than the "harlot" I was getting for living in sin... Well harlots have way more fun than spinsters... At least that's what Imawino tells me... LOL. No, I asked you if harlots had more fun! Needed an expert opinion.....
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 15:44:54 GMT -5
How do much you typically interact with couches? It shouldn't be weird if you keep a professional parent/couch relationship. No coffee to catch up, no emailing/texting about anything other than the schedule and your kid, no one-on-one time, and no need to chit chat about your personal lives. Do let you DH know. If you feel weird about it and don't say anything you will fell even weirder. most people only interact with couches when they sit on them.....other than that, they're pretty much forgotten
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Post by cktc on Apr 3, 2014 16:01:21 GMT -5
My brain is taking the day off!
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Post by imawino on Apr 3, 2014 16:17:04 GMT -5
LOL. No, I asked you if harlots had more fun! Needed an expert opinion..... And I was right... wasn't I? Indeed you were! So, where were we in this story? Have we all agreed that the best possible course of action is to make out with the coach? Or the couch?
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Post by CarolinaKat on Apr 3, 2014 16:22:36 GMT -5
Indeed you were! So, where were we in this story? Have we all agreed that the best possible course of action is to make out with the coach? Or the couch? I vote for the couch.. couches don't expect anyone to make them a sammich! but mine eats things all the time.... Changers, Cell phones, Cat toys, blankets.....
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Post by imawino on Apr 3, 2014 16:26:51 GMT -5
Wait a minute - this ex is not secretly the REAL father of the DS on the baseball team, like in some sort of twisted soap opera, is he That would totally explain the guilt and anxiety. She's worried he's gonna be like "hey, this kid looks exactly like me!"
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 16:39:29 GMT -5
I didn't understand it at first, but I'm guessing she is feeling guilty for how she broke up with him...
I'm assuming he has kids himself...?
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Post by bimetalaupt on Apr 3, 2014 16:45:47 GMT -5
Does your husband not know about him? He knows about him. I'm not sure how much he remembers. I spilled my guts to dh when we first started dating. There was a lot to tell. 30+,
Well, /we have to be realistic. My wife and I meet an old friend of mine on the UT Austin's Main Building entrance . To make things worst my mother was her mother's best friends and she turned me down for a date three or four times. I had read for years the wrong thing about being rejected. Do you know how to siple "A-SUPT-TIONNNNN". I needed help.
My mother told my wife that she talked to Ms.X Mother. We had a small apartment and MS.X cam over for supper many time. Mrs.L and Ms.X became best of friends . The two had talked about a lot of girl things like Cheerleading and families. Peer pressure of being a girl with a growing family, keeping up with the Jones and finding oneself. Is this a girl vest girl thing you have with his wife/gf?
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 3, 2014 17:18:26 GMT -5
Who besides you and DH will know that he is an EX BF (well he will but) I don't see a need to tell your son unless someone says something to him. He is just an old friend. Do you plan on informing the other parents? This reminds me of the Prude thread about sharing to much info. I just don't see a problem here unless your DH goes apeshit about it. I guess this is a moot question if you live in a town of 500 and the whole town knows it.
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Post by bimetalaupt on Apr 3, 2014 17:55:19 GMT -5
Miss, It sounds she is more worried about his Mrs then anything else.
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Post by bimetalaupt on Apr 3, 2014 18:15:30 GMT -5
Miss, It sounds she is more worried about his Mrs then anything else.
B How did you reach THAT conclusion? Are you saying he was married at the time they dated? no, 'SOUNDS LIKE' IS NOT A CONCLUSION..WIFE/SO OR GF. THE UNSPOKEN QUESTION IS MOST INTERESTING SUPT. B Supt - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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Post by bimetalaupt on Apr 3, 2014 18:50:07 GMT -5
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Post by midjd on Apr 3, 2014 18:53:03 GMT -5
Hey MM, sup? Wrongside, I wouldn't worry about it. DH and I grew up in a very small town and although we live 40 miles away now, we still each run into our exes occasionally (mine more than his - he only has two ). Unless you think your son would be treated badly because of your past relationship with the coach, it shouldn't be an issue.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 3, 2014 20:10:20 GMT -5
I didn't understand it at first, but I'm guessing she is feeling guilty for how she broke up with him... I'm assuming he has kids himself...? You know that moment...when someone is telling you a story about something terrible that happened to them...and somewhere in the beginning of their story they mention something that they did and you think to yourself "well that was effing stupid", like they should have known better? That is the guilt that I feel. Like I should know better. I worry too much, I know. I know this whole thing is stressing you out, but I'm really confused about why you're upset. I'm reading this as you do think of him as the one who got away. But, I'm not sure that makes sense either.
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