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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:18:01 GMT -5
and all the other things that go along with dating?
DH and I have been together 6 years... married 3 1/2. In the grand scheme of things, it isn't that long. But I do miss the butterflies, the nervousness and the prospect of the unknown. I loved dating. He, on the other hand, misses none of that. He hated dating and is happy to be married and settled and not worrying about any of that.
Where do you stand?
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Post by chen35 on Mar 13, 2014 12:20:04 GMT -5
I hated dating, the nervousness and the prospect of the unknown. I'm a bit of a control freak
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2014 12:20:08 GMT -5
DH and I have been together for 20 years. I don't even remember what the early days of dating were like anymore.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Mar 13, 2014 12:23:14 GMT -5
We've been married 43 years and are dating again.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:23:35 GMT -5
20 years? I can't fathom 20 years!
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:23:56 GMT -5
We've been married 43 years and are dating again. each other?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2014 12:26:14 GMT -5
20 years? I can't fathom 20 years! Neither can I! I think I should trade him in for a younger model.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Mar 13, 2014 12:28:33 GMT -5
We've been married 43 years and are dating again. each other? Yes of course.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:31:19 GMT -5
20 years? I can't fathom 20 years! Neither can I! I think I should trade him in for a younger model. I keep saying the same thing. DH is just around the corner from 40. I might have to trade in after that. I can't be sleeping with an old man!
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:32:56 GMT -5
each other? Yes of course. hey- you never know! DH and I still have date nights... but i don't sit and wonder where the night will lead, because i know. Back home to the couch in front of the TV where he'll grown about being too full or having the "meat sweats" LOL
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Post by giramomma on Mar 13, 2014 12:35:29 GMT -5
No.
DH and I have been married for 13 years, together for almost 18 now.
Even after 18 years, I can say with confidence that I do not know my spouse 100% inside and out. Our life is not so bland that I can predict his every thought, desire, etc with 100% confidence. Even after we had been together for a decade (including 5 years of marriage), I had no idea DH was keeping a major part of himself a secret from me. I also have no way to predict life. Too random. What I'm trying to say, is that our life, on a daily basis is an "unknown." There is no "until death do us part" for anyone.
As for the butterflies, well, I still get them. Actually, more now than when were were dating and first married.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 13, 2014 12:40:28 GMT -5
and all the other things that go along with dating? DH and I have been together 6 years... married 3 1/2. In the grand scheme of things, it isn't that long. But I do miss the butterflies, the nervousness and the prospect of the unknown. I loved dating. He, on the other hand, misses none of that. He hated dating and is happy to be married and settled and not worrying about any of that. Where do you stand? First thing that comes to mind of mine is that you had gotten married too soon... You were dating for 6 years and you only lost butterflies after marriage? Because to my knowledge when you are dating for 6 years it is like if you are already married. After year 1 it is basically a marriage even if you do not live together. You can't have butterflies for 6 years each time you going out to eat or dressing up for the movie. You know him for 6 years, you come home and getting ready to go to Chinese restaurant...after which your place or his place and it is only unnerving if you are suffering some -crazy-condition...otherwise it is all same old same old...
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Post by tloonya on Mar 13, 2014 12:41:46 GMT -5
No. DH and I have been married for 13 years, together for almost 18 now. Even after 18 years, I can say with confidence that I do not know my spouse 100% inside and out. Our life is not so bland that I can predict his every thought, desire, etc with 100% confidence. Even after we had been together for a decade (including 5 years of marriage), I had no idea DH was keeping a major part of himself a secret from me. I also have no way to predict life. Too random. What I'm trying to say, is that our life, on a daily basis is an "unknown." There is no "until death do us part" for anyone. As for the butterflies, well, I still get them. Actually, more now than when were were dating and first married. Was it a positive post or negative?
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Post by imawino on Mar 13, 2014 12:43:02 GMT -5
Yes, I loved dating! I think. It's been a long time, and I was drunk a lot, but I'm pretty sure it was fun. I don't miss ALL of the hassles that went along with it, but certainly the sense of anticipation.
The upside is that I can wear a ponytail and my grungy clothes around the house all the time, and seduction consists of saying "wanna do it?"
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Post by Bob Ross on Mar 13, 2014 12:44:11 GMT -5
I found it was best to drown the butterflies in plenty of booze. Led to some interesting dates.
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Post by imawino on Mar 13, 2014 12:46:39 GMT -5
I found it was best to drown the butterflies in plenty of booze. Led to some interesting dates. Just to clarify.....you weren't dating the butterflies, were you?
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:47:00 GMT -5
and all the other things that go along with dating? DH and I have been together 6 years... married 3 1/2. In the grand scheme of things, it isn't that long. But I do miss the butterflies, the nervousness and the prospect of the unknown. I loved dating. He, on the other hand, misses none of that. He hated dating and is happy to be married and settled and not worrying about any of that. Where do you stand? First thing that comes to mind of mine is that you had gotten married too soon... You were dating for 6 years and you only lost butterflies after marriage? Because to my knowledge when you are dating for 6 years it is like if you are already married. After year 1 it is basically a marriage even if you do not live together. You can't have butterflies for 6 years each time you going out to eat or dressing up for the movie. You know him for 6 years, you come home and getting ready to go to Chinese restaurant...after which your place or his place and it is only unnerving if you are suffering some -crazy-condition...otherwise it is all same old same old... We didn't date for 6 years... we've been together a total of 6 years. 3.5 of those years we've been married. I didn't say i expect to have butterflies all the time after 6 years. I said I miss the butterflies and all the other things that went along with dating.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 12:47:27 GMT -5
I found it was best to drown the butterflies in plenty of booze. Led to some interesting dates. pretty sure that is how i ended up married!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2014 12:48:40 GMT -5
Imaging the shock to my system after a decade!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 13, 2014 12:48:42 GMT -5
Nope. I don't like having to worry about if I am making a good impression anymore. He knows me warts and all yet doesn't run away screaming. I still get butterflies, especially when he cleans up and puts on something nice. He's a good looking man when he wants to be and gets rid of the cammo T shirts!
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Post by swamp on Mar 13, 2014 12:49:57 GMT -5
The upside is that I can wear a ponytail and my grungy clothes around the house all the time, and seduction consists of saying "wanna do it?"
I did that when I was dating............
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Post by busymom on Mar 13, 2014 12:50:34 GMT -5
Neither can I! I think I should trade him in for a younger model. I keep saying the same thing. DH is just around the corner from 40. I might have to trade in after that. I can't be sleeping with an old man! Aw, stick with the old man. It's too much work to train in a new one!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2014 12:50:44 GMT -5
I never really dated, so I am not sure.
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Post by imawino on Mar 13, 2014 12:52:19 GMT -5
The upside is that I can wear a ponytail and my grungy clothes around the house all the time, and seduction consists of saying "wanna do it?"
I did that when I was dating............ LOL. That's how he seduces ME now. I used to require they put more effort into it.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Mar 13, 2014 12:55:06 GMT -5
I stand outside the shower holding her towel.
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Post by Bob Ross on Mar 13, 2014 12:58:34 GMT -5
Aww. Here you all go. If I were a single, middle-aged guy, I could really clean up 'round these parts. *Licks fingers. Plasters comb-over to head* Is there an echo in here?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 13, 2014 13:04:42 GMT -5
I got married so I could stop dating.
That being said, there is always "unknown" in a good way.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 13:07:39 GMT -5
I did that when I was dating............ LOL. That's how he seduces ME now. I used to require they put more effort into it. THIS. no one is getting man handled or shoved against a wall anymore.
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Post by tractor on Mar 13, 2014 13:07:49 GMT -5
I got married so I could stop dating. That being said, there is always "unknown" in a good way. I felt the same way, I knew if I didn't get married right out of college, I'd be spending the rest of my life alone in a small cabin in the woods. I still live in the cabin, I just have my bride (and two kids) to keep me company now. I miss the butterfly's, but with all this snow, they might never come back :-).
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 13, 2014 13:08:39 GMT -5
I keep saying the same thing. DH is just around the corner from 40. I might have to trade in after that. I can't be sleeping with an old man! Aw, stick with the old man. It's too much work to train in a new one! you do have a valid point.
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