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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 9:29:30 GMT -5
Let's say someone you are working with (indirectly) sending you message that clearly implies that he is up to an affair! Out of blue. it is like you think you are friends and having tons of laughs and conversations that are fascinating...and all of a sudden...Oops!
What to say to not to ruin working relationships? I had not been there for 22 years, so I am completely don't know what to do!
Help!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:07:17 GMT -5
YIKES! Make a joke out of it? Tell him you're married and not looking for a boyfriend, but if you ever change your mind he will be first on your list!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:13:52 GMT -5
Can somebody please translate this for me?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:16:13 GMT -5
One of LOONY'S vendors is hitting on her. She wants to know how to let him down easy so she can keep up the professional relationship. I gave her a suggestion.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:22:08 GMT -5
One of LOONY'S vendors is hitting on her. She wants to know how to let him down easy so she can keep up the professional relationship. I gave her a suggestion. HAHA...I love that explanation 'I gave her a suggestion'... I did tell him to back off trying to be as funny as heck! He got upset and NOW I have to see him for work. DARN! Why am I supposed to be so hot
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:23:57 GMT -5
Trust me, my idea will work! It give him hope, even when there isn't any.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:26:29 GMT -5
Can somebody please translate this for me? I don't think you can be helped. Just go do something else...
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:30:00 GMT -5
Trust me, my idea will work! It give him hope, even when there isn't any. HE knows my DH. We had been coming together for 4 years. Now DH is not coming but I am always talking to him on the phone during working with 'an subject'...so he might suspect but he knows we aren't divorced! Or separated...or whatever...
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Mar 11, 2014 10:31:07 GMT -5
One of LOONY'S vendors is hitting on her. She wants to know how to let him down easy so she can keep up the professional relationship. I gave her a suggestion. HAHA...I love that explanation 'I gave her a suggestion'... I did tell him to back off trying to be as funny as heck! He got upset and NOW I have to see him for work. DARN! Why am I supposed to be so hot It's a blessing... and a curse.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:31:09 GMT -5
Loony, just say yes and I will be there shortly.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:32:38 GMT -5
Trust me, my idea will work! It give him hope, even when there isn't any. If she gives him hope, he might just bide his time and never let the subject drop completely. She needs to be clear (but not mean about it) that she's not interested and hope he can get over it so they can continue the business relationship.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 11, 2014 10:34:32 GMT -5
Loony, just say yes and I will be there shortly. Careful, Loony. Archie is a fertile one. Mrs. Archie has popped out a few rugrats. He might love you and leave you with more than you bargained for. And by that, I don't mean melons.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:36:43 GMT -5
Loony, just say yes and I will be there shortly. I am not joking with men anymore. It takes me into a wrong directions... I love you but I am taken. Farewell.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:40:08 GMT -5
Loony, just say yes and I will be there shortly. I am not joking with men anymore. It takes me into a wrong directions... I love you but I am taken. Farewell. Good thing I self identify as a lesbian, not a man.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:41:02 GMT -5
Trust me, my idea will work! It give him hope, even when there isn't any. If she gives him hope, he might just bide his time and never let the subject drop completely. She needs to be clear (but not mean about it) that she's not interested and hope he can get over it so they can continue the business relationship. I didn't give him hope. He was bold enough to suggest 'day off' together of the bet! I said 'see you at workplace'. He said 'HAVE A NICE DAY!'... So there was no misunderstanding, right, Archie. You wouldn't think I was just playing hard to get, right?
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:44:22 GMT -5
I am not joking with men anymore. It takes me into a wrong directions... I love you but I am taken. Farewell. Good thing I self identify as a lesbian, not a man. Remember a 'thonge' thread? it went fast. so keep it pg13
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 10:53:24 GMT -5
Can somebody please translate this for me? I don't think you can be helped. Just go do something else... With the way you type....you're probably correct. Then again....I don't need the proper sentence structure help that some others here need.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 10:57:39 GMT -5
I don't think you can be helped. Just go do something else... With the way you type....you're probably correct. Then again.... I don't need the proper sentence structure help that some others here need.Why are you asking for translation than? Seems like you need help in...some areas unlike 'others here'... '
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 11, 2014 11:01:57 GMT -5
Important question...is the guy hot?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 11:12:47 GMT -5
With the way you type....you're probably correct. Then again.... I don't need the proper sentence structure help that some others here need.Why are you asking for translation than? Seems like you need help in...some areas unlike 'others here'... ' Quite possible!
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 11:19:30 GMT -5
Important question...is the guy hot? before this all happened I said to my husband - 'X is the best looking man I had ever seen'...in my...entire...48 y/old life! Now he hates me. And we were such a good friends... How does man reacting after being dissed? Can they just act like nothing had happened and we can still be friends, right?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 11:21:55 GMT -5
You have to let the hot ones down gently. They're not used to being refused. ETA: if you would have done it my way, you could have just kept reminding him about the "deal". I have a college friend that I see once every year or so and every time without fail he will bring up that he has an "open relationship" and his wife would be "just fine" with him having "a little fun". I say something similar to him and he moves on to his next target. It's been a few years since I had a HOT guy proposition me so I could be woefully out of touch.
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 11:30:23 GMT -5
Let's say someone you are working with (indirectly) sending you message that clearly implies that he is up to an affair! Out of blue. it is like you think you are friends and having tons of laughs and conversations that are fascinating...and all of a sudden...Oops!
What to say to not to ruin working relationships? I had not been there for 22 years, so I am completely don't know what to do!
Help! I had something similar happen just recently with a former co-worker... when I realized he wasn't just "joking around" anymore I had to backpedal pretty quickly... Awwwwwkwaaaaard!!!! My business somewhat depends on him...I can stop working with h is altogether, however I have always enjoyed the view...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 11:38:06 GMT -5
Good one, MM!
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 11:43:18 GMT -5
My business somewhat depends on him...I can stop working with h is altogether, however I have always enjoyed the view... Just tell him that you apologize if you hurt his feelings, but you were surprised at his feelings for you. Remind him that you are married, however, you are very flattered and hope it doesn't hurt your working relationship or your friendship. NOOOOOOO! Acting like it had never took place is my intension... Imagine he will feel like complete moron listening to my blah blah
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 11:46:45 GMT -5
Good one, MM! How is it GOOD? Moron knows I am married, knows my husband, my child...he is a home wrecker...geez!!!!!!!! 'Apologize for your hurt feelings?' Stick 'em up your ass!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 11:48:35 GMT -5
YOU were the one who wanted to know how to smooth things over so you can keep up your professional relationship. Are his prices worth stroking his ego a little?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2014 12:10:33 GMT -5
You dirty birdie!
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Post by tloonya on Mar 11, 2014 12:13:04 GMT -5
YOU were the one who wanted to know how to smooth things over so you can keep up your professional relationship. Are his prices worth stroking his ego a little? Oh.. you said "ego".. nevermind... Stroking his ego is not what he asking for However I am keeping it like nothing happened. 2. However...what if he is mean or starts talking about 'things'? I am not good at it, I am off the market for ages, I can fall a prey...I can do stupid things...OMG!!! Can I do stupid things I am doomed! Am I doomed? What am I?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 11, 2014 12:14:06 GMT -5
YOU were the one who wanted to know how to smooth things over so you can keep up your professional relationship. Are his prices worth stroking his ego a little? Oh.. you said "ego".. nevermind... OMG!! My drink just met my monitor!
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