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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 19:18:32 GMT -5
It seems there may be several separate issues here. As a mom, I'd be trying to figure out how they work and what's important.
If the teacher is just bullying your kid over something that's - in the big scheme of things - relatively unimportant, that's one potential issue. On the other hand, if this is something your son should be able to do with some practice and help, then it's not unreasonable to want to help him get over his fear/resistance/weakness/whatever. For example, if your son gets worked up and his emotion stops him from taking on challenges or improving, then this could be one of those things that's worth following through with even though the somersault itself isn't a big deal.
There are times when I step in to protect my kids from unreasonable expectations or punishment. But there are other times when I side with the tough teacher and let them know this is something they can do - while providing support, help, opportunity, whatever it needs to meet the challenge.
You mentioned in another thread that one of the sons is struggling with weight. Is this that son? Possibly he's dealing with some additional issues of being a little embarrassed about the weight and starting to doubt his abilities? If so, I might lean towards the side of helping him to overcome this challenge so that he doesn't walk away with the lesson that he's incapable of "simple" (what he and the other kids might think) physical activities. Again, who cares if he can do a somersault? Nobody. But you and he will care if the lesson he gets is that he can't do basic physical activities with some practice.
I probably have some bias here, though. I wasn't a heavy kid at all - dangerously skinny. But I wasn't good at any sports, had no coordination, etc. and over years of not doing well in PE at school just internalized the idea that although I wasn't heavy, basic physical fitness wasn't possible for me. It wasn't until I was an adult that I discovered otherwise. Some adults never discover otherwise and that's part of why Americans are having struggles with weight. If you can help him to understand that basic physical activity is possible for him, that would be a huge gift and you'd be helping him on the right track in many things mentally and physically. He is heavy and it's just been the past 3 years or so that he's gained quite a bit. He likes to swim and he likes to bike and now that his younger brother is more self-sufficient and easier to leave with other people, I plan on spending a lot of time with him getting him out hiking and biking, but winters are tough. Emotions definitely take over for him. Man, I thought teenage girls were supposed to be bad, but he takes the cake for drama and blowing things out of proportion sometimes, and sports have always been an issue. We've tried everything trying to find his niche, but have had zero luck.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 3, 2014 19:20:08 GMT -5
I don't think it would be out of line, at all, to talk to the phys ed teacher. If the boy is 12, he's managed to do quite well so far without turning somersaults and it's my guess he'll be able to manage his whole life without ever doing one. Much better to recognize somersaults as a "milestone" that wasn't to be and go on with the more important aspects of life, I'd say!
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 3, 2014 19:25:22 GMT -5
It seems there may be several separate issues here. As a mom, I'd be trying to figure out how they work and what's important.
If the teacher is just bullying your kid over something that's - in the big scheme of things - relatively unimportant, that's one potential issue. On the other hand, if this is something your son should be able to do with some practice and help, then it's not unreasonable to want to help him get over his fear/resistance/weakness/whatever. For example, if your son gets worked up and his emotion stops him from taking on challenges or improving, then this could be one of those things that's worth following through with even though the somersault itself isn't a big deal.
There are times when I step in to protect my kids from unreasonable expectations or punishment. But there are other times when I side with the tough teacher and let them know this is something they can do - while providing support, help, opportunity, whatever it needs to meet the challenge.
You mentioned in another thread that one of the sons is struggling with weight. Is this that son? Possibly he's dealing with some additional issues of being a little embarrassed about the weight and starting to doubt his abilities? If so, I might lean towards the side of helping him to overcome this challenge so that he doesn't walk away with the lesson that he's incapable of "simple" (what he and the other kids might think) physical activities. Again, who cares if he can do a somersault? Nobody. But you and he will care if the lesson he gets is that he can't do basic physical activities with some practice.
I probably have some bias here, though. I wasn't a heavy kid at all - dangerously skinny. But I wasn't good at any sports, had no coordination, etc. and over years of not doing well in PE at school just internalized the idea that although I wasn't heavy, basic physical fitness wasn't possible for me. It wasn't until I was an adult that I discovered otherwise. Some adults never discover otherwise and that's part of why Americans are having struggles with weight. If you can help him to understand that basic physical activity is possible for him, that would be a huge gift and you'd be helping him on the right track in many things mentally and physically. He is heavy and it's just been the past 3 years or so that he's gained quite a bit. He likes to swim and he likes to bike and now that his younger brother is more self-sufficient and easier to leave with other people, I plan on spending a lot of time with him getting him out hiking and biking, but winters are tough. Emotions definitely take over for him. Man, I thought teenage girls were supposed to be bad, but he takes the cake for drama and blowing things out of proportion sometimes, and sports have always been an issue. We've tried everything trying to find his niche, but have had zero luck. It is harder in the wintertime to get kids who really need exercise outside and involved. It's so much easier when you can find outdoor activities to do as a family. Hopefully, it won't be long now until that's possible (darned groundhog!). How are his eating habits? Maybe you could get him interested in helping you plan meals, or helping you study nutrition and what the different food groups provide. Those are things you could use the computer for so wouldn't have to be outside but would be doing some preparation for more exercise when the weather warms up. I found my daughter, who struggled with her weight (still does), did a lot better when we approached it from a nutrition basis rather than a weight basis and learned together.
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Post by milee on Feb 3, 2014 19:26:41 GMT -5
OK, my guess is this:
"He's 5'3" and 150 pounds and has gone through this same tumbling unit with the same teacher for 6 years now, although I only remember it being traumatizing the past two"
Is related to this: "He is heavy and it's just been the past 3 years or so that he's gained quite a bit."
Doesn't have to be a somersault, but it would be a huge win for him if you can help him have some athletic success and something he likes enough and is able to do year round to help with the weight. The teacher is probably reacting in concern to the weight and is trying to get your son to not give up on things (not justifying what may be over the top behavior, just thinking about why it may be happening.)
And yes, WTH is up with the teen and pre-teen boys?!? My 13 year old can be an emotional drama queen. He's not huge on physical activity, either, and it's been a big part of our family effort to keep him going in physical activities. Sigh.
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Post by Abby Normal on Feb 3, 2014 19:29:25 GMT -5
I can soooo relate. DS just turned 12 and is not quite as big as yours. Though he swims like a fish and plays baseball. But the drama....
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Post by souldoubt on Feb 3, 2014 19:51:19 GMT -5
Tumbling isn't on my resume but I have plenty of bad memories from PE being a short pudgy kid up until I hit a big growth spurt before junior year. Zero period PE had me out there before 7am with 75 or more kids who intended on playing sports freshman year and 2 relentless coaches who didn't want to hear excuses. I was always one of the last ones to finish our beginning run and have memories I'd love to forget. I'm not saying I wouldn't do anything I could for my kids or that any of you are babying yours but eventually whether it's PE, math or lunch period it's just your kid and their classmates. My mom is a great parent and one of the best things she ever did for me was tell me flat out that I needed to stop being so thin skinned. Sooner or later you have to not let things get to you so much because it's like blood in the water to the assholes of the world.
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Post by tskeeter on Feb 3, 2014 20:36:24 GMT -5
I can't do a decent somersault or cartwheel to save my soul and I seem to be doing all right in life. Phys Ed holds a lot of bad memories for me because it was more about humilation/you suck as a human being because you can't do X than actually learning anything. Maybe that's why I can handle posting on YM! I would bring up the teacher has your kid stressed to the point it affects other areas of his life and has him afraid to go to school. What does he propose as a solution? I'd hope you could find a middle ground working together. Phy ed brings bad memories for me too. I'm basically blind in my left eye so anything that required any kind of depth perception I sucked at. So, basically all the team sports like softball, volleyball, kickball. It didn't matter how hard I tried, I'd always be the one getting hit in the head with the ball and losing the game for my team. I never like phy ed either. My athletic ability was pretty much limited to putting one foot in front of the other. Then, I figured out that there are sports that are mostly putting one foot in front of the other. I ended up spending about 10 years racing bicycles. And, with my brother, held the record time for a bicycle relay team crossing MN from the SD border to the Mississippi for many years (253 miles in right around 10 1/4 hours). Hey, we might still hold the record, even today. And I took up downhill skiing. Got good enough to earn some Nastar gold medals. I'm planning to qualify for an old fartz discount on my season pass in a few years. Sports aren't only for the athletically gifted with gazoodles of fast twice muscle fiber. Some times there are other attributes that make successful athletes. Such as the stamina and the capacity to cope with discomfort required of endurance athletes. Or the finesse to carve a turn on a patch of ice. On the other hand, athletics can teach you skills that will help you in the work world. Competing in endurance cycling events taught me to never give up. In one race, a series of missed shifts while climbing a hill in the second mile of a 50 mile race put me far behind the pack. Rather than turning back to the start line, I resigned myself to doing the best I could on my own. After several miles, I came across another rider who had been dropped by the pack. And then another. And a few more. At about 30 miles, I was passing dropped riders left and right. I crossed the finish line 5th of about 80 riders who left the start line. Knowing how to keep grinding when things were going wrong helped me keep going when software development projects were going south. Instead of abandon projects, we ended up with software that the company relied on for decades.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 21:05:49 GMT -5
Biking might be the one hope for us. His Dad and I were both pretty avid bikers and DS seems to enjoy it. The first merit badge he completed for scouts was biking. Part of it was he had to do two 10, two 15, two 25 and one 50 mile ride. He also bought himself a nice new KHS cross bike last summer because he wanted something more for road riding than his Trek mountain bike. He also loves to swim, but won't do competitive. I was making him do soccer every summer just to get him outside, but he's now to the age where they aren't offering just YMCA fun soccer, it's either join the traveling league which he won't do or be done.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 21:15:35 GMT -5
Tumbling isn't on my resume but I have plenty of bad memories from PE being a short pudgy kid up until I hit a big growth spurt before junior year. Zero period PE had me out there before 7am with 75 or more kids who intended on playing sports freshman year and 2 relentless coaches who didn't want to hear excuses. I was always one of the last ones to finish our beginning run and have memories I'd love to forget. I'm not saying I wouldn't do anything I could for my kids or that any of you are babying yours but eventually whether it's PE, math or lunch period it's just your kid and their classmates. My mom is a great parent and one of the best things she ever did for me was tell me flat out that I needed to stop being so thin skinned. Sooner or later you have to not let things get to you so much because it's like blood in the water to the assholes of the world. I don't baby him. If anything, I side with the "other side" more than I should. Whether it be his teachers or the kids in scouts. I tend to tell him to suck it up and deal with it. I have never gone to a teacher and asked them to take it easy on him or called another kid's parent and said they were picking on my son. But, this is different. This is causing stress and anxiety for him that is very extreme. No. It's not rational at all, but I don't want my kid to make headlines for shooting himself over not being able to do a somersault.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 21:19:39 GMT -5
OK, my guess is this:
"He's 5'3" and 150 pounds and has gone through this same tumbling unit with the same teacher for 6 years now, although I only remember it being traumatizing the past two"
Is related to this: "He is heavy and it's just been the past 3 years or so that he's gained quite a bit."
Doesn't have to be a somersault, but it would be a huge win for him if you can help him have some athletic success and something he likes enough and is able to do year round to help with the weight. The teacher is probably reacting in concern to the weight and is trying to get your son to not give up on things (not justifying what may be over the top behavior, just thinking about why it may be happening.)
And yes, WTH is up with the teen and pre-teen boys?!? My 13 year old can be an emotional drama queen. He's not huge on physical activity, either, and it's been a big part of our family effort to keep him going in physical activities. Sigh. He was supposed to start private school this Fall, but now due to all the other crap we had going on that's probably not going to happen. He's a little bummed because he was getting a little excited about starting fresh and new with new kids and a new school for Jr. High. I told him, that him and I could do a boot camp as soon as the weather gets a little nicer and he could be in much better shape come Fall. Come back as a new kid in the same school.
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Post by steff on Feb 3, 2014 21:21:43 GMT -5
P.E. was a nightmare for me. I'm just not athletic in any way shape or form. I wasn't overweight in high school, but I just wasn't into it at all. My freshman year of HS I learned the fine art of losing 3 points a day for dressing, but not participating. My sophomore year, I was one of 3 who mastered the 30 minute mile (4 laps around the track) to get just enough points to pass the class. I had the same P.E. teacher 3 years, so saying "hey I participated this time" actually worked. My Junior year, I was with the group sneaking a smoke while doing the 30 minute mile. The teacher just ignored us by that point. She was more interested in working with her State Champion girls volleyball team. I got my highest P.E. grade ever that year.
I remember when we'd have to play softball, there was a group of us that they always put in the out out out out field. We were damn near off school property we were so far out there. We got more exercise walking back & forth between innings than while playing softball.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 21:24:12 GMT -5
It is harder in the wintertime to get kids who really need exercise outside and involved. It's so much easier when you can find outdoor activities to do as a family. Hopefully, it won't be long now until that's possible (darned groundhog!). How are his eating habits? Maybe you could get him interested in helping you plan meals, or helping you study nutrition and what the different food groups provide. Those are things you could use the computer for so wouldn't have to be outside but would be doing some preparation for more exercise when the weather warms up. I found my daughter, who struggled with her weight (still does), did a lot better when we approached it from a nutrition basis rather than a weight basis and learned together. We need to tackle the eating too. He's all carbs and dairy and is a very picky eater.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 3, 2014 21:43:25 GMT -5
It is harder in the wintertime to get kids who really need exercise outside and involved. It's so much easier when you can find outdoor activities to do as a family. Hopefully, it won't be long now until that's possible (darned groundhog!). How are his eating habits? Maybe you could get him interested in helping you plan meals, or helping you study nutrition and what the different food groups provide. Those are things you could use the computer for so wouldn't have to be outside but would be doing some preparation for more exercise when the weather warms up. I found my daughter, who struggled with her weight (still does), did a lot better when we approached it from a nutrition basis rather than a weight basis and learned together. We need to tackle the eating too. He's all carbs and dairy and is a very picky eater. I imagine this is difficult considering his anxiety issues. What does his therapist say? How about his physician? Somebody should be able to give you some guidelines as to how to proceed, and it should be a professional who actually knows the boy, IMO.
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Post by Apple on Feb 3, 2014 22:04:50 GMT -5
This may or may not help at this point, but when my mom did daycare at the house, I used to teach the kids how to do somersaults by starting off on a hill. It was a lot easier for them to face down an incline and get them started already "tipped". We did backwards somersaults this way too. Once a kid had that down, we'd go to a flat area and try there. Of course, they were younger and we were just having fun, so they weren't being pressured.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 22:43:56 GMT -5
First off, why are 12 year olds doing somersaults in gym class? That seems like something 5 year olds do.
I would talk with the gym teacher and ask him what he's trying to accomplish here. Maybe if left on his own, your son wouldn't really try anything so he's trying to push him into something that he know he SHOULD (and probably could) do in order to boost his confidence.
Yeah, maybe doing a somersault isn't really important, but why is your son afraid (and getting anxiety) over doing one? Why don't you just have him do one at home and show him how its done. When you were describing him, I was assuming he was a lot younger or something. I think a 12 year old probably should be able to do one and it would throw up some red flags if he couldn't.
You can write a lot of things off as not being important in the long run, but maybe there is a bigger issue there.
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Feb 3, 2014 22:50:00 GMT -5
First off, why are 12 year olds doing somersaults in gym class? That seems like something 5 year olds do. Right. Was the kid in question able to do one at age 5? Or 6, 7, 8, or 9? Before the weight issues came into play?
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Post by DVM gone riding on Feb 3, 2014 22:57:43 GMT -5
I am fairly intelligent. Never have I been able to do a cartwheel. Do not think it held me back in life Never could get it down or any of the other things most girls do. I could do summersalts though. And skip--I guess when you are really little that is difficult, my mother made me work on it.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2014 23:04:00 GMT -5
First off, why are 12 year olds doing somersaults in gym class? That seems like something 5 year olds do. I would talk with the gym teacher and ask him what he's trying to accomplish here. Maybe if left on his own, your son wouldn't really try anything so he's trying to push him into something that he know he SHOULD (and probably could) do in order to boost his confidence. Yeah, maybe doing a somersault isn't really important, but why is your son afraid (and getting anxiety) over doing one? Why don't you just have him do one at home and show him how its done. When you were describing him, I was assuming he was a lot younger or something. I think a 12 year old probably should be able to do one and it would throw up some red flags if he couldn't. You can write a lot of things off as not being important in the long run, but maybe there is a bigger issue there. I don't know why they're doing somersaults. It's winter in MN and they're stuck in a small gym, so they have a gymnastics unit. As for why he's having anxiety, it's because last year he just couldn't get it and was kept after everyday and the other kids made fun of him. I TRIED teaching him at home, we worked on it a lot. I can't explain it, but he just doesn't bend that way or something.
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Post by Opti on Feb 4, 2014 4:44:50 GMT -5
Optimist thought thread was about Tumblr. Please PM me if I should care about Tumblr. I agreed to write a blurb about Razoo some social funding website so need to understand that too. Thx. Not current on kids, do they need resumes now too? Tumbling Not tumbling
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Post by Opti on Feb 4, 2014 4:47:28 GMT -5
Twelve years old and adult sized human approximately. Is he in the 90% percentile height & weight, i.e. is he bigger, stronger, taller than average?
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Post by Opti on Feb 4, 2014 4:55:38 GMT -5
FWIW, I'd recommend finding an adult-sized human preferably male or someone he likes that is good at it. Let him watch that person do it and try to imitate. "As for why he's having anxiety, it's because last year he just couldn't get it and was kept after everyday and the other kids made fun of him. I TRIED teaching him at home, we worked on it a lot. I can't explain it, but he just doesn't bend that way or something. " Related but different I really didn't get the connection in swing, style, and mechanics of a golf swing until a fellow techie demonstrated how he saw it. He showed me a baseball swing and then how changing you stance, you swing in a similar motion and viola(sort of) there is the basic golf swing. Golf and Tennis are the official sports of wealthy and connected people. Sports, tumbling, good if your body is inclined to it, but not so necessary. I'd probably have to be reminded how to do a somersault myself, but could do it. I remember cartwheels, because I practiced on our yard which was uneven and had slopes. I have no idea how good of a cartwheel I could do now. It literally would depend on local conditions, i.e. indoor on gym mats or grass. <({Quick, name a RL example where knowing how to do a somersault saves your live or that of someone you love. })]
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Post by Peace77 on Feb 4, 2014 8:11:10 GMT -5
I had a terrible time with the somersault requirement in high school. I'm not sure if I finally succeeded or if the teacher just said so to let it go. No one in my adult life has ever asked to see one, that's for sure.
i would talk to the P.E. Teacher about an alternate activity such as push-ups / sit-ups. If the teacher refuses, have him excused either by his doctor or the principal. He could go to the library or help out in the school office instead of gym class.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2014 8:31:00 GMT -5
Twelve years old and adult sized human approximately. Is he in the 90% percentile height & weight, i.e. is he bigger, stronger, taller than average? Actually, he won't be 12 until July and he's always been the biggest kid in class, even when he was the youngest (classes are combined grades, so even as a 4th grader he was bigger than the 6th graders). Both of my kids were 6 pound babies and were in the 90th percentile by their 2 month appointments. The 3 year old is off the charts. He's already 3'8", but super skinny.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2014 8:46:41 GMT -5
I did write the phy ed teacher an email last night and I copied his regular teacher and the school principal.
I basically just wanted him to know the level of anxiety DS is having over this. I didn't say, I don't want my kid to have to do this unit, but I did request that he not be kept after school for it. I said if it was actually a requirement that he do one of these, that his Dad and I would prefer to work with him ourselves rather than have him stay after. Also, I asked if he would consider some kind of alternative exercise instead.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 4, 2014 8:47:26 GMT -5
Is there anyone close to your family this young man really likes? Anybody he feels super comfortable with? He sounds like he's really scared of any kind of failure (or, what he sees as failure). That's a tough spot to be in because we all make mistakes, and we all fail at some things we try. None of us is a paragon, and mistakes are really good things. They're how we learn new things and how to get along in an adult world. To me, it's not about the somersault, at all. It's about learning to lose as well as to win.
I'd really be tempted to make an appointment and sit down with your son's therapist. Then, do the same with his doctor. Tell each of them you want enough time with them to discuss your son's needs, and some of the problems you're trying to work with. If there's someone in the family the boy really enjoys, that person can be a great mentor for him in a lot of areas, including increasing activities and learning that competition, while it might never be his thing, is something he needs to learn to work with. For some kids, having someone outside the family with whom to work and share is really helpful. My grandson took up with a trainer at the gym my son goes to. That trainer really did a lot for the boy, who was having emotional issues at the time.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2014 8:54:08 GMT -5
He has an appointment with his therapist today at 3 and he always asks before DS goes in if there is anything he and I need to talk about first, so I'm definitely going in this time.
DS really likes this guy and has been doing so much better the past year, but this has been a big setback. I'm kind of worried about the therapist though. He severely broke is leg back in October and the last time I met with him he seemed pretty depressed himself. Hopefully, he was just having a bad day.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 4, 2014 9:16:29 GMT -5
Didn't read the entire thread, just few first posts....
Well....I think it's beyond crazy what is going on. I WAS your son many decades ago. There were VERY few things I was able to do in gym class. I was never very flexible and to be honest, I am not a huge fan of exercising in general. Our gym class was the lowest of the lowest on the totem pole of class hierarchy and I would have been pissed and so would have been my parents if I had to stay after school to practice some stupid exercise.
Fast forward to my real, adult life. I found exercises that I liked. I have never been fat (except after having kids) and have always been very healthy.
While I am all for "not giving up" approach, I think it's beyond stupid to keep spending time on something that 1) a person might not be able to do physically or mentally, 2) it wastes time 3) it teaches nothing and 4) it's a constant reminded that "nope, you STILL can't do that"
I made a statement in another thread that UnderwaterChloe found upsetting (I hope she is not anymore) , but I will say it again - I would be damned if I let a teacher to dictate certain things about my kid.
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 4, 2014 9:29:53 GMT -5
Yeah I can't get over the part about being kept afterschool two hours a day all week to do a somersault. My first though was WFT?!?! I seriously think that PE teacher needs to see a therapist to discuss this because to me he is showing signs of losing his grip on reality when a stupid somersault is becoming this important. MPL my kids are probably the least flixible people in the world. They look like Sheldon Cooper when Penny asked him to touch his toes. They have still managed to live and learn things like tying their shoes, dressing themselves and my DD even learned how to drive.
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Post by Formerly SK on Feb 4, 2014 9:30:37 GMT -5
Personally, as a parent I would look at this situation as an opportunity to teach perseverance and grit. My dd at age 5 couldn't do a somersault. She was in gymnastics 2x/wk and everyone was already well ahead of her but she just couldn't do it. Coaches worked with her, etc and nope...couldn't do it. Finally I said we would practice at home - she'd try 20x each night with my help until she got it. I talked with the coaches to get pointers and there are youtube videos out as well. It took maybe 5-10 minutes each night to practice, and within two weeks she got it. She just couldn't figure out how to curl her torso and roll. Ironically, she was invited to join team in gymnastics about six months later. I think the important lesson in situations like this is that if something is difficult for a kid, it just means they need to practice at it more and that THERE IS NOTHING EMBARRASSING ABOUT THAT. Practicing with a loving/patient parent in the privacy of the home helps not only to learn the skill, but teaches the kid that the parent is on their side and they are not alone as they face the world's challenges. There are all sorts of things kids will have to do for school that many of us never use as adults and it is easy to just discount the importance of those things. But personally, I think those little challenges matter because they prepare kids for handling bigger challenges later. Honestly, it sounds like your DS could use a win in his pocket about now - it may help his anxiety tremendously if he could learn to somersault. Talk about overcoming an obstacle!! I would do everything I can to diffuse the emotions of the situation so it doesn't dominate his day. Then just spend 10 minutes a night working on it in a fun/light manner. No pressure. It's very hard to learn when there's pressure. Watch youtube videos, google for tips. Unless there is physical impediment, he should be able to eventually get it and he'll be so proud of himself for doing it. You could even keep his new success a secret and the next time there's a tumbling unit at school have him immediately do 10 somersaults in front of the coach so the coach's jaw can drop in amazement. How fun would that be?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 4, 2014 9:34:25 GMT -5
So is there anybody out there that LIKED Phys Ed?
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