sarcasticgirl
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jan 24, 2014 19:01:40 GMT -5
Recently I just lost it and told him that his job isn't that important... he's not saving lives... he isn't bettering the world. his job is a job and it is absolutely not worth all this stress and misery he is putting himself through. of course nothing I do or say makes a difference. Wow, you just doubled his stress. I explained what I actually said- which was less harsh. But I admit it was an extreme. Though oddly DH agreed. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 24, 2014 19:03:57 GMT -5
I retired. I miss the kids, my paycheck and bennies, and the sense of belonging. I had something to do everyday. I do not miss the sleepless nights, the depression, the stress and not eating-good for weight control though-and my dept head and principal. When I started there it was all good. By the time I left, I had one foot in the grave.
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bookkeeper
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Post by bookkeeper on Jan 25, 2014 15:42:36 GMT -5
Will your DH meditate, focus quietly or pray to his god? In this electronic world we live in, many people feel overwhelmed by the constant contact on phone, email, facebook, etc. Often times we simply need to unplug and count our blessings for 10 minutes before we move on. It's kind of like a mental coffee break. Employers want you to take your 15 minute break because it is proven you are more productive with a short time off. In the same manner, our minds process information better when we stop and focus (and hopefully relax) with some deep breathing exercises.
Does your husband spend any time outside, getting fresh air and sunshine on his face?
Does he have a coworker to confide in, or someone with a similar job he can bounce ideas off of? I am a believer in talk therapy.
I feel your pain OP. My DH finally decided his career stress was not worth his health a few years ago. Most of the stuff he stressed over were things and people he could not change anyway. Eventually he came to grips with the fact that he couldn't fix these things that were bothering him, all he could do was work around it and improve the way he reacted to things.
The foods you eat and the amount of sleep you get will play a large part in how your body reacts to stress. Try to eat healthy food and go to bed a half hour early for a week straight. You may see an improvement. Good Luck.
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grits
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Post by grits on Jan 25, 2014 21:29:55 GMT -5
Music helps me. Not only do I listen to it, I make it. I whistle while I'm at work, and away from coworkers. I pet dogs, and talk to people. Sometimes, old people and children can give you a lift. This morning, I was really stressed, and I petted my favorite dog for a while. I felt more at peace, and happier.
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msventoux
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Post by msventoux on Jan 25, 2014 21:40:31 GMT -5
I haven't dealt with it well in the past. I'm at the point now where I'm starting to not care so much. I'll do what I can do and let the rest go. If the work product suffers due to some coworkers, so be it. If management wants me to spend more time reviewing their work to keep standards up and I can't get to the other stuff I need to get to, so be it.
I'm kind of feeling like I can change my situation, change my reactions to the situation, or change my location. I've tried changing the situation by pointing out where the inefficiencies and problems are and nothing has changed. I'm now working on changing my reaction to the situation by really not caring all that much. If that doesn't work, I'll find a different job.
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Shooby
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Post by Shooby on Jan 25, 2014 23:05:57 GMT -5
I try to just keep things in perspective. You change what you can change and what you can't don't worry about.
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