milee
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Post by milee on Oct 15, 2014 10:05:25 GMT -5
Apparently, the boy had been making sweeping brags to his classmates at school on how he can bring in his gun and shoot anyone who does not listen to him.
Around here, those sort of statements have gotten kids expelled. (Not saying I agree with that approach - just using it to illustrate how seriously most school systems take statements like that.)
Wow - thanks for the update. As awful as the situation was before, it's really very positive that not only is the school working with the parents instead of just turfing the kid, but even better it seems like the parents have finally woken up and realized some limits are needed. Sounds like the parents are setting reasonable limits and being consistent. That's very encouraging and hopefully the entire family will benefit.
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Post by swasat on Oct 15, 2014 11:03:42 GMT -5
Apparently, the boy had been making sweeping brags to his classmates at school on how he can bring in his gun and shoot anyone who does not listen to him.
Around here, those sort of statements have gotten kids expelled. (Not saying I agree with that approach - just using it to illustrate how seriously most school systems take statements like that.)
Wow - thanks for the update. As awful as the situation was before, it's really very positive that not only is the school working with the parents instead of just turfing the kid, but even better it seems like the parents have finally woken up and realized some limits are needed. Sounds like the parents are setting reasonable limits and being consistent. That's very encouraging and hopefully the entire family will benefit.
milee, thats what I like about how the school is handling it. If the school district WARDEN gets involved, you can bet its something very serious. The kid was around 9.5yo when the school got involved. this is just a guess on my part, but I think the school counsellor probably figured out pretty quick that parents are severley lacking in disciplining the kids. Ours is quite the upscale area. Most of the parents here are very involved with their children. So if a case like this happens, I guess its comes more to notice. There were multiple talks with the parents where, I guess again, more came to notice. Anyway, pretty glad the parents had a wake up call.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 15, 2014 13:23:02 GMT -5
When it starts to inconvenience them is when parents like this get involved. Now that part of DFs former family is excluded from fun because of their lax parenting, they are now trying to undo 2 years of him running wild. Good luck to them.
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Post by happyhoix on Oct 15, 2014 14:39:45 GMT -5
I don't know if that's related to being upscale or not.
One of the most wild kids I knew had very upscale parents - a dentist and a scientist with a masters in plant biology.
Their son and ours were about four weeks apart in age and went to the same daycare. For a while they were best buddies. The dad's parenting technique was to ignore the kid entirely. Mom read some book about how you shouldn't tell your kid no because it hurts their self esteem. You can see where this is going.
Mom thought his shit didn't stink and that he was a genius. Pushed to get him to skip kindergarden because he was so much more brilliant than the other kids. Kid jumped out of my son's bunk bed, grabbed onto the ceiling fan, snapped off a blade, then casually carried it downstairs and handed it to me, explaining he'd broken it. Apparently in his household, he didn't get in trouble for destroying shit, because he was so brilliant.
For a while the parents started dumping the kid with us at every opportunity, because Dad was in a garage band and Mom decided to take up modern dance, and besides, weren't we just thrilled to have their genius play with our ordinary boy? When the kid was six he decided he wanted to stay up all night while visiting us - that was the last time he was invited over. They moved not long after and I always wondered what happened to him.
Perfectly intelligent and well to do parents, but both were too occupied with their own friends and hobbies to pay much attention to their kid, and it was just easier to let him have his way all the time then enforce any kind of rules with him.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 15, 2014 14:56:11 GMT -5
I agree Happy. My BIL's family is very solidly upper middle class but their kids are out of control, especially their son.
He was destroying the church once during a supper, DH looked at his brother and asked are you going to do something about your kid? BIL shrugged and said there is no stopping the kid. DH was thinking "umm. .yes there is. .. beat his ass".
The kid is also insanely disrespectful to everyone.
The parents' solution is to their kid on MIL any chance they get. One time we were down there the kid was so naughty I told DH I was concerned his mother might kill a kid.
They are totally oblivious parents, they have no clue that nobody wants to be around their kids. We try to avoid having Gwen around them b/c their behavior rubs off on her.
I think one day their son will mouth off to the wrong person and get his ass kicked. It's only a matter of time.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 15, 2014 15:32:37 GMT -5
You are not going to like my answer, but I wouldn't let my kids be friends with them. Or....I would only allow them to hang out at our house. I wouldn't allow them to go to the friends' house at all. That's pretty much what I'd do. Either end the friendship entirely or ensure that they only hang out at your house or some public place. No going over to their friends house.
The gun thing would do it for me. The rest I probably wouldn't restrict. It's other peoples' business how to raise their kids.
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Post by Firebird on Oct 15, 2014 16:29:00 GMT -5
Around here, those sort of statements have gotten kids expelled. Personally, the statement about shooting kids at school is 1,000,000,000x more worrying to me than the video game thing. He did not learn that from video games, I don't care what he says. I'm glad the parents seem to be taking this seriously. I didn't see the original thread so I got the update in real time
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