Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 6, 2013 13:38:24 GMT -5
It's not like the inattentive type draws attention to itself like the hyperactive kind does. You can't miss the kid who can't be still but the one sitting quietly over there, staring out the window? That's easier to not notice.
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jeep108
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Post by jeep108 on Sept 6, 2013 13:45:38 GMT -5
True.
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violagirl
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Post by violagirl on Sept 7, 2013 6:44:18 GMT -5
jeep108 - I had a good friend who wasn't diagnosed until he was in his early 20s and in danger of flunking out of college. The change in him, once he was diagnoses and given proper medication, was amazing.
My cousin was in second year of university before he was diagnosed with dyslexia. His professors couldn't figure out why he was failing all the exams, when he obviously knew the subjects well. That he managed to get that far without a diagnosis to me means he is wicked smart. He just finished his PHD and is working with kids with learning disabilities.
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raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 7, 2013 7:37:44 GMT -5
Everybody's kids, husband and family are different, so our hills are unique. In our house, hand washing is important for a few reasons - the kids and I have asthma so preventing any illness that could turn severe is good; I'm trying to teach them basic life skills so they'll be socially acceptable adults not the guy who grosses out his co-workers in 20 years; we're touchy-feely so I know darn good and well those germy, poopy hands are going to be hugging me soon; and - OK, I'm turning a little green at this one - the youngest likes to cook and is usually involved in meal prep. So hand washing is a reasonably strategic hill in our house. Not necessarily one to die on, but one that's worth protecting. As for the diet, sigh. Very complicated. DH is, for the most part, a good dad. He not only loves his boys but is willing to put in time with them. Although he doesn't do much of the drudge care, he will help with homework and do activities so he's involved. Since he's involved, it's reasonable that he gets input into the parenting decisions. He is also very passive-aggressive and feels that GF, food sensitivities, etc. fall into the "hoodoo" "witch doctor" realm. Instead of being comfortable discussing that with me, he makes snide comments and then takes them out to eat pastry. Do I like it? No. But I'm not the only parent and I'm also not egotistical enough to think I'm always 100% right and should have 100% control. To prevail on that particular hill would involve not only a protracted and bloody battle, it would mean giving up his involvement with the boys. At this time, that is IMHO too high a price to pay to control that hill. I agree that your Dh gets a vote on the kids diet. But the passive aggressive comments are bs and need to stop especially if they are around the kids. You aren't trying a fad diet. You were diagnosed by a doctor because of repeated health issues and your Dh needs to support you. He can take the kids for treats without making it into a big deal.
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milee
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Post by milee on Sept 7, 2013 7:45:51 GMT -5
You're preaching to the choir, sister.
Unfortunately the pastry isn't a treat, it's a message.
I try to pick my battles wisely and this is one I cannot win. Right now, I'm making the choice not to fight it, which is very difficult.
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chiver78
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 7, 2013 8:33:47 GMT -5
jeep108 - I had a good friend who wasn't diagnosed until he was in his early 20s and in danger of flunking out of college. The change in him, once he was diagnoses and given proper medication, was amazing.
My cousin was in second year of university before he was diagnosed with dyslexia. His professors couldn't figure out why he was failing all the exams, when he obviously knew the subjects well. That he managed to get that far without a diagnosis to me means he is wicked smart. He just finished his PHD and is working with kids with learning disabilities. my sis teaches at a private boarding HS that accepts ONLY children with learning disabilities. her kids are incredibly intelligent, they just need a little extra support in different ways than the average kid. once they get it, most of them flourish quite well. most go on to 4-year colleges, some have opted to come back to the school as faculty.
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raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 7, 2013 8:43:36 GMT -5
Oh Milee-that sucks. I get choosing to ignore it for a time, but please don't let it go on too long. Time just doesn't usually ime make those issues easier to address.
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milee
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Post by milee on Sept 7, 2013 9:57:11 GMT -5
Yep, we're all GF at home - have been for about a year - they just don't know it. Hey, if I'm the one that has to do all the shopping and cooking, I get to choose the menu. I suspect even though we haven't discussed it that DH has figured out we're all GF at home and that this is part of the issue. He is very sensitive about the idea that others might try to control him. It's complicated. I'm trying to do the best I can with the situation and it would derail the thread more than I already have to go into it. Plus, honestly, I'm sad and don't think I'm ready to talk about it. I survive tough things by compartmentalizing and ignoring.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Sept 7, 2013 10:02:04 GMT -5
How are you feeling since you went gluten free? and would you like me to come down and smack your husband for you?
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milee
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Post by milee on Sept 7, 2013 10:13:43 GMT -5
I feel much better since going gluten free. Without getting too graphic, I don't think I have celiac, but there is definitely a sensitivity there. On the few times I've eaten gluten, some of the old um, issues return and it's obvious. Guess my system wants to quickly eliminate something it doesn't deal with very well.
No need to smack the husband. I chose him and am trying to make it work. It's not like I don't have other options, just that - considering all the different factors - this is the best option for my family right now, even though it has some drawbacks.
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swamp
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THEY’RE EATING THE DOGS!!!!!!!
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Post by swamp on Sept 7, 2013 10:27:38 GMT -5
I'm glad you're feeling better. And let time know when he does need a smack.
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milee
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Post by milee on Sept 7, 2013 11:25:21 GMT -5
Here's to Denial.... it ain't just a river in Egypt. (And for those that are worried that it's unhealthy compartmentalization or denial, a therapist once told me that these are pretty good tools for dealing with things as long as you're keeping things in perspective and prioritizing, not just stuffing them away without consideration.)
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