Nazgul Girl
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 17, 2013 15:13:00 GMT -5
Because, WhoisJohnGalt, her boss will take it out of her hide if she tells her something like that. She'll get a lousy eval and probably no raise. She has a legitimate answer such as you state above, but her boss is already *knows* she's not supposed to be contacting her outside of work hours. Her boss is a bit of a psychopath/bully, right ?
Life isn't always so simple as we want to believe. However, go ahead and believe. So much drama indeed.
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swamp
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THEY’RE EATING THE DOGS!!!!!!!
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Post by swamp on Aug 17, 2013 15:21:25 GMT -5
How do you change it if the yeller is just an asshole? Not everyone responds to logical and professional talks.
And I disagree that leaving doesn't teach people anything. If you keep losing support staff after one of your tirades, it might be more eye ope ing than the person saying "don't treat me like that".
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 17, 2013 16:27:17 GMT -5
How do you change it if the yeller is just an asshole? Not everyone responds to logical and professional talks. And I disagree that leaving doesn't teach people anything. If you keep losing support staff after one of your tirades, it might be more eye ope ing than the person saying "don't treat me like that". In my case, the firm knew she was an asshole but she was a rainmaker (she wasn't an ass with clients or potential clients). She was valuable to the firm and she knew it. They sent her to management training but she wasn't the person who was going to change her ways. Most young staff took it, got their time in and then left with enough experience. I chose not to take it but talking to her would be a waste of time. Instead I quit. I didn't realize how valuable I was to the firm until the managing partner asked me to stay with the promise that I would never work for her again. Which proves that everyone knew she was an asshole but she was too valuable in billings for anyone to care. Not sure what I should have done differently....getting screamed at is never an option
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 17, 2013 16:55:23 GMT -5
Stay, address it, change it - if it bothers you. It just never bothered me, so I never did any of those things.
I did tell my boss who yelled at me that she should consider stopping it, bc while she can yell at me all she wants, next time she might yell at someone who will file a complaint against her. I actually told that just bc I didn't care, doesn't mean others won't.
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 17, 2013 16:59:52 GMT -5
How do you change it if the yeller is just an asshole? Not everyone responds to logical and professional talks. And I disagree that leaving doesn't teach people anything. If you keep losing support staff after one of your tirades, it might be more eye ope ing than the person saying "don't treat me like that". That's very true. In my work experience I've never seen that happen, though. I've never seen a boss being demoted/fired for being an ass. Then again, I worked for some shitty companies (shitty in a sense of how they treated people). I don't know....while I always took seriously how I did my job, I never took seriously the "people" side of it. On a flip side, I probably didn't get promoted as much bc of that either.
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 17, 2013 17:28:32 GMT -5
Stay, address it, change it - if it bothers you. It just never bothered me, so I never did any of those things. I did tell my boss who yelled at me that she should consider stopping it, bc while she can yell at me all she wants, next time she might yell at someone who will file a complaint against her. I actually told that just bc I didn't care, doesn't mean others won't. Address it?? They knew she was an ass...nothing I said or did was going to change who she was. I don't have the personality to have some asshole scream at me. If I had t resigned and then was promised to never have to work for her again, I would have had to put up with years of getting yelled at.
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