taz157
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Post by taz157 on Apr 8, 2021 21:44:53 GMT -5
Dear FIL,
Are you trying to alienate yourself from your son/my DH? Over the weekend, DH tried to end your conversation on common ground and you said "you won't discuss X" when you had discussed X off-and-on the entire fucking time at some point (because I heard it with my own ears and you didn't know that at the time). That was the point that DH decided it was time to get space and ended up going home in the end. That lead to other decisions that DH apologize to me about, but really!?! You tried to talk to me about it and I shut you down immediately because I didn't want to hear it from you. I knew you'd try to paint DH in a bad light and I know you. You will spin it to make DH the bad guy. DH told me about the conversation a few days later (and in a better mindset), but it's the same shit you've pulled over the years. You only do it to your kids and you've also managed to piss of a SisIL too. I know your 86 but words have meaning, and you aren't display any other medical issues that would give us cause. Keeping this shit up and you may find we don't visit nearly as often. MIL won't like that, but it's not right to subject DH directly to it and us indirectly. You kept asking me why he won't visit much last year or the year before, this was part of it. (The other part is your house is freaking hot and that's say something if I say it.)
PS - I know my DH isn't an angel, but this shit needs to end. DH has noticed it with him over the past 20 years and it's getting ridiculous. They want us to visit but if this is how it turns out, we don't want to go.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Apr 8, 2021 22:16:05 GMT -5
After handing me the owners manual, the woman is screaming at me and threw a $20 bill and five ones at my face.
Shortly she has two hands full of rocks threatening to break our windshield if we didn't get off her property as we get into our car.
The accusation of entering her house and taking $100 off her counter as well as theft of her barbecue grill.
To see what was going on, the across the street neighbor walked over as JD backed out of her driveway. The sound of the grill rolling across the rocks would attract attention. Through the rolled down window he said he paid her. She would find the $100 in her house.
Where this encounter began was an ad on marketplace for a $125 Weber grill just over a year old that JD had messaged on FB before 8:00 a.m. She would message him back when she got off work at 5:00 p.m. with the address. Address in his phone and we drive there. She's nice and friendly until getting the owners manuals then she goes berserk. We drive home. He unloads the grill, 2 propane bottles, grills tools and cover. A great deal! With a side of insanity.
Lo and behold, he gets messenger receipt at 6:13 p.m. for the $125.
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Post by seriousthistime on Apr 28, 2021 7:47:54 GMT -5
Dear BusyBodies,
To the male BusyBody who screamed at me a month ago that a partially-fenced strip of land between the sidewalk and the street was private property and I was trespassing by walking my dog in that area, you are wrong; it is city property. If it's private property, the area will be fully gated, locked, and inaccessible to passers-by.
To the female BusyBody who pointedly told me that a similar strip of land was chemically treated so I shouldn't walk my dog there and implied I had no common sense, the "chemically treated" signs are posted on a completely fenced-off area that is NOT where I was walking my dog.
To both of them: unlike you two BusyBodies, I always pick up after my dog. And no, I will not point out to you that the signs say to pick up after your dogs. I figure you can read the signs and draw appropriate conclusions.
But I will not argue with you face to face, especially after dark. Hard to know who is mentally stable here in this congested city, and who is not.
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Post by ners on Apr 28, 2021 10:37:52 GMT -5
Dear HR Manager really you wait until 2 hours before I have to finalize payroll to tell me you need to change someone pay and you are currentliy in a meeting.
Frustrated Payroll Manager
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Post by azucena on Apr 29, 2021 20:04:21 GMT -5
Dear kiddos -
I told you at pickup that I had my third rotten workday in a row after you each bit my head off about school problems. Explicitly said one more thing and I'm likely to cry on the drive home.
Dd12 after you offer to make dinner, it doesn't help anyone if you scream about not wanting to pull the food out of the oven. Asking for help would be much better, mmmkay?
DH - I gave you the details about my workday shitshow. Yet when I went to watch a comedy instead of killing anyone and the tv didn't work, you huffed that you were busy when I asked for your tech help. Sweetie, FB doesn't make you busy. Then you had the nerve to ask if I had been to therapy lately. Um, yes, just today in fact which you should know because my appt is also on your calendar. Probably not your best timing.
Tread carefully mi familia. I'm hiding in the basement drinking so don't bother to find me.
- one tired senior executive mama
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Post by ners on Apr 29, 2021 20:13:26 GMT -5
azucena Hope you can hide for as many hours as you need.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 29, 2021 20:51:01 GMT -5
Dear sister (again)
You are a bully. You will not bully your way in to telling me how I should do genealogy research and scan photos.
I have a plan and I will follow the plan. I have paid for scanners and the subscription to Ancestry. You have not offered to help pay for things or do anything You just want my research. At this rate, you may never get it.
And, no. I've taken enough classes on scanning photos that what you want to do will not happen.
Signed,
Pissed off again
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Post by wvugurl26 on Apr 29, 2021 21:17:59 GMT -5
Sorry azucena. I hope they stay away for a few hours.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Apr 30, 2021 19:14:47 GMT -5
Dear kiddos - I told you at pickup that I had my third rotten workday in a row after you each bit my head off about school problems. Explicitly said one more thing and I'm likely to cry on the drive home. Dd12 after you offer to make dinner, it doesn't help anyone if you scream about not wanting to pull the food out of the oven. Asking for help would be much better, mmmkay? DH - I gave you the details about my workday shitshow. Yet when I went to watch a comedy instead of killing anyone and the tv didn't work, you huffed that you were busy when I asked for your tech help. Sweetie, FB doesn't make you busy. Then you had the nerve to ask if I had been to therapy lately. Um, yes, just today in fact which you should know because my appt is also on your calendar. Probably not your best timing. Tread carefully mi familia. I'm hiding in the basement drinking so don't bother to find me. - one tired senior executive mama Feel free to use the empties as a weapon if they DO bother you.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Apr 30, 2021 19:16:56 GMT -5
Dear sister (again) You are a bully. You will not bully your way in to telling me how I should do genealogy research and scan photos. I have a plan and I will follow the plan. I have paid for scanners and the subscription to Ancestry. You have not offered to help pay for things or do anything You just want my research. At this rate, you may never get it. And, no. I've taken enough classes on scanning photos that what you want to do will not happen. Signed, Pissed off again Tell your sister that you have enough knowledge to remove her rotten branch from the family tree - permanently - if she annoys you again. She sounds like a lazy grifter who wants to brag off of someone else's hard work.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 30, 2021 19:25:08 GMT -5
Dear sister (again) You are a bully. You will not bully your way in to telling me how I should do genealogy research and scan photos. I have a plan and I will follow the plan. I have paid for scanners and the subscription to Ancestry. You have not offered to help pay for things or do anything You just want my research. At this rate, you may never get it. And, no. I've taken enough classes on scanning photos that what you want to do will not happen. Signed, Pissed off again Tell your sister that you have enough knowledge to remove her rotten branch from the family tree - permanently - if she annoys you again. She sounds like a lazy grifter who wants to brag off of someone else's hard work. You made me laugh! As soon as she gives me two framed photographs she promised me (and says she gave me), I'm done with you again. I'm very happy that my many visits since DN1, wife and baby are visiting have sent you to your sewing room. It's made things much better for my favorite nephew and me.
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 30, 2021 19:49:16 GMT -5
Tell your sister that you have enough knowledge to remove her rotten branch from the family tree - permanently - if she annoys you again. She sounds like a lazy grifter who wants to brag off of someone else's hard work. You made me laugh! As soon as she gives me two framed photographs she promised me (and says she gave me), I'm done with you again. I'm very happy that my many visits since DN1, wife and baby are visiting have sent you to your sewing room. It's made things much better for my favorite nephew and me. I don't know if you watch the show Finding Your Roots on PBS. One of my favorite shows to watch as it can be interesting. This past Tuesday's show had Broadway's Audra McDonald and Mandy Patinkin discovering their ancestral roots. Sometimes at the end of each week's show the host (Henry Louis Gates Jr.) will surprise one of the guests with the fact they are distantly related through DNA to another guest who had previously been on the show. This time it was McDonald's turn to be surprised. Gates told McDonald to turn to the last page of the book presented to her to see whom she was related to. McDonald turned the page and started hysterically laughing. While laughing she blurted out "I kissed my cousin?" The celebrity she was distantly related to was Sean Ditty Combs. McDonald had played Comb's wife in the 2004 broadway musical A Raisin In The Sun and the 2008 film of the same name. It was fun to watch her reaction to the discovery.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 1, 2021 7:35:38 GMT -5
That is a show I never miss. He is so good and he has lots of interesting guests.
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Post by Tennesseer on May 1, 2021 9:18:32 GMT -5
You made me laugh! As soon as she gives me two framed photographs she promised me (and says she gave me), I'm done with you again. I'm very happy that my many visits since DN1, wife and baby are visiting have sent you to your sewing room. It's made things much better for my favorite nephew and me. I don't know if you watch the show Finding Your Roots on PBS. One of my favorite shows to watch as it can be interesting. This past Tuesday's show had Broadway's Audra McDonald and Mandy Patinkin discovering their ancestral roots. Sometimes at the end of each week's show the host (Henry Louis Gates Jr.) will surprise one of the guests with the fact they are distantly related through DNA to another guest who had previously been on the show. This time it was McDonald's turn to be surprised. Gates told McDonald to turn to the last page of the book presented to her to see whom she was related to. McDonald turned the page and started hysterically laughing. While laughing she blurted out "I kissed my cousin?" The celebrity she was distantly related to was Sean Ditty Combs. McDonald had played Comb's wife in the 2004 broadway musical A Raisin In The Sun and the 2008 film of the same name. It was fun to watch her reaction to the discovery.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 4, 2021 7:58:33 GMT -5
Dear sister (again) You are a bully. You will not bully your way in to telling me how I should do genealogy research and scan photos. I have a plan and I will follow the plan. I have paid for scanners and the subscription to Ancestry. You have not offered to help pay for things or do anything You just want my research. At this rate, you may never get it. And, no. I've taken enough classes on scanning photos that what you want to do will not happen. Signed, Pissed off again I got my response to her during the class I took on Saturday. The well known genealogist said that since he has made all the monetary investments and does all of the work, if somebody wants the pictures, he gives them to them the way they are after scanning and tells them well they can buy archival quality albums. He also said it's your project, so you do it on your timeline. People who have never done this don't understand the time involved. He said he prints the photos that are important to him and hangs them on his walls to remember why he does this. I had already planned on doing that. So that is what will happen. When Ancestry expires in January, I will not renew it and scan for a while because I will be far along in my research and want a break from Ancestry.
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Post by imanangel on May 4, 2021 12:46:46 GMT -5
Dear Maryland, WTF is wrong with your roads and drivers?!? The roads in this city does not make any sense. The drivers are rude and do not want to stop for pedestrians, and block intersections. Thankfully I am back home and can now drink several glasses of wine to calm my nerves.
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Post by seriousthistime on May 4, 2021 17:11:12 GMT -5
Dear sister (again) You are a bully. You will not bully your way in to telling me how I should do genealogy research and scan photos. I have a plan and I will follow the plan. I have paid for scanners and the subscription to Ancestry. You have not offered to help pay for things or do anything You just want my research. At this rate, you may never get it. And, no. I've taken enough classes on scanning photos that what you want to do will not happen. Signed, Pissed off again I got my response to her during the class I took on Saturday. The well known genealogist said that since he has made all the monetary investments and does all of the work, if somebody wants the pictures, he gives them to them the way they are after scanning and tells them well they can buy archival quality albums. He also said it's your project, so you do it on your timeline. People who have never done this don't understand the time involved. He said he prints the photos that are important to him and hangs them on his walls to remember why he does this. I had already planned on doing that. So that is what will happen. When Ancestry expires in January, I will not renew it and scan for a while because I will be far along in my research and want a break from Ancestry. If I'm asking for proprietary information, please just say you can't tell me. I'm curious to know what type of scanner you'd recommend for scanning old photos of various sizes. That's a project I need to work on, once I get home. It's not for genealogy research or anything like that. I just have some old photos that various family members have lent me to scan for myself.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 4, 2021 18:19:54 GMT -5
The quickest one I found is a Plustek scanner. You can individually scan about 50 photos at a time and then need a new folder.
It's not considered a genealogy quality scanner, but I've used it a lot.
The photos run through the scanner so it's pretty fast. If the photos are larger than 8 x 10, can't be done with that scanner. Also the ones that are stiff, like on cardboard.
Hope that helps.
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Post by daisylu on May 5, 2021 14:30:20 GMT -5
Dear Maryland, WTF is wrong with your roads and drivers?!? The roads in this city does not make any sense. The drivers are rude and do not want to stop for pedestrians, and block intersections. Thankfully I am back home and can now drink several glasses of wine to calm my nerves. That is where I learned to drive. Now when my country boy DH needs to travel I do the driving.
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Post by snapdragon on May 5, 2021 16:23:59 GMT -5
May 5th -- Note to self --- Don't have a early lunch of Mexican food that was too good....still full several hours later.
Snap~
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 16, 2021 14:30:53 GMT -5
Dear clueless neighbors, Next time, hire a handyman who is actually handy. The dude who brought your three closet doors outside to spray paint never thought about that one simple thing called a drop cloth ... just lined 'em up on your driveway and sprayed away. Now, there are three rectangular outlines in bright white on your tan concrete driveway. And you sent your 12-year-old out with a soap and water-based power washer to get oil-based paint off the driveway? Poor kid. At this point, you either have to 1) try removing the paint with a solvent designed for the purpose; 2) paint the driveway white to match the outlines; 3) give up and consider it an art installation or 4) explain to people that the doors died and those are the police-drawn outlines.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2021 16:58:17 GMT -5
Damn it. Bank turned my credit card off again probably as a fraud prevention measure and did not call me at work like I asked. Of course I found out at the self check out which only takes electronic payment and I did not have enough cash on me for all of it. I hope its a legit bad charge this time. They are only open during work hours until Friday. I was planning to order skinny pig food as I am out of pellets and apparently the price online is considerably cheaper than in store. Crap. Damn it.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2021 17:16:04 GMT -5
I wonder if their ears were burning. Just got an automated call and had to dig for receipts to verify. So hopefully that means I can order skinny pig food for p/u tomorrow.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on May 17, 2021 17:43:08 GMT -5
Dear Maryland, WTF is wrong with your roads and drivers?!? The roads in this city does not make any sense. The drivers are rude and do not want to stop for pedestrians, and block intersections. Thankfully I am back home and can now drink several glasses of wine to calm my nerves. That is where I learned to drive. Now when my country boy DH needs to travel I do the driving. You sure you weren't driving in Boston?
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2021 18:44:28 GMT -5
That is where I learned to drive. Now when my country boy DH needs to travel I do the driving. You sure you weren't driving in Boston? Boston is special. Its the only place I've seen drivers do what I call death left hand turns. You just throw your car across traffic lanes and expect no one will crash into your car and kill you, then when traffic stops, you make the left. Scary. NJ is special, but less so. I think in Boston they also practice the 'if you don't think I see you, you won't cut in front of me,' etc. (The I see nothing technique.)
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2021 18:47:56 GMT -5
Dear clueless neighbors, Next time, hire a handyman who is actually handy. The dude who brought your three closet doors outside to spray paint never thought about that one simple thing called a drop cloth ... just lined 'em up on your driveway and sprayed away. Now, there are three rectangular outlines in bright white on your tan concrete driveway. And you sent your 12-year-old out with a soap and water-based power washer to get oil-based paint off the driveway? Poor kid. At this point, you either have to 1) try removing the paint with a solvent designed for the purpose; 2) paint the driveway white to match the outlines; 3) give up and consider it an art installation or 4) explain to people that the doors died and those are the police-drawn outlines.
Maybe they can draw stick people inside the outlines and put RIP on top? In our complex some people just spray paint on the grass or if they are feeling neighborly they put newspaper down first. I wonder why they even used a handyman if that's what he did unless they didn't want to take the closet doors off?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 21, 2021 19:08:01 GMT -5
Dear clueless neighbors, Next time, hire a handyman who is actually handy. The dude who brought your three closet doors outside to spray paint never thought about that one simple thing called a drop cloth ... just lined 'em up on your driveway and sprayed away. Now, there are three rectangular outlines in bright white on your tan concrete driveway. And you sent your 12-year-old out with a soap and water-based power washer to get oil-based paint off the driveway? Poor kid. At this point, you either have to 1) try removing the paint with a solvent designed for the purpose; 2) paint the driveway white to match the outlines; 3) give up and consider it an art installation or 4) explain to people that the doors died and those are the police-drawn outlines.
Maybe they can draw stick people inside the outlines and put RIP on top? In our complex some people just spray paint on the grass or if they are feeling neighborly they put newspaper down first. I wonder why they even used a handyman if that's what he did unless they didn't want to take the closet doors off? The neighbors are nice, but useless when it comes to anything to do with home fixes. The husband installed a French drain alongside his driveway to prevent it from flooding. He managed to make the problem worse for him -- but our driveway drains better now. Go figure.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on May 24, 2021 13:33:50 GMT -5
Dear client, No, it wasn't me who added "it" to your policy. No, it wasn't me who increased your premium by $300. No, I don't appreciate you blindsiding me with a call to our home office who then conferenced me in. Signed, Take your terse, accusatory tone where the sun don't shine
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Post by Opti on May 24, 2021 20:35:44 GMT -5
Maybe they can draw stick people inside the outlines and put RIP on top? In our complex some people just spray paint on the grass or if they are feeling neighborly they put newspaper down first. I wonder why they even used a handyman if that's what he did unless they didn't want to take the closet doors off? The neighbors are nice, but useless when it comes to anything to do with home fixes. The husband installed a French drain alongside his driveway to prevent it from flooding. He managed to make the problem worse for him -- but our driveway drains better now. Go figure. A french drain for a driveway. I've never seen such a thing. Do other people do that successfully by you?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 29, 2021 9:54:15 GMT -5
The neighbors are nice, but useless when it comes to anything to do with home fixes. The husband installed a French drain alongside his driveway to prevent it from flooding. He managed to make the problem worse for him -- but our driveway drains better now. Go figure. A french drain for a driveway. I've never seen such a thing. Do other people do that successfully by you? Well, sure. Not this time, though. And speaking of fixing things...new fence going up this morning. Not done by the homeowner. Actually being done right. Not the prettiest fence, but necessary because they have a pool, and it is what it is because of the wood shortage. Took over a month to get the wood and get the guys here to do it.
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