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Post by tractor on Jun 14, 2013 10:47:58 GMT -5
OK, this is not a spiritual thread. After reading so many posts about those going through great grief lately, I thought I'd throw this out there...
Do you have any exotic/strange plans for your remains when you die? My mom has made it clear that her body is to be donated to the medical college, then for cremation when they are done with their studies. Seems odd to me, but that's what she wants, so that's what she is going to get.
I'd like to do something a little out of the ordinary. I love the study of bone structure, so I would like my remains skelotized and added to my extensive skull collection. I have a wide variety of mammals (about 45 different species) and think adding my own human skull would be great. The grand kids could have fun with it on Halloween.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 14, 2013 10:55:46 GMT -5
OK, this is not a spiritual thread. After reading so many posts about those going through great grief lately, I thought I'd throw this out there... Do you have any exotic/strange plans for your remains when you die? My mom has made it clear that her body is to be donated to the medical college, then for cremation when they are done with their studies. Seems odd to me, but that's what she wants, so that's what she is going to get. I'd like to do something a little out of the ordinary. I love the study of bone structure, so I would like my remains skelotized and added to my extensive skull collection. I have a wide variety of mammals (about 45 different species) and think adding my own human skull would be great. The grand kids could have fun with it on Halloween. Wouldn't your skull collection be someone else's after you die?
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Post by Bob Ross on Jun 14, 2013 11:05:26 GMT -5
I plan to be encased in carbonite and hung on the wall of some really fat guy. Barring that, I dunno. Shamble around and eat brains all day?
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Post by midjd on Jun 14, 2013 11:11:56 GMT -5
I'd like to be cremated, although I'm not sure what I want done with my ashes. The idea of burial skeeves me out. My cousin is in a cemetery that had some widely-publicized financial/embezzlement issues and the owners eventually left the state. The cemetery then flooded and quite a few graves became waterlogged. The community has organized a crew to mow and try to keep things clean, but the water issues are still present. Not many people (including my aunt, who has two kids there) can afford to have their relatives exhumed and buried elsewhere. I don't really care what happens to my body - I'll be dead - but I don't want my family to go through more pain than necessary.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 14, 2013 11:15:39 GMT -5
Cremation. We have discussed having our asses added to fireworks and having a big fireworks display instead of a funeral.
I keep telling DH that if I go first I want him to bring little baggies of my ashes with him on all vacations/trips that he takes after I pass and leave bits and pieces of me all over the world.
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 14, 2013 11:18:22 GMT -5
Cremation, then the box with my ashes is to be opened and let the wind do it's thing after that.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 14, 2013 11:20:33 GMT -5
My parents wanted to be cremated. Part of their mixed cremains are in a military veterans cemetery columbarium and part of their mixed cremains were scattered on a beach.
I will be cremated and probably scattered on an overlook in Grand Teton National Park. I want a good view of the mountains. No burial for me as I'm claustrophobic.
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Post by tractor on Jun 14, 2013 11:54:51 GMT -5
I recently attended a memorial service of someone who loved to skeet shoot. He was cremated and his ashes were put into shotgun shells. The shells were fired at targets the day of the event.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 14, 2013 12:07:54 GMT -5
I read a story a while back (sorry, can't think of details at the moment) that gathered cremated ashes and added them to tree seeds for future growth. So, I want to be cremated and come back as a tree. Might as well be "useful" after I die since I'm not doing such a great job of that now.
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Post by souldoubt on Jun 14, 2013 12:11:06 GMT -5
Cremated and turned into a diamond would be sweet. Realistically I'd like to be cremated and have my ashes spread in the ocean and maybe a few other places. Hopefully my family doesn't leave me in an urn in the garage like they did to great grandma.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 14, 2013 12:13:11 GMT -5
I've always told my husband I want to be cremated and put into an urn, which needs to remain on display in the house until he dies. I want to watch him, and haunt him.
But, I like Sheila's idea better. hmmmm - big decision.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 14, 2013 12:14:21 GMT -5
Can't think of anything really out there. I do prefer the idea of creamation than being a rotting cadaver in the ground. So I figure I'll be creamated and put in one of those creamitoriums or whatever they're called. Or just spread out somewhere, like the sea or the mountains.
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Post by InsertCoolName on Jun 14, 2013 12:29:12 GMT -5
I don't care what happens to my body after I'm dead. They can bury me, burn me or throw me out to sea...don't care. And I won't know.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 14, 2013 12:30:41 GMT -5
I'd like to be cremated and have my ashes spread somewhere. Not sure where yet. Maybe in the Thames in London, my favorite city. I do like that fireworks idea!
Being buried in the ground in a box freaks me out.
As a Catholic, you aren't supposed to spread ashes, something about keeping the body together and having somewhere where people can honor you. But my mom would be the only one who would care and she likely won't be around when I die. Plus I'd rather people look at pictures of me or tell stories about me instead of visiting my grave/look at my urn over the fireplace.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 14, 2013 12:40:30 GMT -5
Well, I know this isn't a spiritual thread, but it is interesting that you brought up Catholisicm and creamation. For much of human history, creamation was considered the ultimate desicration of the human body. But it's become quite popular, at least in the U.S. According to traditional Christian docterine, creamation shouldn't be done because Christ will ressurect the body upon his return.
I personally think it's well within God's power to ressurect my body from ashes. There's a good chance if I was buried I'd be nothing but bones anyway. Possibly those bones could have turned to dust.
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Post by midjd on Jun 14, 2013 12:45:54 GMT -5
I think it's interesting that when I talk to people about this - anyone between age 20 and 60 - almost everyone expresses a desire to be cremated. Yet I have never been to a single funeral in which the deceased hasn't been lying there in his or her embalmed glory. (And I've been to a LOT of funerals). Maybe it's a generational thing? Or related to religion as Phoenix pointed out? Will cremation become more popular as the younger generations age? Or is it one of those things where after the person dies, everyone decides they need "closure" and opt for the traditional burial? I will haunt anyone who puts me in a box in the ground.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2013 12:52:01 GMT -5
My grandmother and my Aunt were both cremated and they only ceremony was some words by a non-denominational pastor through the funeral home. We've been cheap heathens for generations!!!
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 14, 2013 12:54:19 GMT -5
I had a friend whose father died in an accident when she was a teenager. She admitted (10 years later) that he had always expressed a desire to be cremated, but they couldn't handle burning him. I'm not sure why burning a body is more emotionally devastating then trapping it in a box and putting it in the ground and throwing a half-ton of dirt on top of it, but I do understand that grief doesn't need to be rational. It really isn't about what I want done with my body - it is whatever will make my kids (or whoever cares about me) feel even a little better about the situation.
Of the funerals I have been to, anyone over 60 was buried. Half of those under 60 were cremated.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 14, 2013 13:07:45 GMT -5
Call me crazy (or a hopelessly romantic fool) - - DH and I are saving the ashes of all our fur kids when they pass on (right now they're sitting in individual cedar boxes on a top shelf). When the first one of us goes, the other will have us cremated and bring the ashes home. When the second one goes, our executors know to cremate, mix all the "family ashes" (us + our beloved critters) together, and scatter them at a few sites significant to us that we've designated. We're leaving behind $$ in a bank account specifically so they can carry out our wishes without cost to them.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 14, 2013 13:13:51 GMT -5
Well, I know this isn't a spiritual thread, but it is interesting that you brought up Catholisicm and creamation. For much of human history, creamation was considered the ultimate desicration of the human body. But it's become quite popular, at least in the U.S. According to traditional Christian docterine, creamation shouldn't be done because Christ will ressurect the body upon his return. I personally think it's well within God's power to ressurect my body from ashes. There's a good chance if I was buried I'd be nothing but bones anyway. Possibly those bones could have turned to dust. When I buried my Catholic aunt 5 years ago, the Catholic mortuary and cemetery told me that cremation is now allowed by the Church (she wasn't cremated because she had already made other arrangements). The chapel on the grounds of the cemetery even has niches in the walls for holding ashes of The Faithful - and placards are mounted on the wall with the person's information. They also told me they bury ashes if people request it.
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Post by steff on Jun 14, 2013 13:38:54 GMT -5
The idea of a funeral & being put under dirt totally freaks me out. I want to be cremated, have my ashes divided up & a little bit of steff given to those closest to me to sprinkle where they have the best memories of me. Just no deep water or heights or I've promised to come back and visit that person. My kiddo has said that he plans on keeping me in an urn for entertainment purposes. Of course, this is the kid that pranks his friends by telling them his great grampa lives in our guest room & they have to be quiet. He then asks if they want to meet him & takes them in to show them his urn. I have no idea where he got that kind of warped sense of humor....
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 14, 2013 13:42:21 GMT -5
Actually, the idea of getting embalmed freaks me out. What a terribly unnatural process! I would rather be burned than sitting for days on that table while they take stuff out and put stuff in and then do my hair and make-up. Ugh - I'm queasy just thinking about it. yuck. All so someone who doesn't want to can look at me when I'm dead. Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 14, 2013 13:46:25 GMT -5
Don't know. I'm dead so I don't really care to be honest. So if they want a funeral and a burial that's fine. Cremate me, that's fine too. I joke with my parents I'm going to creamate them and then put sticky notes on the urns so I can tell who is who. Then they will go on a wall along with the urns of three of our dead pets. I can freak people out with my wall of urns.
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Post by steff on Jun 14, 2013 13:47:19 GMT -5
Funerals creep me out because I'm from the South & there's always one old lady relative that has to futz with the body. I never looked at my Mamaw the same after she walked up to my uncle's casket, opened it & took off his tie because he hated ties. I mean, I get that he hated ties & shouldn't have had one, but they have people to take care of that. At my mother in laws funeral, her mom wanted to & and made a half hearted attempt before she was stopped, to change the sweater that my MIL was wearing. I about came out of my skin & was completely creeped out the rest of the time. This is also why I will NOT have a funeral. I don't want everyone walking by & gawking at me & probably the aunt I dislike the most deciding my hair or shoes aren't quite right & trying to "fix" it.
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Post by Bob Ross on Jun 14, 2013 13:50:22 GMT -5
I want a tomb built with the following statue: Guess I'll have to change my name to FXJKHR.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 14, 2013 13:56:31 GMT -5
Nothing strange but I want to be cremated and set free. And no viewing before the cremation. That is just weird - people staring at a dead person. I don't want to be a dead "Genie in the bottle" and sit in an urn. My brother has his son and my mom sitting in urns on a table in his house. He is such a control freak he won't let mom go even after I told him what she wanted (but it wasn't in writing). He said we could take turns having her in our homes and I thought about saying ok to that and then releasing her but he's a bit nuts and I don't want to make him worse. Ok - I really just don't want to interact with him at all but that sounds so much nicer, doesn't it?
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 14, 2013 14:01:46 GMT -5
Nothing strange but I want to be cremated and set free. And no viewing before the cremation. That is just weird - people staring at a dead person. I don't want to be a dead "Genie in the bottle" and sit in an urn. My brother has his son and my mom sitting in urns on a table in his house. He is such a control freak he won't let mom go even after I told him what she wanted (but it wasn't in writing). He said we could take turns having her in our homes and I thought about saying ok to that and then releasing her but he's a bit nuts and I don't want to make him worse. Ok - I really just don't want to interact with him at all but that sounds so much nicer, doesn't it? 1. Have huge bonfire party. 2. Collect ashes when sober. 3. Exchange ashes collected for ashes in urn. 4. Return urn. 5. Do evil happy dance.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 14, 2013 14:18:00 GMT -5
Well, I know this isn't a spiritual thread, but it is interesting that you brought up Catholisicm and creamation. For much of human history, creamation was considered the ultimate desicration of the human body. But it's become quite popular, at least in the U.S. According to traditional Christian docterine, creamation shouldn't be done because Christ will ressurect the body upon his return. I personally think it's well within God's power to ressurect my body from ashes. There's a good chance if I was buried I'd be nothing but bones anyway. Possibly those bones could have turned to dust. When I buried my Catholic aunt 5 years ago, the Catholic mortuary and cemetery told me that cremation is now allowed by the Church (she wasn't cremated because she had already made other arrangements). The chapel on the grounds of the cemetery even has niches in the walls for holding ashes of The Faithful - and placards are mounted on the wall with the person's information. They also told me they bury ashes if people request it. Yeah, they allow it now. But for a long time they didn't. But even now, they don't want you to do it until after the funeral mass. As I'm not catholic, I'm not very familar with their rules regarding cremation. But it's only fairly recently as I undersatand it that cremation has become accepted within the catholic church.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 14, 2013 14:39:20 GMT -5
DH's father died when DH was 5. He wanted to be cremated and have the simple white Military veteran headstone. His parents overruled my MIL and refused to allow cremation and insisted on a huge gaudy headstone. MIL did make them agree to a second Military Veteran headstone next to the gaudy one.
Because of losing his father so young he is some what morbid and very upfront with his wishes and our 15 year old son is aware of them as well. I've laid down the lay with my parents and told them what we want too. My parents and all of my relatives are VERY Catholic and DH and I are atheists so I had to make my dad promise that he wouldn't ignore my wishes in order to adhere to his religious beliefs.
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