thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 3, 2013 13:42:47 GMT -5
Wow - I didn't know they had $40 buckets. Yes, $80 worth of food would piss me off. Clearly, this isn't an isolated incident. That sucks.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jun 3, 2013 13:54:34 GMT -5
Great. Now I want KFC for dinner and I'm on a diet.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2013 15:59:21 GMT -5
Ok, I don't think 1k is a ton to spend on your sisters wedding....but that is just me. Remember that I got married older (38) and my sister is several years older than me. We are both financially stable (and even successful, dare I say). My brother was not able to afford to come to the wedding due to financial concerns and I was ok with that. If my sister had said to me, "I cant afford it.", I would have been ok with it....it would have sucked, but I would have gotten over it. If you can afford it and you WANT to do it, then I don't think it's a big deal. And it wasn't like she had an awful time....
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2013 16:00:41 GMT -5
hmmmm, if someone ordered me to bring food for their wedding because they were too cheap to provide food for their guests themselves and then were also told to bring a gift, I think I would just stop answering the phone. Talk about crass and tacky.
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lynnerself
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Post by lynnerself on Jun 3, 2013 17:38:16 GMT -5
The last family wedding I attended I spent: $40 on a new dress, $30 on new shoes and $40 on a new shirt and tie for DS. About $200 for a couple of hotel rooms for the family and around $250 on shower and wedding gifts.
It was a really nice wedding. But not over the top. My neice has really great taste and BIL has the money to make it happen.
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quince
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Post by quince on Jun 3, 2013 17:58:23 GMT -5
I absolutely hate weddings, and after the second to the last one I went to, I won't be attending any more unless my children get married. We spent more on my husband's brother's wedding than our own.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Jun 3, 2013 18:24:13 GMT -5
wanting your bridal party to come to your wedding, attend your shower and bachelorette party, and wear matching dresses is being a Bridezilla? That's a bit much, isn't it? I guess it depends on how much money is involved and how much say they have in it. Between plane tickets, the dresses, accomodations, and contributions to showers and batchelorette parties, the tab could easily go over $1000.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 3, 2013 19:41:21 GMT -5
My young friend is getting serious with a guy and has started talking about wedding stuff. This is her second wedding, but his first. He wants a big thing, with a hundred groomsmen, because they are all his best friend in the world. I told her to just have her sister and his absolute best friend, and then just let the 100 best friends be ushers/pseudo-groomsmen. I thought it would be really special to just stand up there with that 1 person that you know will take a bullet for you, not a dozen people who are the flavor of the day.
Mark my words, she will end up with no less than 6 bridesmaids, most of whom will surface as besties right around the time they get engaged. And 4 of them will be gone within 18 months.
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Post by geenamercile on Jun 3, 2013 21:04:25 GMT -5
I had 2 bridesmaids, and DH had 4 groomsmen. We picked the people who were importance to us and we wanted to stand up there with us.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 3, 2013 21:47:31 GMT -5
wanting your bridal party to come to your wedding, attend your shower and bachelorette party, and wear matching dresses is being a Bridezilla? That's a bit much, isn't it? I guess it depends on how much money is involved and how much say they have in it. Between plane tickets, the dresses, accomodations, and contributions to showers and batchelorette parties, the tab could easily go over $1000. This. Maybe I was unfortunate, but this was a lot of money to ask 2/3rds of my attendants to spend. One of them was in graduate school, and I'm betting that 1K was likely one month of her salary. My MOH was jobless. She and her SO had about 100K of student loans between them, and her SO was making less than 50K/year. I had one bridesmaid that would have been able to lay out 1-2K for all the parties, etc. I guess I should have picked friends that had more money. I don't have any sibs. The only one who really stuck by my marriage when the chips were way down (as in I was seriously contemplating divorce) was my MOH. I outgrew the friendship I had with the bridesmaid that actually had money 5 years into our marriage. We had a small wedding (under 50 guests). I can count on one hand the number of people that attended that are supportive of our marriage. I can't imagine that the odds would be better if we invited 250 folks and had all the parties.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Jun 4, 2013 9:39:38 GMT -5
At my wedding, none of my bridesmaids could afford dresses, so I paid for them. I like pastels, but since they all have olive complexions, I went with red. Two bridesmaids vetoed any style that didn't allow them to wear a normal bra. I picked a style that allowed a normal bra, was flattering to their shapes, and was cut to be easy to alter. My out of town bridesmaids both young children, one was still nursing, had another at home and had to bring the baby with her, so it really never occured to me to ask them to spend more time away from hom to attend a shower or batchelorette party.
So yes, I do think that asking my bridesmaids to buy dresses that they didn't pick out and fly in for the shower and batchelorette party is too much to ask. Maybe things would be different if they were still single and well off, but this wasn't the case.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 4, 2013 9:46:50 GMT -5
Maybe to A lot of people here, a thousand bucks isn't a lot of money but it sure is to me and I'm glad it is for DD and DS. They seem to gravitate to people who like to have a good time on the cheap. May their luck continue! I'm still proud of DD for saying NO to being in some weddings. She was in one last weekend but the bride and groom each had one attendant so she wore a nice dress that she already had. The bachelorette party was at a local watering hole and they just danced and drank. The groom and his friends went fishing! Wedding was outdoors which was hot but lasted 20 minutes, hooray for Protestants in hot weather, and reception was in a nice place but catered, I'm sure from Costco. By that time all they cared about was air conditioning! No DJ because they used to be affordable but now are very expensive as well so someone did a mix and brought some kind of sound system and they all danced and had a fine time.
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