tcu2003
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 25, 2012 18:59:30 GMT -5
We each have our own, but then we're still driving the cars we each bought before meeting each other and getting married. We generally ask before driving the other's car, but that's just a courtesy thing. Right now, we're taking my Escape on all of our longer trips because there's more room and the carseat fits better. We generally take DH's A4 back and forth to work/daycare as it just isn't large enough for us for trips back to Kansas to visit our families.
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Post by lynnerself on Nov 25, 2012 20:31:31 GMT -5
Sort of. It"s "my car" because I wanted a little 2 seater convertable and he went out and bought it for me one Christmas, And it is my comuter car. However if we go anywhere together in it he drives, because it is a fun car to drive. And because it has more leg room on the driver's side.
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Post by quince on Nov 25, 2012 23:32:13 GMT -5
Yes and no. We both own our own, separate cars. If one of us wants to use the other person's car, we ask, but the expected answer is "yes", unless there is a damned good reason.
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Post by deantrip on Nov 25, 2012 23:50:08 GMT -5
Yep, I got my pickup and my wife has her car, technically we share ownership, and I usually end up driving even if we go somewhere together in her car, but it separates out that way as she doesn't like to drive my pickup and I use it for work.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 1:00:49 GMT -5
We sort of have our "own" car. We bought a 1996 Honda civic here and it usually ends up being the car I drive. Goose has a Chevy Traverse. But neither cares if the other drives "their" car. We will discuss what car we may need for the day, but it isn't an asking of permission, it is just discussing that the other car is needed.
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servant_of_dog
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Post by servant_of_dog on Nov 26, 2012 1:34:24 GMT -5
Yes and no. My husband's 2000 Toyota Echo is still running like a top, and I won't drive it because it's a manual transmission. It would have to be life or death for me to drive his car. We bought a 2010 Corolla last year - automatic transmission - so, technically mine, since I make the payments, but he pays insurance, so who can really say? In any event, now that I have to drive to and from work, it's my daily driver. He drives when we go places together, and I always know when he's had someone else in the car, since his work buddies always recline the passenger seat.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Nov 26, 2012 8:38:06 GMT -5
We have one car but plan on getting another one before DS starts school. I can walk to most needed places right now so it's not a huge issue.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 26, 2012 8:55:06 GMT -5
Yes. And I have never driven my husband's Mustang GT....that is his baby and he doesn't let anyone drive it. No biggy, I went out and bought my own Mustang
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Post by taz157 on Nov 26, 2012 9:11:19 GMT -5
Yes, but DH and I have currently switched. "My" car is a Toyota Solara convertible (2 door) while "DH"'s car is a Toyota Camry (4 door). Since I take DD to daycare and back and she's still rear-facing, it's easier for me in DH's car than my car. Once she's no longer rear-facing, I see us switching back cars. For the most part, I don't think he minds and I do offer to switch cars if I think he'll want his car. So far, he's never taken me up on it.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 9:23:20 GMT -5
No, my husband and I share our car. Before we were married we had two cars but used one except for 2-3 days. When we moved to buffalo, we decided to get rid of both cars and get a newer one. We share this one, I occasionally used the bus, and we have rented a car three times in three years. There is a large chance that my husband will have to leave our city for his post-doc so we will get another car in another year. Don't know if we will keep in very long though.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 26, 2012 9:23:32 GMT -5
Kinda. DH has let me drive his car but he gets really weird about it. He has no problems whatsoever driving my car and I don't really care if he does or not.
We only switch off if we're all going somewhere as a family. Sometimes we take my car and sometimes we take his car. For some reason he always insists that he has to drive no matter which vehicle we take. He's very uncomfortable being a passenger.
I have to have a permit to park in my work lot and it's a PITA to move the sticker around so during the week day he drives his car and I drive mine.
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Post by MB-NY on Nov 26, 2012 9:54:07 GMT -5
We own both cars together, but one is "hers" and one is "mine". It seems we buy a new car about every 5-6 years, so I take the older one each time. I have a much longer commute and with the bad roads in our area, I'd rather run the older car daily. We'll use the newer car when we go out together or on trips.
We can use each others car whenever, but mostly we keep to our own. We each have our own personal collection of "junk" in each car, so it's more convenient not to switch off too often.
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Post by bean29 on Nov 26, 2012 9:57:10 GMT -5
Well DH and I had 4 cars, he has a BMW and a pickup truck, I had a mini van and we have an economy car that our college student drives.
I gave my van to a relative in September and did not buy a new car right away b/c DS did not take his car to College. He will be home on break soon and I need to pull the trigger and buy a car.
DH does not like me driving his car but I think it is b/c i made a big deal about how much I disliked it when he bought it. DH does not feel anyone should drive the truck in the winter. DH has been decent about letting me drive his car when DS is home for the weekend.
I agree that my car is my car. In shopping for a car what I want carries the most weight. I want DH's opinion, but if I don't agree - I will buy what I want. I was hoping the price would get more reasonable the closer I got to the end of December. It appears I may have miscalculated on that.
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Post by telephus44 on Nov 26, 2012 10:00:35 GMT -5
Yes, for the most part. We both drive a 2004 Honda Civic EX so it's the exact same car - mine in black and his is silver. Insurance is combined and we had both our names on the loans, but they are titled separately.
For the most part, it's because his car has his music/stereo/ham radio in it and all his crap. Plus he doesn't mine if the floor is covered with Dunkin Donuts cups, receipts, extra computer parts, fast food trash, etc. My car is much cleaner.
We do ask if we are using the other person's car, but if something happened and DH had to take my car without asking, I wouldn't freak out.
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Post by jeffreymo on Nov 26, 2012 10:01:45 GMT -5
My wife drives the family car - SUV. My car is the more fuel efficient of the two. We use the SUV for driving the family around town and longer trips. My car is used when we carpool to work and long distance trips where we'll only be gone for a few days - this past weekend being an example.
A couple of minor annoyances that I have: I usually keep my work ID in my car, so if we change up the routine I sometimes forget to grab it. Same goes for sunglasses - although I did have 2 pairs at one point, I'm down to just 1 after sitting on the other pair. Lastly, I hate changing the seat/steering wheel settings every time I get in/out. I can't wait until we have the modern vehicles with programmable settings.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 26, 2012 10:07:12 GMT -5
Sort of. My car is the one I take to work, and his car is the one he takes to work. He keeps his parking pass in it - so switching takes a little thought (not a lot - but enough to not make it worth it.) But at other times, generally we have free access to each other's cars. I often take his car either because it is behind mine (1 car driveway) or because the kids prefer to ride in his big comfy truck. His is newer and has satellite radio. When mine was newer, he often took mine to run to the store or whatever. I don't care if he drives mine, and he doesn't appear to care if I drive his - however, I asked him if he wanted to switch because I drive a lot less miles, and his car is racking them up, and his answer was a difinitive "no." Whatever.
His car also has the snazzy personal keys, so whoever unlocks it, the seat resets to their saved position. I still have to move the mirror, and change the radio off of bad 80's hair band metal. Seriously, it was 30 years ago - move on.
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Post by hoops902 on Nov 26, 2012 10:10:41 GMT -5
Kind of. I have a truck that is "mine", but since the MPG is terrible and it's mostly used for hauling things, I don't drive it much. My wife's car is "hers" but really "ours". She doesn't drive my truck hardly at all, so if I'm taking her car, I have to make sure she's not planning on using it...but at the same time I don't really "ask".
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 10:13:18 GMT -5
So now is the time where I tell everyone who has their own car that they don't have a "real" marriage.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 26, 2012 10:14:49 GMT -5
Go poop in front of your spouse.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 10:16:46 GMT -5
I never admitted to doing that!
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 26, 2012 10:18:47 GMT -5
Then you don't have a real marriage.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 10:21:17 GMT -5
Both cars are jointly owned and insured, but there is definitely a "his" and "hers". She doesn't like driving my car because she thinks it is pretentious. When we go out together we always take my car unless we need to haul something. I drive when we are together regardless of which car we take. She doesn't like to drive.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2012 10:22:09 GMT -5
Then you don't have a real marriage. Neither does anyone else around here!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Nov 26, 2012 11:56:26 GMT -5
Not married. My parents in essence have their own cars though. My dad drives a manual transmission car and my mom and't drive a manual transmission. Though I think my Dad does take the other car sometimes.
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Post by sheilaincali on Nov 26, 2012 12:00:07 GMT -5
For most of our marriage we only owned one vehicle. DH had a company vehicle provided by his employer. He only drove that to and from work so "my" car was used for any errands and family trips. We have owned two vehicles for the past 4 or 5 years now. The nicer one (the Volvo SUV) is considered "my car" but if we go anywhere together we take Betty (the Volvo). DH drives a 1999 Jeep. He has a company vehicle at work so he only puts like 7 miles a day commuting on his Jeep. If he goes to they gym or the Den without me he takes his Jeep. If he is going to take my car he always tells me "I'm taking your car" before he leaves.
Honestly- if I'm not going anywhere I don't care what he drives. I prefer not to drive the Jeep. Not because I don't like it but because it's got a few quirks in it and I'm just not as comfortable driving it.
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Post by happyhoix on Nov 26, 2012 12:27:17 GMT -5
Yes DH and I have our own cars - he drives a Mini Cooper, I have a Subaru Forester.
DH claims my car is too damn big. However, he is always asking to use it when he needs to haul crap, and if we go out someplace as a family (like driving to SIL's house with five people in the car) it's only do-able in my big damn car.
We finance our own cars, jointly pay the car insurance, keep up with the service for our own cars, but we do share back and forth, although I don't like driving his car. It's not the manual transmission, I'm ok with that. It's the fact that the car doors are so damn heavy and they keep trying to shut on my leg. I think his car hates me.
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Post by ontrack on Nov 26, 2012 13:10:10 GMT -5
DH and I share our one car. Technically it's mine, as I bought it before we were married. He drives it to work every day and I take the subway. I pay the note every month, along with tags, personal property tax, and maintenence, and he pays for gas (separate finances, I make more). When we drive places together I usually drive, and then he makes a pretend fuss about having to move the seat up when he has to drive again.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Nov 26, 2012 14:52:35 GMT -5
Mostly.
We used to be a one car family, so it was clearly shared and we both drove it as needed. When it was getting older we replaced it with a new car, with the plan of both sharing it as well which was becoming more inconvenient as the kids got older but it was still doable. Then we got a great deal on another new car, but it was a manual transmission. No big deal for me, but my wife never learned to drive manual.
I tried teaching her when we got the car, but she didn't pick it up that quickly and didn't care really. So I drove that one, and she drove the other one. After 8 years we think of them as my car and her car.
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Post by kgb18 on Nov 26, 2012 20:00:04 GMT -5
We each have our own car. DH's truck is in his name only and my car is in my name only, though we're both on the same insurance. I hate driving his truck, and he's not overly fond of driving my Subaru, so we don't often drive each other's vehicles.
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Post by The Home 6 on Nov 26, 2012 21:19:19 GMT -5
I always ask if I can take Big Sarge's new SUV. Mostly because it gets massively better gas milage than my 10-year-old Jeep. FWIW, he has never said "no!".
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