raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on Mar 5, 2015 18:59:29 GMT -5
Beth--C was having issues with D and G sounds--right? We asked Connor's preschool teachers about that with him this morning and she is going to see if we can talk to the schools speech pathologist even though she technically doesn't work with the pre-k kids. A lot of Connor's G's sound like D's, and his th's are pronouced like F's. I think his speech is pretty clear, and I've only realized the issue as he has started spelling things for me. My favorite is when he brought me this piece of paper that he's written FOR on. I tell him how nice he wrote "for". To which he informed me, "No, it's fro. Like you fro a ball..." The duh at the end was very much implied if not said out loud.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 9, 2015 8:34:02 GMT -5
Yeah, he's got issues with a bunch of sounds. The d and g was the example the speech path gave us in the original meetings as he was growing out of that one on his own. But he's got about 10 other sounds that are problems - they're working on the K sound like "cat" by having them push their "k button" by touching their throat to feel how it sounds. And "sh" sounds. They look in the mirror and make press their hands into their cheeks - sort of like that horrible kid from the Home Alone movies.
She also confirmed that they are NOT stringing chains of words together - C will just out of nowhere spit out "flea, fly, flown, fluck" (he will change the sounds but he usually ends in "...uck"
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Post by shanendoah on Mar 19, 2015 15:35:01 GMT -5
Yesterday after school, Pop Tart was at a friend's house. They decided to use some hair chalk. I noticed it at dinner and commented I liked the purple streaks. The use of hair chalk doesn't bother me. I always figure hair is the best thing for kids to experiment with as it can be washed, cut, or grow back. And hair chalk doesn't have a fragrance so it doesn't set off C's chemical sensitivity. So, really, no big deal.
But here's the thing. Pop Tart thought she WOULD get in trouble for it, and decided to do it anyway. And that makes me wonder if she should get in trouble. Not for the hair chalk, because as I said, I don't care, but for "consciously choosing to break the rules" even if the rule she thought existed did not.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Mar 19, 2015 15:38:23 GMT -5
Yesterday after school, Pop Tart was at a friend's house. They decided to use some hair chalk. I noticed it at dinner and commented I liked the purple streaks. The use of hair chalk doesn't bother me. I always figure hair is the best thing for kids to experiment with as it can be washed, cut, or grow back. And hair chalk doesn't have a fragrance so it doesn't set off C's chemical sensitivity. So, really, no big deal.
But here's the thing. Pop Tart thought she WOULD get in trouble for it, and decided to do it anyway. And that makes me wonder if she should get in trouble. Not for the hair chalk, because as I said, I don't care, but for "consciously choosing to break the rules" even if the rule she thought existed did not. That is some knot twisting logic, there... |
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Post by shanendoah on Mar 19, 2015 15:43:48 GMT -5
ArchietheDragon - I know, I know. But it comes down to: she thought this would be breaking the rules, and chose to do it anyway.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Mar 19, 2015 15:52:15 GMT -5
ArchietheDragon - I know, I know. But it comes down to: she thought this would be breaking the rules, and chose to do it anyway. Maybe use it as a teaching tool about her making good, responsible choices. How this was a good choice because (insert the things you mentioned about hair experimentation here), whereas if she and her friends decided to give eachother prison tats with a sewing needle it would have been a different story. That would go to show her that if she thinks through her actions and makes good decisions she won't get in trouble. That may reinforce some independent decision making, rather than pressuring her to ask permission for every little thing because she is worried about getting in trouble. Just don't blame me if it goes horribly wrong, though.  |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 19, 2015 15:54:08 GMT -5
My approach would be "I'm not mad about the hair, but for the future if you aren't sure what the rules are either ask if we are around or just don't do whatever it is you're about to do"
Reason being I don't like the idea of punishing a kid for a thought. It'd be one thing if she actually broke the rules, but she didn't.
I'd make a mental note not to share anything with you after that b/c now I know I even if I did nothing wrong, I am still going to be punished b/c my thought process may not be to your approval.
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Post by Sharon on Mar 19, 2015 15:56:18 GMT -5
ArchietheDragon - I know, I know. But it comes down to: she thought this would be breaking the rules, and chose to do it anyway. Maybe use it as a teaching tool about her making good, responsible choices. How this was a good choice because (insert the things you mentioned about hair experimentation here), whereas if she and her friends decided to give eachother prison tats with a sewing needle it would have been a different story. That would go to show her that if she thinks through her actions and makes good decisions she won't get in trouble. That may reinforce some independent decision making, rather than pressuring her to ask permission for every little thing because she is worried about getting in trouble. Just don't blame me if it goes horribly wrong, though.  My DD used to pull crap like that when she was about that age. I would be left wondering why did you do it if you thought you would be in trouble.  Really it was just the beginnings of her stretching her wings and trying out some independent decision making. One time I asked her why did you do it if you thought you were in trouble? Her reply was I wasn't sure if you would be mad or not but because I hadn't asked I figured I would probably be in trouble. That is when I realized it was the beginnings of more independent thinking and acting. Tweens are so much fun.  |
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Post by shanendoah on Mar 19, 2015 16:00:04 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015 - Pop Tart is 11.5.
She's not going to get in trouble one way or the other at this point, as it happened yesterday, but I did talk to her about why I didn't care about the hair thing - basically the impermanency of it all. But when she asked about dying her hair, C brought up the chemicals and she understood that.
Sadly, yesterday afternoon was full of questionable behavior and resulted in a clear stating of rules we thought she already knew and also giving her a new rubric for decision making in certain situations.
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