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Post by happyhoix on Oct 23, 2012 13:13:13 GMT -5
Isn't Tony Robins a life coach...or does he actually have some "credentials"? Never really heard his spiel (except when I watch Shallow Hal), but that's who I immediately think when I hear life coach. I have an unemployed friend who has been working on her coaching license and planning to do her version of Life Coaching. I agree with the OP in that this is definitely an optional luxury service. Some people have been helped a lot by having an objective observer in their life helping them clarify what they really want and making steps to get there. What ruined the whole idea of life coaches for me was finding out that Jayson Blair, the reporter for the New York Times who made up almost all his news reports (there was a huge scandel about it, several years back) is now a life coach. OK so I'm going to let some guy who sat on his couch eating cheetos while pretending to be five states away in a hurricane, sending newspaper reports back from the field to his paper, give me advice on how to live my life?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2012 19:25:36 GMT -5
Well - my Mom would be a horrible life coach. Her opinion on what would be the right thing to do is basically that the correct thing is the OPPOSITE of whatever I am doing. Even if I take her advice and do what she told me to do, she will immediately come back and tell me that I made the wrong choice. My mother is pissing me off this week - and it is only Monday. I think our mothers may be related. And my mother was their mother! OMG! That makes your mothers my sisters! I already have plenty of sisters. And my mother was really more mother than anybody needed Furthermore, doesn't that make me your aunt?
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 24, 2012 10:53:58 GMT -5
Aunt Rigby!! I always wanted a cool aunt! ;D
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2012 13:58:18 GMT -5
Well. I dunno how cool I am, but it's nice to have grown nieces who are actually productive members of the human race. I bet you even pay taxes and stuff, right? And not on the dole just because it's there? How refreshing!
BTW, my mother could get real eloquent about Whatsisname, The Father of My Children, being in school the first five years we were first married because she insisted he needed to be out making a living and supporting his family. Never mind that he worked full time while he was an undergrad and grad student. And the whole point was that once he had those sheepskins in hand, he'd be making an even better living. She NEVER let up on the subject.
Then...she had an opportunity to go back to school and did. I asked her one day if she felt differently now that she was on her way to getting a degree. Nope. That was a horse of a different color. WTE?
She got a degree in elem ed, then got a master's to boot. She didn't like kids. But she liked having three months off in the summer and a week at Thanksgiving, two weeks at Christmas, another week at Easter. Go figure.
ETA: And for the next few days, it's still "Aunt Witchby"!!!!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 24, 2012 14:19:32 GMT -5
Sorry Aunt Witchby! I'm just used to you without your costume Sounds like you couldn't please her with a pleasing stick (don't go there ) as my mom says about her aunt. (I always picture someone getting beaten with said stick)
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 24, 2012 16:21:48 GMT -5
I shouldn't have read this. I have to go to dinner with my Mom tonight, and I didn't sleep last night, so I want to not be mad at her. The good news is that both my sisters will be there. She saves her sharpest knives for when she has us one-on-one. She is smart enough to have no witnesses.
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Post by Opti on Oct 24, 2012 17:34:43 GMT -5
I have an unemployed friend who has been working on her coaching license and planning to do her version of Life Coaching. I agree with the OP in that this is definitely an optional luxury service. Some people have been helped a lot by having an objective observer in their life helping them clarify what they really want and making steps to get there. What ruined the whole idea of life coaches for me was finding out that Jayson Blair, the reporter for the New York Times who made up almost all his news reports (there was a huge scandel about it, several years back) is now a life coach. OK so I'm going to let some guy who sat on his couch eating cheetos while pretending to be five states away in a hurricane, sending newspaper reports back from the field to his paper, give me advice on how to live my life? That's one guy. Did you give up on listening to all reporters as well? Like anyone you hire you should do some research. My friend is in a program that required lots of homework, tests, and conference calls. She also had to coach a certain amount of people with mentor assistance and I'm guessing grading as well. I once used a life coach briefly and I had met her through a seminar I attended that she presented along with her business partner. She wrote a book so I had an idea of her philosphy. It is a wide open field. Like anything there are going to be bad people and exceptional people in it. There are people who have acted as doctors and psychiatrists having no formal training. It happens. Research is your friend in almost all cases you hire somebody whether it is a life coach, doctor, mechanic or a landscaper.
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Post by happyscooter on Oct 24, 2012 18:47:42 GMT -5
Remember the movie 'Christmas in Connecticut', where Barbara Stanwyck was writing about her farm in the country and the meals she made. She lived in an apt and had takeout.
The life coach here in town just gives rah rah speeches. Be positive, tell yourself you can do it, shake off those negative feelings.
Yeah, yeah.
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Post by Opti on Oct 24, 2012 19:47:10 GMT -5
I live in NJ in suburbia. I have no idea how many life coaches actually live in my town. I know of a few here in NJ, NY and even CA. The good ones help you clarify what you want and make plans.
Without hearing the speeches of your resident life coach I can't know whether what they say has any value or not. The fact is you do need to tell yourself you can do it, because if you tell yourself you can't you will be right too ... but not all that jazzed about failing is my guess. It is important to find ways to plow through the negative and not let it hold you hostage. Unless you need to get in touch with your inner negativity to write the Great American novel with an anti-hero or portray the world's most negative person in a film, negativity is something best moved through instead of camped in.
If its not for you it is not for you. They all have their own slant. And personally I think it is important to find one that fits your personality and how you do things. Some are more matter of fact than cheerleadery.
(I've never seen the movie Christmas in Connecticut BTW.)
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Post by happyscooter on Oct 25, 2012 12:41:57 GMT -5
One of the best Christmas movies. There was a remake, I never saw it. She pretends to live in the country and be a housewife and mom since she writes for a major magazine. The editor decides to send a soldier from WWII there to recouperate. How do you find a farm and a husband and a baby all in a few days?
Good movie.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 25, 2012 15:16:01 GMT -5
We really might be related. Aunt M is only happy when she's mad or minding someone's business for them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2012 17:12:59 GMT -5
Yup. We're related ;D It's a good thing life coaches hadn't been invented yet when my mother was still alive because she'd have driven a life coach to drink. When offered a tried and true and even simple solution to any problem, large or small, Mom's response was always the same: "Ya, but..." And if there wasn't anything in particular going on or even on the horizon, she'd speculate about what was going to go wrong next or who was gonna do her wrong next. Oy! Of course, I inherited none of her worst traits, absorbed none through osmosis and none rubbed off on me. I'm a Paragon of Virtue!
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Post by midjd on Oct 26, 2012 8:24:47 GMT -5
Wait a sec. Your mom was Doxie?
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 26, 2012 10:30:54 GMT -5
After all my bitchin' - I spent some time with my Mom this week (and my sisters) and everyone was awesome. I think it was the most supportive and kindest we have all ever been to each other. Thanks to this board for listening and diffusing me. Your attitude going in can change your experience so much.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2012 13:46:49 GMT -5
Wait a sec. Your mom was Doxie? OMG! You don't suppose.... And Thyme, way to go! Rinse and repeat the next time all of you get together ;D
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 26, 2012 14:16:44 GMT -5
I try - but that is when the phone will ring, and my Mom will say something totally whack, and I'll be like "What just happened here? And, what is that knife sticking out of my back?"
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