imawino
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Post by imawino on Oct 12, 2012 12:50:38 GMT -5
Suck it up sister. You blew it not being born to ridiculously wealthy parents or marrying a ridiculously wealthy man. Responsibility is your destiny, responsible is your middle name and boring is your lifestyle! That is so depressing. Is it too late for me to hunt down a sugar daddy?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2012 12:51:53 GMT -5
It's never too late!
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Oct 12, 2012 12:53:37 GMT -5
I hear you. It's hard keeping up with everything. Being a mom, demanding career, house, dogs, etc. It's just plain hard. Plus my kiddo is sick this week so I've been extra busy. I need a house wife.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2012 12:55:29 GMT -5
Suck it up sister. You blew it not being born to ridiculously wealthy parents or marrying a ridiculously wealthy man. Responsibility is your destiny, responsible is your middle name and boring is your lifestyle! That is so depressing. Is it too late for me to hunt down a sugar daddy? Sugar daddies are usually at least 20 years older than you. Not too bad when you are 20 and they are 40...40 to 60 is a little less...palatable....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2012 12:56:19 GMT -5
LOL Rukh explained it better ;D
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 12, 2012 12:58:31 GMT -5
That is so depressing. Is it too late for me to hunt down a sugar daddy? LOL! Every year of your life the sugar daddy sweetness level decreases.....form loads of sugar (20's), so somewhat sweet (30's), to a wee bit tart (40's-50'S), and finally - after 60 - you're lucky if you can get a lemon daddy..... By the 60's, the proverbial shoe is on the other foot! Every.Unmarried.Guy.I.Know. over the age of sixty is hunting for a Nurse With a Purse!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 12, 2012 12:58:46 GMT -5
I love Pizza Hut. I am so unrefined ;D (Shudders, shakes head in disgust, and goes online to find suggestions for "real" pizza places)
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Post by movingforward on Oct 12, 2012 13:02:04 GMT -5
I actually ate the Pizza Hut buffet yesterday for lunch. YUMMY!!
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 12, 2012 13:07:17 GMT -5
I think you just copied a post I did 6 months ago.
I'm throwing in the towel - which doesn't really help in your situation.
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Post by swamp on Oct 12, 2012 13:09:19 GMT -5
i'm trying to figure out how to go part time, but I don't know how to do it, since court appearances are scheduled all over the place.
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Post by imawino on Oct 12, 2012 13:09:21 GMT -5
LOL! Every year of your life the sugar daddy sweetness level decreases.....form loads of sugar (20's), so somewhat sweet (30's), to a wee bit tart (40's-50'S), and finally - after 60 - you're lucky if you can get a lemon daddy..... ha! I'm 40 and I think you just called me a tart! Eh, if the shoe fits...... Now I just need to find someone to keep me in expensive slutty shoes.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 12, 2012 13:11:53 GMT -5
Do you have anyone that can offer you some flexibility, and then you can make your schedule less hours, but not consistent hours? So, you only work 30 hours - but sometimes you get all day Friday off, and other times, you work a few hours every day - but some of them are afternoon, and some are morning? I know that makes childcare a frickin' nightmare - but if you have someone who can charge you by the hour, and flex to your schedule, it might be worth it.
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Post by swamp on Oct 12, 2012 13:14:04 GMT -5
Unless I go out on my own, probably not. And there are only a few firms I would consider joining. I think lawyers, in general, are a bunch of douchebags.
And setting up a business would be a freakin' nightmare.
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Post by Formerly SK on Oct 12, 2012 13:16:19 GMT -5
I'm right there with you. The greatest hilarity of my day is the moaning and groaning from my kids ("Why do we have to do EVERYTHING around here? ") when I ask them to do something like put their shoes away.
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Post by Jake 48 on Oct 12, 2012 13:25:49 GMT -5
hug for swamp
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 12, 2012 13:27:11 GMT -5
I don't know how much it will help (or how hard it might be with the kids' activities), but what is working for me is finding a way, every few weeks or so, to have a day when I don't have to leave the house. I really like to do this on Sundays because I love football, but I'll take a Saturday if that's the way it works. Even if I have to do laundry and chores around the house, I don't have to put on real clothes and I can take mini breaks as I'm doing things. It makes me feel so much better just to have an entire day where we don't have anywhere we have to be and just don't leave the house.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2012 13:30:35 GMT -5
Swamp, you're way smarter than me, and we have very different lives. Of all the things I wish I could change about my parenting years, I really wish I'd done more for me. I think just a little bit of what felt like selfishness would've actually benefitted my family greatly. Trying to take care of everybody else's needs and live up to everybody else's expectations and sometimes even your own can be exhausting. That may not be helpful to you at all, or it may be something worth thinking about.
FWIW, I know what you mean about not wanting to be responsible anymore. I use to reallllly want to run away. Since my son graduated from high school, I've been trying my best to learn how to be irresponsible sometimes. I'm not excelling at it, but I keep trying anyway lol.
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Post by imawino on Oct 12, 2012 13:32:16 GMT -5
I'm right there with you. The greatest hilarity of my day is the moaning and groaning from my kids ("Why do we have to do EVERYTHING around here? ") when I ask them to do something like put their shoes away. Yep. I went home at lunchtime to let the dog out and picked up football crap (jersey, pads, helmet, filthy freaking shoes, etc) off my LIVING ROOM FLOOR and carted them up to my older stepson's bedroom and flung them in there. He will assume that he must have picked them up himself and be poud of all the work he does around the house, I'm sure. Also, one of his breakfast dishes made it to the sink this morning. So even though the glasses were still on the table and nothing actually made its way into the dishwasher, in his mind I'm pretty sure he "did the dishes".
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 12, 2012 13:34:39 GMT -5
CelticCougar: I disagree. I fully intend to have it all. But for me, having it all means the same thing it used to for men- I intend to have the job, the kid, and a stay at home husband.
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 12, 2012 13:36:35 GMT -5
I should add, my stay at home husband fully intends to have a maid. If we could figure out a live in housekeeper like on the Brady Bunch, that would be even better, though DH will still want to do the majority of the cooking.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2012 13:39:31 GMT -5
I don't know how much it will help (or how hard it might be with the kids' activities), but what is working for me is finding a way, every few weeks or so, to have a day when I don't have to leave the house. I really like to do this on Sundays because I love football, but I'll take a Saturday if that's the way it works. Even if I have to do laundry and chores around the house, I don't have to put on real clothes and I can take mini breaks as I'm doing things. It makes me feel so much better just to have an entire day where we don't have anywhere we have to be and just don't leave the house. I do this too now that my kids are adults. I spent 14 years having to leave my house and go somewhere every. single. day. The only time I MIGHT catch a break was if school was out. Now it's a big deal to me to not HAVE to go anywhere. I try to take one day a week to only do what I want to, even if it's absolutely nothing. Those are GREAT days. Not so easy to do when you have little people though.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Oct 12, 2012 13:43:40 GMT -5
I hear you swamp. I don't have an answer for you. I'm in training today and I had to finish a project before I left the office last night. I cried the whole way home I was so worn out. I don't have a suggestion. My DH is taking DS tomorrow afternoon to run errands (get sand for the sandbox) and I am under strict orders to relax when they leave. HAHA. That will really happen. Can your kids spend the night with the grandparents this weekend?
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Post by swamp on Oct 12, 2012 14:00:42 GMT -5
there's another problem. My mom just went in the hospital for chest pain. she already has 7 stents. they wanted to transfer her to a heart center 2 hours away, but they chose to go to FL for treatment. My BIL is a cardiologist, so she wanted to go there. I was a nervous wreck with her flying yesterday.
HOwever, they may get some time with MIL. Or one of my friends.
But it's also DD's birthday on sunday, so I'm not gonna run away that day. I was smart enough to schedule her party for next week, though, so I don't have to deal with that this weekend.
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 12, 2012 14:02:58 GMT -5
CelticCougar: I know men for whom the stigma would be a problem; DH doesn't care. None of our family or friends care (or if they do, aren't stupid enough to say anything in my hearing). We're both happy, and that's all that matters. When the kid finally arrives, DH will also be a much better SAHD than I would ever be a SAHM. He's not completely SAH, as he is in school, but even full time school means he's home most of the time. And the kid will be in daycare around 20 hours a week max (and that will include class and homework time).
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Post by muttleynfelix on Oct 12, 2012 14:05:19 GMT -5
awe swamp. Sorry to hear about your mom. Hopefully, she'll get excellent treatment in FL.
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 12, 2012 14:05:29 GMT -5
Swamp: *hugs* on the parent front. Would either of the kids consider it a special treat to get to spend 1:1 time with MIL or a friend? I know Sunday should probably be a family day, but could someone take the kids on Saturday, or even someone take DS Saturday night, so that DD could wake up on her birthday with her parents all to herself for an hour or two? That might ease the stress for you a little bit, too.
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Post by swamp on Oct 12, 2012 14:07:19 GMT -5
I dunno, my kids don't usually go anywhere without the other, and when they do, they tend to ask where the other is and when s/he is coming home.
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Post by movingforward on Oct 12, 2012 14:18:54 GMT -5
Swamp - so sorry to hear about your mom. Wish you all the best
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Post by milee on Oct 12, 2012 14:56:22 GMT -5
If you really felt this way and were serious, what would you do? Don't know what Swamp will do, but I reached this "had enough" point a few months ago. After some consultation with my YM peeps, I realized I was causing some of my own problems and had no control over others. I'm slowly making changes to the ones I cause and that's a good place to start. I've been cleaning a lot less and just today placed an ad for some help. The house is a mess, but it will probably get better soon. I even tried cooking with a crockpot since so many posters seem to love it. Some weird results and some good stuff, but I am spending less time on dinner. I've just plain old said "no" to a lot more at work and one of my Board positions. Some things are falling apart, some things aren't getting done and some things have been picked up by others and working well. Time will tell.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 12, 2012 14:56:59 GMT -5
Swamp When you do run away can you pick me up on the way by?
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