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Post by lynnerself on Aug 16, 2012 15:43:16 GMT -5
Interesting quiz here glo.msn.com/relationships/whats-your-parenting-style-quiz-8463.galleryWhat is your style? I came out a diplomat. "You acknowledge your kid's feelings, but also encourage them to solve their own problems. You are willing to compromise, but know when it's time to put your foot down. When you do, you always offer your kids an explanation. " Not too surprising.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 16, 2012 15:49:11 GMT -5
I came out as an Ostrich mom but I don't know how entirely accurate that is. I am pretty laid about about some things but I have found I am suprisingly old school when it comes to others.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 16, 2012 15:51:44 GMT -5
I'm an Ostrich Mom.
You're skeptical of the rules and don't want discipline to hinder your child's free spirit. "Kids need freedom and independence, so it's good to take your hands off the wheel and let them steer for a while," says Joseph Sclafani, Ph.D., author of The Educated Parent 2. That said, every kid needs some rules and boundaries, so don't stick your head in the sand and be afraid to set some guidelines.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 16, 2012 15:52:28 GMT -5
I came out as an Ostrich mom but I don't know how entirely accurate that is. I am pretty laid about about some things but I have found I am suprisingly old school when it comes to others. Ditto. I can be a hardass.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 16, 2012 15:54:11 GMT -5
I came out a Diplomat mom. I'm sure I would have tested different if I was younger when I was actually a step parent. I also didn't see anywhere on the test asking if I would scream and yell when they screwed up big time. That was all little stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 15:54:34 GMT -5
Ostrich
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Post by Loopdilou on Aug 16, 2012 15:57:26 GMT -5
Diplomat, but those answers sucked.. I wanted to be select multiple options on almost every one.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 15:57:59 GMT -5
I am pretty laid back. I don't sweat the small stuff and it is all small stuff, pretty much.
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Post by Abby Normal on Aug 16, 2012 16:00:32 GMT -5
I came out an ostrich too (and I'm a hard ass too). But I think the questions would depend on the age of the kid. For example the kid with dirty feet question. It's answered totally differently if it's a 10 year old vs a 3 year old.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 16:05:18 GMT -5
I don't know. Whenever we watch Wife Swap, my kids can't seem to decide if we are the laid back slob family or the disciplined neatnicks. Seems we fall into both categories at times.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Aug 16, 2012 16:07:07 GMT -5
First let me just say that test is bogus. Where was the fifth option of, "Ignore it and let your wife handle it" That said, I would apparently be an ostrich mom.
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Post by Loopdilou on Aug 16, 2012 16:14:31 GMT -5
First let me just say that test is bogus. Where was the fifth option of, "Ignore it and let your wife handle it" That said, I would apparently be an ostrich mom. Probably because I've let you spend the last 11 1/2 yrs ignoring it and letting your wife handle it. Douche.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 16:19:07 GMT -5
Don't ask, don't tell.
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Post by swamp on Aug 16, 2012 16:20:59 GMT -5
I came out as an Ostrich mom but I don't know how entirely accurate that is. I am pretty laid about about some things but I have found I am suprisingly old school when it comes to others.
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Post by milee on Aug 16, 2012 16:21:17 GMT -5
This test is wrong, says I'm a Diplomat. We all know that's not true.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 16, 2012 16:23:19 GMT -5
Buahahaa, I love this answer to "your kid makes Daddy a crappy birthday card": Let them go back to playing and make a new card yourself.
Yeah, that wouldn't defeat the entire purpose of having your kid make a birthday card or anything.
I'm a "Tiger Mom" (gee, I wonder what inspired this quiz?). I don't agree with her whole philosophy but I did appreciate parts of it. Course, who bloody knows what kind of parent I'll really be?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 16:24:08 GMT -5
I really don't want to be that involved with my kids' every waking moments. They have to learn to manage their own lives and make mistakes along the way.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 16, 2012 16:26:07 GMT -5
I really don't want to be that involved with my kids' every waking moments. They have to learn to manage their own lives and make mistakes along the way.
I agree with that to a large extent... it didn't say how old your kid was supposed to be in this quiz. I'd answer much differently for a 5 year old child than I would for an 11 year old child.
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Post by lynnerself on Aug 16, 2012 16:27:32 GMT -5
Buahahaa, I love this answer to "your kid makes Daddy a crappy birthday card": Let them go back to playing and make a new card yourself. Yeah, that wouldn't defeat the entire purpose of having your kid make a birthday card or anything. That's the answer for the Helicopter Mom, which apparently none of the YM people are.
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Post by milee on Aug 16, 2012 16:31:34 GMT -5
There really should also be a Multiple Personality Mom option as well. Depending on the child, I vary my response. It's not that I'm easier or tougher on one or the other, it's just that both have their own strengths/weaknesses and I focus the carrots and sticks accordingly.
So for the kid who can be inconsiderate and leave a mess for others (and is also older and knows better), I'd probably make him clean up his own muddy footprints because that's something we're working on. While for the kid who is normally very neat, tidy and caring of others, I'd probably let the muddy footprints go and pick another battle that was more important to his other issues. See - multiple personality mom.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 16:43:28 GMT -5
Hi Sybil! ;D
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Post by Firebird on Aug 16, 2012 16:44:56 GMT -5
I'd rather be super strict when they're young and ease up as they get older, than be too lax in the beginning and have trouble reigning it in later on when their behaviors are harder to change. Me too! If my five year old begs me for piano lessons, I'm not going to let her slide on practicing (and I will make sure she knows that going in). At fifteen? Different story. She ought to be able to manage her own time and her own decisions to a much greater extent by that point. I like the idea of multiple personality mom. There's some stuff I wouldn't care about as much as others, and it probably would depend very much on the kid.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 16, 2012 16:50:55 GMT -5
I don't see those answers as mutually exclusive - can't I tell them if their grades slip, soccer is out AND play with them in the backyard AND find a league that stresses teamwork? Because, if that isn't possible - no wonder I'm so tired! I've been three Moms at once.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 16:54:26 GMT -5
My DD does play piano and she is 10. I pay a lot of money for her lessons for a top notch teacher. And, she wanted to quit but i did stand my ground on this one. I don't make her practice but i do expect her to continue. The fear of showing up unprepared seems to be enough to convince her to practice some as her teacher is extremely bright and intimidating to both of us though he is very nice. Just obvious that he is a brilliant guy. Anyway, i do push that. But for other things i ahve been more lax on and allowed them to decide whether to quit or not.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 16, 2012 17:13:35 GMT -5
I'm a tiger mom. No surprise there.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 16, 2012 17:16:12 GMT -5
I just bought a piano and we will be setting up lessons next week. I'm very excited! I think I want to learn to play more than the kids. Anyone know of any books that I could do as an adult, without a teacher? I already know how to read music, and was in band for 15 years. I just never really played piano. So, I think I would have a leg-up on someone who was starting for the first time. I really want to buy books that teach how to play rock and pop music. My MIL has generously offered us a collection of hymns and other music for the glorification of god. I am just not interested in learning to play those types of pieces.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 16, 2012 17:18:08 GMT -5
Anyone know of any books that I could do as an adult, without a teacher?Suzuki method? (Okay, I got that out of the Tiger Mom book too I know nothing about learning piano.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 17:18:36 GMT -5
I'm a tiger mom. No surprise there. Really? I find that Amy Chua to be sad and annoying. And, i wouldn't want to raise my kids as a Tiger Mom. But, do what works for you. Your kids.
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Post by Firebird on Aug 16, 2012 17:19:49 GMT -5
Really? I find that Amy Chua to be sad and annoying. And, i wouldn't want to raise my kids as a Tiger Mom. But, do what works for you. Your kids.
Did you read the book? She questioned her own methods plenty toward the end there. Although I couldn't tell for sure if she was self-satirizing or she really meant it.
I thought she made some good points but I definitely didn't agree with her on everything. I am, after all, American.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 17:25:24 GMT -5
Really? I find that Amy Chua to be sad and annoying. And, i wouldn't want to raise my kids as a Tiger Mom. But, do what works for you. Your kids. Did you read the book? She questioned her own methods plenty toward the end there. Although I couldn't tell for sure if she was self-satirizing or she really meant it. l I thought she made some good points but I definitely didn't agree with her on everything. I am, after all, American. Fair enough. I did not read her book, just snippets of her book. In general, i just think most parents today are overly involved in their kids' lives to their kids detriment. So, i just think a more hands off approach will go further in the long run. Maybe Amy Chua made her daughter practice piano for hours a night. But, in my mind, that is hours her child was NOT doing something else instead or learning new things. So, i think the tiger mom thing is somewhat defeating to what your ultimate goal is.
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