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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 13:22:42 GMT -5
The kid is supposed to go in last according the books. People get car jacked fairly often while putting things in the trunk or whatever, and you don't want the guy driving off with the baby. Wow, I have never heard that. Kids pretty much always go in first because I am more worried about cars driving around the parking lot hitting my cart or stroller with a kid in there.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 19, 2012 13:23:56 GMT -5
Oh lordy, i should probably never tell others what I do, but what the heck. I never followed any guidelines on BM storage or any "heating" instructions. My philosophy was trying to get them used to to as many variations of temp as possible, bc we travel a lot and I wasn't about to drive myself insane with worrying about that. I also never had any heaters/coolers, etc etc etc. The kids got used to the same temp as whatever was in our apartment.
For the first 3 mo or so they slept in a DH's made bassinet and I went to WalMart and got a package of those thingies that they put under old people and put it underneath the sheet. 1 - they are disposable, so i didn't have to worry about doing laundry 5 times a day and 2 - they were VERY easy to use. Once the kids were moved to the crib - I put that underneath as well. It worked well until they started moving around the crib too much. I do have a waterproof pad on top of the mattress. In the last 4 yrs I only had a number of "big poop emergencies" in the crib, so didn't need the need for double pads and double sheets.
I really do try to take very good care of my kids, but I refuse to belief that I will damage them for life if I don't follow the bazzillion various instructions that I've been bombarded with from my 3 ex and 1 current pediatrician, all the books, articles and well-meaning friends and strangers. I guess time will tell.....
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Post by Firebird on Jul 19, 2012 13:24:32 GMT -5
Just for kicks you should take the huge stroller grocery shopping before baby arrives. To make it super realistic pick up a watermelon right when you get there and carry it one hand through the rest of the store (it's standing in for the baby who inexplicably loves their car seat/stroller right up until you get to the store and they start freaking out). This is made of fail before it even gets started. I've been eating A LOT of watermelon lately (seriously, a really ridiculous amount) and usually I buy two or three of those little personal watermelons at once. On the occasions when DH isn't with me, the checkout clerks tend to express doubt and unhappiness at the idea that I will be transporting these melons out to the car BY MYSELF. And so lately I've been joking that it's no different from carrying one in my tummy. But sure enough, by the time I get to the car I've pretty much had it. I have no idea how mothers of twins or triplets ever get anything substantial done. It's hard enough carrying those watermelons when they're not wriggling around on me. And they are in bags with handles.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 19, 2012 13:27:47 GMT -5
I have two HUGE strollers. I have never went shopping with them unless my DH was with me. Why would I bring a stroller into a grocery store? Also, by 18 mo I made my kids walk wherever we went. I love my SUV strollers. They are super comfy for the kids, I have room on the bottom to put whatever I need and they are very sturdy. I have the same two strollers through all of my kids. Lena
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 19, 2012 13:30:29 GMT -5
but I refuse to belief that I will damage them for life if I don't follow the bazzillion various instructions that I've been bombarded with from my 3 ex and 1 current pediatrician, all the books, articles and well-meaning friends and strangersHope you're saving for therapy instead of college. The mindboggling part is it all contradicts each other. You can drive yourself crazy trying to follow all the rules. Especially since they change on a dime.
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Post by shanendoah on Jul 19, 2012 13:31:47 GMT -5
The BRU/Target issue may be a regional thing? In our stores here, they do not stock the cribs. Everywhere in the crib section was the information for how to oder it and how long it would take to get it. Burlington was the only place where we could walk in and then walk out with the crib- though they did tell us they couldn't put it in a car. We'd need a truck or SUV to get it home. I think in cases of major city living, like with FB, ordering the crib for home delivery might be the best route.
Thanks folks for the thoughts on mattress pads. It never hurts to have information when having a discussion with my DH.
I'll have to tell him about the nursery water. Our tab water isn't bad, but he's more paranoid about chemicals than I am.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 13:33:24 GMT -5
In the last 4 yrs I only had a number of "big poop emergencies" in the crib, so didn't need the need for double pads and double sheets. I see no purpose in doubling up unless the kid is actually ill. You shouldn't have accidents that regularly & if you do I would be looking into trying a different brand of diapers. And if their ill doubling up may not cut it. I've had the rare night where I ran out of sheets & moved on to wrapping the crib in a beach towel or large sheet or putting them into a pack-n-play.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 13:35:23 GMT -5
The BRU/Target issue may be a regional thing? In our stores here, they do not stock the cribs. Everywhere in the crib section was the information for how to oder it and how long it would take to get it. Burlington was the only place where we could walk in and then walk out with the crib- though they did tell us they couldn't put it in a car. We'd need a truck or SUV to get it home. Stores are weird where you live. When we got the crib we just put it in my Mom's Camry. It fit.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 19, 2012 13:35:31 GMT -5
I know TRU doesn't stock the cribs, you have to special order them. The BRU in Omaha has them in stock. It might be a regional thing.
IF he's really worried about the tap water get a Brita filter for the faucet. Easy peasy and doesn't involve having to buy special water.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 19, 2012 13:38:03 GMT -5
I don't know how much stock I'd really put in the kid in last thing, unless you live in an area with a lot of car jackings.
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Post by shanendoah on Jul 19, 2012 13:38:11 GMT -5
Lena: Trust me, we are closer to you in our parenting philosophy than to a lot of other people around here. We've had to read parenting books as part of the adoption process, and you should hear DH complain about some of the books he's tried reading. Our social worker recommended one because DH mentioned he was a Buddhist, and I guess because the book mentions karma, people think it's a Buddhist parenting philosophy- we hope she's never actually read it, because the advice in it is sooo bad. At the same time, there are things we have to do, no matter what our personal philosophy is, in order to satisfy the government requirements for obtaining a foster care license.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 13:43:18 GMT -5
I had to use a double stroller for almost a year - talk about GIANT! I wouldn't take it to the grocery store either -- grocery shopping by myself was my alone time back then.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 13:45:26 GMT -5
DS is almost 1 and we have only taken him to the store 2 or 3 times. There are two parents - why would I need to take a baby to the supermarket? I guess I could if I wanted to, but who needs that hassle?
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Post by shanendoah on Jul 19, 2012 13:49:17 GMT -5
mj: Grocery shopping is one of those things DH and I do together. He's the cook, so knows what he needs for cooking, but he'd forget if we ran out of staples, and he'll never be the one to know if we need non-food items. Yes, we could make lists, but it's just something we've always done together, except for the few times things have been busy enough that we've needed to divide and conquer. It's possible we'll split grocery shopping when there's a kid, but it's also possible that it will remain something we do as a family.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 13:51:26 GMT -5
DS is almost 1 and we have only taken him to the store 2 or 3 times. There are two parents - why would I need to take a baby to the supermarket? I guess I could if I wanted to, but who needs that hassle? Do you never go shopping together?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 19, 2012 13:51:43 GMT -5
We used to take Gwen all the time when she was a newborn becuase she'd sleep all the way thru. Grocery shopping just goes faster with two of us. Then when she could sit up we'd stick her in the cart basket. Then she learned to walk and didn't want to be in the seat and doesn't want to cooperate. She can be a real pill. So now we try to get our parents to babysit or we split. She was pretty good the last time we took her, she held my hand and helped me shop. I find I can get her ot behave if I involve her. Nothing is a bigger thrill for her than for us to hand her things and she gets to dramatically throw them into the cart.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 13:52:15 GMT -5
shane - we used to grocery shop together, but that pretty much stopped once DS was born. The 3 of us have gone shopping together maybe twice, but IMO having the two of them with me slows me down. (I'm the cook.)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 13:54:05 GMT -5
Parenting had an article about shopping with little ones. They suggest attaching laminated pictures of items in the store to a key ring and then having the kid search them out in the aisle.
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Post by midjd on Jul 19, 2012 13:56:19 GMT -5
I don't think DH has even stepped foot inside a supermarket for 3 or 4 years... I shop, he cooks.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 19, 2012 14:01:59 GMT -5
For DD's bottles/sippy cups, we use the water out of our fridge/freezer water spicket. For the times we are travelling, I bring normal bottled water with us. I use the tupperware-type containers that already have the amount of formula I need. Just put the water in, put the formula in, shake and serve. If it's room tempature, she'll drink it. If it's cold, she'll drink it. She's never had it warm that I know of. For shopping, it depends on what's going on. I've brought her with me or left her at home with DH. If I run errands for the day and DH has other plans, then I bring her with me. If DH's home, then I'll leave her with him. If she goes with me, she does do pretty good. FWIW, she's 11.5 months old and still in the starting-to-walk phase.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 19, 2012 14:06:51 GMT -5
For our crib, I purchased it online through Walmart. I got this crib: www.walmart.com/ip/AFG-Athena-Nadia-3-in-1-Convertible-Fixed-Side-Crib-White/16828324. For a couple of bucks, they shipped it to my door as we didn't have to try to get it in our cars. It was worth it! ;D FWIW, we do use a crib mattress cover. Knock on wood, I haven't had to change a dirty sheet in the middle of the night, but it seems worth it to me in case we have to in the future.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 14:38:58 GMT -5
Does nursery water have fluoride in it? Yes I just used tap water, but then we have pretty good water where I live. ETA - I looked it up & now you can buy nursery water without flouride. They didn't use to offer that. they actually have something called nursery water? I used it straight from the tap when I went to formula with the first 2. they also all got their pumped breastmilk at daycare straight from the fridge.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 19, 2012 14:40:21 GMT -5
Yes, there is something called "nursery water". You can buy it at the grocery store, big box store, etc. Personally, I use the water from our fridge/ice mixer thing.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 19, 2012 14:40:48 GMT -5
Yep, and just like over 90% of all bottled water, it's tap water that's been run through a cheap filter so they can charge you an arm and a leg for it. Wish I'd been smart enough to think of it. The profit margin must be insane.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 14:41:28 GMT -5
In the last 4 yrs I only had a number of "big poop emergencies" in the crib, so didn't need the need for double pads and double sheets. I see no purpose in doubling up unless the kid is actually ill. You shouldn't have accidents that regularly & if you do I would be looking into trying a different brand of diapers. And if their ill doubling up may not cut it. I've had the rare night where I ran out of sheets & moved on to wrapping the crib in a beach towel or large sheet or putting them into a pack-n-play. My second kid (boy) peed out of every single diaper no matter what I did. pointed his junk different ways, double diapered (larger size over smaller size), laying him down differently, etc. I did what someone else suggested - made up the bed in several layers so all I had to do was rip off a layer and he was good to go.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 14:42:44 GMT -5
Yes I just used tap water, but then we have pretty good water where I live. ETA - I looked it up & now you can buy nursery water without flouride. They didn't use to offer that. they actually have something called nursery water? I used it straight from the tap when I went to formula with the first 2. they also all got their pumped breastmilk at daycare straight from the fridge. Yep, LOL www.nurserywater.comThey now have a no flouride option. I know they didn't use to have this because I got into a big argument on YM a few years back with someone who used nursery water because "it didn't have flouride". Ummm, yes it does have flouride. I think the company got a lot of crap because I think the general recommendation anymore is flouride is unnecessary, so why are they adding it to water.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 14:43:40 GMT -5
Yep, and just like over 90% of all bottled water, it's tap water that's been run through a cheap filter so they can charge you an arm and a leg for it. Wish I'd been smart enough to think of it. The profit margin must be insane. it would be cheaper, and probably more effective, to just put one of those Brita or Pur water filter things on your faucet.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 19, 2012 14:46:20 GMT -5
I see no purpose in doubling up unless the kid is actually ill. You shouldn't have accidents that regularly & if you do I would be looking into trying a different brand of diapers. And if their ill doubling up may not cut it. I've had the rare night where I ran out of sheets & moved on to wrapping the crib in a beach towel or large sheet or putting them into a pack-n-play. My second kid (boy) peed out of every single diaper no matter what I did. pointed his junk different ways, double diapered (larger size over smaller size), laying him down differently, etc. I did what someone else suggested - made up the bed in several layers so all I had to do was rip off a layer and he was good to go. Wow, I had that problem at one point, but it was because I purchased cheap generic diaper. They didn't absorb fast enough & he liked to lay on his back with his legs curled up in the air, so everything just ran out the back. That is when I decided I only do pampers & they have worked well with both kids. Although I know they don't for everyone.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 19, 2012 14:51:53 GMT -5
Yeah, right. I am saving for MY therapy!!!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jul 19, 2012 15:19:01 GMT -5
I think the company got a lot of crap because I think the general recommendation anymore is flouride is unnecessary, so why are they adding it to water.
We are on a well. So DS's peditrician either wanted him to drink nursery water with floride or we could do floride drops. We nursery water because it is so much easier to deal with. A gallon lasts not quite a week and then we switch to tap water until we go back to the store. It is a $1 a gallon at Walmart.
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