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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2012 11:59:45 GMT -5
We had a lot of years where we were really at odds with one another. Not because of anything but because he grew up in an alcoholic home and he had a lot of resentment issues. So, when we got married, he behaved in a very passive aggressive way toward me. I really didn't know how to deal with it and i made a lot of excuses to myself and for him as to why he wasn't living up to being a good spouse. And, when i finally woke up to what was happening, we came very close to divorcing. And, he would go through periods where he would try to "help" more, but he was also still very defensive. Anyway, the real breakthrough was when he really came to terms with how he was behaving toward me and i finally knew that he really "got it". It has taken a huge weight off of my shoulders to finally know that he realizes how painful that was toward me and how unfair and that it wasn't me "nagging or demanding' but it was him trying to shirk off what he really needed to do. Now, he is kind and loving and open to giving and receiving love. He sets his alarm clock when he is not working to get up and make me coffee. He has really done a 180 turn around and has become a wonderful husband. And, this isn't a short lived thing as he has now been doing this for several years and we have a great relationship. So, people can learn to work together and change.
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