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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 13, 2011 14:57:42 GMT -5
Dallas On some level there was an attraction to you and Ms attorney. Keep her as a friend and...find that new level. A friend as an attorney could come in handy. Deb, LOL!! So you recommend he break her heart and then use her?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 13, 2011 15:00:32 GMT -5
You can also say that you feel that you're just not in the same place right now... Rose, wouldn't that still give her hope worded that way? I would just explain to her that you just don't feel the same about her as she does you. That you've enjoyed the time spent with her but the relationship is not for you.
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Post by Apple on Jan 13, 2011 15:16:46 GMT -5
I'm going with the fact that you are two different people with two different life-styles. I wouldn't want to say I didn't really have time, because she might wonder when you will, or get upset if you start seeing someone else right away. You've just "realized that you need someone more in-sync with your own life". That you have enjoyed your time, but it's not what you want long-term.
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Post by efco on Jan 13, 2011 15:21:06 GMT -5
hi apple
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Jan 13, 2011 15:24:10 GMT -5
NO
There was an attraction that should be acknowledged. Let the old friendship go and start a different one-if the so wanted to.
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Post by Apple on Jan 13, 2011 17:37:36 GMT -5
hi apple
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2011 18:06:17 GMT -5
You can also say that you feel that you're just not in the same place right now... Rose, wouldn't that still give her hope worded that way? I would just explain to her that you just don't feel the same about her as she does you. That you've enjoyed the time spent with her but the relationship is not for you. True... but then again, some people will see a sliver of hope in any situation. Haven't you seen Dumb & Dumber? "So you're saying I have a chance!" ;D
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 13, 2011 18:23:32 GMT -5
Heh. Yep, and it sure isn't an easy thing to do, is it? For me, I found the advice of an older woman friend to be the answer at the time. She said: "Just be honest. There's never a better way than that." I told the guy I enjoyed his friendship and would hate to lose it, but friendship was all that could ever be between us. I did my best to let him know I thought a lot of him as a person, which I did.
At first, things didn't go very well. He was hurt, and angry. However, after a few weeks, we ran into each other at a party given by a mutual friend. We talked and realized we were both doing just fine, and finding new friends and new avenues to be explored. He passed away a few years back, but we remained friends for over 40 years.
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 18:29:25 GMT -5
ran into her at/near my local joints...she seems OK... I'm surprised and happy for her actually she brought her male friend and met him...maybe something between them ...hope so !!!
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Post by suzwantstobefree on Jan 13, 2011 18:42:21 GMT -5
I think you have gotten some excellent advice here. The one thing I would say is do it as soon as possible.
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