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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 10:47:41 GMT -5
Just curious,
How have you told someone in the past that "it's over" meaning how did you go about it, did you take them somewhere and/or did you lead up to it in a certain way ?
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 13, 2011 10:53:09 GMT -5
In my younger days, I had to do it more than once. I had a couple of guys in college that got too serious for my comfort based on how I was feeling about them. I wanted to just go out and have fun and they wanted some sort of "relationship".
I would think how you would do it would depend on the type of relationship you had with the person. Who is it that you want to tell "it's over"?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 13, 2011 10:57:02 GMT -5
Dallas, is this your way of dumping me???   |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 10:58:22 GMT -5
Hi DM,
It's a really nice attorney lady I met recently but it got kinda of boring. She's a great gal so really it's on me, just trying to find the right way.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 13, 2011 10:59:14 GMT -5
Hi DM, It's a really nice attorney lady I met recently but it got kinda of boring. She's a great gal so really it's on me, just trying to find the right way. Oh, so it's swamp you're dumping?  |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 10:59:45 GMT -5
Hi Miss T. hope your doing great but we have to talk  |
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 13, 2011 11:01:50 GMT -5
Hi DM, It's a really nice attorney lady I met recently but it got kinda of boring. She's a great gal so really it's on me, just trying to find the right way. If it's a fairly recent relationship, why would it be that hard to break off? |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:02:31 GMT -5
LOL, Miss T... it's not Swamp...I'm afraid of her
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:03:49 GMT -5
The running joke with my circle of friends is that I'm the "We need to talk" girl, LOL. I don't even try to deny it  Overall, it depends on the situation. But, in general, I am as direct as I can possibly be. Sometimes that's not enough...then you call 911 and get that order of protection |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:04:54 GMT -5
DM, only b/c she is a great gal and has told me over and over again "how she found the one" again it's not her it's me.
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Post by The J on Jan 13, 2011 11:06:12 GMT -5
My ex warmed me up by telling me that we needed to postpone the wedding. She then made plans to meet up with some other guy, and then told me she had made the plans. That took care of it.
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 13, 2011 11:08:32 GMT -5
DM, only b/c she is a great gal and has told me over and over again "how she found the one" again it's not her it's me. Okay, so let me get this straight. It's a fairly new relationship; but she has already told you that you're "the one"? I was jokingly going to tell you to tell her, "IT'S YOU, NOT HER" in traditional Seinfeld fashion. |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:09:20 GMT -5
WOW @ J..... that must have hurt... oh well, at least it was before the wedding so you lucked out...
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:11:22 GMT -5
DM, only b/c she is a great gal and has told me over and over again "how she found the one" again it's not her it's me. First, don't drag it out if you already know your not feeling it. Chances are she can already sense it and is busting her head trying to "fix" whatever she thinks is wrong. Second, do it in person and DON't say "it's me not you." That's the worst crap to hear cuz obviuosly it is someting about me which is why your not into me.  |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:13:19 GMT -5
DM, correct..actually Seinfeld was a show about nothing so my soon to be lady friend would of not of understood.. maybe that was a tell-tale ?
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:13:42 GMT -5
My ex warmed me up by telling me that we needed to postpone the wedding. She then made plans to meet up with some other guy, and then told me she had made the plans. That took care of it.  ouch |
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Post by The J on Jan 13, 2011 11:15:31 GMT -5
Yeah, it was rough. But I'm feeling much better about it (and glad that it happened).
I agree. She deserves at least an explanation of why you don't feel the same way toward her, and why you don't want to be in a relationship.
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:16:17 GMT -5
@jenn so you don't recommend a fax with bullets explaining ?
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:17:23 GMT -5
Yeah, it was rough. But I'm feeling much better about it (and glad that it happened). You should be glad   |
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Jan 13, 2011 11:17:28 GMT -5
Dallas
On some level there was an attraction to you and Ms attorney.
Keep her as a friend and...find that new level.
A friend as an attorney could come in handy.
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 13, 2011 11:19:31 GMT -5
DM, correct..actually Seinfeld was a show about nothing so my soon to be lady friend would of not of understood.. maybe that was a tell-tale ? I agree with Dallas. It's best not to drag it out. If it's a fairly recent relationship as you stated, it will sting; but it shouldn't hurt for that long. And definitely tell her in person. |
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Post by The J on Jan 13, 2011 11:20:31 GMT -5
Yeah, it was rough. But I'm feeling much better about it (and glad that it happened). You should be glad Very.    |
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:20:40 GMT -5
@jenn so you don't recommend a fax with bullets explaining ? No...not so much  Although, if you need the bullet points for reference during the talk, I say go for it. Oh and not sure how you feel about the whole "staying friends" thing, but personally don't even try. It's bon voyage/til we meet again/best of luck/adios...end chapter. |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:25:38 GMT -5
@ DebMD kinda understand what your saying however having an attorney on "my side" is not really important due to my best friend is an attorney...
Dm... In person is my plan. nothing fancy just a cup a coffee at a restaurant with a lot of witnesses !!! don't need to be on the show "Snapped"
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:31:34 GMT -5
Jenn, totally agree with you..the "lets be friends" thing never works out.. good point!
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 13, 2011 11:33:21 GMT -5
I know it's a drag; good luck with it.
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:34:13 GMT -5
Thanks DM...
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Post by jennml on Jan 13, 2011 11:38:38 GMT -5
So just out of curiosity...what would the bullet points be?  |
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Post by Dallas on Jan 13, 2011 11:42:27 GMT -5
Bullet points would look like this.
* <name> Hello
* Your a wonderful lady.
* You deserve a better man than me
* We need to move on
* Thank you for all the fond memories.
* Wish you well
* Take care. <my name>
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Post by deziloooooo on Jan 13, 2011 11:43:55 GMT -5
Hi DM, It's a really nice attorney lady I met recently but it got kinda of boring. She's a great gal so really it's on me, just trying to find the right way. It's been a while but remember one..Just said I had been doing some thinking and realized it was not really going to go any farther and not fair to her so it is best we seperate . Something like that. Now i was older..not a kid...say in my 40's..she and some one like me would in most cases be looking to be involved with something of the mind of permancy..so it depends were you are I guess. |
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