Depression Support

[me2]

Oh YES...I get angry with life. I get angry at the world, at myself, my husband, work...everyone. Unfortunately I do not express my anger until it builds up and all I can do is cry for hours and feel horrible. I tend to isolate myself from people. I don't have anyone that I want to share my feelings with. Maybe if I shared my feelings I would feel better. I smile to the world, but inside I am either depressed or angry. I am rarely happy.

[Deleted]

Hi peeps!


I would like to give you some of my musings and thoughts on Depression from my personal experience and journey out of it.

I was really in a bad place several years ago and never thought i would be able to find the joy of life. To laugh and have fun. Depression is an overwhelming sickness of the soul which seeps into your entire being and then seeps out and contaminates your whole world. I have learned that depression is something that i ultimately nutured and coddled. When i finally realized it as an Enemy to my soul, my life, my joy and family i think i have been able to learn to contain the seeping Sewage of depression that lies within. Depressed people often turn anger within. You may have legitimate anger and hurts and offenses. Or, you may be angry at life or yourself. We often turn that anger upon ourselves and allow it to destroy our self esteem and worth. A big part of my journey was simply learning to live for Today. Learning to forget the past, forget yesterday, put that all behind you. Focus on what is right in the world and not wrong. Allow yourself to forgive yourself and forgive others. Not just for certain things but forgiving on a daily basis. Forgiving yourself for past wrongs. Forgiving others who hurt you intentionally or unintentionally. Stop looking for reasons to be offended and look for reasons for joy. I feel that my life has turned around 180 degrees from the place from which i was. I had so much fun last weekend with some old friends and laughed like i have never laughed. For the first time in my life, i really feel comfortable in my own skin. I think Depression is a Dis Ease where we simply cannot accept that we cannot control all the events of our life or circumstances and still find a way to have peace and joy about it.
I guess i am saying that you can find happiness again and not just a short lived happiness but an inner peace.

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Jun 22, 2012 14:11:35 GMT -5 MittenKitten said:

Hello everyone!

Do you get really angry with life? I have been dealing with that earlier this month. I wrote about it on a blog that is hidden and it did help get those feelings out but man was I ANGRY with no real good outlet. What do you do when this happens to you?

For those of the spiritual persuasion, i have to Highly recommend the book "Bait of Satan" by John Bevere. This book has transformed my life. It is about learning to deal with offenses. And, learning that offenses WILL come in our lives and how to deal with them. That taking "offense" is really an enemy and poison to our own soul and well being and an entrapment. It has truly helped me learn to not take offense at slights. Yes, there are times you still get angry, offended and so forth. But, to learn to quickly deal with those feelings and move on and not let it become a prison to your own being.

[Deleted]

Good morning! Where have all the regulars gone?

[Deleted]

I found that for some jobs, it is best to invoke one's feminine powers and plead ignorance on all things lawn related !

[Deleted]

I like to procrastinate with housework. But, i finally have myself organized enough to get it done more efficiently. Just have to keep plugging away.

[kimber45]

Daphne, mowing is one of my "outside" jobs around the house. I actually find it very relaxing. I have always been on the tomboy side, I would rather work outside than keep house any day.

[Deleted]

Hey Kimber! I am a tomboy too. I love physically exerting myself and jumping in and getting dirty!

[happyhippy]

It is understandable to think depression is an illness. When people are ill ,they take medication. When they take medication ,they rely on it further down the line by the experience, for any time they feel depressed later(Generally ).

This experienced is passed on. Amazingly a multitude of people depressed go through the same motion. Some feel better and some take longer or sadly can't take it any more.

That's life some will say. Or is it? Be not alarmed!

What if depression is NOT an illness and does not require medication even?

Explanation; Depression is merely the low and deep part of the sad emotions. Its natural and we have had it tucked away in the inner parts of our psyche,ready for a particular occasion,in conjunction when we think too much into it.

Studies have found most positive by the proposition that when in this state, the individual only needs to be preoccupied doing something.Such so that the person has no time to think outside the task.

Sounds too good to be true,because of the simplicity in its concept.
But it works and it is so groovy

[Deleted]

I have to respectfully disagree. I think depression IS a complex issue. Most people have the normal range of emotions of feeling sad, mad, happy, whatever. For those of us who deal with depression, it rears its ugly head no matter our life circumstances. It is an unnatural reaction and also a predisposition based on our biochemistry. Those who experience this type of debilitating depression simply cannot "pull themselves up by their bootstraps". I spent years blaming myself for not being able to pull myself up. I must be too lazy, too stupid, too whatever that i could not pull myself out of this spiral. So, there are points in time where you do need help, be it counseling or medication to be raise you up to a place where you have the strength to then help yourself.
I do agree that depression isn't simply a medical problem. It is also a crisis of the spirit, soul and emotion. And, it has to be attacked on multiple fronts. If you only take medication and don't deal with the emotional/spiritual side of the equation, then i don't think you will truly be helped. If you don't also recognize a possible biochemical connection, then you may not be able to raise yourself up enough to be able to deal with the the other issues.
As for me, been there, done that, got the t shirt. If i can now help other people through that journey, that would be a wonderful thing.

[MittenKitten]

Just found out this morning that the 16 year old girl who lives across the street from us died yesterday morning while walking or jogging. I am just heartbroken. She was the sweetest person. She took care of her 8 year old brother and 3 1/2 year old sister to the point of really being the one who raised them. She was just over here twice on Friday for her sister to play with my DD. Had the nicest conversation with her.

Really if I could have I would have taken her into my home and let her be the teenager she deserved to be. Instead she raised her siblings, cooked dinner and did her mother's job. She had 2 years and she would have been free to live her life and have fun. I am so happy I knew her and hope by being there to talk to somehow eased her burdens.

Even though her parents didn't do right by her I know they are heartbroken.

[Jaguar]

Mitt Kitt, so very sorry for your friend. How on earth did a 16 year old die while out walking or jogging ? Was she murdered ?

[MittenKitten]

She had some medical issues that seemed to be under control and went for her first jog/walk in a long time (over a year.) They haven't completed the autoposy yet so they don't have the exact cause, just that it was not heat related.

minnesota.cbslocal.com/2012/07/02/girl-16-dies-after-running-in-hot-weather-in-nw-metro/

[Jaguar]

Jul 2, 2012 15:13:54 GMT -5 MittenKitten said:

She had some medical issues that seemed to be under control and went for her first jog/walk in a long time (over a year.) They haven't completed the autoposy yet so they don't have the exact cause, just that it was not heat related.

minnesota.cbslocal.com/2012/07/02/girl-16-dies-after-running-in-hot-weather-in-nw-metro/

Oh that is so sad. I know about asthma and really hot weather.

May she rest in peace.

[me2]

So very sorry to hear of your neighbor Mitten. That is so sad.

I CAN mow the grass...but choose not to. Especially now -- WAY TO HOT OUTSIDE!
I am not a tomboy...but I can get in there and work with the best of them. My friends laugh at me at some of the things I have done.

Depression is very complex. People suffer differently than others. It is NOT for you to judge those who have it. Trust me, they would rather NOT have it but have not been able to get through it. I am one, there are times when I feel good where I have been asked what is depression is like and I haven't been able to answer because I wasn't feeling depressed. Then there are days that it takes everything Ihave to get up out of the bed to do anything.

[Deleted]

Good morning! Embrace the joys of Today!

[happyhippy]

A good morning to you too Shooby.

Will get back to you on my opinion of depression,but yours is acknowledged.

[Deleted]

OK, great. Of course we all have different opinions and different points of view and experiences. I can only offer up my own personal perspective based on my experiences and my insight and what has worked for me. YMMV. ;D

[Deleted]

Yes, telling people to "get over it" isn't really helpful. If we COULD just get over it, we would. But, we either can't or don't know how. It is a journey and process that involves time to work on ourselves physically , emotionally , mentally, spiritually to get the a place where depression is no longer in charge of our being.

[happyhippy]

Hopefully next week's vacation will do him some good!!

Absolutely, This is also part of the healing for depression.In most cases people have to deal with it in the same environment,same four walls where sorrow started in the first place,especially those unfortunately that have no means to go anywhere else.

Enjoy the vacation!

[Deleted]

Good morning! Another day in the journey!

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You guys aren't keeping up with this thread! Where is everybody? ;D

[kimber45]

Hi Shoob, I wonder the same thing

[femmefatale]

I feel like this is the thread for me right now. I don't really like talking about it, but depression has set in on me pretty hard in the last month.

Hippy, I have to disagree with you on your statement. I have suffered from anxiety attacks since the age of 7. Why do we have Doctors and such for mental illnesses, if you feel like it is all in our thought process? I do agree with that to some extent, but I also know it has a lot to do with the amount of seretonin in the brain, as well.

Hippy, have you ever suffered from any type of depression, yourself?

[happyhippy]

Jul 13, 2012 10:09:09 GMT -5 @femmefatale said:

I feel like this is the thread for me right now. I don't really like talking about it, but depression has set in on me pretty hard in the last month.

Hippy, I have to disagree with you on your statement. I have suffered from anxiety attacks since the age of 7. Why do we have Doctors and such for mental illnesses, if you feel like it is all in our thought process? I do agree with that to some extent, but I also know it has a lot to do with the amount of seretonin in the brain, as well.

Hippy, have you ever suffered from any type of depression, yourself?

I am sorry to hear this is what you're feeling. Truly hope things changes very soon.

I have had the same types of anxieties and worries as young child and was always afraid of the dark. Realization then comes to fore in time,and then you re-think and say what on earth was I so nervous about?

There were times back then,when I would seep into sheer sadness or depression.,sometimes over the loss of someone close or even much lesser things.Time went by and I was fine.

Depression does not exist in me anymore, so to speak,simply because I accept things even crazy things may or may not happen .

IMO depression is not a disease as we may know it. It is however indication of a personal disharmony that can be fixed or mended, by methods alternative to just medication.

At least look into it Femme.

[Reckless Roselia]

Jul 2, 2012 10:41:10 GMT -5 happyhippy said:

It is understandable to think depression is an illness. When people are ill ,they take medication. When they take medication ,they rely on it further down the line by the experience, for any time they feel depressed later(Generally ).

This experienced is passed on. Amazingly a multitude of people depressed go through the same motion. Some feel better and some take longer or sadly can't take it any more.

That's life some will say. Or is it? Be not alarmed!

What if depression is NOT an illness and does not require medication even?

Explanation; Depression is merely the low and deep part of the sad emotions. Its natural and we have had it tucked away in the inner parts of our psyche,ready for a particular occasion,in conjunction when we think too much into it.

Studies have found most positive by the proposition that when in this state, the individual only needs to be preoccupied doing something.Such so that the person has no time to think outside the task.

Sounds too good to be true,because of the simplicity in its concept.
But it works and it is so groovy

That is an interesting way to look at depression, Hipster, thank you for this informative post.

[femmefatale]

It's not a matter of how you look at something.

There's a difference in someone who has had a family member pass away, or have gone through a divorce...Anyone would normally be depressed for a certain amount of time over that. That would be a normal reaction, I would think.

I'm talking, having panic attacks daily from the age of 7, all the way up til adult years. I had as many as 3 or 4 daily sometimes and no matter what technique I used, they never went away. I tried breathing tapes, and all that stuff...Complete bs. Didn't work.

Hippy, depression and anxiety also are hereditary...Did you know that? My Mom has it, My Grandmother has it. It's been proven that a person who has it ongoing throughout life, has a chemical imbalance. I hate having to depend on meds and have even had to quit some of them, because of the way they sedate me.

The only thing that really helps me is an anti-anxiety drug. I went years dealing with this and it's painful, mentally and physically. So, all I am saying is there are instances of temporary depression but there are some who suffer it more chronically and have to be medicated.

[Jaguar]

There is no band aid solution for depression and all it's facets and twists and turns. Each and every individual has to deal with it in their own way and find their own solution. For some like myself the holistic approach and meditation is what helps me. For others they need the meds. It's as simple yet complex as that. Each person must find their own way in their own time.

[femmefatale]

But it is still a medical condition.(illness) That's all I am saying. Some people shrug it off like, oh just "feel better" or "pull yourself out of it"....It's not that simple. I wish it were. I'm saying there are some more severe cases than others who go through temporary anxiety and depression. It upsets me that it is not looked upon as a medical condition and is simply shrugged off as, "look at it in a different approach" or "there's nothing really wrong with you."

Very interesting link for people who seem to think that it is just the person and their surroundings and not a medical condition. Have a nice day.


www.webmd.com/depression/guide/causes-depression

[Jaguar]

I didn't say that it wasn't a medical issue. I also didn't say and neither do I think that it's just the person and their surroundings.