Personal Problem :(

[3jsmom31]

I'm glad we started this conversation. My bro was the favorite, so he was treated differently than I was. If this is the result, I can only be glad I wasn't the favorite, lol.....

I appreciate all the comments and some really good insights ,

Drama, it sounds like you are feeling a lot of mixed emotions. I think it's okay to take a break without burning the bridge.

I wish it was simple to just reset the relationship. I've tried to forget the past, but I think my bro lives in the past... During the few days of his visit, he made several comments that were "snipe attacks" toward me. That is something that I can do without. I wasn't being facetious with him.

After I asked him for private time to catch up, he kept trying to push the old hot buttons like he wanted me to fight with him. I just passed on all of it. I could care less if he thinks his ex is a bad parent, at least she is parenting their child, whereas my bro left to go run away with this other woman. That was what my biggest fight was, he shouldn't have abandoned his child for any reason.... I hate that he did that, and it's hard to respect him since he did. He treats me like he thinks that I'm beneath him or something. I don't get that. I'll send care packages, and even put some thought/energy into it, but he'll probably scrutinize it instead of see it as a kindness. Maybe deep down he knows I was right, because his child doesn't even recognize him. His anger over that was ridiculous. How can he expect a young kid to remember him without seeing him for years?

There is more, we

[3jsmom31]

I get the biggest kick out of you calling your brother a douche. I think I'll start calling mine that, I just grin or laugh every time I think of it, lol... We used to come up with the best names for each other, it was part of the fun. I can see my care package letter....

Dear Douche,
Blah blah blah...

I think the salutation will definitely make the letter here ... Just kidding, but at least it's fun to think about

[speechchick71]

I heard/read an even better term than douche: DOUCHEKNUCKLE!

I really can't imagine having these kind of sibling issues. It hurts to even read about yours (and yours and yours and yours...) because even though I don't talk to all my siblings often (1-2 of them I talk to almost daily), when we are together we always have a lot of fun.

Maybe "this too shall pass" but if the sib isn't mature enough to get over all this sense of entitlement (because thats what it sounds like a lot of), then you're probably better off cooling the relationship.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

it sounds like you are feeling a lot of mixed emotions. I think it's okay to take a break without burning the bridge.

That's what I told my mom. I said I am not never going to speak to him again as long as he lives, I am just not speaking to him till he is done being an asshole.

Course I realize this COULD be for as long as he lives, but that's a risk I'm willing to take.

I said he wants to hold a grudge against me for what happened in June that is his problem. I said I am done apologizing for having been born first and I am tired of apologizing only to have him scream at me yet again for some percieved ill I have caused him.

When he decides he wants to get clean, get help and pull his head out of his ass I will be there to support him 100%.

But I am done with the drama. I have my own kid to focus on and I am tired of my time and energy being wasted playing his mind games.