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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:27:59 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13783 - 11/16/10 02:54 PMI was surprised at how low the baby still is. I thought it would be a little higher by now. I guess that will come. It was a strong heartbeat though, and the doctor found it immediately At around 12 weeks the uterus will move up into the abdominal cavity. At around 20 weeks the uterus will move again this time up towards your belly button. At around 25 weeks it'll move above your belly button. Gwen didn't start hanging around the top of my uterus till it moved past my belly button. azure skyMessage #13784 - 11/16/10 03:24 PMWow! So much excitement! eternal -- I had a small "scare" because the u/s could not originally determine if one of the ventricles of the heart was normal (also a potential marker of Down's), and they scheduled a followup u/s. The followup was perfect. I wouldn't worry, especially if they didn't schedule an extra u/s. I agree with pp that sometimes the details in the new u/s just raise concerns. Gusita -- those pics are absolutely adorable! You look fantastic Gardener -- Olivia is just a total cutie. I love her baby blue eyes! I think my DS is also a skipper-of-milestones. He still hasn't rolled over, at almost 6 months. I think he just isn't going to do it--he'll probably crawl first, lol. It is so cute to think of her getting ready to walk. Hope for the ladies whose DH's don't want a second child -- My DH was pretty traumatized by the birth. He has said "don't even talk to me about another child," a few times. So you can imagine my surprise when, on Sunday, he suggested we have #2 in spring of 2014. He had it all planned out. I guess he just needed a little space? ladykiMessage #13785 - 11/16/10 03:44 PMGood Morning Ladies, I usally bring Kiani to our bed around 4:00am everyday, well this morning I went back to sleep before she did and when I woke up a few minutes after to look at her she was in her stomach, ahhh my baby was able to roll over, I got her and put her back on her back, but two minutes later she was on her stomach again, lol. I guess she was more comfortable because she slept an hour more than what she usually does. Gusita- The pictures are really nice, I wished I had done that when I was pregnant. Gardengirl- Olivia is gourgeous. Thanksgiving Plans- Our families live here, but every year we go to my family first, then we go to DH's family then back to my family for a little bit more. I try to not stay out to late because I go to the Black Firday Sales and I usually go at 3:00am. This is our first year with Kiani so DH is staying home while I go out shopping. azure skyMessage #13786 - 11/16/10 04:28 PMIdea for the preggo ladies: Here is what I wish I had done about thanking people for gifts. I wish that I had more carefully listed outfits that people got us when writing down gifts for thank-you's (i.e., Carter's 2-piece outfit with bulldog and plaid shorts), because it is too easy to forget. Then, I would go ahead and get a photo printer. Nothing says thank-you like a picture of the baby in the outfit/using the toy. I haven't been great about it, but we are getting a photo printer and I plan on putting these pictures into the Christmas cards for people we've been a bit negligent for. IME, actually printing out digital pictures is too much of a pain for me to do it consistently, but with a home printer it is too easy to forget or give excuses for. yogiiiMessage #13787 - 11/16/10 04:40 PMHi ladies Things have been so crazy at work since I got back. I've been reading and trying to keep up but I haven't had time to post. DS has his 6 month WBV later today and then we can finally start solids after that . I'm excited to get his stats and see if he's still in the 3rd percentile for weight ... he seems a little bigger to me now. He is still waking up 2 times at night to eat but I'm hoping that will change soon with the addition of solids. He's been so happy lately, it is night and day from when he was 5 months or younger and still colicky. azure, I was thinking spring of 2013/2014 also. I've always known I could never do a two year seperation and always thought 3 or 4 would be nice. It would be funny if we were pregnant together again. gardener - Olivia is so cute. Her eyes are gorgeous. gusita - Nice maternity pics! Ok, I still have some catching up to do.... ElfQ1015Message #13788 - 11/16/10 04:42 PMHere is what I wish I had done about thanking people for gifts. I wish that I had more carefully listed outfits that people got us when writing down gifts for thank-you's (i.e., Carter's 2-piece outfit with bulldog and plaid shorts), because it is too easy to forget Or your mother takes apart all your gifts because your husband has the brilliant idea to store them at her house and she wants to "help". So you are left with no clue as to who got you what. I told DH if anyone asks did Gwen like her outfit the answer is YES.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:28:24 GMT -5
alpha_yankeeMessage #13789 - 11/16/10 04:47 PMHope for the ladies whose DH's don't want a second child -- My DH was pretty traumatized by the birth. He has said "don't even talk to me about another child," a few times. So you can imagine my surprise when, on Sunday, he suggested we have #2 in spring of 2014. He had it all planned out. I guess he just needed a little space? I read an article once that explained it very well. Moms often bond with the baby before they are even born, but Dads don't have the same type of connection and it can take up to a year for them to fully bond with the baby. Throw in a traumatic pregnancy or birth and many Dads don't want to go through it or put their spouse through it again. With DS#1, DH likened it to having a pet rabbit for the first six months, and he was a super easy baby. With DS#2, who has been a very high maintenance baby, DH is just now (at 7 months) starting to bond and enjoy him. In both cases, DH has been wonderful and helped out with the babies, but he didn't get as much out of it as I did until they were a little older. During both 0-6 month phases, DH has been adamant that we are never having any more kids. He came around after DS#1, obviously. He scared the crap out of me the other day when he mentioned that he could see us doing this again, not just once, but twice more. I don't think I could do it again. This last pregnancy has so much negative baggage with it and was so destructive to my body and psyche, I don't think I have it in me to try again. We'll see. We'll think about it again next year and see where we are at. eh230Message #13790 - 11/16/10 04:51 PMazure, I was thinking spring of 2013/2014 also. I've always known I could never do a two year seperation and always thought 3 or 4 would be nice. It would be funny if we were pregnant together again. This is what I was thinking too. I want Henry to be a little older by the time I have a second. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13791 - 11/16/10 05:03 PMI'm planning to try again around next November, so the baby would arrive in late summer/early fall of 2012, depending on how long it takes us to conceive this time. I really want to be pregnant and have the next baby around the same time of the year as Avery. I want to be able to reuse all of my maternity clothes. If we have another girl I want to be able to reuse a lot of Avery's baby clothes. And I loved being on maternity leave around the holidays. DH pretty much said it was up to me if and when we have #2 since I'm the one that has to go through it. I'm definitely starting to feel the baby urge but I've got to get my job situation straightened out first, and we need to save some more money. yogiiiMessage #13792 - 11/16/10 05:22 PMkgb - same idea with me. My practical side wants to be able to reuse my maternity clothes and at least all the gender neutral clothes we have for the first couple of months. I've even been trying to buy gender neutral pjs in the bigger sizes but they don't sell many of those sebrenabMessage #13793 - 11/16/10 05:42 PMGusita! Those maternity pics are so cute! You will love them even more later! I am so so glad I had some done with my second and third kiddos-I just wish I had my husband in the last one too! gardenergirl0804Message #13794 - 11/16/10 06:29 PMazure - that's a really good idea about writing down who got what outfits. I wish I had done that for Olivia. I have been doing that a lot lately, trying to remember who got her this outfit. I've done that too with taking pictures and sending them to people who got it for her. I've remembered mostly on the outfits I liked best, who got it for her. kgb - I agree with you on wanting to get pregnant the same time of the year as before. Not only so I can reuse my maternity clothes but because I loved not being pregnant in the hot summer! Getting pregnant beginning of July and having 3rd trimester during the coldest months was perfect for me. And I loved being on maternity leave in the sprintime when it is just so pretty here. Who knows if it will happen like that again though! It took me 2 years to get pregnant the first time! Thanks for the compliments on Olivia. She is the spittin' image of her father! She got those beautiful eyes from her daddy.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:28:38 GMT -5
HoneyBBQMessage #13795 - 11/16/10 06:30 PMHi ladies, posting my weekly update lol. I'm really not the selfish in real life I hope you all understand why I don't stick around here too too long... Anyways, my genetic testing came back and the baby had Trisomy 16. My Dr was surprised because we had seen a heartbeat and usually with T-16 you don't get to see a heartbeat; the baby dies before that. So now I wonder if baby #1 also had it... we never did see a heartbeat on that one. T-16 is always fatal - so I'm glad (I guess) that we lost it when we did and not further along the line. Of course, a loss is still a loss.... So, I'm am relieved it's not a bigger problem (I guess?) where I would need injections/medications/etc or further testing. My Dr basically says we are just unlucky SOBs and to just keep trying. I do feel guilty because the T-16 is almost always because of flaws in the maternal chromisomal component - i.e. Rotten eggs. So, now I wonder if I've had 2 babies die because of my rotten eggs. I know it's not rational or productive to think like this, but I just wonder if all my eggs are screwed up?? My Dr. just says to try again so whenever AF shows back up (C'mon AF!! It's been a month!) we will be back on the TTC bandwagon... maybe the third time will be a charm?? I hope you all are doing well and hugs to everybody. ElfQ1015Message #13796 - 11/16/10 06:49 PMI know it's not rational or productive to think like this, but I just wonder if all my eggs are screwed up?? Odds are probably not. BBQ a woman's eggs for her LIFETIME are formed when she is a fetus. You are left with 40,000 by the time you hit puberty. That is A LOT of eggs. Yeah you start to have less of them as you get older, but that doesn't mean every single one of them is rotten. We all have a "rotten" egg or two or three or four hiding out in our uteruses. Our eggs sit around for a LONG time before we start ovulating. They are basically in a state of genetic limbo, anything that happened during that first chromosomal split is still there, you can't know it till the egg is fertilized and mitosis starts again. Ovulation is random, whatever egg happens to pop, pops. Reproduction is completely luck of the draw for EVERY woman. There is nothing wrong with you personally or your eggs. You got a lot of eggs left, even at your age, that's a lot of odds against getting another "rotten" egg. gardenergirl0804Message #13797 - 11/16/10 06:58 PMHoney - Awww! Don't ever think of your eggs as rotten. PQ made some good points so take what she said to heart. I'm glad they were able to give you an answer though as to the cause of the problem. Keep trying. I know you will get your LO very soon! HUGS! boos_momMessage #13798 - 11/16/10 07:24 PMgusita - cute pictures! Making a few in sepia tone or black and white would be really nice too! Sometimes I wish I took more pics of me pregnant and of my tummy, but I wasn't really in the mood at the time. gardener - Olivia is cute! And that is a really nice sweater. We didn't get very many hand-knitted items. How special! azure - glad to hear your DH wants to have another baby now. eternal - the techs we had never mentioned things that "might be" indicative of this or that. I do think it is unprofessional, as any valid concerns should be discussed between you and the fetal specialist or your OB, not tossed out by the technician during the u/s. boos_momMessage #13799 - 11/16/10 07:30 PMhoney - I'm glad that you did find an answer. Count me in your cheering section for an awesome healthy egg next time around. Life can really be just be a b!itch for no reason at all. And I am glad to hear that you guys have decided to try again. Sticky, healthy baby dust to you. HoneyBBQMessage #13800 - 11/16/10 08:39 PMOvulation is random, whatever egg happens to pop, pops.Hubby said he was going to shake me upside down so all the good ones float to the top next time. Thanks for the good wishes Drama, GG, and Boo.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:29:02 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #13801 - 11/16/10 08:55 PMGusita, Your pictures are beautiful! Honey, I'm glad that you found answer. I hope you get a nice healthy sticky baby soon! Azure, we're planning to do that with the gifts we've gotten. I hope the descriptions we wrote down are good enough. If I had thought of it at the time I would have taken a picture with the person's name with it. I have spent most of today sleeping or in bed because I am soooo tired. I am feeling kind of grumpy, so pardon me. I think I could enjoy this last month of pregnancy a lot more if people weren't constantly telling me how huge I am or how uncomfortable I must be or how they were NEVER this big with their babies, so I must be having a HUGE baby. Remind me to never say anything to a pregnant woman except "you look great!" lol. Here's a picture of my bump from yesterday, 36w 1d. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13802 - 11/16/10 09:03 PMhow they were NEVER this big with their babies, so I must be having a HUGE baby. Well, if it makes you feel any better I really was HUGE and I didn't have a huge baby. She was 7.14, so she wasn't tiny, but it wasn't like she was a little linebacker either. Around July of last summer someone asked me when I was due. When I said October, his eyes got all big and he said something along the lines of how much time I had left. I tried not to take it personally because I was big. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13803 - 11/16/10 09:05 PMHoney - So glad you got an answer that was more than "we'll never know..." but I am also sorry that it is raising more questions for you regarding your eggs. It is random and I hope that your next try is successful and not a "rotten egg". I am not sure how much genetic testing can be done of your eggs at this point, but I remember from my time on a different infertility board that many women who do IVF have the fertilized eggs checked for genetic defect before implanting them. this was for women who had a higher risk of specific defect of some kind. Not saying you want to go that route, but there are ways that science can "get around" the issue of "rotten eggs" as you put it. As always, you are in my thoughts!! EconStudent07Message #13804 - 11/16/10 09:06 PMThanks kgb, that makes me feel better. I hope she's about 7.5 pounds just to show all those people who told me that she'll be huuuuge. ElfQ1015Message #13805 - 11/16/10 09:11 PMI am or how uncomfortable I must be or how they were NEVER this big with their babies, so I must be having a HUGE baby I had people say the same thing. She came out 5.6 lbs. I have a small pelvis and I am short waisted there was no where for the baby to go BUT out as she got bigger! Don't look any bigger than I did at that stage. surf-n-sandMessage #13806 - 11/16/10 09:22 PMHoney- Best wishes and prayers for you that the third time is the charm!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:29:16 GMT -5
surf-n-sandMessage #13807 - 11/16/10 09:26 PMEcon- You are all baby! Your bump is just too cute for words!!! Enjoy some extra rest. You deserve it! yogiiiMessage #13808 - 11/16/10 09:37 PMSo at the WBV, DS dropped to the first percentile for weight . The pedi said if he drops again at 9 months they'll do tests to make sure he is absorbing nutrients but that he has seen this before and it isn't a problem most of the time. He isn't even 13lbs yet and his length dropped to the 20th percentile but his head is still 75th. One thing that sort of irked me is that he was telling me to not feed him in the middle of the night. I said the only reason I was still doing it is because he isn't eating solids and he's so tiny I just don't feel comfortable letting him starve. He was saying it would be harder to get him out of the habit at 9 or 12 months. I agree with that but I was hoping that after some solids we'd see some real progress like only 1 MOTN feeding or something. I don't know. I'm in such a bad mood now. gardenergirl0804Message #13809 - 11/16/10 09:55 PMyogii - what? No MOTN feedings? I can't believe the doc is telling you that. That just doesn't sound right to me at all, especially if he NEEDS to put on weight! I'm sorry the appt didn't go so well. Hopefully some of the other moms on the board can tell you if they've ever heard that before/how they feel about no MOTN feedings. I think that's just crazy to not feed in MOTN if he wakes up. eh230Message #13810 - 11/16/10 10:13 PMYogii, pardon my French, but F that doctor. His recommedation makes no sense. He want DS to gain weight but also wants you to cut out feeding. You will be able to tell when DS's getting up MOTN is for habit instead of for eating. He won't eat as much, etc. If DS still wants to eat at those times and you are ok with it, I say still feed him. I bet solids will really make a difference in gaining weight and in his sleep. After increasing solids, Henry went from 2 night wake-ups to 1. Since he and your DS seem to be sleep twins, I bet your DS will follow suit. Are you going to do cereal first? You could try avocado first. A lot of moms and docs prefer it as a first food. It also might be good for your DS because it is full of healthy fats. yogiiiMessage #13811 - 11/16/10 10:19 PMThanks eh and gardener The doctor said to start with rice and then go to green veggies. I had previously been thinking about trying avocado first because it is so easy and fatty. I might go with rice first and then avocado second (even though it isn't a green veggie), I'll think about it more tonight. Either way DH is going to be home late tonight so I'm waiting until tomorrow. I'd like both of us to be around for his first feeding. jenna30-Message #13812 - 11/17/10 12:14 AMEcon - I think you look fine - you just look preggo. I've seen much larger pregnant women, yet I still wouldn't say a word to them re: their size.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:29:41 GMT -5
sbcaligirlMessage #13813 - 11/17/10 03:24 AMI have my first appt with the midwife on Friday and I'm excited and nervous. I'm hoping to get my dating u/s done sometime next week but at least she'll be able to give me a basic assessment on size so I can stop (hopefully) stressing about twins. I've had a much rougher time with this one than with DD and can't wait for the 2nd trimester so I'll hopefully get some relief. I've had a few really rough nights where I t/u every half hour for several hours , so not fun. We also started doing timeouts with DD and it has helped a bit with her behavior. Not that she was terrible or anything, but she was definitely pushing her limits and seeing how much she could get away with. I'm trying not to obsess about everything but I seem to always have something I'm worrying about with DD. First it was her weight, then her walking, and now its her talking. I really don't want to be one of those moms that is ALWAYS freaking out about something so I try to tone it down but I guess I need to find a balance between awareness and stressing. GusitaRenkrMessage #13814 - 11/17/10 04:21 AMKgb-Thanks! I told the picture women I was okay showing a some tummy, but no way was I doing one of those poses where the only thing covered is the boobs and girly parts! That's just a little too risqué for me. I'm glad I got them done Saturday; my kitty decided to 'make bread' on my stomach last night, so I now have claw marks scattered across my tummy. Reflector-Thank you! We do the gauntlet on Thanksgiving too. DH and I both come from divorced parents, so we wind up going anywhere from 3-4 places. Luckily, everyone is within 20 minutes . We don’t stay any one place for than a couple hours at most, but by the end of the day, I have had enough to eat for a week! Gardenergirl-Yay on Olivia’s tooth! She is such a gorgeous baby; her eyes are so striking! Surfnsand-Thanks! I remember at my first appointment, they found it like right above my pubic bone. At my last appointment (at 30 weeks), it was up past my belly button!I can't wait to see where it is next week. Azure-Thank you! It sounds like you DH just needed a little bit of ‘recovery’ time, so to speak. I love the idea about sending a picture of the baby using a gift. We have a photo printer at home, but the ink is kind of expensive for it.It is convenient though. LadyKi-Thanks! I’m glad we got them done. I want to do a collage with them once we get newborn pictures of Brett. That’s so cute about Kiani rolling over on her stomach. DH and I plan on doing a little Black Friday shopping this year. We’ll probably just hit one or two stores, depending on the deals. Last year, the crowds weren't bad at all; I am hoping this year is a repeat! Yogi-Thank you! What the doctor said just doesn't make sense to me. If DS needs to gain weight, it seems like he would need the extra feeding(s). Was the doctor thinking he would make up for it by eating more during the day or something like that? Huge hugs to you. Sebrenab-Thank you! I’m definitely glad we got them done; I can’t wait to do some collages and scrapbooking with them. Honey-I’m glad you got some answers, so to speak. Please don’t think you are the problem. Another poster here had I believe 2 or 3 miscarriages before she had her healthy baby boy, and it was all just pure chance that she had three. Keeping my fingers crossed for you! Boosmom-Thank you! I love black and white pics, so I am definitely going to get some in it. I want to get some newborn black and white pictures too. Eco GusitaRenkrMessage #13815 - 11/17/10 04:36 AMEcon-Thank you! Sorry you are feeling so tired and grumpy lately. It’s really amazing what people will say to a pregnant woman. I mean, I know they wouldn’t tell a regular woman that she gets bigger every time you see her, so why would you say that to someone who is pregnant? One of DH’s aunts told me that I was going to have a 10 pound baby and that I would never make it to January. I'm so glad she can magically see into my uterus. I think your bump looks absolutely adorable! Sbcaligirl-Sorry you have been feeling rough lately! I hope you feel better soon. We had our hospital tour tonight, and it was very informative. We got to see the labor and delivery room and the recovery room. We also got to watch the nurses bathe and dress the newborn babies in the nursery Just precious. It's so hard to believe we'll be taking one home with us in eight weeks. jos s.Message #13816 - 11/17/10 06:31 AMYogi-Thank you! What the doctor said just doesn't make sense to me. If DS needs to gain weight, it seems like he would need the extra feeding(s). Was the doctor thinking he would make up for it by eating more during the day or something like that? Just a thought here: if we want to lose weight we often get the advice to eat more often but much smaller meals. Maybe the doctor's thought are along those lines for your baby too.: if you eat smaller meals your stomach won't stretch out as much and you are full faster, resulting in less calories consumed not more. Not sure this applies to babies as well, but who knows. You may want to ask the pedi or his nurse. On the other hand, I am a firm believer in following your instincts. No one knows your baby as well as you do and if you think he's hungry --- go ahead and feed him yogiiiMessage #13817 - 11/17/10 01:08 PMWell DH got home a little before DS's bed time so we went ahead and mashed up some avocado. I'm not sure how much he actually ate, maybe half of a baby spoon full. He seemed a little confused and skeptical about what was going on, I'm excited to try it again tonight though. I'll do the rice cereal this weekend. jos. - When the pedi was talking about cutting out night feedings he seemed more concerned about bad habits forming. I think he was under the impression that I was just feeding him so he wouldn't cry. I informed him that this wasn't the case and I'd actually been doing sleep training since DS was 3 months old. DS is very very stubborn, he will still cry for up to an hour and then take a half hour nap, CIO and even other methods just don't seem to apply to him sometimes. I think it is very hard even for someone who has young children to understand how difficult and frustrating his lack of sleep is unless they have a kid similar to him. azure skyMessage #13818 - 11/17/10 02:11 PMyogii -- I still do at least one MOTN feeding for my DS. We've done sleep training, and I know he can go to sleep OK. He is just hungry! That said, he was waking up many times/night before we started solids (we started closer to 4 mos, even with all the allergies, on the advice of the pedi), and after that he began waking up usually only once to feed. I think avocado is a perfect first food in your case. If he isn't really into eating, I'd stick with that, because it is the most calorie dense (my DS only likes it when pureed with a bit of BM, does not like it just mashed with a fork). FYI, fruit purees are higher calorie than veggies like sweet potatoes. Bananas are one of the more caloric ones, but pears are great too. I'd also look into serving cooked egg yolk (not the whites), which are a great source of protein. We skipped rice, so I don't have much advice there. Now that I have some allergen-free rice, I'm thinking I might mix it into some stage 1 foods, but I don't really want to use BM for rice. Also, we started feeding 2x per day by the second week we were giving solids. I am thinking of moving to 3x per day soon. We have some very good friends whose son is almost exactly a year older than yours, and he weighed very close to 13 lbs at his 6 month checkup. He is now a small 18 month old. However, his dad and mom are both tall people--his dad is a pretty big guy, actually, about 6'4" and 250-ish pounds, I'd guess. I know the weight thing is something that they've really struggled with, but bottom line everyone grows at their own pace. And he is a great kid who is developmentally advanced. Who knows when his big growth spurt will happen? Meanwhile, I was a huge baby (not at birth, but later) and now stand 5'3". I was actually a bigger baby at 6 months/1 year than my DH, who is a big guy. So, chin up! It is great news that your DS did not reject solids He is ready to eat
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:29:55 GMT -5
KRR627Message #13819 - 11/17/10 02:12 PMHoneyBBQ - sending hugs your way. I can't imagine what you must be going through; hope the test results will bring you some closure. Gusita and Econ - cute pictures of your baby bump! KGB - your Avery looks so grown up and adorable. I still can't believe how much hair she has. I was bald until about 2+ years old! Gardenergirl - I agree with the other ladies; Olivia's eyes are so gorgeous. My DH has blue eyes too; I hope our kids have blue eyes. Sbcaligirl - good luck at your appt. on Friday. Yogii - Did your DS make any funny faces while you were feeding him? KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13820 - 11/17/10 02:24 PM I still can't believe how much hair she has. I was bald until about 2+ years old!
I can't believe it either. I was pretty much bald until I was almost 2 too. She gets the hair from DH's side of the family. He's Italian. sbcaligirl, Good luck at your appointment. yogiii, I don't really have any good advice to offer. Avery stopped MOTN feedings around 4 months old. You are your baby's mother, and you know what he needs better than anyone, so go with your gut and do what you think is best. As far as the starting with solids, Avery was totally confused at first about what was going on. She was around 5 months old when we started with the solids. We started her on fruits and veggies before cereal because her formula had rice added to it. I did not start her on green veggies. After she learned how to eat we started giving her oatmeal. ElfQ1015Message #13821 - 11/17/10 02:26 PMGwen is still getting up at least once, sometimes twice a night depending on when she last ate. We did let her fuss till she fell back asleep at 3 am because she had just eaten at 2:30 am so I knew she was waking up out of habit rather than hungry. She made it to 5 am before she woke up ready for breakfast. DH and I are in agreement that we aren't going to try to wean her off all nighttime feedings till she is on solids and we see how she does. She isn't hurting and it doesn't bother me to get up once a night so we are going to leave it for now. She made sounds like a dying cat last night! It was totally bizarre and we have no idea why, DH thinks she just liked how it sounded to her own ears. KRR627Message #13822 - 11/17/10 02:27 PMInteresting news from me - today is 10 days past Ov. Of the 4 cycles I've charted, 3 have had 10 day luteal phase (LP), 1 had 11 day LP. The 3 previous cycles, my temperature has dropped significantly on the 9th or 10th day, leading to AF within 1-2 days. But, this morning, my temp rose another 0.7 degrees to 98.6. It's never been that high during the LP. That's a good sign for pregnancy, right? Obviously I'll need a few more days to confirm but I'm keeping my fingers crossed! I had one First Response pregnancy test left, and I took it this morning but it was negative. I know it was a long shot this early, but I had to try since my "symptoms" were unusual this cycle. alpha_yankeeMessage #13823 - 11/17/10 02:32 PMThe doctor said to start with rice and then go to green veggies. I had previously been thinking about trying avocado first because it is so easy and fatty. I might go with rice first and then avocado second (even though it isn't a green veggie), I'll think about it more tonight. Either way DH is going to be home late tonight so I'm waiting until tomorrow. I'd like both of us to be around for his first feeding. I feed DS#2 a lot of avocado. It's recommended for preemies and babies that need to gain weight. I mix it with banana so that the taste isn't so overwhelming for him. After six months, I also started giving him lentils and white beans mixed with sweet potatoes or squash. The beans have a lot of nutrients, but should be given after baby is handling solids well. They have a lot of protein which can be hard to digest before 6-8 months. When we were first starting on solids, I thinned everything out with breast milk so that he would recognize the taste. As he got used to it, I started making it thicker and then added brown rice cereal for bulk. yogiiiMessage #13824 - 11/17/10 02:46 PMThanks for all the advice on food. Tonight I'll try thinning out the avocado with some bmilk and see if he eats a little more of it. krr - He did makes some funny faces but he wasn't fussing, he just seemed confused. azure - That is one thing that gets me, we are both tall 6'2" and 5'8" but you are right, he could just grow later in life. The difference between 20th and 100th percentile right now is probably only 3 inches or something so in the scheme of things that isn't a ton.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:30:19 GMT -5
azure skyMessage #13825 - 11/17/10 03:01 PMOK, I had to put this picture in for a reason: This is me (left) and my skinny-minny older sister (on the right). I am not entirely sure how old I was when the pic was taken, but she is 2 years and 3 months older than me, and I am clearly bigger than her. Guess which one of us ended up 5'7", and which one ended up 5'3"? She was always a very small child, and is now tall and skinny. azure skyMessage #13826 - 11/17/10 03:03 PMI have been told by a friend who researches such things that there is absolutely no correlation between an child's height and final adult height until they are 2 years old; even then, it accounts for a very small percentage in the variation in adult height until the teen years. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13827 - 11/17/10 03:16 PMCute azure! My brother was the fattest baby ever. My mom jokes that he sat up early because the fat spread out to support him. The kid had rolls on his rolls. He's now 31-years-old and very thin. My nephew, his son, was the same way. He weighed over 30 pounds at a year old. People kept asking me, "Aren't you all worried about how big he is?" We weren't worried a bit. As soon as he got mobile his weight plateaued and he started to grow up instead of out. He's 6 now and a slender kid, just like his dad. So I have to agree that baby size isn't a good correlation for older child and adult weight and height. yogiiiMessage #13828 - 11/17/10 03:20 PMazure - that's really cute. You look like a cherub The only reason I care about his length is because this is the first time that he stepped down percentile wise in length, so now him being skinny isn't just his weight it also seems to be stunting his length (hopefully temporarily). Luckily his head is still holding strong so maybe he's just using all of his calories for brain power. Anyway I guess I should just focus on the fact that he otherwise seems very healthy and the fact that now with his colic gone he is such a happy baby who squeals when mom or dad comes home from work. Arg, I guess that whole visit yesterday just got me down for multiple reasons. I'm just going to continue to follow my gut and feed him at night when he's hungry and just see how things progress. I'll be more comfortable getting more rigid than 5 hours when has been eating solids for a while. I think sometimes I just need a little mom reinforcement. Thanks guys. gardenergirl0804Message #13829 - 11/17/10 03:36 PMazure - I can't see your pic at work. Stupid blockers. I'll have to see if I can see it tonight. I have an OBGYN appt today. Just my annual exam. First time back since my release back to work. It will be a little weird going in there not talking about a pregnancy! I hope it's a quick visit, just in and out. Olivia is 8 months today. Time is just flying by! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13830 - 11/17/10 03:38 PMI know how you feel yogiii. Last December when we went for Avery's 2-month well visit (She was actually almost 3 months old, we're a little off schedule) I didn't see our pediatrician. I saw a nurse practitioner. She told me Avery wasn't gaining enough weight. She asked how much I was feeding her. I said 4 ounces at a time. She told me a baby her age would eat at least 6 ounces at a time and I should "feed her as much as she'll eat." I said I didn't think that would be a good idea because she had acid reflux, spit up a lot and I didn't think her tummy could handle it. The nurse insisted she could and that I should feed her more because she needed to gain more weight. I should have gone with my gut. At her next bottle I gave her 6 ounces. She threw up everywhere. I went back to the 4 ounces and started slowly increasing her amounts by a 1/2 an ounce over the next month. The pediatrician has never said anything about her weight, and I will never do something like that again.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:30:33 GMT -5
The Reflector - WIRMessage #13831 - 11/17/10 03:40 PMThis last pregnancy has so much negative baggage with it and was so destructive to my body and psyche, I don't think I have it in me to try again. I totally get that. DD2's premature birth was so awful that I wasn't sure I could do it again. We waited a year and a half and thought about it. The reasons we went ahead were that we both always wanted 3 kids and I didn't want fear to hold us back from what we wanted. I had a very early miscarriage and then got pregnant again right away. I was stressed out during the whole pregnancy and DH and I agreed that if things did not go well we would not try again. After months of blood thinner injections and a very rough pregnancy DS was born healthy and I had a tubal ligation. No sense pushing our luck! One thing that sort of irked me is that he was telling me to not feed him in the middle of the night. DD2 is still in the 2nd percentile. When she was a baby she was put on extra calorie formulas that we mixed with breastmilk. She now drinks a pediasure every night after dinner, although I hope at her 3 year checkup the doc tells us we can stop. Her head measurements have always been fine and she's getting taller, just not gaining weight. She's 23.5 pounds now. DH actually put DS's pants on her by mistake and they fit! You may want to go see a nutritionist if your doc seems like he has his head up his, um, posterior. A lot of insurances cover it. She made sounds like a dying cat last night! It was totally bizarre and we have no idea why, DH thinks she just liked how it sounded to her own ears. Ah, the screeching phase! That's when the baby realizes that it can make high pitched squeals and screams, loves the sound, and then starts to do it ALL THE TIME! DS is in this phase as well, the girls went through it too. Sometimes I think DD1 is still in it! ElfQ1015Message #13832 - 11/17/10 04:09 PMThat's when the baby realizes that it can make high pitched squeals and screams, loves the sound, and then starts to do it ALL THE TIME Great! I am going to invest in some earplugs on the way home. I am so glad I have the pediatrician that I do. He's old school in a lot of ways, but also progressive in a lot of ways. He's the one who gave me more accurate information on breastfeeding and saved my boobs. I'd been obessesed with making sure Gwen feed off both boobs 10 minutes each because I thought that if I didn't, she wasn't getting enough to eat. Nobody informed me it was just for my supply till our pediatrician. He said it didn't matter if she ate off only one boob at a time as long as she gained weight. I was so happy because if I had to go another week feeling like my nipples were going to fall off and passing blood clots into my pumped milk I was switching to formula. He was pleased with her "pudgey tummy" at our last WBV. He said he likes to see a nice "fat" healthy baby. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13833 - 11/17/10 04:23 PMI am so glad I have the pediatrician that I do. He's old school in a lot of ways, but also progressive in a lot of ways. That's how ours is too. I'm very happy with him. It's the stupid nurse practitioner I don't like. But that visit is the only visit we've ever seen her. Avery had another night terror last night. She got awake at 11:15 p.m., about an hour after DH and I had fallen asleep. We usually end up letting her lay in bed with us for awhile until she calms down and seems sleepy again. She always cries when we first put her back in her crib, but it's only for a few minutes and she goes back to sleep. She was up nice and early for DH today. 6:15 a.m.! ElfQ1015Message #13834 - 11/17/10 04:33 PMMy brother had night terrors, he also used to sleep walk. He'd go into the bathroom, turn on the light, stand in there for 20 minutes and then walk back out. Scared the crap out of me one night because he sleep walked into my room and just stood there. Former_Roomate_99Message #13835 - 11/17/10 05:11 PMYogii, vanilla and bananna baby yogurt is an easy sell and pretty high in calories if your kid is over 6 months. You'll definitely want to keep with the sweet things as getting some weight on him is more important now than getting him used to green vegetables. DS1 looked like a 'Save the Children' add until I discovered yogurt. Getting a bottle with a fast flow nipple and mixing food with the milk works for some people. My mom says she used to just the baby food into the bottle rather than dealing with feeding me. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13836 - 11/17/10 05:45 PMYogii, vanilla and bananna baby yogurt is an easy sell and pretty high in calories if your kid is over 6 months. I give Avery Yo Baby, and they make a yogurt that is a "meal." It's got fruit, veggies and dairy in it. Avery loves yogurt.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:30:58 GMT -5
gardenergirl0804Message #13837 - 11/17/10 07:03 PMI need to look into that Yo Baby yogurt. Doc approved yogurt for her when she turned 8 months. I think that would probably help Olivia sleep through the night. She still wakes up at least once a night. Lately that's all it's been is one time. She'll wake up, want to eat and go back to sleep. She's terrible about taking baby food, some days she'll eat it, other days she won't. So maybe I'll try putting it in a bottle too. All good ideas! I need to find something that will fill her up. eh230Message #13838 - 11/17/10 07:18 PMYo Baby yogurt I gave some of this to Henry, and he seemed to like it. It is kind of expensive, though. This week I bought Trader Joes' organic plain whole milk yogurt and plan on mixing it with a little fruit or veggie puree. sbcaligirlMessage #13839 - 11/17/10 07:30 PMDD loves Yo Baby and I try to buy it at Walmart. They don't always have it but it is pretty reasonably priced when they do. I've also found that it is one of the few things she'll consistently eat so even when I have to pay more for it I do. DD's eating is so hit or miss and she is definitely on the skinny side so if I can get her to eat anything during the day, I'm thrilled. She was so much better about eating from 6 mos - 12 mos, ok from 12 mos -15 mos, but from 15 mos on it has been really inconsistent. One day she'll eat everything under the sun and the next day she'll have juice and a few crackers. I try not to worry about it too much since everyone says they'll eat when they're hungry but, you know, when you child only eats a few goldfish all day it is hard not to worry. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13840 - 11/17/10 07:35 PMI've also found that it is one of the few things she'll consistently eat so even when I have to pay more for it I do.
We've been feeding Avery primarily organic, so our food budget for her is a little high. I've actually gone in the other direction because she's been so picky, and if she seems to like something that isn't organic, I let her eat it anyways. DH said she actually ate a chicken nugget at lunch today. That's a huge breakthrough. I'm not sure if it was the organic nuggets I bought for her or the cheap Tyson ones DH eats. ladykiMessage #13841 - 11/17/10 08:51 PMAh, the screeching phase! That's when the baby realizes that it can make high pitched squeals and screams, loves the sound, and then starts to do it ALL THE TIME! DS is in this phase as well, the girls went through it too. Sometimes I think DD1 is still in it!
Kiani and me are at home by ourselves all day until DH comes home after work. We have been playing a screaming day for the past few days. I yell kinda of just like " AHHHHHHH" and then in a few seconds she will also yell back. It is so funny and cute at the same time. Gardengirl- happy 8 months to Olivia. regina24601Message #13842 - 11/18/10 05:46 AMI'm a little late to the picture party, but let me just say: kgb - Avery is gorgeous! I love that she's helping comb her hair. So cute. Gusita - Your maternity pictures came out great! I love the one where you and your DH's hand form a heart over your tummy (not sure if that was intentional or not!) Very cute. Econ - Who in their right mind would say you look huge?? You are all belly, and you look fantastic!! I don't know what makes people think they can say whatever they want to pregnant women. Today I stopped by the market and got a bagel on my way into work and ate it at my desk. My coworker stopped by and was like, "WHOA!! That bagel is HUGE!!" He insisted on making this giant show of how ridiculously big my bagel was (seemed like a normal size to me, but whatevs) and I'm pretty sure people 14 floors below us could hear him carrying on about it. "Are you REALLY going to eat all of that??" It was out of control and I nearly threw my gigantic bagel right at his head. Pregnancy hormones don't make me weepy or moody or anything. They just make me ANGRY. DH won't let me drive anymore when we go somewhere together because my road rage is out of control.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:31:11 GMT -5
yogiiiMessage #13843 - 11/18/10 12:17 PMI just had to share...last night I tried giving DS more avocado and he didn't seem interested and made a few faces. I took a break and waited a half hour and tried again and he ate the whole thing (about a tablespoon mixed with some bmilk). I wanted to give him more but DH thought he might get sick if we gave him too much (he was probably right about that ). Anyway we were both so proud of him, he was eating like a pro, no spitting out or anything. Hopefully we have the same luck tonight. regina - that is ridiculous. I was the same way though, I just felt annoyed and angry at lots of stuff while I was pregnant. GusitaRenkrMessage #13844 - 11/18/10 12:57 PMOh Regina, thank God I am not the only pregnant woman filled with anger! I have had an absolutely terrible temper while pregnant, which is totally different from how I was prepregnancy. I am so embarrassed to admit this, but last week, my GPS was all screwed up-not selecting the letters I was hitting, not letting me hit some buttons at all, just being a PITA. I chucked it across the car at the dashboard, missed the dashboard, and hit the windshield, cracking it I swear, I have never felt that much rage towards an inanimate object in my entire life. It makes me feel better that I am not the only one raging! KRR627Message #13845 - 11/18/10 01:59 PMI'm 11 DPO today and my temperature is still high. Woo hoo! It looks like it might be triphasic - I've never had that before. I'm going to buy some more pregnancy tests today - debating whether to test after I get off work, or wait until tomorrow morning. I know it's still relatively early to test, but since this is unusual for me I want to know what's going on. Lol. In other good news, I was approved for a Blackberry for work and it arrived in the mail yesterday. Can't wait to get it activated and started up - hopefully today! Also, DH was out of town for work and scheduled to come home late tonight. They finished quickly so he was able to get home last night. Hope you all have a wonderful day - I will check in again later! ElfQ1015Message #13846 - 11/18/10 02:28 PMDH won't let me drive anymore when we go somewhere together because my road rage is out of control DH was scared to drive with me as well. Gwen HATES hats! I put one on her head and she started screaming. Took it off, happy. Put it on, screaming. Repeat. She screamed all the way to daycare. She didn't stop till I got inside and took her hat off. Sorry kid but you were born in Iowa and it is 23 degrees this morning! You need a hat! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13847 - 11/18/10 02:46 PMGwen HATES hats! I put one on her head and she started screaming. Avery doesn't mind hats. But when she was about 4 weeks old we had to go somewhere. It was November and cold, so I put a little hat on her. We were only going about 5 minutes from our house. About three blocks before our destination, she started crying. I couldn't tell what was wrong, and I wasn't about to pull over since we were so close. It turned out her hat got moved around as she was moving her head and it was covering her eyes. She couldn't see! eh230Message #13848 - 11/18/10 02:48 PMGwen HATES hats! We are having a similar problem with mittens. Henry is fine with wearing a hat but screams bloody murder if I try to cover his hands. Ugh! Drama, how are you keeping Gwen warm when you take her places? I know that you are not supposed to put kids in car seats with coats or snowsuits on, so I have just been dressing Henry in warm outfits and wrapping him in a blanket once he is in the car seat.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:31:36 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #13849 - 11/18/10 03:16 PMThanks for all the comments, I'm glad you all don't think I am overly enormous. Regina, Gusita, I am the same way! I just don't have the patience I did before I was pregnant. I am annoyed and irritated for no reason whatsoever. Especially recently...my husband says that the last month of pregnancy brings back first trimester rage. I would have wanted to throw the bagel at the guy's head. KRR, it sounds really good for you!! Your temp going UP at this point is a fantastic sign - fingers crossed!! I got my first (very faint) BFP at 3 weeks 4 days, or 11 dpo. I just used a cheapie dollar store test and tested at night...I thought there was no chance of it being positive, but a few hours later I looked at it and there was the faintest of lines. I didn't get good strong lines until 3w 6d when I used a first response. I hope you have a BFP to report soon!! surf-n-sandMessage #13850 - 11/18/10 03:18 PMAh, the hormonal road rage. Yes, I've had it. I also have found that one of our friends now bothers me, and I can't put my finger on why. DH thinks is hilarious! I have conveniently had other things to do more often now when he is at our house. KRR- I got a very faint positive three days before my expected period. Happy testing! We had our sonogram for the 1st Trimester Screening. The baby was moving all around and looked like he/she was waving. Too cute! The fluid at the back of the neck measured normally. Now we wait a week for the blood test results. Fingers crossed! I am measuring a few days ahead, but my due date has not been changed yet. 12 wks by the old calcs! ElfQ1015Message #13851 - 11/18/10 03:31 PMDrama, how are you keeping Gwen warm when you take her places? I wrap a blanket around her legs and then I have a car seat cover that is made out of flannel that I got from a craft vendor at the Farmer's market. It is REALLY warm and very soft. She isn't thrilled if I put the flap down (can't see!), but I've only had to do that a couple times so far. It turned out her hat got moved around as she was moving her head and it was covering her eyes. She couldn't see! Yeah happens to Gwen too. Her head is either too huge or too small for every hat I try to put on her head. azure skyMessage #13852 - 11/18/10 05:30 PMEcon -- you look adorable. Clearly you are tall and thin. I am jealous , but I also know that you eat very well and exercise. I remember reading on another thread your rules for eating, and I was impressed. yogii -- the first time we fed DS solids, we gave him a 4 oz, stage 2 jar. He ate the entire thing! Since then, we keep feeding until he refuses. He eats a lot more than I would've expected, but it's never been a problem. What is up with pumping??? I have given up on ever having a "regulated" supply. Yesterday I barely pumped 11 oz from 3 sessions, then today, I pumped 11 oz in ONE SESSION! I think my body is maybe trying to have a period again, so perhaps it is hormones? DS is 6 months today!!!! He is starting to crawl--not really crawling yet, because he hasn't figured out the knees, but pulling himself along commando-style for short distances. I am so proud of him and amazed every day by how much love I have for him. And, I'll just add because I could never brag about this IRL (too many friends' feelings would be hurt), but I am PROUD that I have made it 6 months with BF'ing! Especially since I have given up dairy, wheat, soy, shellfish, and nuts. I hope to make it to a year, but at this point I could switch to formula (or begin supplementing) without any nagging guilty feelings. I feel like I have earned my "silver b.oob award." ElfQ1015Message #13853 - 11/18/10 05:34 PMAnd, I'll just add because I could never brag about this IRL (too many friends' feelings would be hurt), but I am PROUD that I have made it 6 months with BF'ing! Especially since I have given up dairy, wheat, soy, shellfish, and nuts. You are either a trooper or insane (in a good way). I would have quit long before you did! I decided to cut a pumping session at work and do one at home instead. It's getting to be too much to pump three times a day at work considering I have to walk half way across campus just to get to the pumping room. I am gone almost a full two hours a day when you factor in the commute to the pumping room. I think my body is maybe trying to have a period again, so perhaps it is hormones?
I've been wondering that too because I had three days in a row where I did not produce crap while pumping. Then after that I produced a full container in two pumping sessions from my left boob. It's driving me bonkers. surf-n-sandMessage #13854 - 11/18/10 05:54 PMQuestion ladies: When did you all "go public" with your pregnancy? And when did you inform your employer? I see most recommendations saying 14 weeks. We've had no indications that anything is "wrong" in this pregnancy, so we are thinking we are fairly safe to tell all at 13 weeks at Thanksgiving. What do you all think?
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:31:50 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13855 - 11/18/10 05:59 PMsurf, we told our immediate family (parents and siblings) right away. And I told my best friend who had recently had a baby. I needed someone to share with IRL (even though this board was a tremendous help too). We started telling other people at 13 weeks. I told my employer just before my 13 week mark because I needed to leave early for my first doctor's appointment the next week. I wanted him to be aware of what was going on. ElfQ1015Message #13856 - 11/18/10 06:02 PMI told my co-worker as soon as I found out at 8 weeks. Reason being is it was swine flu season and the policy at work was if you showed up to work with flu like symptoms, you would be fired on the spot. Guess what pregnancy symptoms look like to the uninformed? So I wanted to have one person know I was actually pregnant so he could back me up if some paranoid person tried to turn me in for having the flu. I told my boss at 12 weeks because a repair guy "might" have been coming at the same time I had a pre-natal appointment and I was not going to miss it. So I told my boss and he understood that it came first. We told family pretty quickly. DH was so excited he told his parents the day I peed on the stick. I wanted to wait to tell my family, but then didn't feel like it was very fair that everyone in his family knew but mine didn't. Told my brother first, which was a mistake! I should have known better, the kid has never been able to keep a secret, he used to tell everyone what I bought them for Christmas since the age of two! So he had blabbed to my entire family before I could! I laugh about it now, but I was pretty steamed at first. Like I said, I should have known better. EconStudent07Message #13857 - 11/18/10 06:25 PMEcon -- you look adorable. Clearly you are tall and thin. I am jealous , but I also know that you eat very well and exercise. I remember reading on another thread your rules for eating, and I was impressed.
Thanks! I am 5'9", that certainly helps!! And, I'll just add because I could never brag about this IRL (too many friends' feelings would be hurt), but I am PROUD that I have made it 6 months with BF'ing! Especially since I have given up dairy, wheat, soy, shellfish, and nuts. I hope to make it to a year, but at this point I could switch to formula (or begin supplementing) without any nagging guilty feelings. I feel like I have earned my "silver b.oob award."
Way to go! That really is quite an accomplishment. My sister had to give up gluten and wheat when they found out her son had celiac's disease, and she quit bf'ing soon after that because it was so difficult. It really takes quite a commitment to change your diet so much so that you can breastfeed. I hope I can do as well! Question ladies: When did you all "go public" with your pregnancy? And when did you inform your employer? I see most recommendations saying 14 weeks. We've had no indications that anything is "wrong" in this pregnancy, so we are thinking we are fairly safe to tell all at 13 weeks at Thanksgiving. What do you all think?
I told my boss at about 6 weeks. She was a good friend and I knew she'd be supportive, plus I knew I was leaving there when I graduated a month later. I told my current boss (and everyone else), at 13 weeks 3 days. We heard the heartbeat at a prenatal appointment that day, so I felt that it was safe. I think you should be good to tell people at 13 weeks. That would make for a great Thanksgiving! Telling people the good news is so fun. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13858 - 11/18/10 06:59 PMAzure - that is awesome! It's great that you stuck with this, especially since you had so many obstacles. Props to you! KRR - I've got my fingers crossed for you and blowing sticky baby dust your way!!! DD2 is now skipping naps entirely and still screams when it is time for bed. She told me that she's scared of falling out! I propped pillows all around her and she still cried. Fortunately she was so tired that she fell asleep before I was done with the girls' bedtime story. It's DH's birthday today and I just wish DS would take a nap already! His longest one has been 20 minutes and I'm trying like crazy to clean the house and do prep for dinner. I get so frustrated but then I pick up the little guy and he smiles his gummy grin at me and I can't help but melt. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13859 - 11/18/10 07:04 PMI bought cards for our parents that said, "Congratulations to the Grandparents-To-Be," and that's how we told them. PalmettoLadyMessage #13860 - 11/18/10 07:13 PMKRR: I have my fingers crossed for you, when I tested it was 6 Days before my expected cycle, and it was positive! Re: Rage I don't know if I'd call what I have "rage", it's more an inability to tolerate other peoples extreme stupidity. LOL. Someone at work was doing something really stupid and I was trying to explain WHY it was stupid, and finally I got fed up and said "Why don't you tell me WHY you thought that was a GOOD idea." Person was speechless--- Yep thats what I thought, now you see why you are being stupid. UGH.
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gardenergirl0804Message #13861 - 11/18/10 08:32 PMGusita - I'm sorry but the story about cracking your windshield made me laugh. Surf - I told my family and boss after my 12 week appt at the doc. After I had my first U/S and everything looked ok. I think I had more rage when I was pregnant too. Combo of hormones and the way some people drive mainly. Had my obgyn appt yesterday. Sort of discussed with my doc when I'd like to start trying again. He brought up something that made me a little nervous. He said after I stop Bfeeding the cysts on my ovaries could come back again making it hard for me to get pregnant I said "that can happen??!!" He said yes, it could. I really really hope it doesn't. That and if I'd lose some more weight it would make it much easier to get pregnant. I'm currently 10 pounds less than I was before I got pregnant but he said if I could lose another 20 it would probably make me much more fertile. eh230Message #13862 - 11/18/10 08:37 PMWhen did you all "go public" with yoWhen did you all "go public" with your pregnancy? DH and I told our parents at 9 weeks and made them promise not to tell other family members until 12 weeks. I waited until the last possible time, 20 weeks, to tell my employer. I was really hiding my stomach at that point. I wanted to wait until after I had my review because I work in a male-dominated and somewhat prejuidical office. It was easy for me to sneak away to doctor's appointments because no one really keeps track of when you come and go. eh230Message #13863 - 11/18/10 08:38 PMKRR, good luck! I got my BFP on 11 DPO. I hope that you gets yours today! surf-n-sandMessage #13864 - 11/18/10 08:44 PMWe've told our parents and few select friends already. I think we will stick with Thanksgiving for telling extended family and friends. I am starting to burst with the desire to share the news! We've seen the baby twice and heard the heartbeat twice now. It's so exciting that it's soooo hard not to share! ElfQ1015Message #13865 - 11/18/10 08:55 PMGot myself in trouble over on YM. I accidently gave too much info about breastfeeding. I got to remember to stick to this board only. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13866 - 11/18/10 08:59 PMlater was too harsh Drama. I didn't think you were doing anything for "shock value." I thought your comments were a lot less offensive than some of the stuff they let people say.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:32:28 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13867 - 11/18/10 09:02 PMI deleted it all, it doesn't really matter, it is just a message board. Like I said I forgot which board I was on for a moment, I got to chatting with oped and should not have. Latebloomer doesn't like me, she likes me more than she likes SJ, but I am probably a pretty close second. She's posted snide things about me on EE that if I posted them about her I would have been banned. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13868 - 11/18/10 09:04 PMI would comment more, but I'll e-mail you instead because the mods get salty about cross-board talk. Though, do they even read this particular thread? ElfQ1015Message #13869 - 11/18/10 09:07 PMI don't know. This is a pretty offensive thread. I already email WWBG on a regular basis, want to be email buddies? KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13870 - 11/18/10 09:22 PMI already email WWBG on a regular basis, want to be email buddies? Absolutely! I just sent you one. I've met so many great people on these boards. I just started e-mailing POM from over on EE. She's so nice. And of course Cheesy and I have met in IRL, and hopefully gardenergirl and I are going to work out our schedules to meet next weekend. ElfQ1015Message #13871 - 11/18/10 09:29 PMEmailed you back. WWBG and you would be the only two people I talk to off the boards. WWBG isn't near as jerky as he appears in his posts. gardenergirl0804Message #13872 - 11/18/10 09:49 PMYeah I don't think this board is moderated too much anymore Seems we can say a lot and they don't do much to us. Yep, hoping to meet kgb and Averie next week! Can't wait!
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kjshMessage #13873 - 11/18/10 10:32 PMSo I've tried to catch up a bit. Econ - it seems like manners and boundaries go out the window around pregnant women. Ignore the crazies - you love fabulously lovely! Rage/hormones - I don't think I've been too bad (although I do have my days). Instead I seem to have developed a ridiculous sense of entitlement. For instance I was driving into work the other day and a car cut me off and I indignantly thought, "How dare he cut me off. Does he not know I'm pregnant?!?!?!" KRR - good luck with your wait. My fingers are crossed for you! Surf - Aw, a good u/s is the best. How cute that he/she was waving hello to mom. Azure - for your 6th month BFing anniversary! It's a great accomplishment, especially with the dietary challenges. and I love the image in my head of your DS army-crawling around the apartment. Going Public - we told parents/siblings around 8-10 weeks. We planned to tell everyone else after 14 weeks, but ended up with a few scares that made me really not want to tell anyone what was going on. The scares turned out to be just that, but I still had a hard time saying the words. Oddly, I was okay if it was DH that made the announcement and he really liked telling people so that worked out well for us. I did tell my boss at 13 weeks, but that was because I needed to take extra time for a bunch of tests and I asked him not to share the news. He was very supportive during that time (and since then). Okay, so the baby has moved from breech back to transverse (and sometimes semi-diagonal) so that's some progress I guess. I've started to get really rough back pain, but it's pretty one sided so my doc thinks it just a result of how he's laying and not a sign of forward progress. He's doing this stretching thing right now that is horribly uncomfortable. Luckily I've discovered that my maternity support belt can also be used to hold a heating pad in place on my back so i can still sit and work. I've also realized that I tense up my shoulders when I'm uncomfortable so I know to watch for that and work on relaxing my shoulders and neck when I go into labor. ladykiMessage #13874 - 11/18/10 11:04 PMWe Went to Kmart yesterday to have them take some pictures of Kiani, we waited there forever even though we had an appoitment, DH was very frustrated about that. Kiani was tired and not her usual self. She is usually a very happy and smiling baby. She just did not want to smile for the photographer, lol. It seemed like he got a little fustrated and only took a few poses of her. I still went overboard and but a few more pictures that were not on my package. By this time DH was really frustrated and said that he was not very impressed with the pictures and that we should have just gone with the basic package that I had already paid for. We agreed that next time will take her somewhere else, maybe JCpenney. Yogii- Congrats on your DS eating like a pro. KRR- Blowing baby dust your way, hopefully this is your month and you will get a BFP. It turned out her hat got moved around as she was moving her head and it was covering her eyes. She couldn't see! LOL, that happenned with Kiani about two weeks ago. I got home, and when I saw her, her eyes were covered, I have no idea how long they had been covered for, lol. ladykiMessage #13875 - 11/18/10 11:10 PMWhen did you all "go public" with your pregnancy? And when did you inform your employer? I see most recommendations saying 14 weeks. We've had no indications that anything is "wrong" in Surf- Congrats on the U/S. I told my sister about my pregnancy the week that I found out. I waited with the rest of my family a week later. I told my employer as soon as i found out because we were having physical inventory and I did not want them to schedule to do any counting at the warehouse. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13876 - 11/18/10 11:32 PMKRR - Good luck! Telling Others - We have talked about it, but I would tell the parents when we found out. I'm sure he would tell his best friend and I would tell his wife too. He'd probably want to tell his brother too (gets along the best with him of all his siblings). I volunteer at a cat rescue agency so I would tell them as I wouldn't be able to handle the used litter. Work wise, I would tell him after the 1st of the year and after the 1st trimester. AF is due on Monday, but I am testing on Saturday. My DH and I are going out of town this weekend to celebrate Thanksgiving with his parents and my dad. If I am, I would love to tell that they will be grandparents (my ILs, their 11th; my dad, his 1st). I would call and tell my mom as she isn't going this year due to work. KRR627Message #13877 - 11/19/10 12:30 AMHi ladies, thanks for all the well wishes! I've only got a few more minutes at home before I'm leaving again. I picked up some pregnancy tests after work and will test when DH gets home from bowling and I get home from Bible Study. The hardest part is going to limiting/eliminating fluids until then. Gotta find some gum or candy to keep me occupied. gardenergirl0804Message #13878 - 11/19/10 12:47 AMGusita - I saw your maternity pics - so cute. I wasn't able to see them at work but I saw them now at home. JCpenney did do a great job! Azure - the pic of you and your sis is super cute. Thanks for sharing that!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:33:07 GMT -5
jenna30-Message #13879 - 11/19/10 02:37 AMAnd, I'll just add because I could never brag about this IRL (too many friends' feelings would be hurt), but I am PROUD that I have made it 6 months with BF'ing! You should be. From my understanding, it is not always easy. And, to top it off, you've had all those crazy food restrictions. I'm going to try to BF & hope for the best. --- Just got back from the Dr's. Apparently I'm 2cms, and baby's head is low. She thinks I may go early. Now, if someone could just tell me where, and when - things would be awesome. The Braxton Hicks have been really kicking this past week - Sat was especially rough. I'm trying not too worry too much about delivery, but I'm a worrier by nature. azure skyMessage #13880 - 11/19/10 04:01 AMI'm jealous of this meet-up. Avery and Olivia together...not to mention kgb and gardener? OK, field trip to Boston. My location is perfect for tourist! ladykiMessage #13881 - 11/19/10 04:58 AMI'm jealous of this meet-up. Avery and Olivia together...not to mention kgb and gardener?
OK, field trip to Boston. My location is perfect for tourist! Anyone coming down to Texas,lol. Well, I dont think any of you would want to come down to my city, I live in the desert and we are a sister city to a Mexican border city that is considered one of the most dangerous cities in the world. GusitaRenkerMessage #13882 - 11/19/10 06:32 AMAzure-What a cute picture of you and your sister! Congrats on making it six months! KRR-Happy testing! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you. Surfnsand-Glad you got to see your baby on the ultrasound! I loved both ours, especially the anatomy one at 20 weeks. It was so interesting getting to see all the little body parts. DH and I told everyone (family, friends, my boss at the time) at 7 weeks, right after my doctor’s appointment. I had intended to wait longer than that because I was paranoid about something going wrong, but DH has a big mouth and was anxious to tell the world. I think you would be ‘safe’ at 13 weeks. Reflector-Happy birthday to your DH! I hope DS finally went down for a nap. Gardenergirl-Oh trust me, DH thinks it is absolutely hilarious, especially since I told him at first that I didn’t know how the windshield got that huge crack in it. I was going to tell him what really happened (and did), I was just trying to think of how to say it so I didn't sound like a crazy woman who needs to go to anger management class. He also thinks its funny that the GPS was completely unscathed in the incident. Kjsh-Funny you should mention the entitlement feeling! I was standing in line at Walmart tonight, and this man in one of those motorized carts started backing up in front of me. I stepped back to give him room, but the idiot just kept going like five feet and backed into me! The first thought in my head was,’WTH is wrong with you? You don’t run into a pregnant woman you idiot!’ Seriously, I have no clue what he was trying to do. And then he turns around and just stares at me. Not even an ‘Oops.’ I guess he was going to back across the entire store instead of turning the flipping cart around like a normal person. And then a woman tried to cut in front of me with a cart full of stuff while this happening. You don't cut in front of anyone, let alone a pregnant lady! Ladyki-Sorry your pictures didn’t go as planned! We did family pictures at Walmart one year, and we were not happy at all with them. I definitely recommend trying JC Penney! I will be going to them for all my picture needs. Taz-Happy testing to you too! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you! yogiiiMessage #13883 - 11/19/10 11:57 AMazure, I'm no kgb or gardener but we could meet up some time. Most of my upcoming weekends are already filled up with holiday stuff but it could eventually happen KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13884 - 11/19/10 01:29 PMI'm jealous of this meet-up. Avery and Olivia together...not to mention kgb and gardener? Well take pictures! azure, I'm no kgb or gardener but we could meet up some time. yogiii, You're so sweet! I wish I could meet all of you ladies. If anyone ever makes it to the Pittsburgh area let me know. And if I'm doing any traveling, I'll keep you all posted. ladyki, I've taken Avery to several places for photos. First we went to Sears, and it sounds like a similar experience to what you just had. We had an appointment and they were behind. The people didn't know what they were doing. They didn't want to honor our coupon. The photos came out nice (this was for last Christmas), but the customer relations aspect of it was horrible. Then we went to The Picture People. They were much better on the customer service end, but also very pricey. And, because they print their photos out on the spot, I don't think the print quality was as good as it should have been. Last time we went to Target and it was wonderful. The photographer was really nice and good with Avery. She took tons of pictures, so we had lots of choices, and their prices were awesome. We're going to tomorrow to get Avery's Christmas pictures on her own and a group photo with her cousins on DH's side of the family. We'll see if they do as great this time too.
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KRR627Message #13885 - 11/19/10 01:48 PMGood morning, Wanted to fill you all in my test results from last night and this morning. Still negative at 12 DPO. But my temp is still relatively high, and no AF yet. Keeping my fingers crossed! Taz - good luck testing! Sorry, gotta run, busy day today. Hoping to catch up more with all of you tomorrow or late tonight. Have a great Friday! gardenergirl0804Message #13886 - 11/19/10 02:36 PMI wish I could meet you all too! I've always wanted to go to Boston, so if we ever plan a trip, Azure I will definitely let you know! Ladyk, do you live near Corpus Christi? I hear that is a beautiful city and wanted to go there when I was younger. Not sure if I will ever make it to TX though, that'd be a long drive kgb - I was thinking that about taking pics of Avery and Olivia and posting them, then I read your post! How funny. I told DH about my plans to meet up with you last night when he asked me what all I had planned. I said, so far, just dinner with my family on Saturday and meeting up with kgb on Friday for a bit. Hope your pics go well tomorrow! Olivia has slept straight through the night last two nights - keeping my fingers crossed she does it this entire weekend too! She's been eating more baby food. Taking it at daycare and for me at dinnertime. I mix either some rice or oatmeal cereal with bmilk or formula and then add baby food to it. It must fill her up. That and I think she wore herself out last night. DH was on the floor with us playing his acoustic guitar to Olivia. She was dancing! I was holding her hands and she was holding herself up and bouncing up and down and up and down like crazy! I could feel her heartbeat and it was thumping so hard. About a half hour after that she was out like a light! ElfQ1015Message #13887 - 11/19/10 02:49 PMSo how do you go about finding a mommy & me group? After YM yesterday it's kinda sunk in that I have no friends to really talk to about being a new mother or do anything with. I get most of my new mother support on here which is probably not very healthy. Everyone my own age either had kids at 16 or are still living the 'single college life". People my husband's age are long done having kids and if I have to hear one more time about how much my SIL loved being pregnant and breastfeeding I am going to punch her. I am kinda stuck in this in-between generational gap that I can't seem to bridge. I also have no co-workers to make friends with, it is just me in the lab and I am in a mostly male dominated field. While 90% of the time it doesn't bother me to be completely alone, it's just kinda sunk in recently that I am really all alone. I have DH, but he can't really commmiserate with me. I have Gwen but she can't exactly understand what I am talking about and I've been my mom's "confidant" for years since she has the same problem I do making friends and honestly I don't want to do that to Gwen, it's really awkward to be honest. Not so much now that I am adult, but it wasn't something I think a 14 year old should have to handle. I got two actual friends to my name right now but we are all so busy. DH encouraged me to reach out and make an effort together with them. So did my counseler because she is concerned that I have nothing for myself. It's just work and come home to take care of the baby. I am not really good at making friends, never have been. As has been so kindly pointed out on YM for me I have a big mouth, overshare and I am a "drama queen" so generally people don't like me because I always end up rubbing them the wrong way or I am so afraid of rubbing someone the wrong way that I never really belong to the group because I am afraid of people hating me and kicking me out. It just kinda hit me the other day that I am apparently much more lonely than I make myself out to be to others and it really dawned on me how sad it is that I have such a hard time making any real friends. So I am looking for some advice on how to maybe track down some new mothers or mothers groups and see maybe if I can make some friends that way. gardenergirl0804Message #13888 - 11/19/10 03:05 PMPQ - I commiserate with you! I have been feeling like that quite a bit lately too. I feel like I have DH and that's about it. And sometimes I feel like he isolates himself so much that I feel totally alone. I started talking to my best girlfriend about it and she looked into this "mom" group that meets in our area on Thursdays. I'll have to ask her how she found out about it. I haven't checked it out yet but plan to. I have never been a very outgoing person. It took me a long time just to start talking on these boards. I read them but never felt like I had anything to contribute so never wrote anything. I finally introduced myself to a co-worker here that was pregnant. She had her baby in September. Her and I are getting closer. We just had lunch together yesterday. Point being, you just have to really try to be more out-going. It's the only way you'll meet more people. What about at Gwen's daycare? Introduce yourself to the parents there and ask if they know of any mom groups that meet in the area. What about church? Not sure if you go or not. I recently suggested to DH that we check out a new congregation because honestly, I like ours but I just can't get close to anyone there. And they are a much older crowd, mostly grand-parent age and I feel like we need to visit another congregation and try to meet some people our age with kids. I hate the thought of Olivia growing up without making any friends. She has the ones at daycare, but still... HUGE to you and just know you are not alone in how you are feeling. And don't ever feel like you can't talk to us on this board, we'll never judge you or say stuff like they do to you on YM. I have never even read that board over there and after what I've been hearing about it, I really don't want to! Who_is_JohnGalt1Message #13889 - 11/19/10 03:08 PMDQ, Have you tried looking up meetup.com? They have groups by interests and by area. Take a look Good luck! Lena jmrs318Message #13890 - 11/19/10 03:10 PMDrama - I don't post very often but I wanted to say I understand how you feel. I only have one friend who has a child, but her child is 2 (Abbie is 4 months) and she is a bully so we both aren't comfortable having her around Abbie. The rest of my friends are single and don't understand at all. DH is a loner and doesn't really have any friends. We joined a church that is really centered on children. The adult classes are group by life stages instead of age so our class is 20s-30s with infants to toddlers. We have met some really nice families and hope that they will be friends with Abbie as they grow up. I am not really a religious person and didn't grow up growing to church, but this worked out really well for us. I hope you some way to meet people you can relate to
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KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13891 - 11/19/10 03:25 PMSo how do you go about finding a mommy & me group? After YM yesterday it's kinda sunk in that I have no friends to really talk to about being a new mother or do anything with. I get most of my new mother support on here which is probably not very healthy. Drama, hugs to you! Check with your hospital, your ob/gyn and your pediatrician's office. My group, called Storkbites, was actually run by a couple of nurses in the L&D department of the hospital where I gave birth. I had seen posters up for it while I was pregnant in my doctor's office. At the hospital one of the nurses told me more about it and asked if I would be interested. She even called me to re-invite me the week before the first meeting. It's been a really great experience for me. I know some of the women on YM said their groups stunk, but I've had a really positive experience with mine. I even encouraged my ob/gyn to encourage more new moms to go. ElfQ1015Message #13892 - 11/19/10 03:50 PM DH is a loner and doesn't really have any friends Yeah that's my problem too. Tried church but there are few around here that has anyone in the congreation under the age of 80. Part of the problem I found out when looking to get married in a church is that they are so unwelcoming of anyone who isn't already a member that it pretty much turns you off of wanting to join their congregation. That's why they are getting no new members, they don't welcome people! I am just always so scared of exposing who I am and ending up getting beat up for it (not physically). I told DH he is the first man that didn't run away screaming calling me a "b!tch". It's hard to make friends when you constantly hear in yoru head that you are obnoxious, you repeat yourself, you are too assertive, too aggressive. .. whatever other flaw someone can find and dig out. The PC 1980's term would be I "march to the beat of a different drummer", my version of it is I am a screwed up weirdo who doesn't know how to interact with people socially. I've honestly never really had a social life. I told DH that I say it doesn't bother me not to have one, but sometimes it really does and lately I've really been feeling it. I don't feel it as much when I have work friends or class friends, but I am not in any classes and I work completely alone. So that compounds it. I hope Gwen becomes really popular and has lots of friends, I don't want her to be like me AT ALL. I don't want her to be as socially awkward as I am and be 26 and realize she has no friends and no social life whatsoever, it's just work and home. gardenergirl0804Message #13893 - 11/19/10 04:20 PMPQ - nothing wrong with being different! When I was in school I was never one of the popular kids. I always hung out with the middle crowd. Not the popular kids but not the complete geeks. I was pretty quiet and shy and just found kids like me to hang out with. As I got older I branched out. I am definitely not quiet anymore, but still a little shy. DH sort of changed me. When we got married I sort of got thrown into his group of friends. I started hanging out with his friends girlfriends/wives. Does DH have any guy friends who are married or have GF that you could meet? I've sort of always had problems keeping friends too. We'd grow apart, get too busy, etc. You need a good girls night out . I wish I lived closer to you so we could go have one together! ElfQ1015Message #13894 - 11/19/10 04:23 PMDoes DH have any guy friends who are married or have GF that you could meet? Unfortunately no. DH is a loner as well. Plus he is 37, his friends are all his age or older. It's that generational gap I was talking about where I am kinda stuck between two different generations and can't relate to either. One of the unrealized downsides of being married to someone 10 years older than me. regina24601Message #13895 - 11/19/10 04:36 PMDrama - and I totally understand what you mean. I'm in Kansas City, so less than 3 hours from you - I'll be your friend! I'm also someone who doesn't keep many close friends, and the ones I do have are hours away. DH is my best friend, which is great, but sometimes you do need female friends who understand where you're at in life. DH and I met a great couple last week in our childbirth class, and we're trying to figure out how to approach them at our last class tomorrow so we can keep in touch. We're just not good at "closing the deal" so to speak. I wish I had more advice for you, but I'm kind of in the market for advice myself. If you ever are down near KC, though, we could definitely get together. ElfQ1015Message #13896 - 11/19/10 04:42 PMI was hoping to find some couples in my childbirth or breastfeeding class. Ended up in the turbo militant earth mother, natural child birth, breastfeed until the kid is 20 groups. I was too uncomfortable to even ask questions, let alone approach any of the couples to be friends.
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surf-n-sandMessage #13897 - 11/19/10 05:19 PMPQ- Do you belong to a gym? I've met lots of nice people in classes there! I live in a very populated city. Not sure if it's the same elsewhere, but there are lots of different activity groups in the local papers and such here. Some that incorporate babies, some that don't. ie: biking, walking, running, etc. Meet up at a certain spot and do a common activity together. It's nice because you meet people and can chat, but there is no pressure to talk the entire time. More of an ease into getting to know people. ElfQ1015Message #13898 - 11/19/10 05:27 PMNo, I don't belong to a gym. I've been looking for Dh and everywhere wants to lock you into a one to two year contract and I can barely get DH to commit to going to a gym once, no way I want to shell out for a year membership. We've been thinking about the Y but money has been such a mess lately that we can't really afford to do so. DH said he is going to try to be more social. A friend of his wife always wants to go out but DH is always so tired and grumpy after work that he never wants to go. Then he usually doesn't make doing anything with his family a joy. He was called out by his sister how he always sits out with his sunglasses on, arms crossed with a grumpy look on his face. Then we always have to leave so he can go to bed to get up for work at 4 am. We were going to go out with his friend a couple weekends ago but he developed bronchitis AGAIN, so we had to cancel. gardenergirl0804Message #13899 - 11/19/10 06:14 PMPQ - we have a local magazine that gets sent to our house once a month called "Our Town." That's where my friend found out about the mom's group. If you get anything like that, a local magazine that sends out info about the area check in there. Surf had a good idea about joining a group that does things, not just sit around and talk, so there is less pressure. I've never really enjoyed the idea of getting together with a group of women to just talk, like a book club. But a group that gets together to walk or play sports might be something good to look into. Or what about on weekends taking Gwen for a stroll in a park or something. You could maybe introduce yourself to other moms. I know it's hard and scary to just walk up to someone you don't know and start talking, but if they have a baby and you have a baby that could be a good way to start chatting with someone, you know what I mean? ElfQ1015Message #13900 - 11/19/10 06:23 PMMaybe. I just texted my best friend, her and her BF are broke too, but maybe we can swing something cheap and double date this weekend. I have to wait to ask DH. If not I suggested maybe we get together to just window shop for Christmas. I wanted to introduce myself to a surgeon who pumps here at work that I met in the hallway, she commented that we must be on the same schedule since she sees me coming or going every morning, but I choked. jmrs318Message #13901 - 11/19/10 06:35 PMDrama - Another thing to try is chatting up other parents in Gwen's daycare class. I've gotten to know one mom in Abbie's because we drop off and pick up at the same time everyday. She seems really nice and I'm thinking about asking her out to coffee one day. We apparently work and live in the same area as well. I know it isn't easy approaching people you don't know. I used to be very shy so my parents forced me into organized sports to make me come out of my shell. I now do well once I've talked to a person a few times, but I'm usually the person hanging out in the back by myself until I get the nerve to talk. I've followed this board for months before getting pregnant and my daughter is now 4 months and I'm still shy to speak up here even though everyone seems very welcoming here. ElfQ1015Message #13902 - 11/19/10 06:39 PMAnother thing to try is chatting up other parents in Gwen's daycare class Funny story about that, I had on my badge from work when we went to the Halloween party and someone recognized my badge as being from the hospital where a friend of theirs died and she proceeded to jump on me about it until I told her I work in the COLLEGE, not the hospital. Now I make sure it is in my purse before I walk into the daycare. Should write in the next stupid survey about whether or not the hospital is doing enough to promote its logo that the answer is yes! Stupid hospital and its damn reimaging and self promotion.
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GusitaRenkerMessage #13903 - 11/19/10 06:42 PMCount me as another one who is short in the friend department. I have literally had the same three best friends since middle school. Our of our foursome, three of us are married, but in such different places. One is married to a man child who is killing them financially with his lust for 'toys'; they have four cars, two trucks, a motorcycle, and a 4 wheeler. She has no desire for kids until she is 35, which is fine, but kind of makes it hard to understand why I purposefully am pregnant. Another is married to a good guy and they are pretty stable; they are planning to start trying in the next year or so. We have definitely gotten closer since I got pregnant, and I am looking forward to having one of my close friends have a child. The third is 23 and has never had a serious relationship, so that's where she is putting most of her effort right now. She's so shy and her three best friends are married, which is not making is easy for her to find someone. She is not overlay ecstatic about me being pregnant, but understands why I wanted to be unlike friend number 1. I can definitely see myself getting closer to friend 2 and more distant from friends 1 and 3 once Brett comes. I would love to find a few more close friends, but I just don't know where to find them! I do plan on trying a few mommy groups when Brett comes. Maybe I'll met some nice people there. I can hope! ladykiMessage #13904 - 11/19/10 07:08 PMLadyk, do you live near Corpus Christi? I hear that is a beautiful city and wanted to go there when I was younger. Not sure if I will ever make it to TX though, that'd be a long drive Gardengirl- No, I dont live close to Corpus Christi. I have been there a couple of times and you are right it is a beautiful city. I actually live on the onther side of Texas, in El Paso. I hope Gwen becomes really popular and has lots of friends, I don't want her to be like me AT ALL. I don't want her to be as socially awkward as I am and be 26 and realize she has no friends and no social life whatsoever, it's just work and home. Me too, I hope Kiani has a ton of friends. I have a social life, but it usually with my neighbors or sister, lol. Even in high school I think I only had like two close friends. I still have a few friends but rarely ever see them. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13905 - 11/19/10 07:14 PMShe is not overlay ecstatic about me being pregnant I just don't get that. I guess I could understand feeling jealous or sad, but I would still be happy for my friend and try to hide the bad feelings because those would be my issues and problems. I never thought about it, but I guess I have a lot of friends, some that are more close friends and some that are more social. But I'm a very social person and have had jobs that require one to be social. I also have a fairly diverse group of friends. I feel bad because I have drifted a bit from my one group of friends. They're all childless, with the exception of one, all single, with the exception of one, and all older than I am. Naturally their activities involve a lot of travel and events that are just hard for me to swing. But I love them dearly, so I'm trying to stay in touch as best I can. ElfQ1015Message #13906 - 11/19/10 07:33 PMI'm kinda at a weird point in my life where I am stuck between life stages and working completely alone. Most of the time I would have class friends, work friend etc that would fill out my friend circle while having only a handful of really close friends. Now I don't have any co-workers or any classes I am taking, so there goes that. Then one close friend is having another baby here in December and also works in a lab, there is not much room for us to socialize. I am going to try to make more of an effort to socialize, we'll see what happens. It's just hard for me to make friends. My best friend and I met in middle school, we got put at the same table because no one else wanted to sit with us (nice huh?), we just ended up becoming friends. I have a hard time seeking out friendships, I always seem to make an idiot out of myself or I am so afraid of making an idiot out of myself that I come off as standoffish or "snotty" as it was put in HS. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13907 - 11/19/10 07:47 PMDH texted to say that Avery fell and bit her lip. He said she's okay, but it bled a little. It was bound to happen eventually. alpha_yankeeMessage #13908 - 11/19/10 07:50 PMI hope Gwen becomes really popular and has lots of friends, I don't want her to be like me AT ALL. I don't want her to be as socially awkward as I am and be 26 and realize she has no friends and no social life whatsoever, it's just work and home. I was very worried about this for DS#1. I was a painfully shy kid. When it came time to go to kindergarten, they wanted my mom to wait another year because I wouldn't talk to them. My mom brought me back for another evaluation a week later. She told them I'd been reading for a year and need to be in school. I ended up going, but I was still very shy. I had to screw up my courage just to ask to use the restroom. It melts my heart every time I see DS#1 being social with his friends. He is friends with everyone in his class, all 17 other kids. He talks to everyone, at the grocery store, the bank, the car wash, etc. I think part of it is that he's been in daycare from four months old. I was always home with my mom or family baby sitters. I'm also in the camp of having very few friends. I've always been more comfortable with a good book than another person. My social circle now is almost entirely made up of my DH's family. I've always been very self-reliant, so it's never bothered me. It actually bothers my husband more than me. He is very social and is constantly doing things with friends. I'm happier staying home with the kids or shopping on my own. I have a lot of really good acquaintances, that could probably turn into good friends if I put in the effort, but I really don't feel like making the effort.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:34:49 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13909 - 11/19/10 07:50 PMDH texted to say that Avery fell and bit her lip Ouch. Gwen hasn't bit her lip yet, but she's bashed me in the mouth quite a few times with her forehead. I am surprised I have front teeth left. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13910 - 11/19/10 07:51 PMA few weeks ago Avery threw her head back and smacked by nose. It hurt so bad. For a second I thought for sure it was going to bleed, but it didn't. She gets lots of little injuries. She's a pretty rough and tumble kid. alpha_yankeeMessage #13911 - 11/19/10 07:53 PMA few weeks ago Avery threw her head back and smacked by nose. It hurt so bad. For a second I thought for sure it was going to bleed, but it didn't. She gets lots of little injuries. She's a pretty rough and tumble kid. DS#1 once whacked me in the face with the remote control. It hit me right above my brow bone. I actually cried from the pain. It hurt for weeks afterward, like he'd bruised the bone. ElfQ1015Message #13912 - 11/19/10 07:58 PMMaybe we should invent helmets for new moms? Kinda like football helmets but much much more stylish. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13913 - 11/19/10 08:03 PMI read an article awhile ago about all the injuries that parents sustain because of their children. It was funny, but not. alpha_yankeeMessage #13914 - 11/19/10 08:19 PMI read an article awhile ago about all the injuries that parents sustain because of their children. It was funny, but not. It's funny now to tell DS#1 about all the times he hurt me. It wasn't funny at the time, but he likes to hear about it now. Then he says sorry and kisses whatever spot we were talking about.
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ElfQ1015Message #13915 - 11/19/10 08:27 PMSo far Gwen has not injured me as many times as DH has. He doesn't get sleep paralysis, he can move when he is dreaming. I've been punched in the back of the head, elbowed, stomped on (he was squashing fire ants), the list is endless. Either he's going to have to be tied to the bed or I am going to need to purchase some football gear. I never sleep with my face exposed towards him, I always lie on my left side. I figure better safe than sorry because one day he might end up breaking my nose! EconStudent07Message #13916 - 11/19/10 09:12 PMDrama - My hospital has a mom's group that meets weekly, and it is listed in with the prenatal classes. The people who lead the class are lactation consultants. I hope you can find something! DH finally found a church with welcoming people after searching on and off for about 2 years. It is crazy how unfriendly people can be. We met a really nice couple at this church who have a 3 year old daughter, and she is about 5 months pregnant with their second kid. This is the first time that DH have really had friends since we've been married. We aren't very social either. anne81Message #13917 - 11/19/10 09:39 PMSo how do you go about finding a mommy & me group? After YM yesterday it's kinda sunk in that I have no friends to really talk to about being a new mother or do anything with. PQ - I've been a loner most of my life. A few close friends but I wasn't into going out much. Three years ago I moved to a different state and then I had DS. I really felt like I had to put myself out there and make friends, for his sake if not my own. My adoptive mother was extremely anti-social and it really hurt me and my brother. Get out to places moms hang out with your kid. It's like dating. Most moms are desperate to make conversation. If you see one in a park, indoor playpark, children's museum, grocery store, kids store, mall play area, coffee shop - smile, make eye contact, tell them how cute their kid is, and let the conversation roll from there. Some won't be interested but a lot will. You'd be shocked at how many moms ended up in my mom's group because another mom "picked" them up in public. Share e-mails, phone numbers, and arrange to meet in a neutral place. Check out meet up. If you don't see a mom's group that seems to match your needs (we have granola groups, tattooed moms groups, etc) set up one of your own. I think it's free at first. I'm sure there's lots of working moms that would love to join a group. We found that it worked better to restrict the children to within 6 months of age to each other - keeps the walkers from overrunning the crawlers, etc. If you belong to a church see if there is a mom's group there - or if there is any interest in setting up one. Borrow a meeting room at your local library or church until you feel comfortable with these people and then you can rotate at homes. Our mom's group does activities on the weekends as well as during the week. We have specific activities several times a year where the dads are invited (expected) to join like Halloween, Christmas, summer bbq. They mix and mingle and now we'll have other couples over dinner, the boys will go out for golf, etc. Don't let YM fool you that all mom's groups are full of brain dead people. I don't think you can judge what mom's are like in the first few months after having a baby. We're all crazy and tired. We've got electrical engineers, journalists, psychologists, physical therapists, teachers, etc in our groups. You are more likely to find educated women in mom's groups, IMHO. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13918 - 11/19/10 09:52 PMOk ladies - I think I might have a positive test here. Definitely not a BFP, but its a pretty faint, still pink, line. I couldn't wait anymore, so I tested this afternoon . I plan to re-do it with FMU to be sure, as long as AF stays away. My big question - how did you all tell your DH's? This is our first, so I want to do something fun. But I kind of want to surprise him. And I have the worst poker face ever, and I can't lie to save my life. I need some good ideas. I have a digital test that I plan to use to show him with, as long as I get dark lines on the other ones. kjshMessage #13919 - 11/19/10 09:59 PMLadyki - I'm in Texas too, but I'm over near Houston - El Paso has a great health department. When I first moved to Texas (San Antonio) I was so excited. After years of living on the east coast I thought I was moving someplace where I could take a long weekend and drive out to the Grand Canyon and camp and hike... Then I actually drove out to SA. It really hit me when I was in Dallas and still had about 5 more hours before we arrived in SA that there would be no weekend trips anywhere outside of Texas. I'm not very good at making friends either, although I'm not shy so much as I am reserved. I've definitely gotten better as I got older though. My husband is the much more outgoing of the two of us so a lot of times I just follow his lead. One of my issues is that I worry that people are just humoring me when I'm talking with them. It's definitely harder to meet people in the winter than in the summer, particularly in the northern states. I don't know how it would be in Iowa DQ but if you and DH aren't too set on a particular faith, you might look for a Unitarian church to try out. If you're near Omaha or Des Moines, The Nest has local boards for those areas. I've used the Houston local board on The Nest to get resources and recommendations, so they might know about different groups in your area. kjshMessage #13920 - 11/19/10 10:00 PMOh, and alpha I love the empathy that DS1 has for his mom.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:35:27 GMT -5
Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13921 - 11/19/10 10:02 PMDrama - I know Jando from the midwest is from the Omaha area. She might be a good resource to ask about groups. kjshMessage #13922 - 11/19/10 10:06 PMSam - congrats!!! I didn't surprise DH at all. I woke up super early the day I knew I'd be testing and POS before he woke up. When I saw the positive, I ran into the bedroom and woke him up and shoved it in his face (gently and lovingly of course). He had no idea what he was supposed to be looking at poor guy. Do you every have cinnamon buns or sticky buns for breakfast? You could make/buy some for tomorrow morning, and then ask him to get the bun out of the oven (where you will have also put the + test inside a disposable small bread pan or something). That might be a little too much of the stretching the 'bun in the oven' pun though. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13923 - 11/19/10 10:12 PMHe just came home & asked if I wanted to go out to dinner tonight. We have been trying to be good & not go out all the time, but I think I will take him up on his offer. I won't be able to keep it a secret for too long, but maybe I can tell him on the way so we can have a celebration dinner regina24601Message #13924 - 11/19/10 10:42 PMYay Sam! That's so exciting! Fingers crossed for a dark line tomorrow morning and a digital confirmation! As far as telling DH, I found out the day before his birthday, so I wrapped the test in a box and gave it to him for an early birthday gift. It was fun, but I guess it wouldn't work if there's no birthday or holiday coming up. Enjoy telling him!! GusitaRenkrMessage #13925 - 11/19/10 11:10 PMSam, I totally just blurted it out. I called him as soon as I saw the line and said,'You know what we were doing last month? I think it worked!' LOL, not very creative, but I totally lost my composure when I saw that line. I just had to tell someone asap. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13926 - 11/19/10 11:40 PMI think I got it!! Tell me if this is completely stupid. We are going out to dinner tonight, so I was going to print a "coupon". Instead of a coupon, I was going to print out a pic of what the bean looks like at this point. Then I can hand it to him when its time to pay for dinner. That way he won't think anything of me printing off something before we leave
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GusitaRenkrMessage #13927 - 11/19/10 11:53 PMAw, Sam, that sounds so cute! I like it! jenna30-Message #13928 - 11/20/10 12:21 AMForgive me, but I have "baby brain" and am having a hard time remembering details... Re: telling hubby - - I was about a week late & going a little bananas trying to decide whether to take a test or just wait it out. I ended up buying a 2 pack of tests (always figuring I could use the other one later) & vowing to take one in the morning... then I couldn't wait another minute. I took it once my step son went to bed (hubby was working the second shift at the time.) The test came back positive, and I anxiously waited for hubby to come home. I went outside to his truck to meet him (didn't want our voices to wake up my step son) & once he got out of the truck, I just started crying a little and pointing to my tummy... kinda nodding my head. He figured it out pretty quickly & gave me a big hug. *Ha! Guess I remembered more details than I thought I would. -- I get what you guys are saying about making friends. I'm 37. I led a completely different lifestyle in my twenties - young & unmarried, not responsible for much more than myself and work. As I grew up, many of those friends fell to the side, especially since I was a little older. I was hitting a different phase of life. Now, I work with a wide variety of people, but everyone seems so busy - or just in a different life phase. My closest friend from college and I live about 2 miles apart and hardly see each other. She's a mom of 2, and shuttles her kids around (girl scouts, dancing, pre-school, et.al.) jenna30-Message #13929 - 11/20/10 12:25 AMSam, best wishes. ETA: I really appreciate utilizing this forum (and all the ladies!) to ask questions and gather ideas. It's been very helpful as I'm getting closer and closer to becoming a mom. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13930 - 11/20/10 01:36 AMSam - WOOT!! Congrats. Telling DH - This is my fourth pregnancy and will be my first child (fingers and toes crossed). DH and I had long ago bypassed the me taking a test on my own thing and the fantasy of telling a completely thrilled and surprised hubby. At that point the negatives were heart breaking, and any positive was terrifying so we did it together. DH saw the + test before I did. I peed in a cup dipped the stick, put the cap on and handed it to DH saying "tell me once you see a negative" while I finished up in the bathroom. DH said "umm...2 lines is not a no is it?" I said "there won't be 2 lines....there can't be 2 lines..." DH said "well, umm..I think there are 2 lines" I came out of the bathroom and saw the stick, looked at DH and we both just kind of blinked for awhile and said "OMG!!!" then I started calling my doctor's emergency line because my last pg was ectopic and I had been told to see a doctor as soon as I got any + test just in case. I had been taking meds to bring on AF, so was pretty worried for several weeks that I had ended this pregnancy before it had started. Luckily it turned out ok. (Thank all that is good in the world!!!!!) Looks like I finally got my sticky baby in the right place. Let us know how you tell him!! How exciting for you! I always dreamed of how I would tell DH when we were first talking about TTC, but never got the chance to do it like that. ladykiMessage #13931 - 11/20/10 01:53 AMMy big question - how did you all tell your DH's? Sam- Hopefully it is a BFP, Congrats, Wohooo. We had been fighting an infertility battle, so I just called him in to the restroom when I got the BFP. We were both in shock, so I guess we were both surprised, lol. Then I actually drove out to SA. It really hit me when I was in Dallas and still had about 5 more hours before we arrived in SA that there would be no weekend trips anywhere outside of Texas.
Kjsh- I guess I am lucky with that. We have a small city that we love going to. We havent been there since Kiani was born. It is called Ruidoso and it is in NM. It is about 2 hrs away from us and it is know for its skiing and its casinos. We love to go there for the casinos, but I guess now with Kiani it will be a little bit harder to go.
Let us know how you tell him!! How exciting for you! I always dreamed of how I would tell DH when we were first talking about TTC, but never got the chance to do it like that. Same here, but due to the infertility I never got to surprise him the way that I would have wanted to, but hey we now have a baby and now she gets to surprise us very often with new things that she does. azure skyMessage #13932 - 11/20/10 02:55 AMWow...what a busy day! I was swamped at work, and just now am getting to catch up. azure, I'm no kgb or gardener but we could meet up some time. Most of my upcoming weekends are already filled up with holiday stuff but it could eventually happen Yogii, are you kidding? I'd love to meet up sometime! We live nearby, have baby boys that are only a week apart. Drama -- honestly, you seem so fun, I have a hard time imagining you without friends. Good luck! I would also check out baby groups at local libraries and toy stores. There is a toy store near here that has a concert every Saturday morning. Sam -- CONGRATS! Tell us how it went. I didn't do anything cute; just yelled for DH to come to the bathroom.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:36:06 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13933 - 11/20/10 01:12 PMladyki - I 100% agree. I am not shedding any tears over missing my chance to surprise DH. He and I are surprised and thrilled every day that this pregnancy is stilll good and that we get to meet our son in less than 4 months!! DH felt the baby move for the first time this Thursday. Cole is usually kicking so low that I wouldn't even ask DH to try to feel it (I'm a big girl so have belly fat in that area that would make it impossible anyway). We went to a concert Thursday night and when we were heading back to the hotel he headed north for the first time ever! When I laid down in bed, he was kicking just above my hip on one side and due to my position, I was able to put DH's hand there and he felt those little taps. SO exciting! We have our next u/s on Monday. Looking forward to hopefully getting good news about Cole's kidneys. I'll keep you all posted. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13934 - 11/20/10 02:12 PMWell, I confirmed it again this morning with FMU. No mistaking that line!! Looks like somewhere towards the end of July, Baby S is making an appearance I told DH last night when we were going out to dinner. On the way there he told me that he just settled a big case (meaning he gets paid, for the first time since Aug), and that dinner was a way to celebrate When we got to the restaurant I grabbed his hand as he was about to get out of the car, and told him I had another reason to celebrate (that I got a positive test). Took him a couple minutes - he kept saying "Really?". Then he gave me a huge hug and a kiss All through dinner he kept just smiling really big!! It was great Its funny, DH's boss and his wife just had their last kid. They had 2, then another "surprise" about 3 years later. They had already gotten rid of the baby stuff, so they bought all new for #3. That kid is about 18 months old, and they know that no more babies will be coming. So they have been giving us all their stuff!! We got a crib, stroller, pack-n-play, Bjorn carrier, rocker, dresser, changing table. My sister kept all the baby clothes from her boy & girl (and no more there either), so all we need at this point is a baby & an infant carseat! DH's boss told him to get on it the last time we went to pick up some stuff - said he had been giving us stuff since July and we still didn't have a baby yet . Guess DH figured he better do what he was told. HAHAH! eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13935 - 11/20/10 02:43 PMSam - how very generous!! Very excited for you and your DH. Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. KRR627Message #13936 - 11/20/10 05:08 PMSam - Congrats! Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy! Also, great job for your DH settling a big case! Taz - Did you test this morning? Hoping you get a BFP too! Good luck. Drama - Hugs! I know it's hard to make and keep close friends; it does take a lot of effort. I'm cheering you on and know you can be successful! I can relate to being around lots of guys and few females. I have brothers and a brother in - law (no sisters), lots of male cousins, and work in a male - dominated field (engineering). I am blessed to have a few close girl friends, but two of them live hours away, and the others are mostly several years younger, in college still, and/or single. They are fun to hang out with, but in a different life stage. I struggle with needing a mentor a few years older who can help me navigate this TTC craziness. More on that later... Gusita, gardenergirl, jmrs, and others struggling with loneliness, hugs to you too! Hoping you can find good female friends too. I took another test this morning with first morning urine, still BFN at 13 DPO. Temperature is still high, no AF yet and I don't really have any symptoms. I don't feel sick so I don't think it's a fever. I've had a few minor cramps a couple of days ago, but I don't always have them before AF so that's not really predictable. I've had sore bo.obs in previous cycles, but not this cycle. I think I'm going nuts waiting! It's all I can think about. It's still early according to the average woman, but at least 2 days longer than my usual LP of 10-11 days. So something is different this time but I don't know what it is. My head knows I should be patient and I'm not out yet. My emotions are betraying me though. Aaah! Thanks for listening. I know some of you have probably felt like I do, it helps knowing that I'm not alone. gardenergirl0804Message #13937 - 11/20/10 07:53 PMSam - congrats!!I'm so happy for you and DH. That's so cute how he kept smiling all throughout dinner. KRR - That is so weird that you keep testing but it's always BFN and no AF. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! kgb - how is Avery?? I'm sorry she hit her lip. I hope you weren't too upset last night when you saw her. I know Olivia is going to have lots of bumps and bruises coming her way soon as she learns to walk. Meg - Mommy to AverieMessage #13938 - 11/21/10 12:16 AMKGB, hope Avery is okay! My Averie took a spill at my ILs a couple weeks ago and banged her head on their hardwood floors. For a few days afterward, we couldn't get her to take a step on her own - she was obviously scared to fall again. I was getting worried something was wrong, but then she snapped out of it. I guess our babies are tougher than we think . Sam, congrats on the BFP! Drama, I can commiserate with the social life thing. I was really awkward in high school and I don't think I've kept in touch with ANY people from there. We chat occasionally on Facebook or whatever or they comment on a picture of Averie, but it's not like we're planning get-togethers or anything, even for the "friends" that live nearby. And I got married 2 years into college, so I never had super-close roommate bonds or anything. THEN, it seemed like everyone was having babies long before we were ready, and now we're finally catching up and finding our stride with other parents. Telling DH - I took a picture of the faintest line ever in the history of positive pregnancy tests and texted it to DH when he was at work, asking him if he thought it was what I thought it was. A coworker was standing at his desk, saw the picture when DH opened it and said "Hey, congrats, man!" DH came home after work and we went to Walmart where we bought one of every brand, just to be sure . Pictures - We've done all of Averie's at JCPenney. They have good coupons and the photographer we got the first time we went there also did her 1-year pictures. She does a great job - I plan to request her for future pictures. We've never sent out Christmas cards before but I really want to this year - just a photo card of the three of us from JCP. We made an appointment for the end of the month, but I'm not sure I'll keep it - things are starting to get dicey and we still haven't heard from the job, or any job, for that matter, and I'm cringing at spending ANY unnecessary money right now. I can't wait for this semester to be over. I'm so overwhelmed with everything else that's going on and I just want to be done. My math class recently got a lot more difficult and the teacher was saying how we wouldn't use X, Y and Z much in this class but we would if we were to go on to take Calculus. Well, I have to take Calc for an accounting degree, but not for a business management degree. So I might just take the business mgmt degree and be done. I really don't want to take Calc. Plus, I have the accounting job experience, so if I went back to work, hopefully that would count for something.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:36:19 GMT -5
lizwidMessage #13939 - 11/21/10 01:33 AMCongrats SAM! Exciting news! EconStudent07Message #13940 - 11/21/10 04:13 AMcongrats on the BFP Sam!! KRR - have you done anything to lengthen your luteal phase? Are you taking extra B vitamins or anything? I can't remember if it was on here that someone was talking about doing that. If not, are you sure of your ovulation date? It is unusual for your LP to vary by more than a day. Do you chart online, on fertility friend or anything? If you'd like opinions, feel free to post a link. Fingers crossed for you! GusitaRenkrMessage #13941 - 11/21/10 06:38 AMKRR-Waiting is the worst part of TTC! My cycle varies from 28-33 days, so I started testing on day 26 and had to test till day 31 to get my BFP! Thank God for cheap tests from Amazon! Still keeping my fingers crossed for you! Sam-Yay! That is awesome that yall have all that stuff already! Eternal-DH has only been able to feel Brett kick a handful of times because he is either kicking down into my pubic are or up into my ribs. He rarely kicks the outside of my tummy. Glad your DH got to feel him! I had my shower today, and wow. OMG, people were insanely generous. The living room was about half full with presents. We got a swing, a bouncer, a jumper, a high chair, a portable high chair, 15 outfits, 6 blankets, some toys, a thermometer, a convertible car seat, two diaper bags, a ton of diapers and wipes, pacis, bibs, socks, mittens, burp clothes, towels, wash clothes, a sound machine, cash, a baby gate, a gift card, and some other stuff that I can't remember at this moment. I swear, you name it, we probably got it. I was kind of overwhelmed by how generous everyone was. It literally took DH and myself about 3 hours to get everything unloaded, unpacked, put together, and in its appropriate place. I am so exhausted! It feels good to have everything put up though. Hope you ladies are having a good weekend! GusitaRenkrMessage #13942 - 11/21/10 06:42 AMMeg-I hope this semester goes by quickly for you. I am ready for it to be over too. Not too much longer! EconStudent07Message #13943 - 11/21/10 12:19 PMGusita, I'm glad your shower went so well! I was also amazed at how generous people were. Sorry you're having a hard time in school, Meg. Is it the school you are going to now that requires calc for the accounting degree? I'm just curious because that is not one of the requirements at my school. Maybe if you decided on the business mgmt degree, you could get a minor in accounting to give you more of a competitive edge. GusitaRenkerMessage #13944 - 11/21/10 01:59 PMWeird question, but has anyone had an insane itching on their hands and feet while pregnant? Mine started Wednesday and has gotten worse. I don't see a rash or anything obvious, and I'm not allergic to anything that I know of. I am scratching so hard I am literally scratching the skin off! I'm glad I go to the doctor Tuesday; this is just maddening!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:36:44 GMT -5
KRR627Message #13945 - 11/21/10 02:32 PMKRR - have you done anything to lengthen your luteal phase? Are you taking extra B vitamins or anything? I can't remember if it was on here that someone was talking about doing that. If not, are you sure of your ovulation date? It is unusual for your LP to vary by more than a day. Do you chart online, on fertility friend or anything? If you'd like opinions, feel free to post a link. Fingers crossed for you! No, I haven't done anything to lengthen my luteal phase, although I've debated trying a B-complex vitamin in addition to my prenatal. As for my ovulation date, I think it's right but I let fertility friend analyze the data for me. I can't decide by comparing it to my other charts. Here's a link to this month's chart. www.fertilityfriend.com/home/30174d Thanks for your help! I'll take all the advice I can get. I only have a basic membership to fertility friend, so there are only 2 charts available. If you'd like to see the other 2 I have, I can post them as pictures if it would be helpful. With this morning's drop, that usually means AF will be here tomorrow. So I didn't test this morning. I figure if my temperature goes back up tomorrow then I will consider it. ElfQ1015Message #13946 - 11/21/10 02:50 PMWent out last night with my best friend and her new boyfriend. Definetly like him more than the last one, the last one was REALLY obnoxious. We went to Spaghetti Works. I had a lot of fun, it was nice to be an "adult" for awhile. Course we talked about the baby, she was actually disappointed we did not bring her with us, but it was nice to not have an entire night revolve around spit up or what color her poo was the last time I changed her diaper. She works at Wal-mart, and you are pretty much their slave. DH worked there years ago, it's very hard to ever get time away, but she's going to see if she can so we can do our CHristmas shopping again. I said just text me whenever you got time and if I got time we'll make it work. DH isn't a very social person and his job makes things pretty isolating. When you have to leave at 7:30 because your husband has to go to bed to get up at 4 am, it's pretty hard to socialize sometimes. I pissed him off yesterday by confession that, but it's true! It's the same as when he was working nights. Doesn't mean I think it is his fault and the job is good money, it is just that it sucks sometimes. He connected with an older couple at his work by mentioning we are looking for adult friends. He's really trying to be a little more social in hopes of snagging me some new friends. How I told my DH: I went to Walgreens to buy three more pregnancy tests because I didn't believe any of them. While there I purchased a baby card that said "Congratulations". I stuck the pregnancy test in there after I peed on three more to be sure and I wrote in the card "Congrats Daddy!" I left it in the bathroom because that is where he always goes before even saying hi to me when he gets off work. He found it and I followed him into the bathroom and he goes "Is this what I think it is?" I nodded and he opened it up to find the stick and goes. . . "OMG... I am the father right?" And the mood went right out the window. He had himself convinced he was infertile and I got pregnant a MONTH after being off the pill, so it was quite a shock to him and he spoke without thinking. It's my ace in the hole guilt trip whenever I want him to do something. regina24601Message #13947 - 11/21/10 05:21 PMeternal - Yay for DH feeling the baby kick! It's one thing to feel it yourself, but to get to share it with DH is so much fun. We were lucky enough that DH was able to feel her kick the first time I did (well, the first night I did - she kicked a bit, then I shoved his hand on my belly and he felt the next ones). And she's a very very active baby, so he's been able to feel her a lot. I think it's nice because he feels left out of so much. He's already talked about how I have this bond with her that he'll never have and am experiencing things he never can, so I really try to involve him in as many things as I possibly can. Sam - Congrats on the dark lines!!! Welcome to the preggo club!! That's so sweet about your DH. He must be really excited. The next time you have a meeting downtown, let me know! I'd love to take you out to lunch to celebrate!! Drama - I'm glad you were able to connect with your friend. Sometimes it just takes one good social dinner to pull me out of a loneliness slump, so hopefully that helped you. And it would also be good if you were able to keep in touch more with your friend. As for me, I chickened out at childbirth class yesterday and didn't get the couple's information to keep in contact with them. *Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!* We even chatted all the way out to our cars, but I just can't close a deal. Oh well. Oh and speaking of childbirth class, the rest of the class went well, and we got a tour of the L&D facility. But then we had a breastfeeding class. Holy breastfeeding Nazis, batman!! The instructor did everything except come right out and say, "Your baby WILL DIE if you give her formula or a pacifier - EVER!!!" There was quite an agenda that she was pushing. But, I just filtered that out, and we did get some really helpful information. I'm really hoping to breastfeed - my goal is 6 months (not 4-7 years, which is what she was saying the norm is worldwide. That may be true, but that is not for me.) But if I can't, I'm intelligent enough to realize that formula-fed babies develop just fine. Also, very OT - DH surprised me and took me to see the Radio City Rockettes' Christmas Spectacular, which was in town on Friday night. A.MA.ZING. If you ever get a chance to see them, TAKE IT!!! It was really awesome!! (And that might be our last date night for quite some time! ) kjshMessage #13948 - 11/22/10 02:42 AMDQ - hooray for an adult dinner with friends! Sometimes you just need a little something to kickstart things. I'm glad your DH is trying to be social too. EconStudent07Message #13949 - 11/22/10 03:55 AMKRR, thanks for posting your chart! Sorry to see that AF showed up. It does look like you most likely ovulated on either CD 23 or 24...you had a clear temp shift after those days. I'd be interested to see what your other charts look like since it really isn't common for your LP to vary so much. Fourteen days is a really good LP though. I hope this is your month - maybe you'll get a BFP just in time for Christmas. <3 GusitaRenkrMessage #13950 - 11/22/10 05:16 AMRegina, I am jealous! The Rockettes Christmas spectacular came to a town 30 minutes away from us last year, but DH's work schedule just did not cooperate! We did go see the Transiberian Orchestra, and it was an amazing show! Just the type of thing to get you into the Christmas spirit. It was 65 here today; it hardly feels like the holiday season is even here with weather this warm! It's normally in the low 50's during the day at this time of the year. DH and I went to play Putt-putt today, so at least we were able to take advantage of the nice weather.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:36:58 GMT -5
KRR627Message #13951 - 11/22/10 06:08 AMI'd be interested to see what your other charts look like since it really isn't common for your LP to vary so much. Econ - I changed my home page to show July and August's charts so you can take a look at them, too. One comment about July - that was my shortest cycle I can remember. My average is somewhere around 30 days, although you can obviously see that it's not too consistent. Thanks again for your help! It's good to have a second opinion. A BFP would be an awesome Christmas present! Its 5 weeks until then - I still have time. KRR627Message #13952 - 11/22/10 06:16 AMGusita - so jealous of your weather! I'm living in the wrong place (Nebraska) for how much I dislike the cold. (Probably because I need 8 layers to feel warm when it's winter here. ) Although we did have unseasonably warm temps a couple weeks ago and it was wonderful! I'll admit that snow and frost are beautiful but I can only handle small amounts. Driving in it is way too stressful, and I do a fair amount of it for my job. My fantasy this time of year is dreaming about tropical sandy beaches and oceans. Ah, that's better already. yogiiiMessage #13953 - 11/22/10 12:13 PMazure - we'll have to exchange emails some time when we're both on drama - glad you had fun on your night out. we are going to have our first night out in a few weeks. We have two Christmas parties to go to and even though we'll only be gone a few hours, it will be fun. krr - Hope you get the BFP next time KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13954 - 11/22/10 02:07 PMDH isn't a very social person and his job makes things pretty isolating. When you have to leave at 7:30 because your husband has to go to bed to get up at 4 am, it's pretty hard to socialize sometimes. I pissed him off yesterday by confession that, but it's true! It's the same as when he was working nights. Doesn't mean I think it is his fault and the job is good money, it is just that it sucks sometimes. Drama, I'm glad you got to go out and enjoy yourself a bit. My DH is fairly social, but I totally know what you mean about the job thing. He works almost all nights and weekends. It does suck. A lot. I still do things without him, but I wish he were able to come to more things. Your husband shouldn't be mad that you brought that up. It's how you feel. Yes, it is what it is, but it doesn't mean you can't be disappointed about the circumstances too. Speaking of circumstances, (This is a little OT) since I've been so miserable at my job, I'm calling my old boss today to see if they want me to come back. They've lost some people and really need to hire somebody. They have one new person, but she's brand new to the area and the profession. I've got lots of experience and am still actually freelancing for them, so I could hit the ground running. I'm so nervous about whether or not I'm making the right decision. Going back to my old job would mean working some nights and weekends, but I've already talked it over with my mom and my MIL and my SIL, who are all willing to help out in the childcare department. I would get to see Avery a lot more during the week, and that's a huge reason for me to go back. Also, I miss the work I used to do. It's been over 3 years, and I've never really adjusted to my new job. I was literally having a panic attack all night last night. I couldn't breathe. Even now I feel like I'm actually having a heart attack, my chest is tight and hurts. My old boss gets in in another hour, then I'll call ... To all who asked about Avery, her mouth is fine. It was a small boo boo on the inside of her lip. She falls about 20 times a day. She's pretty tough. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #13955 - 11/22/10 02:22 PMRegina - the Rockettes sounds like a great show to go to! 2 years ago when DH and I first got together, I got him some tickets to TSO. Shows like that are the perfect way to get into the season! If its ok, I am going to shoot you an email later to see what daycare you guys chose. Gusita - isn't it crazy how warm its been? I am not complaining though - I hate the cold! Drama - so glad you were able to get out & have fun!!! It makes such a big difference. Hopefully you & your friend can set up more times to hang out! ElfQ1015Message #13956 - 11/22/10 02:35 PMI'm calling my old boss today to see if they want me to come back. They've lost some people and really need to hire somebody. I don't know Kgb, you are thinking about having another kid someday, so it's pretty irresponsible to ask for a job when you know several years down the road you might get pregnant again. You owe them for generously giving you a job as a working mom you know. Sorry, couldn't resist. Honestly though I would go for it, the worst they can tell you is no and you won't even hear that if you don't call them. If you think it'd make you happier and make it easier to spend more time with Avery it's totally worth sticking your neck out for. KRR, I was already approx 6-8 weeks pregnant by the time I tested based on the date of my last period. What I did was I counted exactly 28 days since that is the average length of a cycle and if I didn't see AF by then, I was going to test. Well 30 days went by and still no AF, so I tested and there were two pink lines! Are you making sure to test with morning pee? The hormones that pregnancy tests pick up are broken down very quickly by the body and are easily diluted in your urine. Peeing on the stick first thing in the morning ensures you get the most concentrated urine you'll have all day and there is a lot chance of the test picking it up. Then all women are differen too in how much hormone they express in the early stages of pregnancy. I know a woman who peed on a stick seven times and didn't get a positive till 12 weeks along. While the tests like to toute that they are super accurate and can detect 7 days before your missed period, not a lot of women have that much hormone built up in their systems to get a positive that early.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:37:23 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13957 - 11/22/10 02:50 PMI don't know Kgb, you are thinking about having another kid someday, so it's pretty irresponsible to ask for a job when you know several years down the road you might get pregnant again. You owe them for generously giving you a job as a working mom you know. LOL Drama, I was thinking the same thing. Actually part of the reason we decided to wait awhile to have another baby was because of my work situation. I would not want to have another baby while I'm in my current position, and I didn't want to take a new job while I was pregnant or get pregnant right away. If they take me back, I figure I'll be working there for almost two years before I would need maternity leave. Knowing the situation my old employers are in, I don't think it would be fair for me to start and need to take maternity leave in less than a year. regina24601Message #13958 - 11/22/10 03:04 PMSam - Email away. I'd send you mail, but I lost your email address. Anyway, I'll be happy to share all the daycare info I found. I even have a spreadsheet showing each daycare's hours, tuition, how far it is from work and home, etc. Lots of research went into that baby. I'll sell it to you for $25. Just kidding. Gusita - It's been unseasonably nice here, too! It was like 65 or something yesterday, and it definitely did not feel like Thanksgiving week. How are you feeling as we head into the last month and a half of pregnancy? (Btw...the story about you cracking your windshield out of anger literally made me laugh out loud. I totally understand your frustration with inanimate objects!!) KRR - Fingers crossed for a good November!! kgb - Follow your gut. It knows you better than your brain does, and if you feel like going back to your old job is going to make you happier, by all means go for it! Just make sure you try to remember all of the reasons why you left that job (whatever those reasons were). Make sure that you really would be okay going back to the job even taking into consideration all of the negatives. I know I tend to look on the past with rose-colored glasses sometimes, but when I really make myself remember how a situation was, I realize that I wouldn't REALLY want to go back to it. HOWEVER - if you think about all of the cons of your old job and you STILL feel like it's the right place for you, go and don't even look back. Good luck!! KRR627Message #13959 - 11/22/10 03:07 PMkrr - Hope you get the BFP next time Yogii - thanks! Are you making sure to test with morning pee? Drama - yes, I was. I usually do a good job of staying hydrated so there was little chance of me waiting to use the bathroom for 4 hours during the day. I know a woman who peed on a stick seven times and didn't get a positive till 12 weeks along. Interesting. I've read that some women don't get positives until 5-6 weeks along, but didn't know it could take even longer than that. KGB - Best wishes in your job situation. Hope you can work it out to get a position that suits you better. ElfQ1015Message #13960 - 11/22/10 03:43 PM It was like 65 or something yesterday KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13961 - 11/22/10 04:28 PMI talked to my old boss. I asked him if they would be interested in me maybe coming back. He said, "Well, I had thought of that." I have to send a letter of interest and a resume, and he's going to schedule a time to meet with me next week to talk about things, but I think it's promising. regina, thanks for the advice. I've thought a lot about the pros and cons. Honestly, I've thought about going back almost every day for a few months now. There are definitely down sides, but I think the positives will far outweigh them. Especially the fact that I would get to spend an additional 2 1/2 to 3 hours a day with Avery because my commute time would go from at least 1 hour and 15 minutes each way (if there's not bad weather, an accident, etc., in which case it could be 2 hours or more) to 5 minutes each way. I could come home for lunch. And in a pinch I could bring her to work with me occasionally. EconStudent07Message #13963 - 11/22/10 05:23 PMKgb, good luck with pursing the new/old job. I have to ask, though--why did you leave that job in the first place? The commute alone makes your old job sound worth considering going back to! KRR, when did you go off of birth control? If July was your first cycle off of the pill, that would explain why it was a little different. For August, your ovulation date isn't very clear with just your temps. Without the positive OPK I don't know if there would be any kind of pattern. It has been awhile (well about 8 months I guess) since I charted, and I'd forgotten how confusing they could be. Just curious, what kind of OPKs do you use?
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