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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:18:22 GMT -5
Meg - Mommy to AverieMessage #13603 - 11/08/10 04:24 AMJenna, I'm not a germaphobe by any stretch of the imagination but - ewww! I would never dream of making people eat the cake my toddler had touched. Especially after I saw Averie - sticking her whole hand in the cake, then sticking it in her mouth and it coming out covered in slobber , and then grabbing another fistful of cake. We just took her home and dropped her straight in the bath - the water turned black . Oh, and we had cupcakes, frosted red, topped with black M&Ms for the spots for the guests . KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13604 - 11/08/10 01:49 PMlizwid, Congratulations! It sounds like you went though quite an ordeal. I'm glad you and DD are doing well. Meg, the pictures and the cake were so cute. Avery wanted no part of her cake. Even though we had a smash cake, she didn't smash it, so I had very little cleaning up to do. I'm not a germaphobe by any stretch of the imagination but - ewww! I would never dream of making people eat the cake my toddler had touched. I am a bit of a germaphobe. I would never eat or make anyone else eat a cake someone else had their hands in. Avery's big thing now is to "share" her food and feed me. It's so cute, but it's so gross because her spit is all over everything since she's feeding herself with her hands. I eat it and smile and say "yum" because she's my baby, but it's not my favorite thing to do. We had Avery's 12-month well-visit on Saturday. We're a little off schedule since she's now 13 months. She's 22.2 pounds and 30.5 inches long and healthy. The doctor told me Avery is "a real character." He seems to get a kick out of her. She was running around the exam room playing drums on his stool. And she was practically climbing up his leg until he picked her up. She loves her doctor. I was a little worried that she was OCD. The doctor says definitely not, but he was fascinated with what she does that makes me worry about that. She insists on walking around holding something in each hand, but it has to be two matching things. Two diapers, two blocks, two balls ... Even with her Noah's Ark play set, she'll grab two giraffes or two elephants. You never see her with a ball and a block or a zebra and a lion. It's funny. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13605 - 11/08/10 02:03 PMI've been in FL for a week and I have missed so much! I'll try to get caught up later, but in the meantime - congrats Liz! And happy birthday Averie! We have fairly successfully transitioned DS from napping in his swing to napping in a crib or pack and play. We figured it was the perfect time since there is no swing at my parents' house in FL. He doesn't stay asleep for nearly as long and his naps are now much more unpredictable, but I expect that to even out in the next couple of weeks. It took about 2 days for him to get a nap more than a half hour at a time, the poor guy was so tired! Once he's reliably sleeping for more than an hour at a time in the crib for naps we're going to try him in there at night. If he sleeps all night, great. If he sleeps for an hour and then I have to go get him that's fine too. We had a great time visiting family and friends, all the kids were super well behaved and had so much fun. There were lots of relatives around to hold the baby, entertain the girls, I actually got to sit down sometimes! It was so short though, I need more time off! I'm thinking of going down there for about 3 weeks in the summer to let the kids spend time with their grandparents and help my mom clean out her house. I'm thinking of being a professional organizer once all the kids are in school and her house would be a great place to start. She hasn't quite crossed the line into being a hoarder, but she's getting pretty close to the line. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13606 - 11/08/10 02:07 PMReflector, I'm glad you had a good vacation. gardenergirl, How is Olivia? Is she feeling ok? Any more throwing up? insurancemoneymavenMessage #13607 - 11/08/10 02:43 PMHappy Monday! The funniest thing happened this weekend, but I couldn't tell anyone in real life... DH and I were having some intimate time on Saturday night. We had finished, but were laying together with him still inside of me. All of the sudden, he looks at me mortified. "Was that you doing kegals?" I started laughing hysterically... it wasn't me, the baby was kicking. I didn't think he'd be able to feel it, but I guess I was wrong. Now he keeps telling me that he's feeling the baby on the inside too. It was so bizarre to me, but funny. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13608 - 11/08/10 02:44 PMLizwid - congratulations! I hope recovery goes well for you and that your husband feels better soon.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:18:47 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13609 - 11/08/10 02:53 PMCongrats Lizwid! taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13610 - 11/08/10 03:00 PMI've heard of some ladies experiencing cramping when their implantation (I thought). For the past few minutes, I've definetly been experiencing it. According to my cycle, this would be my fertile time and we DTD Sat PM and yesterday afternoon. Could I really be experiencing that (and this soon)?... If so, that would be so cool. The TWW is stressful! ElfQ1015Message #13611 - 11/08/10 03:12 PMCould I really be experiencing that (and this soon)?... Probably not, implantation doesn't happen that fast. However you could be experincing your egg dropping. Ovulation sticks and charting predict when you are ABOUT to drop an egg, not when you are actually dropping the egg. Try not to get too psyched up because you can actually convince your body it is pregnant and start experiencing symptoms. I did that and turned out it was me coming down off of my birth control pills back to my normal levels. It was really embarassing and disappointing for me. After that I wasn't going to get excited till I saw the pink lines. Even then I peed on four different sticks before I believed it! taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13612 - 11/08/10 03:16 PMProbably not, implantation doesn't happen that fast. However you could be experincing your egg dropping. Ovulation sticks and charting predict when you are ABOUT to drop an egg, not when you are actually dropping the egg. That is what I thought as I wouldn't think implantation was that fast. Try not to get too psyched up because you can actually convince your body it is pregnant and start experiencing symptoms. I did that and turned out it was me coming down off of my birth control pills back to my normal levels. It was really embarassing and disappointing for me. I'm trying not as I got psyched up a couple of months ago and delayed my period a few days, which drove me even more crazy. I'm trying not to get too stressed as it totally messes up my mind. ElfQ1015Message #13613 - 11/08/10 03:16 PMI'm trying not to get too stressed as it totally messes up my mind. It also messes with your cycle too. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13614 - 11/08/10 03:40 PMIt also messes with your cycle too. Exactly, as it did 2 months ago. AF was 3 days later than more and I wasn't getting my usual pre-AF symptions 2 days beforehand so I was half convinced. I tested with a BFN and later that afternoon, the pre-AF symptoms appeared. Last month, I knew I wasn't and I got AF when I thought I would. I'm really trying not to stress but at times, it's easier said than done.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:19:00 GMT -5
regina24601Message #13615 - 11/08/10 04:39 PMlizwid - Congratulations!! But holy cow - that sounds like an awful labor and delivery experience. I'm so sorry you went through that, but I'm glad you have your little one and all is well! Sam and taz - Good luck to both of you! Enjoy the process as much as you can! I had my baby shower on Saturday, and it was so great! Also, on Friday, my co-workers threw me a surprise baby shower! My husband came over, and my sisters and mom, who were flying in for Saturday's shower, were also able to make the work shower. It was a diaper shower, so I got all kinds of diapers and wipes - and in all different sizes, which was really nice! We should be set for a while (my sister - the professional mom - estimates that we got enough diapers to last us more than 6 months!) And the shower on Saturday was fantastic. Some of you may remember I was hesitant about having it at a restaurant because I didn't want guests to have to pay for their meals. We ended up doing a brunch, which offered much cheaper menu options, and.......my heroic sister picked up the tab for everyone!! I my sister. It was lots of fun, and people were so generous with their gifts. I feel overwhelmed! Can't believe I have just over 9 weeks left - this time is flying by!! GusitaRenkerMessage #13616 - 11/08/10 05:33 PMRegina-YAY, glad your showers were so much fun! That was so sweet of your sister to pick up the tab My showers are the weekend of 11/20, and I have been stalking my registry DH keeps threatening to block the Target website on my laptop if I don't quit checking it. Lizwid- Congrats on your baby girl! Meg-What precious pics of Averie! I do not envy you having to clean up the after effects of the smash cake! Gardenergirl-I hope Olivia is feeling better! Taz-I had never heard about that study with the toothpaste; that's interesting. I use a prescription kind to help build the enamel of my teeth up, and I truthfully have no clue as to whether it has that ingredient in it. Reflector-Glad your trip went well! Come and organize my mom's house too while you are at it. I stopped by Saturday to pick something up, and OMG. It was terrible. She has a craft business that she does on the side, and things were EVERYWHERE. Her problem is clutter and cleanliness. I can almost guarantee her living room hasn't been dusted since the start of the year, when I did it to help her out. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13617 - 11/08/10 05:44 PMMy showers are the weekend of 11/20, and I have been stalking my registry DH keeps threatening to block the Target website on my laptop if I don't quit checking it.
That sounds like something my DH would threaten to do too! Taz-I had never heard about that study with the toothpaste; that's interesting. I use a prescription kind to help build the enamel of my teeth up, and I truthfully have no clue as to whether it has that ingredient in it.
As it turns out, my toothpaste doesn't have it (looked at the active and inactive ingredients). From my research, it would be 1 of the active ingredients for antigivitis (sp?). I use a non-prescription to build the enamel up on my teeth (Colgate Sensitive Enamel Protect). The only products in my house that I found it included was the anti-bacterial hand soap we use. Reflector - You can come organize my in-laws' house as they have stuff everywhere. My FIL complains about it at times, but he's half the problem! If there is ever a natural diaster (God-forbid), go there as they have food products glore! ElfQ1015Message #13618 - 11/08/10 05:50 PMHmm.. I never did look at my toothpaste. I'd be really interested in seeing the actual formal scientific paper written for this study on toothpaste. I am just curious because you hear all these stories that make it sound like we'll be birthing babies with three heads and then if you can actually get your hands on the original journal paper that is not what was said AT ALL, but hey, it makes good ratings! Not saying when in doubt, don't avoid something, but I found over the course of my pregnancy that misinformation, scare mongering and paranoia are rampnant when it comes to this particular topic. regina24601Message #13619 - 11/08/10 06:28 PMToothpaste - I have an aunt that is kind of an alarmist, and she posted all over her Facebook page how awful Colgate is because they still include triclosan in it. True - but there are known benefits to having triclosan in toothpaste (helps prevent gingivitis), and inconclusive evidence that it is harmful (this is talking in general terms - not just specifically about pregnant women). From what I've read, the only studies that have been done have been on animals, and those studies did have some questionable results, but at this time, the FDA is not willing to advise a change in the makeup or use of products, but... In light of questions raised by recent animal studies of triclosan, FDA is reviewing all of the available evidence on this ingredient’s safety in consumer products. FDA will communicate the findings of its review to the public in spring 2011. [ www.fda.gov/forconsumers/consumerupdates/ucm205999.htm] FDA link I tend to be an anti-alarmist, so I would say don't worry about it. (Also, unless you are eating tubes of toothpaste for breakfast, I am going to unscientifically guess that you probably won't ingest enough to do any harm.) But, if you are worried, go with Tom's or something. (In my very humble opinion though: It'll be a long 9 months plus 18 years if you go chemical-hunting on every household product that you own based on sketchy evidence that it may or may not be harmful. ) ElfQ1015Message #13620 - 11/08/10 06:42 PMunless you are eating tubes of toothpaste for breakfast mmmmm. .. toothpaste.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:19:25 GMT -5
kjshMessage #13621 - 11/08/10 07:13 PMJust a drive-by posting... Congratulations!!!! to Lizwid. It sounds like a stressful delivery experience, but it also sounds like baby lizwid is doing well. Happy birthday baby lizwid! boos_momMessage #13622 - 11/08/10 07:50 PMliz - congrats on LO's arrival! Glad you and she are doing well, despite the not so smooth labor. reflector - glad you had a nice vacation and DS is sleeping in a PnP. insurance - that's funny! We ended up DTD the night before contractions started up, and let's just say it was rather a tight fit. #2 had dropped considerably, and I think #2 was getting a bopping on the head that night.... kgb - #1 has some strange tendencies too. She'll line things up neatly by color or by type of object. I'll notice it later on after she's done it because I'll see the end result (in the bathroom or on the kitchen counter). It's really funny to just come across them. I have some strange compulsions too (e.g. I like the light switches all in the same direction when the lights are off). It's not like it's everything she does, but just happens here and there, and not really as anxiety coping skill, just something she notices and prefers to organize. meg - those pics are great! Hope Avery enjoyed herself. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13623 - 11/08/10 08:20 PMI hadn't heard anything about toothpaste. I would have to imagine you'd have to ingest a good deal for it to have an impact. If it makes you feel better to change your toothpaste, then you should. Otherwise, don't lose sleep or money on it - just my opinion. PalmettoLadyMessage #13624 - 11/08/10 08:35 PMIn my very humble opinion though: It'll be a long 9 months plus 18 years if you go chemical-hunting on every household product that you own based on sketchy evidence that it may or may not be harmful. ) Couldn't agree more! Meg: How cute was Averie's cake! And she looks like she had a blast! I'm so glad she got all into it, I was at a party a few weekends ago and the little boy wouldn't touch his smash cake, the dad took it and dumped it onto his head sam & Taz: Good luck-- hopefully you will each be sharing happy news soon. I am super excited I'm taking the day off work tomorrow and have my appointment for a regular heart beat check-up with the Dr. (almost 17 weeks!) which I always find comforting. Then meeting up with my mom and we are heading out about an hour away to a larger city to go shopping! I have GOT TO GET some maternity clothes. I've been wearing %100 regular pre-pregnancy clothes up until now and in the last week or two I can really feel the squeeze. Advice on what to buy/not buy appreciated. We are also going to check out some baby stores: Babies R' Us, Once Upon a Child, A few boutique style stores and eat lunch at Olive Garden. Mom's tell me what you think: Right now "baby's room" is DH "office" A.K.A. "play video games and talk to buddies" room. We live in a condo. The bottom floor is wide open and is the kitchen, dining room, living room and leads to back yard. The upstairs is the master and "extra" bedroom. So. We have 2 options: move DH's ugly computer set up downstairs to the living room and rearrange the furniture to make it fit. Or: Let DH and Baby share the room. It's plenty big enough however my concern is this: DH and I are sleep opposites (he's a night owl and comes to bed between 12-1, and I'm a morning person going to be bed between 9-10). Dh stays in his office most evenings once I go to bed doing his computer dorky stuff. DH thinks baby will learn to sleep with noise (Tv, video games, voices, etc) I think this is insane and naive. What would you guys do? I don't want baby in the master with me at night, I think it's a bad habit to start. gardenergirl0804Message #13625 - 11/08/10 08:38 PM"gardenergirl, How is Olivia? Is she feeling ok? Any more throwing up?" No! It was so strange/scary!!! She was fine in the morning, laughing, playing and then around noon she started throwing up until all the food was up and then she was throwing up bile. Then she became like a rag doll. We'd try to pick her up but she would fall forward limp! We were so scared! Her breathing was kind of heavy like her stomach hurt probably. I put her on our bed so I could stay with her and she slept for 2 hours, woke up and was fine! We tried to give her some pedialyte. She drank a little but didn't really like it. I breast fed her and it stayed down. That night I just gave her some rice cereal mixed with some formula and she ate that and it stayed down. Yesterday all day was was ok. gardenergirl0804Message #13626 - 11/08/10 08:39 PMMeg - the pictures of Averie are so cute! Looks like she had so much fun with her smash cake! Lizwid - Congrats on the birth of your baby girl!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:19:39 GMT -5
insurancemoneymavenMessage #13627 - 11/08/10 08:40 PMPalmetto - I can't get enough of hearing his heartbeat. Such a great feeling! I would definitely suggest layering pieces. You'll get hot and cold in a flash, so it's nice to add and remove as you wish. And I bought a few long tank tops in black and white to wear under everything, which I love. Basics are my best friend. DH's office was also in the spare bedroom. We have space in the loft next to the nursery, but I booted him to the basement so he can play his music and games without disturbing the baby's rest or mine. Now that room is being transformed into the nursery. Happy shopping! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13628 - 11/08/10 08:56 PMgardenergirl, I'm so glad Olivia is okay. I would have been scared if Avery had done that. DH thinks baby will learn to sleep with noise (Tv, video games, voices, etc) I think this is insane and naive. What would you guys do? I don't want baby in the master with me at night, I think it's a bad habit to start. Just my two cents, but I think the baby will eventually need his/her own space. Avery slept in our room for the first three months. Around that time they start to form sleep habits. At 3 months she moved to her own room. (Baby did better with the transition than mommy. ) So, yes, the baby will learn to sleep with that, but is that really the sleep foundation you want for your child going forward from there? regina24601Message #13629 - 11/08/10 09:04 PMAdvice on what to buy/not buy appreciated PalmettoLady - I would advise to not overbuy. I've spent a total of about $300, and that was enough to get me a brand new wardrobe to last me from 16 weeks onward (which really isn't bad, I don't think). Of course, I don't have a problem with wearing the same items week after week. So I ended up with - 6 tops (all short sleeved because I bought them in late summer - and all are work-appropriate)
- 2 pairs of work trousers
- 1 pair of jeans
- 2 dresses
- 1 gray cardigan (to make the short-sleeved tops last me until January)
- My sisters gave me several ribbed tank tops from Motherhood - LOVE LOVE LOVE them. They're good to go under other tops or to just wear around the house when you're hot.
- As for sleep pants, I've been wearing my pre-pregnancy pajamas - just pushed under my belly.
Anyway, that's my complete wardrobe, and that's what it's going to remain at until after January! I know Motherhood gets mixed reviews in terms of quality, but that's almost exclusively where I've bought my clothes (except for one dress at Target). I love that store, and I love the fact that they have LONG sizes in pants, so I'm not wearing high waters for 9 months! PalmettoLadyMessage #13630 - 11/08/10 09:08 PMInsurance: Thanks for the layering suggestion. I am already fairly hot-natured so that's definitely something I will look for tomorrow, plus, I'm in SC almost on GA border and it is still hot here, like 70's. If I could stick DH in the basement I'd love to! LOL. KGB: I couldn't agree more. It's definitely DH who is thinking everything will just be peachy sharing the space. I think after 6-8 weeks baby will need their own space so I can put baby to sleep and close the door and not worry that DH will wake them up or cause them to have bad sleep. Sleep is important to me and baby! Gives me a good argument, err I mean discussion point , for DH and I's conversation about this. Regina: thanks for sharing your list. Motherhood is one of the very few stores wheree we are so I am betting most of my clothes will come from there unless I order on-line. I don't mind wearing the same stuff over and over and thankfully have a casual dress at work (jeans and cardigans are totally OK). However I come from a place wher you dress nice for church, so slacks or skirts/dresses so I figure I need at least 2-3 dressier outfits. Thanks for the advice ladies, keep it coming! ElfQ1015Message #13631 - 11/08/10 09:14 PMDH thinks baby will learn to sleep with noise (Tv, video games, voices, etc) I think this is insane and naive Well yes and no. A friend of mine knows a woman who kept her house absolutely dead quiet any time the kids were sleeping and now at 4 &5 they can't sleep thru ANYTHING. Slightest noise, they are awake and in their parents' bedroom. Gwen can sleep thru anything, we haven't really tried to limit noise very hard. We keep things quieter so she knows it is "nighttime" now, but we haven't tried to keep everything silent. Supposedly according to theory she heard the dogs barking like morons while she was in utero, so when she popped out it wasn't a new noise to her anymore. Babies should learn to sleep thru noise, but eventually you do want him/her to have his/her own space so you can reclaim your own bedroom. Gwen has slept in our room and we are going to make the transition to her room either next month or January. I want to do it sooner but DH isn't ready yet. I figure 4 1/2 months isn't too bad. He gets up to go to work at 4 am, I get up to go to work at 6 am. At first she would wake up when he did, just like she used to when she was in utero. After awhile she got the message that I was not going to get up and play for the day so unless she is really hungry she now sleeps thru DH getting ready for work just fine. Maternity clothes I made do with one pair of maternity jeans and a pair of tights. I bought a "too large" skirt at the Salvation Army and held it up with my bella band. I bought 4 sweaters in the winter because I was only a few months along. I had to buy more in the summer as I got bigger and the seasons changed. I got a lot of mine at the Salvation Army. Try looking a thrift stores first. The clothes are also usually in pretty good condition because women don't wear them for very long. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13632 - 11/08/10 09:15 PMAs for sleep pants, I've been wearing my pre-pregnancy pajamas - just pushed under my belly. I finally gave in and ordered maternity PJ's - mine were getting so uncomfortable that I was just sleeping mostly nude. It's getting too cold at night for that now. I can't wait for them to be delivered. My first baby shower is Saturday. I've been stalking the registry and evite constantly.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:20:04 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13633 - 11/08/10 09:34 PMI amassed quite a maternity wardrobe. Mostly because of work. I do a lot of networking and public speaking. I had two pairs of jeans (one borrowed), a pair of khakis, a pair of black dress pants, three pairs of cargo pants, a denim skirt, a black skirt, four dresses, a bunch of tops, a couple of light sweaters (I was mostly pregnant during the summer and early fall) and some pjs. I also had some lounge clothes. I got most of my stuff at Old Navy and Motherhood, and a few things at Target. Some of my dresses and tops were tank-style, so the little sweaters made them work appropriate. I was also able to wear some of my regular pants for quite awhile with the Bella Band. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13634 - 11/08/10 09:43 PMinsurance - That is so cool about your shower being Saturday! I'm having 3. DH's mom is throwing one, my step mom is throwing one, and my best friend is throwing one. My friend's will be all the people I know in my current city. The other 2 will both be in my home town. I would just have one in my home town, but my mom's family doesn't get along with my dad and stepmom so they want to go to my MIL's. Strange people! I feel like everyone is waiting to do mine until after the holidays and it will be very late in the game pregnancy wise. My MIL's will be the first on the Sunday before MLK day (Jan 15??). I'll be 31 weeks. my friend wants to throw hers the second weekend in February (12th?). I'll be like 35 weeks. My stepmom said she would just do one in between (Jan 29?). Then my other friend who is 10 weeks behind me...I really want to help throw a shower for her, but if I don't throw it before baby is born I know I won't be able to help. So, I'm thinking of throwing hers the last weekend in Feb. I'll be pretty close to popping then...but we'll see if I can do it. Seems crazy!! Especially considering that I'll be working all of that stuff into taking baby classes AND the more often doctor visits. My head starts spinning when I think about 2011! eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13635 - 11/08/10 09:46 PMmaternity clothes - I lost about over 30 lbs before conceiving without buying any new clothes and another 17lbs in the first tri. I have only gained back 2 of those lbs so I'm just wearing all my old clothes. Even they are still falling off even now that the belly is starting to pop out. Embarassing moment, but my skirt actually FELL OFF (like to the GROUND) when I was getting into my car last week after work. Thank goodness I'm the last person to leave and was all alone in the parking lot. I just put a safety pin in it...I'm so cheap! The only maternity thing I havebought is a nursing bra....just one that is racerback like a sports bra. My breasts were so heavy and sore feeling that I had to stop going without a bra when I change into my PJs at home. I am a large breasted lady though (44DDD) so I really shouldn't be doing that anyway, but it was just plan uncomfortable after about 12 weeks. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13636 - 11/08/10 09:51 PMeternal - I will be 25 weeks on Friday, but I am so glad my mom is throwing this one early. I had a good friend of mine have complications and be put on hospitalized bed rest the day before her shower. She was there until she delivered her little boy at 35 weeks. She had nothing prepared and that idea mortifies me! Mom wanted to throw this one because my aunt that was in the room when I was born will be in town from NY, so it will be very special to have her here for my baby shower. I will have another large one in about a month thrown for me by my husbands family and the girls in my office want to throw a 3rd one for me, which is so nice. How are you feeling? alpha_yankeeMessage #13637 - 11/08/10 10:01 PMAdvice on what to buy/not buy appreciated. Palmetto: I recommend the BeBand from Target (over the Bella Band). It will allow you to wear pre-pregnancy clothes longer. There are also some cute devices you can buy to extend your existing wardrobe through your pregnancy. There are tube-top-like tops that go over or under your shirts to give them a long, layered look. I love the ones that go on top. There are some really cute patterns. I'll try to find a link and post it. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13638 - 11/08/10 10:02 PMinsurance - feeling good! Finally completely done with M/S I think!! Knock on wood Had some energy come back recently, and Cole is moving around a bunch. Now I'm just trying to get through this time at work which is our really busy busy time and the holidays all at once. How about you?
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:20:17 GMT -5
ladykiMessage #13639 - 11/08/10 10:12 PM It was a diaper shower, so I got all kinds of diapers and wipes - and in all different sizes, which was really nice! We should be set for a while (my sister - the professional mom - estimates that we got enough diapers to last us more than 6 months) Regina- Glad you had fun on all of your showers. I also had three showers, one with my family and friends, one at my work and one at DH's work. The last two were also diaper and wipes showers. It has been 3 months since Kiani was born and I am still very well stocked up. I have bought about 4 packages but in bigger sizes because I want to make sure that I am always stocked up and that in case I am having money issues I will not have to worry about diapers or wipes. my heroic sister picked up the tab for everyone!! I my sister That was so nice of your sister. ladykiMessage #13640 - 11/08/10 10:26 PMMy poor kiani has a stuffy nose. She was having trouble with it all through the night. She slept with us, cause I was afraid that she was going to stop breathing . I heard her cough a few times. I called the dr this morning and they just told me to get her some saline drops and gave me a few other suggestions. On another note, she had just started to giggle in the past few days and ahhhh it is so cute. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13641 - 11/08/10 11:48 PMeternal - I am glad to hear you're doing well! I am doing great. Baby is so active these days. DH loves seeing my stomach jump and bounce with his movements. It's our busy time too. We stay busy until the start to middle of February, right before my due date. I will start training the gal that will handle part of my desk while I am gone next week. She will do just fine, so I am happy about that. What are your plans for work after the baby arrives? eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13642 - 11/08/10 11:58 PMinsurance - I wish I was as confident about my maternity leave. Work has been INSANE!! We had a big additional to our contract (10x as big as when it started!!) and we only hired 5 more people to assist. One (our most reliable) had to leave due to family health issues, so we are really understaffed and there were big and ongoing problems with the new additions so we are SLAMMED with work right now. On top of that, we just got word that we were awarded another HUGE addition to the contract basically doubling what we have now in January and we haven't even STARTED the hiring process. Training people is not my strong suit and I don't feel confident about it the whole thing at all. It is just a horrible time of year to add so many people. I plan to take 12 weeks leave (FMLA max) and then go back to work fulltime. I hope I can handle it, but if not we have done the math and I know we can squeeze the budget to allow me to stay home for a short time. I do plan to apply for some part time jobs while I'm out on maternity leave. That would be ideal for me. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13643 - 11/09/10 12:07 AMI'm lucky because although her position transitioned over the past year, she was hired two years ago to be my assistant. She's a natural fit into the job, and is very capable to handle parts of the job. I really handle the job of three people, so the owners will have to step back in to a large degree, but ultimately, it's job security for me. They don't want to do that permanently. I will take between 9-12 weeks depending on his arrival, but still check in intermittently. There are some things that it makes no sense for them to change legal powers of attorney, banking rights, etc since my leave is temporary. Doc thinks he'll be making an early appearance because he's consistently measuring a week ahead, despite me knowing when I ovulated. I usually do taxes and other business consulting on the side during that time of year, but this time, I decided not to with the baby being here. It will be my priority. azure skyMessage #13644 - 11/09/10 01:34 PMPalmetto -- here has been our experience with sleep/where to keep baby: We are in a very small 2 bedroom. At first, baby slept in our room and we had a nice office. We had a sidecar/co-sleeper that attached to our bed, and it was really great the first 3 months. Around 4 months DS began becoming more aware of his surroundings, and our arrangement of sleeping with the baby wasn't going well anymore (it was truly lovely for the first 3 months). We rearranged so that there was a crib in the office, and went through a mild form of sleep training. DS began to sleep really well. But, a few weeks ago, we rearranged again to put office furniture in our room and just the crib and baby stuff in the nursery. When he was first born, he could go to sleep whenever, wherever, and with noise. By 5 months we all suffered if we did not stick to a consistent routine and needed a noise machine (we live in a pretty noisy area, and this helps filter out the ruckus, but we definitely couldn't be loud near his room or he'd wake up). He needs to go to bed around 7:30pm. For us, that meant the office was pretty much useless...there was always a sleeping baby in it. Plus, as he gets ready to crawl, the idea of his own, safe space seems even more important. Babies change quickly, and my advice is be ready to change whatever setup you have. I love our current arrangement, but it wouldn't necessarily be right for us when he was 1 month old, and it may need to change again. Lizwid -- congratulations!!!! I went through something very similar. In labor for 32 hours, pushed for 3, vacuum extractors, then emergency c-section because he was stuck. Eternal -- just to clarify, in my case LO wasn't stuck because of his head, but because of his position. I really think you ought to talk to a doctor about your fear of a huge head, because maybe it will put your mind at ease. I'm pretty sure that babies getting stuck because of really big heads is exceptionally rare.
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gardenergirl0804Message #13645 - 11/09/10 01:41 PMladyk - I'm sorry Kiani isn't feeling well. Olivia has a stuffy nose too. Last couple mornings she's woken up with it and last night was coughing a lot. I've been running a humidifier in her room and it seems to loosen it all up at least. I try using the saline drops but she knows what they are now and she pushes the bottle away and screams her head off when I try to put them up her nose! And the aspirator - forget it! She hates it too. I feel so bad having to hold her head down and push her hands away. I tell her, I'm trying to help you breathe! I think it's just the weather though. It's been so up and down here. This weekend it only got to about 51 with lows in the 30s at night. This week its going up to the 70s. I'm starting to feel it too. My throat is super dry and scratchy this morning. Ick. Any other babies having a hard time adjusting to the time change? Normally Olivia goes down around 7 and up around 6. Last night she was ready for sleep at 6 and up at 5! I wonder how long it will take for her to get adjusted. ladykiMessage #13646 - 11/09/10 01:54 PMAny other babies having a hard time adjusting to the time change? Normally Olivia goes down around 7 and up around 6. Last night she was ready for sleep at 6 and up at 5! I wonder how long it will take for her to get adjusted. Gardengirl- Kiani has been trouble with the time change too. She usually gets up around 7:30, yesterday she got up at 6:20 and today at 5:30am, hopefully she gets back on track soon. surf-n-sandMessage #13647 - 11/09/10 02:42 PMRegina- I'm so happy to hear that your shower went so well! That was really thoughtful and kind of your sister! To all you other ladies getting ready for your showers, Enjoy! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13648 - 11/09/10 03:29 PM I had to post this. Avery's new thing is climbing into baskets. She started it the other night at my in-law's house. DH sent me this picture yesterday. She just climbed into her book basket all on her own and got comfy. She was apparently very proud of herself. I hope Olivia and Kiani start to feel better. Avery just got over a cold with a stuffy nose and a cough. I hated that there wasn't anything I could do for her. Her sleep schedule is a little off with the time change too. gardenergirl0804Message #13649 - 11/09/10 03:42 PMHee hee!!! Avery is so cute! poohbiscitMessage #13650 - 11/09/10 03:57 PMThen pushed for 3 hours and it turns out she was stuck in my pelvis so ended up with a c-section anyway Lizwid - I feel your pain for this one. Although I did not labor for three days (only a day and a half) my first night in the hospital after being induced at 2pm, I ended up with a migraine so I did not get any sleep as the low does tylenol they gave me took about 6 hours to work and my the time it was hard to sleep since they were upping the pitocin every 15 minutes. The around 3:30 an the next morning it was time to push and I did until 8. Then they tried the vacuum and it still didn't work and I ended up with a c-section as well. What was more frustrating was that after 2 hours I was so exhausted as I only had about 2 hours sleep once I had the epideral that I could just tell that DS was not going to come out that way but they would not do the c-section then.
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planning_lady32Message #13651 - 11/09/10 05:38 PMHi Ladies, My husband and I have just started trying to get pregnant. We have mutually decided that I will stay home with the baby. I think we have a pretty good handle on savings and the budget but I would appreciate ANY advice from you ladies on budgeting, baby costs and what we can expect money-wise once we do have a baby! I know there are a lot of expenses and I'm sure a lot of unexpected expenses that I haven't even thought of. When I met my husband he was $20k in debt and we have worked VERY hard to pay off every bit of it! I don't ever want to be in that situation again - which is why I want to make sure we have as many of our baby money bases covered as possible. I look forward to hearing from everyone! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13652 - 11/09/10 05:48 PMGood luck planning, and welcome to the boards. My biggest piece of advice would be concerning the financials of feeding. Even if you are planning to breastfeed, budget for formula just in case. I had planned to BF and then couldn't and we ended up having to buy formula. It's expensive, about $125 a month. I would say just incorporate that into your budget as a backup. There are also costs associated with BF-ing which some of the ladies who do could tell you about. ElfQ1015Message #13653 - 11/09/10 05:51 PMWell the only thing I can suggest is seeing if your insurance has an out of pocket max, that is a good place to start. I have an OOP max of $1500 per person or $3k per family. So I knew I'd have to pay $3,000 out of pocket at the very least. Then check your insurance for how maternity care is handled and see if you have to pay any co-pays, your deducitble and save for that. The biggest cost over all is going to be your medical care and then the baby's once he/she arrives. I'd focus most of your savings there and trim/cut back everywhere else. Everything else I have found to be really random. I'd set up a baby fund and put $X amount in there every month for things like diapers, formula/breastfeeding supplies, nursery items etc rather than trying to price out specfically each thing and save for them. Like I had to buy clothes despite getting a ton at the shower. No one gave thought to the seasons and then my baby is rather small. She's just now getting into 0-3 and is in a few 3-6 depending on the brand. Everything everyone bought me for fall/winter is in the 6-9 or 12 month range. Same with diapers. I got a ton of 1's and 2's, but no newborn because "they only wear those a few weeks". WRONG. However the 1-2 size diapers have come in handy just recently. She had outgrown newborns without me noticing, so having a package of ones on hand was a lifesaver. KRR627Message #13654 - 11/09/10 07:11 PMWelcome, planning_lady32! I don't post much here - just lurk and absorb information, but I've learned a lot from these women. DH and I are ttc as well - this is our 6th month of trying. Congrats on paying down your debts - that is awesome! My piece of advice is to try to live on your husband's salary now and save all of yours. We are pretty close to doing this now, and it's encouraging to know that it will be less of an adjustment later. Plus, we'll have a big cushion for hospital expenses & baby "gear" or infertility testing / adoption costs if needed. ElfQ1015Message #13655 - 11/09/10 07:12 PMDoes anyone else get really bothered by bad things happening to children in the news now that they have their own kids? Not saying I wasn't bothered before, but now if I think about it I am driven to tears by the story because I imagine my own daughter. My brother just HAD to share that he saw a story about a woman putting her baby in the washing machine and it died. 10 days old. She was methed out of her head. The aunt came over to check on the children and heard the washing machine out of balance. All EMT and police responders were put on immediate leave, that is how bad it was. The really sickening thing is the aunt had gone to court several times to get the child but the courts felt it was best for the baby to be with "it's mother". It's been bothering me ever since I heard it because I can picture how scared that baby was and what an awful death that must have been. I look at my daughter and can't imagine something so horrorific. I also find that I am much less merificul and hope they fry the b!tch like a crispy critter. Also somedays I am in favor of mandatory sterilization and a license before you can breed. Yes I know that is a giant can of worms and against everything this country stands for, but when I hear about "mothers" like this and the courts who just hand the kid back because of biology.. . I'm all in favor of a little forced snip snipping. KRR627Message #13656 - 11/09/10 07:13 PMThanks to all the ladies who posted Halloween / 1st birthday / misc pictures recently. So adorable! I just want to reach over and hug and kiss them!
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gardenergirl0804Message #13657 - 11/09/10 07:20 PMplanning - welcome and I wish you the best on TTC! The biggest expense I had that I did not plan for since having Olivia is so many visits to the doctor. If you have a health plan with a co-pay plan on plenty of those the first year. Plan for the WBV as long as some extra visits in case baby gets sick because it happens quite a bit the first year, for some kids, as I'm unfortunately finding out. That and prescriptions. One trip to the doc I walked out with 4 prescriptions in my hand! At $15 a piece plus a $25 copay that was an $85 unplanned expense. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13658 - 11/09/10 07:21 PMDrama - yes I know EXACTLY what you mean. Only, I of course don't have my son in my arms yet. I have been exceptionally sensitive to these stories since DH and I starting having trouble conceiving. I would always think things like "she deserves to be a mother...and I don't?" or "he got to be a dad...but my husband doesn't?" It also made the "seemingly nice" things people say that much harder for me to take. Things like "you'll be blessed with a child when God feels you are ready for one" took on a much more sinister tone....making me think things like "So, that WITCH who put her baby in a microwave....God felt she was more ready to be a mom than I am??" WTF? I routinely cry about these stories. It just makes me SO angry when I think of all the people struggling to be parents, or even just thinking about groups that the gov't denies parenthood too. For example, it would be horrible for a child to be adopted by gay parents...but living with a meth head is fine?? OMG! gardenergirl0804Message #13659 - 11/09/10 07:24 PMPumpkin - I'm more bothered by stories on the news too now that I've had Olivia. I mean, I felt bad before I had her, but now that I have her and can't imagine anything ever happening to her I'm even more disturbed. DH decided to share a story with me the other day that just made me sick to my stomach - this family had pet raccoons and they almost killed their baby. Tore skin off the face, etc. Unbelievable. ElfQ1015Message #13660 - 11/09/10 07:26 PMI always get peeved at the whole "they are blood" arguement the courts have. Well whoop-de-freaking-do! Biologically I can pop out kids like a damn rabbit if given enough time and opportunity to do so, but that does not make me a PARENT to a child! Courts need to get over this whole old fashioned notion that it is better for these children to be with their biological parent/s. That's a major contributitor to things like this. I personally think the judge who ruled that the baby was better off with the mother should be fried right along with her. ElfQ1015Message #13661 - 11/09/10 07:27 PM this family had pet raccoons almost they almost killed their baby. SERIOUSLY? eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13662 - 11/09/10 07:32 PMDrama - I personally think the judge who ruled that the baby was better off with the mother should be fried right along with her. While I am anti death penalty, I completely agree with your assesment of where some of the blame belongs. I hate this even more because I have family members who tried for years to adopt and this biology thing meant that several children who were placed with them for GOOD reason and were raised by them for 1 - 3 years just POOF wound up back with druggie mom or jailbird dad. UGH!! One child was abandoned by his mom at the hospital (he was drug addicted at birth to multiple substances) and there was reason to believe he may be Hep C and HIV positive. DH's aunt and uncle took this baby in and kept him until he was almost 2...grandparents, aunts, uncles...no one wanted this baby. Dad was in jail and repeatedly said that he didn't want custody either. Finally they did the HIV and Hep C tests (some reason they had to wait..can't remember) and when they came back clean and baby was 100% healthy suddenly the paternal grandparents wanted custody of the baby. They had already signed off saying they didn't want him, but since the dad was in jail he hadn't signed the papers yet. They had the son petition for custody but the baby lives with the grandparents. UGH! that made me SO angry. DH's aunt and uncle decided not to try for any more long term placements after that heart break but they were asked to keep two siblings for an emergency placement one weekend and reluctantly agreed. The weekend turned into a week, a month, etc and they ended up adopting these 2 last March. I was so happy for them.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:21:34 GMT -5
gardenergirl0804Message #13663 - 11/09/10 07:38 PMI just did a google search on the raccoon story. I guess the parents are still being investigated as to whether or not these animals were being kept as pets. But the mom heard her 9-month old daughter wimpering at night and went into the room to find 2 raccoons attacking her. Not too far from where I live here in GA. Terrible!! Even if you are not keeping them as pets how in the world did they get in your house!!! If you have that big of a hole in your house for them to get into then you have serious problems there too. ladykiMessage #13664 - 11/09/10 07:39 PMI hope Olivia and Kiani start to feel better. kgreenbeans- thank you I hope so too, that is a cute picture of Avery. ElfQ1015Message #13665 - 11/09/10 07:44 PMNow I don't feel so embarassed about practically vaccuum sealing the house and having Orkin spray so anything within a 5 mile radius is probably dead to keep out the spiders after we found one on Gwen's foot. insurancemoneymavenMessage #13666 - 11/09/10 08:01 PMplanning - welcome! you'll love this board and get so much value from it, like we all do! The biggest piece for me was to check all of our insurance policies out before conceiving. I would also consider ancillary insurance policies, particularly while you're still employed. Policies like short term disability or a hospital policy (think AFLAC - especially if your employer sponsors this coverage). Some policies have a waiting period before policies become useful in a maternity situation. Also, become familiar with what they require when you have delivered the baby (i.e., how soon they have to be added to your coverage, new deductibles, etc.) I'd also become familiar with your maternity leave rights and benefits from your employer in advance of conceiving - you can usually get this from the employee handbook. Even if you're not returning to work after the baby is born, you may be entitled to various benefits, and it may affect your health insurance if you're covered on an employer plan. Best wishes TTC - it's a wonderful and crazy journey. kjshMessage #13667 - 11/09/10 08:13 PMThat story about the raccoon and baby is just horrible. People are crazy about wild animals - we investigated a possible rabies exposure related to a raccoon bite last year. It turns out that this raccoon trundled into a couple's house one evening through the cat door; the couple thought the raccoon was cute so they started feeding it, eventually getting to the point where they would hand feed it and have it sleep in their bedroom(!?!?!). Then they were totally surprised when, one evening while hanging out in their hot tub, the raccoon walked up and bit the husband on his shoulder. Normally an unprovoked bite like that would raise our index of suspicion for rabies, but the family had taught this raccoon to associate them with food and there's a chance it was just hungry. Unfortunately the only way to definitely know if the raccoon was infected is to biopsy the brain. The husband was very upset when we suggested this to him as there was no way he could allow the raccoon to be killed since it was part of the family. So instead he opted to get the rabies vaccine, which is a series of 5 shots over a 1 month period that generally runs about $2000 and usually isn't fully covered by insurance. Once again I say people are crazy. ElfQ1015Message #13668 - 11/09/10 08:18 PMIt turns out that this raccoon trundled into a couple's house one evening through the cat door; the couple thought the raccoon was cute so they started feeding it, eventually getting to the point where they would hand feed it and have it sleep in their bedroom(!?!?!). Reminds me of that contacts commerical where the woman is calling for her kitten and lets in a raccoon by mistake but doesn't know it since she doesn't have the right brand of contacts. People are so freaking stupid when it comes to wild animals, yet I bet these same people pitch a fit when they hear of a couple with children owing a dog. I told DH that if a dog that has been bred to be domesticated for thousands of years can still attack a person, what the H3LL do people think is going to happen when you keep a WILD animal in your home? You deserve what the heck you get, IMO.
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insurancemoneymavenMessage #13669 - 11/09/10 08:36 PMPeople are so freaking stupid when it comes to wild animals, yet I bet these same people pitch a fit when they hear of a couple with children owing a dog. So true. Here in CO, people have to constantly be reminded that their homes are not "the wild, wild west"... no lions, tigers or bears can be house pets. Morons. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13670 - 11/09/10 08:44 PMDoes anyone else get really bothered by bad things happening to children in the news now that they have their own kids? Not saying I wasn't bothered before, but now if I think about it I am driven to tears by the story because I imagine my own daughter. Big time. I cry reading the news a lot when it comes to bad things and children. Last week we had a little boy in our area who was 2 and wandered away from home. Fortunately someone saw him and called 911, but they said he was probably wandering in a diaper and t-shirt for 2 hours (and it was cold out) and he had fallen because he had a cut forehead and a bloody nose. My heart just broke thinking about him walking around cold and lost and hurt. eh230Message #13671 - 11/09/10 08:50 PMOMG, no more sad kids stories please! I am about to cry about my desk. Drama, obviously these types of stories affect me much more than they used to. ElfQ1015Message #13672 - 11/09/10 08:56 PMOkay, happy baby story. Gwen has discovered her feet. .. kinda. My dad brought her foot up to her nose and tickled it with her toes. She thought it was hysterical. When he stopped she grabbed her pant leg and with the utmost concentration seemed to be trying to get her foot up to her nose. It was so cute! She also likes "Head Shoulders Knees and Toes", but only when I do it. DH tried to do it and couldn't remember how it went, she was not impressed. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13673 - 11/09/10 09:08 PMAvery loves "Head, Shoulder, Knees and Toes." And she knows where her head is, but nothing else, so she just grabs her hair the whole time I sing it. And once Gwen learns to really get her feet to her face, there will be no stopping her. Avery is always putting her feet in her mouth. By the way, I didn't forget about the bibs Drama. I just haven't been able to get to the post office. Sorry! alpha_yankeeMessage #13674 - 11/09/10 09:10 PMGwen has discovered her feet. .. kinda. My dad brought her foot up to her nose and tickled it with her toes. She thought it was hysterical. When he stopped she grabbed her pant leg and with the utmost concentration seemed to be trying to get her foot up to her nose. It was so cute! DS#2 has been trying to get to his toes, but his fat rolls make it impossible. It's the funniest when he is in the Bumbo. He gets this look of intense concentration on his face, leans way over, reaches for his foot and grunts with the effort. He can grab his foot, but he gets mad when he can't get it up to his mouth. DS#1 was a toe-sucker from the beginning. We have video of him at 32 weeks (4D ultrasound) putting his toes in his mouth.
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ElfQ1015Message #13675 - 11/09/10 09:21 PMI didn't forget about the bibs Drama. I just haven't been able to get to the post office. Sorry I've been watching for them. Gwen tried really hard to get her foot in her mouth herself, but she was only able to pull her leg up. She looked at my dad and started kicking him like she was trying to say "You do it!" And she knows where her head is, but nothing else, so she just grabs her hair the whole time I sing it. Gwen likes my tone of voice and when I beep her nose. She also loves it when I grab her toes and wiggle them around. gardenergirl0804Message #13676 - 11/09/10 09:30 PMI love it when Olivia grabs her toes! She does it a lot on the changing table. She'll grab both feet and try to stick them in her mouth. It's too funny. She loves when I play "Patty Cake" with her and try to clap her hands. She just laughs and laughs. ElfQ1015Message #13677 - 11/09/10 09:42 PMShe's also fascinated with her "lovey" as we call it. It's one of those blanket security doll type thingys, where it is a blanket with a doll/animal head attached. It's got a doll head and she'll get hte funniest look on her face when I take it and start "talking" to her with it. She's even talked back to the doll!! She puts it in her mouth a lot now that she is teething. She's so little I wanted something soft and easy for her to grasp and this fit the bill. It's washable. She thinks it is funny when she puts it in her mouth and I go "Ahh! Don't eat me! Ahh!" gardenergirl0804Message #13678 - 11/09/10 09:54 PMOlivia has one of those too and I try to get her to cuddle with it but she just doesn't seem all that interested in it. It's a pink bunny. I wonder at what age do kids starting using security blankets/toys? KRR627Message #13679 - 11/09/10 10:28 PMGwen tried really hard to get her foot in her mouth herself, but she was only able to pull her leg up. She looked at my dad and started kicking him like she was trying to say "You do it!" It's got a doll head and she'll get hte funniest look on her face when I take it and start "talking" to her with it. She's even talked back to the doll!! She puts it in her mouth a lot now that she is teething. She's so little I wanted something soft and easy for her to grasp and this fit the bill. It's washable. She thinks it is funny when she puts it in her mouth and I go "Ahh! Don't eat me! Ahh!" Ahh, so fun to watch the little ones' reactions to these sort of things! I haven't seen my family and friends with small children lately. Makes me want to go visit them so I can get my baby fix! ladykiMessage #13680 - 11/09/10 11:22 PMkeep out the spiders after we found one on Gwen's foot. Ahhhh, I would be screaming if that were to happen to us. I am so scared of spides, I think I would start screaming and probably scare Kiani, lol. Reminds me of that contacts commerical where the woman is calling for her kitten and lets in a raccoon by mistake but doesn't know it since she doesn't have the right brand of contacts. LOL, I found that commercial very funny, it is that I kept on thinking that could be me since I am blind as a bat, lol. I need to put my glasses or contatcs on as soon as I wake up. I take my dog out in the middle of the night and have a hard time finding in the dark ( he is black) so it makes it even harder, lol.
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ladykiMessage #13681 - 11/09/10 11:26 PMGwen has discovered her feet. .. kinda That is so cute. Kiani discovered her tongue a few days ago, she keep on bitting on it and sticking it our and moves it from side to side, lol. Meg - Mommy to AverieMessage #13682 - 11/09/10 11:29 PMFeet - Averie has rediscovered hers! She used to play with them all the time then lost interest. Now she's started putting them in her mouth again, usually when we're trying to feed her. All the toes of her socks and sleepers are stained with food . Stupid parents - Seriously, I wish there was a test you had to take before procreating. And that if you had so many investigations or arrests or convictions for child-related infractions, that you were automatically sterilized. I can hardly stand to watch the news anymore . KGB - How cute about Avery climbing into stuff! That picture is adorable. I continue to be jealous that your Avery has so much hair . Maternity clothes - I think I got off pretty easy. Was able to stay in my regular clothes until 20ish weeks. After that, I bought two pairs of jeans, one pair of khakis (for when I had to dress business-casual at work), two skirts and maybe two actual maternity tops. For most of my tops, I was able to get away with just regular empire waist tops that were made out of stretchier material. Still nothing on the job. I'm so frustrated. DH had a job interview at another company today - the interviewer was hungover!!! And he actually told DH all this - that he just came back into town yesterday, and decided to hit the bars late last night even though he had a bunch of interviews to conduct today. Yeah, that company sounds like a real winner . PalmettoLadyMessage #13683 - 11/10/10 12:09 AMAzure: Thanks for sharing whats worked/not worked for you. It seems we have a similar situation. I'm thinking the best thing would be to just go ahead and plan to move DH downstairs (Uh, maybe I will get a new desk that matches my living room). That way baby can have a defined space. I guess one of my concerns is DH making noise downstairs after I go to bed and it keeping me awake, maybe baby will make me SO tired this won't be an issue, that or I'll get ear plugs . Gardener: Yuck, I feel you on the crazy weather! Last week highs in the mid 50's, lows in the mid 30's. Then this week highs in the mid 70's! Yuck! Last week the heat was on-- now I need the AC! I am really hoping it will chill out here soon! Planning Lady: I like your name, are you perhaps a Type A planner? (me too!). My advice on baby buying is not to let other people influence you too much. EVERYONE has an opinion about everything. I LOVE the book Baby Bargains. One thing that also surprised me about the 1st trimester (I'm 17 weeks now) was how much aversion I had to food, especially raw meats. This translated into a LOT more take out and a lot less cooking at home, I would just look in the fridge and see chicken and need to RUN to the bathroom. If I had that part to do over again I would have better stocked my freezer with some pre-made meals. Drama: YES. I've been much more emotional and effected by stories about: children, families, pets. I use to watch "Animal Cops" all the time, not anymore. I've been seeing coverage of the murder of the 2 daughters and mother where the two men raped and beat them and burned the house down and only the dad survived, they sentenced the 1st guy to death row this morning. I was literally bawling into my cup of hot chocolate. DH comes running downstairs BC he thinks something wrong. Thanks to all the ladies who offered maternity clothes advice! I went shopping today with my mom and we had a blast at Motherhood Maternity, One and a half hours and $400 later I'm basically set. I got a ton of stuff and at what I consider good prices, I'd budgeted $500 for maternity clothes so I'm right on schedule. I got: - 2 Dresses
- 3 Slacks: Black, Grey & Khaki
- 3 Plain 3/4 sleeve shirts
- 3 Plain tank tops
- 1 pair of 'yoga' AKA sitting at home pants
- A black cardigan/sweater to go with dresses
- 3 Nice dressier tops to mix & match with slacks
- Underwear and pantyhose
- 1 Pair of bluejeans
- My first purchase for BABY!: A onesie with Pooh Bear that has embroidered "I feel a rumbly in my tumbly"
Plus my so-sweet mom unexpectedly contributed $100 to the bill so that was great as well. I must say I Maternity Clothes, I'm in my new 'yoga' pants and tank top now and haven't been so comfortable in months! We also checked out Once Upon A Child -- If you have one near you I highly recommend you check them out. I was super impressed with the quality and cleanliness and PRICES! Onesies for $1. Name brand ensembles for $8, it was crazy. I didn't buy anything yet but I will be once we see what we get at baby showers, etc. They also had some great toys, like bouncers, etc, that looked brand new. jenna30-Message #13684 - 11/10/10 01:56 AMFor babies with sinus congestion, I registered for one of these based upon the good reviews. [ www.amazon.com/Nosefrida-The-Snotsucker-Nasal-Aspirator/dp/B00171WXII] Nosefrida I also watch my baby registry like a hawk (but I also watch other online accounts, too.) I learned my diaper bag went clearance, so I had to pick out another one. I just had my shower, and people were very generous. The same thing happened with my wedding registry. I picked out a few towels for the guest bath, and the entire line went clearance & was hard to find by the time of the wedding. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13685 - 11/10/10 01:24 PMOlivia has one of those too and I try to get her to cuddle with it but she just doesn't seem all that interested in it. It's a pink bunny. I wonder at what age do kids starting using security blankets/toys? Avery has always loved holding onto something since she was really small. We have a couple of snugglies for her. We have a few with the little animal heads attached to a blanket, and we have some that are just a small square of fleece, but they have little ribbons in different colors and textures stitched all around the sides. I get them from a woman in Ohio who has a small business making baby items. She makes the best waterproof changing pads. gardenergirl, I may have told you about her. She's based in Painesville. She ships to me. gardenergirl0804Message #13686 - 11/10/10 01:58 PMkgb - Oh yeah! I remember you telling me about that. I think she lives very close to MIL. Maybe you can send me the info to my email address and I'll get MIL to check some of her things out. Meg - that's crazy about your DH being interviewed by someone who was hungover! Yikes. And I'm sorry he hasn't heard anything about that other job. That really stinks. Once Upon a Child - I second this store! I checked out a new one by us a couple weekends ago. They were still just buying stuff, they won't start selling until December, but they let me look around. Everything looked brand new and prices were great. I'll definitely be going there when they open. Palmetto - that's awesome you are all set on your maternity wardrobe! And so nice of your mom to chip in too. Jenna - I'll have to look into the Nosefrida. Olivia is still terribly snotty, and it's all loose but she screamed and pushed the saline drops and aspirator away this morning. There was saline all over her face because she was moving so much. I felt so bad. Olivia must have caught her cold from the kids at daycare. One of the directors came into her room this morning to help out and she was wiping just about every kids nose because they were all running.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:22:51 GMT -5
alpha_yankeeMessage #13687 - 11/10/10 02:22 PMgardener: where is the new OUAC opening? I usually go to the one in Roswell or Kid 2 Kid in Cumming, but I'd love to check out a new store. eh230Message #13688 - 11/10/10 02:30 PM[www.amazon.com/Nosefrida-The-Snotsucker-Nasal-Aspirator/dp/B00171WXII] Nosefrida
It's the best! Henry hates the bulb, so I tried the nosefrida. He still gets upset when we have to suck his nose, but he doesn't scream. Plus, it works a lot better than the bulb. ElfQ1015Message #13689 - 11/10/10 02:45 PMAhhhh, I would be screaming if that were to happen to us. I am so scared of spides, I think I would start screaming and probably scare Kiani I screamed bloody murder when it ran across my boob and it took all that I had to not throw Gwen up into the air like in the cartoons. Then I held stone still because we couldn't fidn it after I ran out of the chair which meant it was on one of us. DH found it, screamed like a girl, slapped it off her as I screamed and beat the thing to a pulp with his shoe. Meanwhile Gwen just kept on nursing! 1st trimester (I'm 17 weeks now) was how much aversion I had to food, especially raw meats. This translated into a LOT more take out and a lot less cooking at home, I would just look in the fridge and see chicken and need to RUN to the bathroom. Just this Sunday I ate my first chicken breast in almost a year. I had that strong an aversion to chicken while pregnant. Just the THOUGHT of chicken made me want to throw up. We ate a lot of red meat while I was pregnant. I pretty much tossed the food budget out the window and tried to keep everything else in line to make up the difference. There was just no controlling my moods concerning foods. Sometimes I'd go all the way thru making dinner, sit down to eat it, then I would want to throw up and end up eating a peanut butter sandwich instead. I wonder at what age do kids starting using security blankets/toys? Gwen is already getting attached to hers. She is all smiles when I bring it out and give it to her and then she promptly starts to eat one of its pigtails. I put it away in the nursery whenever she tires of it/falls asleep so the dog is never able to get ahold of it. I stresed to DH that unless you want hell to pay, don't leave it unattended! surf-n-sandMessage #13690 - 11/10/10 03:10 PMPlanning- I have to third (or whatever it is at this point) upping the food budget. I am so different from day to day on what sounds good and what sounds horrible. One week I really want meat, and the next week I can't even go near the isle in the grocery store. I used to try to grocery shop once a week because it helped keep costs down. Now I have to go every couple of days for non-aversion foods. I have to once again say a Huge Thank You for suggesting adding one cup of coffee back into my daily diet. I have been able to comfortably wear my regular pants all week because I have been a little more regular again. I guess I was feeling incredibly bloated from constipation. Much better now! gardenergirl0804Message #13691 - 11/10/10 03:16 PMalpha - It's opening up right by Town Center Mall. You know that plaza with the italian restaurant? right on the corner? I can't think of the name of the restaurant but it's right next to it. There's a Smokey Bones restaurant, and the italian restaurant is across the street same side as the mall. OUAC is to the right of it. lizwidMessage #13692 - 11/10/10 04:59 PMpoohbiscit and azure sky-- I know we all wanted to avoid a c-section but it's an impossible situation! Unfortunately I am still dealing with possible postpartum pre-eclampsia issues. Higher blood pressure today even with blood pressure meds. And a rash all over my body which has spread from just my upper arms once I left the hospital. I'm trying to get through to my doctors again about it. When I saw baby's pedi on Monday he thought the rash looked like I just came into contact with an something. (Rather than a medicine allergy.) Of course the pedi doesn't know my medical history. And when I visited my OB on Monday it was just for a blood pressure check, which was low, and the Dr or nurse wasn't around to evaluate my rash. Yesterday when I spoke to OB nurse she said I could take benadryl for the itch, but of course that would make me and baby sleepy. So far I have just used hydrocortizone cream. I can deal with the rash, I'm just concerned that the rash is an inflammation issue related to pre-eclampsia.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:23:16 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13693 - 11/10/10 05:07 PMI don't have advice on what is causing your rash, liz, but Gold Bond makes a lotion that has menthol in it. It's REALLY good at soothing itchy skin. It stings a little when you first put it on, but it's one of the few things I've found that doesn't make me want to tear into my legs every winter. planning_lady32Message #13694 - 11/10/10 06:32 PMThanks for all the advice ladies! I didn't realize appetite and food choices were going to be so random and minute by minute. Maybe I'll get lucky and not be to bad when it comes to food. My mom didn't have any morning sickness with either myself or my sister so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I take after her in that regard. So I want to share my first TTC head-butting experience with the hubby last night. So we're talking and I started to repeat something I had already told him about what I'm going to do or how I'm going to handle some aspect of pregnancy. He interrupts me to tell me I've already told him this. I told him that as much as I want a baby, I'm scared out of my mind when I think about everything that goes along with the actual pregnancy(this will be our first)! It helps to keep me calm by talking about it and he just needs to listen - even if he's already heard it 10 times before. Hubby says that I'm not the only one going through this pregnancy. I told him I understand that but to remember that however scared he is about some aspect, especially the physical part of the pregnancy, imagine actually being the one who is pregnant! He thought about that and agreed to "pretend to listen" when I started to repeat myself if that's what I needed to make me feel better. I like to talk things out, it makes me feel better...hubby is going to have a lot of "pretend listening" to do ElfQ1015Message #13695 - 11/10/10 07:08 PMI'm scared out of my mind when I think about everything that goes along with the actual pregnancy(this will be our first)! This is no offense to you whatsoever, but you sound like you are a bit of a control freak, like me. You are going to have to learn to LET GO. Trust me pregnancy does not give a rats booty what YOU want to happen, it does whatever it darn well pleases. You'll be much less stressed and nervous if you go with the flow to the best of your abilities. II was much happier when I threw my pregnancy books out the window and stopped obessesing over how much weight I should be gaining. I was so freaked out because I barely gained anything during the first trimester and according to the books I "should" have gained 5 lbs. Well my body wasn't having that, it was going to gain weight when it felt like it. I gained 10 pounds in two weeks the second trimester, then the last two weeks of my pregnancy I jumped up 15 pounds. I ended up right within "normal" pregnancy weight gain at the end. Pregnancy isn't easy for a planner or a control freak because we want to control everything. Pregnancy/labor/delivery are natural processes that do not lend themselves to control beyond a certain extent. So try not to obesses TOO MUCH and enjoy the pregnancy and go with the flow. I went thru a phase where everything I ate tasted like garlic, explain THAT ONE to me. Never did find anything in the pregnancy books that explained it. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13696 - 11/10/10 08:02 PMI went thru a phase where everything I ate tasted like garlic, explain THAT ONE to me. I can't explain that, but garlic was the only thing I couldn't eat while I was pregnant. I really had no food aversions and my diet stayed pretty normal (minus the wine and sushi), but if I ate anything with garlic I felt horribly sick. planning, I was really worried while I was pregnant. Mostly about the labor and delivery part. I did a pretty good job of not thinking about it. Though I got panicked watching an episode of "16 & Pregnant" and started crying. But for the most part I kept it together, even on our way to the hospital. I still felt panicked, but I think I hid it well. And I agree with Drama, don't read too much. That will definitely make you paranoid. ElfQ1015Message #13697 - 11/10/10 08:11 PMThe time between when Gwen popped out and when she first cried had to have been some of the most stressful seconds of my life. Felt like HOURS. I was not nervous till they came in to put an oxygen mask on me. I panicked thinking there was something wrong with the baby and my parents/DH/nurse had to talk me down. Then they did that little internal monitor because the external monitor wasn't doing its job, that also freaked me out a little because I thought there was something wrong. I was nervous about her safety and well being than I was about myself. I wanted to know that she was going to come out all right. Otherwise as far as actually giving birth I wasn't nervous at all. I was so ready by the time I was actually admitted to have the baby, so I wasn't nervous at all, I was pretty excited to meet her and relieved to finally be getting her out. First words out of my mouth were "OMG, I feel so much F-ing better now!" KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13698 - 11/10/10 08:25 PMI was not nervous till they came in to put an oxygen mask on me. That didn't make me nervous. But about 2 1/2 hours into pushing they started talking about giving me antibiotics because my temperature was spiking. The nurses were like, "Infection!" And I'm there saying, "Hey, everyone, I don't have an infection. I'm just really hot. I've been trying to push a baby out for two hours. Really. I'm fine. I'm just hot!"
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:23:30 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13699 - 11/10/10 08:32 PMIt wasn't so much the mask, it was that they told me I needed it because of the baby. Once it was in my head that something might be wrong with my baby I lost it. I've never felt that panicked about my own health, but when it comes to my loved ones, I am a wreck. It was 20 times worse with my child. That's partially why the NICU traumatized me so badly as well, beyond how they handled it. My dad is the same way, which is why despite telling DH they weren't coming till after the baby was born, he showed up at 5:30 am in my hospital room and did not leave the hospital till Gwen was born. Told DH he was going to show up anyhow, but DH didn't believe me. gardenergirl0804Message #13700 - 11/10/10 09:14 PMThey gave me antibiotics too and they put me on oxygen when I was in between pushes. But I don't remember them telling me they were going to give me antibiotics, they just did it because my temp spiked. Two and a half hours of pushing could have had something to do with it! And then I still ended up having a c-section. Sigh.... ladykiMessage #13701 - 11/11/10 01:36 AMI was really worried while I was pregnant. Mostly about the labor and delivery part. I did a pretty good job of not thinking about it. I did a good job at this too. I made myself a promise that I was not going to think about labor until the actual time came ( I knew I would want an epidural, and basically that was the only plan I had, lol) andI think I did a great job about not thinking about it. There was no use of freaking out on something that I was absolutly going to have to do. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13702 - 11/11/10 01:55 PMPlanning - good $ advice given already, mine would be to save your entire salary, it's good practice for living on just one and you build up quite a savings cushion. The only thing I would recommend splurging on would be a babymoon if you can. You don't have to go to the caribbean or anything, but some time away with DH was one of the best things I did while pregnant. Once you have kids it's not impossible to get away on your own, but it is a lot more difficult. Liz - I hope you're feeling better. Having a hard delivery really stinks but the important thing is the baby at the end of it. Our wonderful children more than make up for all the pain and misery. Otherwise, who would ever get pregnant again? Spiders - my mom's house is infested with them. I killed over a dozen while we were there for a week. I saw one crawling towards DS's head! *shudder* My mom likes them and refuses to kill them. I have to kill them when she's not looking or she'll give me a lecture. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13703 - 11/11/10 02:03 PMI had an awful day yesterday. DD1 threw a tantrum before school, I almost couldn't take her. After potty training fairly successfully for weeks, DD2 had 2 accidents and also colored all over the carpet with markers while I wasn't looking. DS is successfully napping in his crib now but all the rest of the time he wants to be held. He also hasn't pooped in 3 days and is really fussy. DH didn't come home until after 8pm and said that it's unlikely that he'll be home any earlier for the rest of the week. I tried having a glass of wine to relax and not kill the kids (who were all having a bad day too) and because I don't drink anymore I pretty quickly felt drunk. Then I felt like a horrible mother because I was sitting at the table, semi-drunk, trying to make the kids eat dinner early so that I could put them to bed before I went insane. Today is going to be a better day! If I keep saying it maybe it will be true! eh230Message #13704 - 11/11/10 02:45 PMOh Reflector, your day just plain sucked! It's the weekend soon. Hopefully DH will be able to help you more. Ladies, I need tips on how to deal with separation anxiety. Henry has decided that he is just going to yell unless he is being held. In the morning he usually sits in the bouncer and plays with toys in the guest bathroom while I get ready for work and DH takes a shower in the master bath. He is not having that anymore. This morning I tried to hold him on my hip while I applied make-up. Eyeliner and busy baby do not mix! What can I do to help him out?
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:23:55 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #13705 - 11/11/10 02:56 PMI haven't gone thru it with Gwen yet, but I have dogs that have gone thru horrid separation anxiety. What I had to do was just leave them alone till they got the hint that they were going to be just fine without me right there next to them. Because if I ran into the room every time they squawked, they figured out that they had trained me to come when the squawked. So it became a never ending battle. I also made sure to not try to soothe them, I remain even headed like nothing is happening. That taught them there was nothing to fear because *I* wasn't afraid. It seemed like it took forever, but eventually they settled down and realized I was going to return and they weren't in any danger. Totally sucked because I had to sit there and listen to them scratch at their kennel and whine, but they would usually settle down after a few minutes or so if I left them completely alone. Not sure how much of that can be applied to kids, but strange as it sounds ever since we did dog training and took marital counseling I've noticed A LOT of paraells between the two. I just have to remember the dogs get the snausage and my husband gets the kiss. anne81Message #13706 - 11/11/10 04:19 PMboos mom - I think the last time I posted I said something like I could still handle DS' tantrums. I was just tempting fate, lol. I haven't been posting much because DS is going crazy and taking me with him. Like Reflector I'm drinking and trying not to kill him. The tantrums and crying are constant when I'm in the room but not for anyone else. Makes me feel like a bad mom. Throwing things, shrieking, hitting me, throwing himself on the ground, refusing to get in the carseat. It's a battle all day long. How are you doing? The Reflector - WIRMessage #13707 - 11/11/10 07:09 PMAnne - my mom told me (when having the same issues with DD1) that children only act that way around people they really trust. That is why they behave for teachers or grandparents but not Mommy. They are so sure that you love them unconditionally that they feel safe to test boundaries, push everything to the limit. That's how they learn where the limit is. I have no idea if it's true or not but it did make me feel a little bit better when I was carrying a screaming toddler out of Target or putting my fingers in my ears to deafen myself against the 4 alarm tantrums. So far things are better today. DS finally pooped (woo-hoo!) and is now napping in his crib. Maybe even long enough for me to get the laundry folded. DD2 is napping too, first time this week. I think she's hoping to give up "quiet time" when she turns 3 next month, although I still need it! DD1 went to school with no problems today, hopefully she's got a better attitude all day. HoneyBBQMessage #13708 - 11/11/10 07:36 PMHey guys - how is everyone? PlanningLady - I highly recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility for TTC. I (luckily) conceived in 1 month and in 3 months both times, but I also have the benefit of a regular cycle. This book will help you understand how your body works more than you probably ever wanted to know lol. I have been doing ok. We still have not heard back from cytogenetics so basically still no cause for the most recent MC. Still no AF yet (it's only been 3.5 weeks) so we are still not back on the wagon, so to speak. I'm getting a little antsy about a situation that is going to come up next week. My H and I had planned a vacation at the end of Nov several months ago and my mom is coming to dog/house sit while we are gone. I don't have a very good relationship with my mom, in fact she pretty much drives me crazy. I never told her about either pregnancy but I would have been 13 weeks next week and I WAS going to tell her at this time... it makes me sad that when I see her I should be telling her about her grandchild but instead I'll just be explaining how the thermostat works and going on my way. I don't know why but this is a real thorn in my side. It probably has to do with some Freudian BS about how I really want to repair my own childhood by having a good relationship with my OWN child and proving that it wasn't my fault by being successful with my own little one... however I'm being denied that for now, I guess. And to add insult to injury I'll have to spend a week with my mom before I go on vacation and not be pregnant. It just hurts. I probably sound crazy, but there you have it. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13709 - 11/11/10 07:57 PMHoney, . It's nice to see you over here. I've been wondering how you're doing. I'm sorry this is so hard for you. And you don't sound crazy at all. To all the moms with tantruming kids, Hugs to you too! You're all great moms. And if a little wine gets you through, no problem. A glass or two a day is good for you! You're actually doing something healthy. At least that's what I'm telling myself today since my dinner last night was a glass of wine after Avery went to bed! ElfQ1015Message #13710 - 11/11/10 08:03 PMI don't think you are crazy Honey and I also don't think there you need to read so deep into your emotion that you are looking at Freud (he wrote most of his stuff high on coke for "depression", explains a lot) for answers. What you are going thru is hard and even if you don't have a super awesome relationship with your mother she is still your MOTHER and you wanted to share becoming a mother too.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:24:08 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13711 - 11/11/10 11:21 PMHoney - ***hugs!*** I have been thinking of you. I agree with Drama, you don't have to read so far into your feelings to understand them. I've been there...the strangest and seemingly most innocent things were enough to leave me sobbing. I am sorry you still don't have any answers. I am hoping this vacation does you and your DH some good. Thinking of you! jenna30-Message #13712 - 11/12/10 01:14 AM I think the last time I posted I said something like I could still handle DS' tantrums. I was just tempting fate, lol. I haven't been posting much because DS is going crazy and taking me with him. Like Reflector I'm drinking and trying not to kill him. anne, that last comment made me smile. I know that feeling. Question for the mom's -- (sorry if it's too personal or TMI) -- I usually wear tampons, and that's obviously not possible right after birth. How long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size? I'm trying to get my shopping and planning done - and I never really use pads. I have no idea what I'm in for after my son's birth. Thanks for your help. Any advice (re: taking care of myself) for the week(s) following birth would be appreciated. ladykiMessage #13713 - 11/12/10 04:27 AMHello Ladies, Reflector- I hope your day was better today. As for us, Kiani still has a stuffy nose but seems to be doing okay. She is still waking up very early, today she was up before 5:00 and went back to sleep like at 6:30am. She was then up like at 8 and went back tp sleep like at 10 all the way until 1:30pm, she would have probably kept on napping but i woke her up. She was up all the way until like an hour ago she finally went to sleep. DH an I are also a little sick, I hope that we are all better by Saturday that is when we are taking Kiani to have her pictures taken and will have some friends over to watch a boxing match so hopefully we are all better. ladykiMessage #13714 - 11/12/10 04:35 AMQuestion for the mom's -- (sorry if it's too personal or TMI) -- I usually wear tampons, and that's obviously not possible right after birth. How long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size?
Jenna- I wore them probably for the entire six weeks after giving birth. I bought the Always overnight thin pads. I would wear them all days and usually changed about 4 or 5 times. The bleeding decreased and after a couple of weeks I was only spotting but I still more comfortable on having those types of pads on. Meg - Mommy to AverieMessage #13715 - 11/12/10 05:20 AMHow long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size? I wore them the full 6 weeks. I took home a stack of the giant hospital ones (and they are giant - the ones at my hospital are probably 6-8 inches wide and over a foot long) and used them at night for the first week. I was super paranoid about leaking - that's why I took them - but I never did. I used heavy flow Always pads during the day for the first couple weeks (changed every 3-4ish hours), then regular pads for the remaining weeks. It really varies by person though - there's been a few ladies on the pregnancy board that were in pads less than a week and then went to pantiliners. My periods were super heavy before pregnancy so I wondered if that had anything to do with it. HR guy at the job called today. The IT people were supposed to be having a meeting to make the final decision and he was going to go bug them, but wanted to give DH an update on the situation. I reeeeally hope we hear something tomorrow. We only have enough money left to last about halfway through December before everything starts going on the cards. We have worked so hard to get rid of that CC debt too that the thought of running it up again makes me want to cry, but he's not getting bites from any of the other resumes he's sent out so I'm getting nervous. ladykiMessage #13716 - 11/12/10 02:08 PMMeg- Good Luck I hope you hear something good about the job today.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:24:33 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13717 - 11/12/10 02:25 PM How long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size?
I also wore something for about 6 weeks. I used the hospital ones while in the hospital. At home I bought the most super absorbent night time Always pads I could find. I bled pretty heavily for about the first 10 days, so I would say I was changing those about every 2 to 3 hours for a week or so. Even after the bleeding stopped, I had to wear a Poise pad or panty liner for a long time because I had a lot of incontinence issues post-birth. I just had my Depo shot this morning. The nurse didn't do a very good job. It hurt and now my whole hip hurts, especially since I'm sitting. Usually I hardly even notice after I've got one, but today she didn't get a good stick or something. gardenergirl0804Message #13718 - 11/12/10 02:25 PMReflector - I'm glad your day yesterday was better. Hope it continued that afternoon and into the night. eh - How old is Henry? Olivia is almost 8 months and getting to that point as well. She doesn't want to be put down in the mornings while I'm getting ready. Especially if she's not feeling well or tired, then she's extra fussy. I try to hold her as much as possible, but then I have to just put her down to do something things and if she cries, then she cries! There's nothing you can really do. Just give Henry his favorite toy, a bottle if he's hungry (if he takes bottles) put on some music, etc. If he's around Olivia's age that's just the age that they start to get separation anxiety. Honey - you are not crazy at all! This is the place to come to and tell how you are feeling about things. You have every right to be sad, but try to enjoy your time with your mom and on your vacation with DH too! Jenna - keep in mind too that if you have a c-section you will need pads too. Not sure if everyone realizes that. I had a c-section and still bled for the full 6 weeks, not ever really heavy, but still bled. And I used pads the entire time, so make sure you have plenty. The hospital will give you a bunch but they are HUGE and not comfortable to wear during the day. Meg - good thoughts coming your way for today! I'm sorry this is stressing you out. Be hopeful! ElfQ1015Message #13719 - 11/12/10 02:31 PMHow long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size?
I didn't. I wore overnights the first day after I gave birth, then I was down to pantiliners by the time I left. For about 5 days after I got home I started to bleed really heavy, but I used regular pads. For me it was more I did not have bladder control for awhile so I needed a pantiliner otherwise I'd be peeing on my underwear. I worked really hard on kiegels and got almost full bladder control in three weeks, enough that I only had to wear a pantiliner when we'd go out as a precaution. I personally did not like the hospital ones because they are huge, they got stuck everywhere BUT on my underwear, they aren't meant for tiny underwear! Then I personally did not like the disposable panties either. After I peed myself clear to the bathroom I decided to switch to my own cotton underwear. I just bought cheap Hanes and tossed them if I bled all over them or peed all over them. I don't know if other ladies had this but I also felt like the pad was swinging with me every time I walked when I wore the disposables. I felt like it was held in place better when wearing actual underwear. That alone was enough to drive me batty. gardenergirl0804Message #13720 - 11/12/10 02:38 PMI stayed home from work with Olivia yesterday. She was up twice Wednesday night and her cough sounded terrible. I caught her cold as well so we were two sickies sitting at home together. She stuck to me like glue yesterday too. She did not want to go on the floor to play, or in her jumper, or anything. She just wanted to be held. She would play with toys in my lap, but if I put her on the floor she'd cry. Guess she just wanted her mommy I just hope it doesn't turn into a sinus infection or anything worse than a bad cold. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13721 - 11/12/10 02:55 PMI personally did not like the hospital ones because they are huge, they got stuck everywhere BUT on my underwear, they aren't meant for tiny underwear! I would definitely not recommend tiny underwear for the first 6 weeks or so after giving birth. I also went and bought a couple of packs of the Hanes cotton "granny panties." I was lucky that I never bled on my underwear or clothes, even in the hospital. Unlike Drama, I liked the hospital underwear and pads for while I was in the hospital. gardenergirl, I hope you and Olivia feel better! Avery never really went through a clingy stage. She's such an independent little thing. She just seems to roll with everything. She's always super happy to see us when we come home from somewhere, but she never gets too upset when we leave. And Lord knows the last thing she wants is to be held. She wants to walk and run and do everything by herself. I haven't really been able to just hold and cuddle her for months now. It makes me sad. The only time she'll let me hold her is the morning and night bottle and if she has a night terror. ElfQ1015Message #13722 - 11/12/10 03:05 PMI would definitely not recommend tiny underwear for the first 6 weeks or so after giving birth. I'm a size small, even when I was pregnant KgB. Even in granny panties the hospital pads went practically clear up my backside. I don't know about other hospital nipple pads, but I sure as hell would recommend trying them out first before counting on using them regularly. The ones my hospital gave me were very stiff and scratchy. They looked like giant immoveable hockey pucks underneath my shirt. Glad I brought my Lansinoh ones with me.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:24:47 GMT -5
gardenergirl0804Message #13723 - 11/12/10 04:01 PMThe hospital did not supply me with any nursing pads. They did give me a sample of Lansinoh lanolin cream. I didn't think to bring any nursing pads with me either. That was one thing I forgot. I had DH running out to BRU to buy me the Lansinoh brand. The ultra soft ones along with the lanolin cream were a life saver for my b00bs! kgb - I keep meaning to ask you. A while ago you said you bought some BRU brand diapers. Did you like them or no? I'd like to try them because they are so much cheaper but afraid to until I get someone else's opinion because Olivia's skin is so sensitive. I've been using Pampers cruisers and she's fine with them but she broke out into a horibble rash when I tried the Pampers baby dry and Huggies brand. regina24601Message #13724 - 11/12/10 04:04 PMHi everyone! Sorry I've not been posting much lately. I've been CRAZY busy at work, but I still read all of your posts. I'm too far behind on posting to remember who all I should reply to, but an overall good luck to you mommies with kids going through rough patches. A nice or a is nothing to feel guilty about. ( Reflector - I nearly died laughing at your description of feeling guilty about sitting at your kitchen table half-drunk trying to get the kids to eat early so you can send them to bed. Hilarious!!) It doesn't make you bad mommies. DH and I were at Target yesterday and he saw these testing strips that you use to test for alcohol levels in breastmilk. He was teasing me saying the baby was going to drive me to drink and that maybe he should stock up on those so he can check up on me. Very helpful. Has anyone seen Gusita lately? She usually posts fairly regularly. Hope everything is going well with you! As for me, I'm a little over 31 weeks, and everything is done. We separated all of the clothes we have into sizes, and we're not overwhelmed by any one particular size, so we went ahead and washed everything last night (used All Free & Clear on the advice of many on here) and got everything folded, put away, and organized. The baby room is done done done. We just need to install the car seat bases and then sit around and twiddle our thumbs for 9 weeks. I'm kind of feeling conflicted right now because I am SO DONE being pregnant. Which is silly because I can't even complain about anything - it's been smooth sailing (except for that one ER visit at 14 weeks), and I'm still feeling very good overall, but I'm just tired of looking in the mirror at my profile and seeing a giant house looking back at me. BUT on the other hand, I'm really not ready for the baby to come (emotionally, I guess). So I'm kind of dancing back and forth between, "Get this thing out of me!" and "Eh...maybe I'd like to keep her in for an extra month or two." Regardless, I should still have several weeks to wait, and ultimately when she comes is not for me to decide! Also, I'm very concerned I'm going to have a very mean-spirited child. She kicks and moves a lot, so I'm used to that feeling. But every once in a while, she really rears back and POW!! Kicks the $hit out of my hip or my rib. No warning or lead-up to it. In fact, a lot of times, I won't have felt any movement for hours leading up to it. It literally makes me yelp out loud, which has been known to, in turn, scare the $hit out of my co-workers. So that's something to look forward to in my child's personality. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13725 - 11/12/10 04:43 PMI'm a size small, even when I was pregnant KgB. LOL Drama. When you said "tiny" underwear I wasn't thinking size-wise, like small. I was thinking tiny as in style, like the little low-rise bikini underwear. I keep meaning to ask you. A while ago you said you bought some BRU brand diapers. Did you like them or no? I'd like to try them because they are so much cheaper but afraid to until I get someone else's opinion because Olivia's skin is so sensitive. We used a whole box of the BRU diapers that were "basic model" if you will, and Avery did great with them. Plus we had no leaks. MIL kept complaining they were too rough. Last week I bought the BRU Supreme diapers that are supposed to prevent diaper rash and feel softer. Avery has had a terrible, terrible diaper rash for the past 4 days. I'm not sure if it was just a coincidence or not. If it doesn't go away soon, I'm going to go back to the basic kind. I saw a flyer for BRU/Toys 'R Us today that if you buy 3 boxes of Pampers Swaddlers (which is what we were using) or Pampers Cruisers, you get a $15 gift card. I'm close to getting a free box of Pampers from there with my card, so I might go get some boxes to get the free box and the gift card. I'm kind of feeling conflicted right now because I am SO DONE being pregnant. Don't feel bad. I felt the same way around that time, even though I was having a relatively easy and healthy pregnancy. I was definitely not one of those women who just loved being pregnant. Also, I'm very concerned I'm going to have a very mean-spirited child. She kicks and moves a lot, so I'm used to that feeling. But every once in a while, she really rears back and POW!! You're going to have a mover and a shaker! Avery was constantly moving and kicking, and she's been that way since birth too. Even at a month old she would lie on her back and just kick and kick her legs like she was running a marathon. The child literally hasn't stopped moving in 13 months. ElfQ1015Message #13726 - 11/12/10 05:35 PMI'm kind of feeling conflicted right now because I am SO DONE being pregnant. Which is silly because I can't even complain about anything - it's been smooth sailing (except for that one ER visit at 14 weeks), and I'm still feeling very good overall, but I'm just tired of looking in the mirror at my profile and seeing a giant house looking back at me Don't feel bad, I had an extremely smooth pregnancy as well but I was DONE at the end as well. I didn't really enjoy being pregnant, especially at the end, it was freaking 90 with 80% humidity the day before I gave birth. I now know what hte oven feels like when I roast a turkey in it! She kicks and moves a lot, so I'm used to that feeling. But every once in a while, she really rears back and POW!! Gwen was that way too. She is still an active little booger. She doesn't even hold still in her sleep lately since she is starting to figure out how to roll over onto her side. When you said "tiny" underwear I wasn't thinking size-wise, like small. I was thinking tiny as in style, like the little low-rise bikini underwear Good grief no. However I did wear low rise for most of my pregnancy, saved a ton on not having to buy new underwear. It wasn't till the end that my belly dropped and then I switched to boy shorts. ladykiMessage #13727 - 11/12/10 06:11 PMEven after the bleeding stopped, I had to wear a Poise pad or panty liner for a long time because I had a lot of incontinence issues post-birth. Oh, me too. Iam still having those issues, lol. Hopefully they will go away soon. ElfQ1015Message #13728 - 11/12/10 06:26 PMIam still having those issues, lol Do your kegel exercises. They help tighten up your pelvic floor muscles. Squeeze your muscles mid-pee to stop flow and hold for 10 seconds, repeat till you can do it 10 times. Not fool proof, but it does help.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:25:12 GMT -5
ladykiMessage #13729 - 11/12/10 06:26 PMI'm kind of feeling conflicted right now because I am SO DONE being pregnant. I felt the same way as well. My pregnancy was really good, besides some morning sickness and having a paranoid moment once or twice because I thought I was going to faint, everything else was really good. It was probably the last 2 or 3 weeks that I was ready to have Kiani but just because I felt really tired, lol. Besides that I loved being pregnant, I loved the way I looked and I loved feeling her move inside of me, I could have also kept her for a few more months, lol. Even at a month old she would lie on her back and just kick and kick her legs like she was running a marathon. The child literally hasn't stopped moving in 13 months. LOL, I have one of those. DH plays around saying that Kiani is not a normal child, lol, because she was never like a newborn. She did not sleep much, she is very alert from day 1 and she moves like crazy. Oh and she talks and talks andtalk, well baby talk, he says that is it was all the caffeine that I had while pregnant, lol, I had one beverage a day. regina24601Message #13730 - 11/12/10 06:32 PMOkay, that makes me feel better, ladies. I guess her swift kicks that HURT are really just a function of her activity level. So maybe I'll just have an active baby like you all and not the spawn of satan, which is what I'm half expecting at this point. GusitaRenkrMessage #13731 - 11/12/10 06:39 PMHi ladies! Hope everyone is doing well! Planning-Welcome to the boards! I also support upping the food budget. First it was because I had morning sickness and was so finicky. Then only certain things sounded good. Now it’s that I am ravenous all the time. Some of the ladies said they had a chicken aversion; mine has been a steak and rib aversion (two things I used to LOVE prepregnancy. Now they just sound icky.) Palmetto-Happy maternity clothes shopping! I pretty much exclusively wear sun dresses during the summer, so my pre-pregnancy dresses worked fine up until October (crazily, it was still hot enough in October to be wearing sun dresses here! Normally it is sweater/jeans weather by then). Now that it is has cooled down, I alternate between 3 pairs of maternity jeans, a black pair of maternity pants, 4 long sleeved maternity shirts, 5 maternity sweaters, and 2 maternity dresses. Here’s everything I have bought: 2 Pairs of Maternity Jeans: $45-from Motherhood Maternity Outlet Pair of Maternity Jeans/black maternity dress pants/2 long sleeved maternity shirts/5 maternity sweaters/maternity dress, 2 bras in a bigger size: $168-Target 2 long sleeved maternity shirts, 2 maternity tank tops, leggings: $50 Old Navy Maternity yoga pants: $8: Ross Dress for Less I sleep in night gowns, so they are fitting fine still, just a little shorter. Panties are still fitting okay; I have bought some, but in the same size I always wear and mainly because Victoria’s Secret was having an awesome sale. Reflector-Sorry about your bad day! I must admit, the thought of a half drunk mommy trying to not fall off the chair just made my day. I don’t drink a whole lot, so when I do, it literally only takes like 2 or 3 drinks and I am smashed. At least it makes for a cheap night at the bar! Anne-Sorry your DS has been having such tantrums lately. HoneyBBQ-It’s good to see you! I’ve been thinking of you. Meg-I hope you hear something good today! Regina-Thanks for thinking of me! Our internet at home went out Tuesday night, and it has been spotty every since. I think they finally got it fixed though. I second the over being pregnant feeling. I feel like a flipping whale. It doesn’t help that whenever someone sees me, they’re all,’Wow, I can’t belief how big you’ve gotten!’ Do they seriously think I haven’t noticed how big I’ve gotten? I can’t get off the floor without someone either pulling me up or me usi ElfQ1015Message #13732 - 11/12/10 06:41 PMI guess her swift kicks that HURT are really just a function of her activity level I sympathsize. As she got bigger and I got closer to term I could feel EVERYTHING, if she so much as shifted a shoulder I could feel it. Sometimes her punches were downright painful. I swore she was trying to escape thru my bellybutton. Ladyki Gwen seems to like to hear the sound of her own voice. She'll make random happy sounds or what I call "war whoops" that appear to not be communication beyond "Let's scream and see what happens. Oh mommy reacts!" GusitaRenkrMessage #13733 - 11/12/10 06:43 PMOops, got cut off! Regina-Thanks for thinking of me! Our internet at home went out Tuesday night, and it has been spotty every since. I think they finally got it fixed though. I second the over being pregnant feeling. I feel like a flipping whale. It doesn’t help that whenever someone sees me, they’re all,’Wow, I can’t belief how big you’ve gotten!’ Do they seriously think I haven’t noticed how big I’ve gotten? I can’t get off the floor without someone either pulling me up or me using something to pull myself up. TMI, but when DH and I have relations, we had been doing it doggy style. I can’t hold myself up anymore for very long because of my big old belly, so we’ve started stacking pillows under my belly to I don’t just kind of flop over. And to think there is nine more weeks left! When do guys plan on putting the car seat bases in? Nothing new here. The maternity support belt I bought has made me feel like a new woman! The pain in my back is much better, the lower tummy pain is much better, and the pain between my leg and torso is gone! Just for fun, I took my measurements last night to compare them to prepregnancy measurements. There's no change in my arm or leg measurements, but my chest is up two inches, my hips are up five inches, and my waist is up 10 inches! Yikes. Former_Roomate_99Message #13734 - 11/12/10 08:21 PM How long were you ladies wearing pads? Did you go through a bunch each day/night? Did you have to get a heavy duty size?
After DS#1, I wore those mesh hospital panties and the long wide pads from the hospital. They were longer and wider than any pad I had ever seen. After about 2 weeks, I transitioned to regular pads and wore them until about a month. With DS#2, the hospital pads were narrower and 3 times as thick as any pad I'd ever seen. I used them and am convinced that they contributed to my netherregions not healing correctly. 7 months later, doing the deed involves pain and bleeding. One thing I do recommend is getting pads with a smooth top rather than the ones with a mesh top. The mesh topped ones are ok normally but really uncomfortable when you're healing.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:25:25 GMT -5
boos_momMessage #13735 - 11/12/10 08:30 PMreflector - I'm glad it was just that one day that was really awful. You did make me smile though. anne & reflector - I have never been a big drinker, but I did end up buying a bottle of grey goose and have added a splash (or more!) to a glass of lemonade on the weekends the past few months lately (although, not every weekend and not usually both Fri & Sat nights). One glass is enough for me! I've also been watching a lot more tv in the evenings after the kids have gone to bed or surfing online shopping sites (mostly stuff for the kids or Christmas gifts). My goal of decluttering has been put on hold to save my sanity. I know this is definitely my coping mechanism. #2 is somewhat better, I guess, or I just have given up trying to figure out a "solution" or "improve the situation" and just let him have the tantrum until he's ready to settle down and try to talk. Sometimes it takes longer, sometimes it's only 5-10 minutes. And I will agree that he behaves that way mostly with me, sometimes DH. But as soon as a lady in the store starts talking to him to comfort him, he stops crying and just looks at them. anne - I had to struggle to get #2 into the carseat a couple of times, and it was he!!. He is strong and stubborn. I visited with my friend and their new baby. The kids stayed at home with DH. It was so nice to feed and hold the newborn when it's not yours! So sweet, and easy -- I'm not all sore, or worrying about BFing (the mom's milk hasn't really come in yet), or sleep deprived. I've already offered my baby-sitting services, but they probably won't want it since he's their first and they'd been trying for so long. planning - welcome! I agree with trying to save your salary, as well as the food costs increased during pregnancy and BFing, as I could eat a horse once I lost all of the baby weight (by 6 weeks). meg - Hope you guys hear something soon! honey - Glad to hear from you. It's completely understandable how you are feeling. I hope your vacation goes well and that you hear from the cytogenics soon. DH just asked if he could attend a friend's bachelor party in Vegas sometime next year. He'd be gone 4 days. I'm feeling guilty, like I should let him go. It'd be nice bonding time since he doesn't see a lot of his friends these days (maybe it's b/c they still live like 20 year olds, start out late and only like to go drinking). OTOH, he could never handle the kids for 4 days by himself if I wanted to go somewhere "for fun". So, I'd never even ask in the first place. One of his friends jokingly said DH should tell me it's a work trip. But it'd be hard to try that since the company normally pays the airfare in advance for those types of trips and we get reimbrused for hotel and meals, DUH! I guess I'll keep checking the airfares and if I find something cheap enough, I'll just get it. kgb - I admire you during hunting season! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13736 - 11/12/10 08:36 PMkgb - I admire you during hunting season! Thanks. It's a challenge. DH's sister is pretty irritated with him for how much he's gone now that Avery is here. She said he needs to grow up and change his priorities. I agree. She also told their mother that she needs to not make it so easy for him to leave. (I've thought the same thing, but I would never say it to my MIL. But it's true that if she doesn't make herself so available to babysit even more than she already does, he wouldn't be able to go as much.) It definitely gives me pause when thinking about trying for baby #2. This is the time of the year I think I'll never have another one. boos_momMessage #13737 - 11/12/10 08:47 PMkgb - When we just had one, I spent most of my non-work time with her, and she was pretty easy and handled errands and outings pretty well. I probably wouldn't have minded. But with two, there's just more to do and usually takes twice as long to do. Plus we usually split drop off and pick up duties, so it'd force me to have to leave work early to go pick them up. Your SIL sounds great! Hopefully, she'll get through to DH and MIL. ladykiMessage #13738 - 11/12/10 09:32 PMLadyki Gwen seems to like to hear the sound of her own voice. She'll make random happy sounds or what I call "war whoops" that appear to not be communication beyond "Let's scream and see what happens. Oh mommy reacts!" It so funny, babies are so smart. Kiani wil make belief that she is crying, I already know those sounds, but sometimes I still go and check on her and she just looks up at me screams and then smiles at me, like saying " Ha, I got you again". jenna30-Message #13739 - 11/13/10 10:36 AMThanks for the answers, ladies. I'm kind of feeling conflicted right now because I am SO DONE being pregnant. I'm also totally over being pregnant. Two trips to the hospital, with a total of 6 days in, for the treatment of kidney stones wore my ass out. Plus, I'm not sleeping very well with all the extra weight in my tummy. The Dr prescribed sleeping pills, and those help me fall asleep, but the last couple nights I'm up at 4-5am to use the restroom & have been unable to fall back asleep. I tried a nap on Tuesday afternoon, and that was not possible, either. I want my body back. I'm tired of the aches and pains and lack of sleep. D-day is December 7th... about 3 1/2 weeks. Don't get me wrong, I want my son to be healthy, but it sure would be nice not to ache so much. I also had fairly bad nausea during a chunk of my 1st and 2nd tri. jenna30-Message #13740 - 11/13/10 10:40 AMETA: Dr says his head is low. I can sorta tell since it seems like I have more room for food. I came home from work & ate an apple w/a bit of mac-n-cheese, and then still had room for dinner about an hour later. - what support band did you buy?
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:25:50 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #13741 - 11/13/10 04:23 PMI am so the opposite of all of you! I am almost 36 weeks, and I am not at all ready to not be pregnant anymore. Of course I'm ready to hold my baby girl (and to be able to move more comfortably), but I have loved being pregnant and the idea of it ending makes me sad. Everyone keeps telling me "any day now" like that's a good thing but I really hope she hangs out in there for 4 more weeks. My husband is convinced she's coming early because I've lost my mucus plug, her head is really low, and my cervix is thinned. I'm sure I'll get over all of this when I actually have her, but for now I like being able to take her everywhere with me and protect her. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13742 - 11/13/10 05:16 PMEcon - It is SO crazy that you are so close to finished! Man time moves so crazy on this board. One minute there is a pregnancy announcement...next minute POOF baby born Can't wait to see pics of all these beautiful babies. GusitaRenkrMessage #13743 - 11/14/10 12:35 AMJenna-This is the one I got: www.amazon.com/Soft-Form-Maternity-Support-Universal/dp/B000Q174GQ/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_topI love it, love it, love it. As soon as I put it on, it's instant relief. My only complaint is that it adds a little bit of bulk to my stomach, but it's so worth it. Sorry you are feeling so uncomfortable. Econ-Wow, I can't believe you are so close!!!! That's so exciting. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13744 - 11/15/10 01:15 PMHappy Monday ladies! We had a good weekend. Saturday was a really busy day. Avery and my mom came with me while I got my hair cut. Avery has had lots of little haircuts from my MIL, but she got her first big girl salon cut on Saturday. My stylist even dried it an flat ironed it so it was styled. Avery sat so still. She decided to help out by combing her hair. I posted a pic below. Then we went to see a Christmas display, and she sat on Santa's lap. She wasn't afraid at all. I think she was a little confused, but she didn't cry. I can't believe what a big girl she is. It makes me excited and sad all at the same time. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13745 - 11/15/10 01:36 PMWhat a cute picture kgb!! She looks adorable and so helpful combing her hair while the stylist is styling in it! Hope everyone had a great weekend. I helped my DH cleaning/straighten up his office on Saturday and went to the Jaguars game on Sunday (yes, I saw the awesome game ending touchdown)!! The Reflector - WIRMessage #13746 - 11/15/10 02:20 PMThanks for all the support, ladies! It was a rough weekend, DH worked until midnight on Saturday and was mostly trying to recuperate on Sunday. By the end of the day we were snapping at each other, so I suggested that once we went to bed that we say 3 nice things that we appreciate about each other - and they couldn't be body parts. It helped me to hear DH say out loud some things that he usually thinks but doesn't say out loud. It helped me feel more appreciated. I think it made him feel better too, the poor guy has been working so hard and then when he gets home I throw kids at him and tell him that they're driving me insane. This week will be better! This week will be better! If I keep saying it over and over it might come true! Anyone else have a 3 year old that suddenly became afraid of everything? DD2 will be 3 next month and all of a sudden is terrified of everything. She thinks the chain on the plug in the bathtub is creeping towards her. She jumps at noises. She refuses to nap in her room alone even though she's falling down from exhaustion. And she WILL NOT STAY IN HER ROOM AT NIGHT! She shares a room with DD1 who sleeps like a rock, but DD2 has always been a light sleeper. Saturday night she kept coming in my room saying she couldn't sleep. After an hour of up and down I let her fall asleep in our bed and then took her back to her room. Then from 3am to 4am she came into our room 10 times until I finally caved and let her sleep with us. I was wedged between her and DS all night and got NO sleep. Last night she tried it again and I was so tired and desperate I locked the door to the girls' room. I unlocked it as soon as she was asleep (she was in bed with DD1 and I moved her back to her own bed). I'm hoping I don't have to do this every night so we all get a decent nights sleep! Any suggestions? For the record, all the kids have co-slept until they were about a year or so, but after that never had a problem sleeping in their own rooms. The only time they've slept in our room after that was when they were really sick, I think once for each (DD1 with rotavirus at 18 months and DD2 with croup a couple of months ago).
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:26:04 GMT -5
ladykiMessage #13747 - 11/15/10 02:28 PMKgreen- your baby is so cute. Taz- I am a big football fan ( Cowboys fan), but we usually take a look at all of the games on Sunday. I also that touchdown, how exciting. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13748 - 11/15/10 02:38 PMKGB - how adorable! Regina - I don't blame you. In fact, I was completely miserable for my entire pregnancy with DS. He is more than making up for it though, he's the easiest and most happy baby! Palmetto - my advice on maternity clothes is that after you get a good base (the ladies here have some great suggestions) you can always buy things a piece at a time as you need them. I would invariably buy something that fit properly and then a week later outgrow it. Also buy tops with some stretch to them, the nicer things I got for work were not as stretchy and I couldn't wear them for very long because my boobs grew out of them before my stomach did. Meg - anything on the job yet? Honey - it's so good to hear from you. Boos - since this bachelor party is pretty far away you can do some planning. You can take a minication of your own to visit family who can help out with the kids or invite someone to come to your place. OTOH, he could never handle the kids for 4 days by himself if I wanted to go somewhere "for fun". So, I'd never even ask in the first place. You might be surprised. You can always tell DH his trip is contingent on you getting some time on your own FIRST. I never thought DH could handle DD1 on his own and then I landed in the hospital for 3 weeks with DD2. He had to do everything on his own and he did great. The house was even clean when I came home! I used to think it was weird for married couples to take separate vacations but I've gone down to FL to see my parents plenty of times without DH and he doesn't mind. I do take the kids though. I was actually going to let DH go to Vegas with his family in December to see his sister renew her vows. It was too expensive for me to go, let alone bring a nursing baby and find somewhere for the girls to go. It did kind of burn me that he would be having all that fun without me, but I think I was more tickled at the money that would be spent since we're so close to the line. Lucky for me (and our bank account) SIL is moving soon and now can't afford the trip, so problem solved. KRR627Message #13749 - 11/15/10 02:48 PMTaz - sounds like you had a fun time at the Jaguars game! My brothers like the Jaguars, too, they went to see them play in Kansas City a few weeks ago. jenna30-Message #13750 - 11/15/10 03:14 PMDramaQ - PumpkinQ (right?) - at one point, didn't you mention a juice that helped to keep you regular? This thread is so long, correct me if I'm mistaken, but in a prior post, someone has recommended a juice that helps the digestive system. Oh, and apparently some of us are "lucky" enough to have nausea in the 3rd tri. Nothing but time seemed to help during my bouts with nausea in 1st & 2nd tri's. 37 weeks and counting... ---- KGB - your daughter is adorable. regina24601Message #13751 - 11/15/10 03:23 PMEcon - I had no idea you were so close!! Wow, it sounds like you may go early. Enjoy your last days/weeks of pregnancy!! Gusita - DH put the car seat in his car this weekend (it was an assignment from our childbirth class instructor on Saturday ). I told him it was more difficult than it appeared because of needing to get it level and everything, but he didn't believe me. He believes me now!! It's a PITA. We even have the Latch system that makes it way easier, but it's just getting it tight enough and at just the right angle. 30 minutes later, the base is in his car (I still want to take it to get it inspected, but I feel confident that it's probably pretty close to being appropriately installed). We still have to put the other base in my car, but I think that's a task for another weekend. There's really no reason to have it done this early, but everything else is pretty much done, and I'm already getting antsy just sitting around the house, so I feel like I need to DO something, so it was a good diversion. The childbirth class on Saturday was so much fun! We have the second part next Saturday, and that will include a breastfeeding class. The instructor is really good - she doesn't force any methods or beliefs down our throats. Epidural or no pain meds? Whatever works for you. Breastfeed or bottle feed? Your baby can be healthy either way. It's kind of refreshing because I expected something different. DH somehow made it 31 years without ever seeing a live birth. We saw two on Saturday, so his eyes are no longer virgin. It was definitely a new experience for him!! jenna30-Message #13752 - 11/15/10 03:27 PMDH somehow made it 31 years without ever seeing a live birth. We saw two on Saturday, so his eyes are no longer virgin. It was definitely a new experience for him!! I admit, I closed my eyes during those scenes of the movie viewed during class. I just don't have the stomach for it.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:26:29 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #13753 - 11/15/10 03:42 PMWow Jenna, we're both getting really close! I can't believe how little time is left. Regina, I think it's good that you got your car seat in so you don't have to worry about it. My DH finally put ours in a week ago. It was a major pain - we have an older car with no latch system, and DH had to literally get up on the base to get the seat belt tightened enough. We have a Chicco with a built-in level, so it was nice to be able to see for sure that it is level. Gusita, I'm glad the support band is working so well for you. This last month is hitting me like a ton of bricks! I have been feeling great up until now, but I wish I could just stay in bed until she is born. This is the last week that I have to go into work, starting next week I have enough leave banked to stay home if I feel I need to. I have to go back about the same time no matter what (because I do so much of my schoolwork at work, I'm going to need to have the baby go to daycare so I can get studying done next semester). For this semester, I've had one final and I have one big group paper that I need to get done, then I just have a couple of little things to worry about. I can't believe how quickly time goes. I'm about to have a baby, and you all are getting close too! Eternal, I can't believe you're 22 weeks already. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13754 - 11/15/10 04:44 PMWe did have a great time at the Jags game. As with ladyki, my DH and I are hugh Dallas Cowboys fans. Actually, so are my FIL and BIL. However, we live in FL so have never been the Dallas stadium. My DH has been a Cowboys fan since he was small and I've been 1 since they won the Super Bowl in the 90s. We would LOVE to go to the new Dallas stadium, but haven't had a chance yet. My DH talked me into getting season tickets for the Jags since we live in FL and know some people going. We've been having a great time too! jenna30-Message #13755 - 11/15/10 04:46 PMEcon, my due date is December 7th. I had a scare in mid October with kidney stones that sent me to the hospital & caused me to have contractions. As soon as I was released, the next weekend I had the car seat installed by an expert at the local Firehouse. Knowing my luck, hubby would've been scrambling to get the seat installed while I'm at the hospital. I feel so much better now that the crib is built and the car seat base is installed. I spent last weekend washing baby E's bedding & the basics I *know* we will be using. I'm keeping a lot of his clothes in their original packaging just in case they don't fit. I used All Free & Clear after reading the recommendations and issues re: tide on this forum. kjshMessage #13756 - 11/15/10 06:00 PMHappy morning ladies! Add me to the list of those who are ready to be done being pregnant. I have 40 days until my due date - but he needs to stay put for at least 3 more weeks. I know I'll miss feeling him move inside me, but I think it will be more than made up for by getting to hold him. Plus my nausea came back this past weekend and I've been waking up about every hour when I try to sleep at night. Fun times, and I'm sure it's only going to get more fun from here on out In happy news, my friend took me for a pedicure on Friday for my birthday which was fantastic. DH got me a chain that I can put my rings on now and then he's going to get some sort of locket or pendant to put on it after the baby is born. KGB - Avery is adorable! I love that she wanted to help out by combing her hair. Reflector - this week WILL be better! I believe it for you. For DD2, I can only suggest what my parents did for my little sister when she was getting used to our new house. They made a rule that she could come sleep in their bedroom, but it was on the floor and she had to bring her own pillow and blanket. And every few days her spot was moved closer to the door until she was sleeping in the hall and then into her room. In our childbirth class I totally cried both times they showed someone delivering. I'm the hugest sap that I cried at stranger's births. I don't think DH was too wigged out seeing the videos, they were his first birth viewings too. surf-n-sandMessage #13757 - 11/15/10 07:19 PMHi ladies. 11 wks, 3 days, and a great check up! The doctor found the heartbeat very quickly, and it was exactly where it's supposed to be at this point. Very happy day for surf! gardenergirl0804Message #13758 - 11/15/10 07:43 PMjenna, Econ, kjsh - you all are you so! Econ I remember when you were complaining because no one thought you were showing yet! Now you are almost to your due date! I can't believe how this year has flown. kgb - cute picture of Avery! I was wondering who had been cutting her hair. That's great that MIL can do it. I really need to find someone who will trim Olivia's bangs. If I don't push them to the side it hangs down in her face but I don't want to take her to a salon! I think she's a little young for that yet. surf - glad you had a great doc appt!! Does anyone have any advice for me on traveling alone with an 8-month old? I don't know what I'm going to do. DH doesn't know if he will be able to take off extra days for Thanksgiving (right now they are only allowing him to take off the actual holiday) and we had planned to go up to Ohio. I'm determined to go with or without him but don't know how I will do driving for 11 hours by myself with Olivia. It makes me very nervous. But I don't know if I could fly with her either. I don't know if I could manage all the baggage plus carrying her. I just don't know what to do, looking for any advice/suggestions.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:26:42 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #13759 - 11/15/10 07:55 PMjenna, Econ, kjsh - you all are you so! Econ I remember when you were complaining because no one thought you were showing yet! Now you are almost to your due date! I can't believe how this year has flown. There is definitley no missing my bump now! It's funny to look back at my pictures from the summer when no one else could tell I was showing but I was sure I was...I can see now how they didn't see it, I just look a little chubby. Jenna, my due date is December 12 - we're just a few days apart! surf, yay for hearing the heartbeat! That is an amazing sound. regina24601Message #13760 - 11/15/10 08:13 PMsurf - I'm so glad your appointment went well! And that's great they were able to hear the heartbeat so early. They weren't able to find LMSK's heartbeat with the doppler at my 11 week appointment, so I had to wait a WHOLE WEEK ( ) to see and hear it at my 12 week ultrasound. I'm sure you're relieved to hear that little thump thump. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13761 - 11/15/10 08:28 PMI really need to find someone who will trim Olivia's bangs. I tried to cut Avery's bangs once myself. Let's just say it didn't turn out so well ... She's been getting them trimmed since March. Does anyone have any advice for me on traveling alone with an 8-month old? I don't really have any good advice. My last trip to Cleveland with Avery was an adventure, and it was only 2 hours long. She cried a lot and she pooped 3 times while we were on the road! My biggest concern would be how to go to the bathroom with her. I have an Ergo carrier. I know this is horrible, but there have been times when I was out with her and I just went with her strapped to me in the Ergo. I think it would be much harder to do that now that she's big. We did take Avery to the beach this summer, which was a 12 hour drive. She did really well, but I also had DH with me. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13762 - 11/15/10 09:17 PMDoes anyone have any advice for me on traveling alone with an 8-month old? I have gone on all day road trips with the girls, the first when DD1 was about 3 and DD2 was about 6 months. The most important thing is to have a stroller with you so you can put Olivia in it while you go to the bathroom and to hold supplies while you change her. You can leave really early in the morning (I try for 4:30 am) after feeding and changing her. I stop for breakfast, lunch and one other stop. At each stop make sure to gas up the car, go to the bathroom, get something to eat, and feed and exercise the baby. My MO is to drive as far as possible until I am almost out of gas, the baby is really hungry and crying her head off, or I have to pee so bad I can't hold it any more. It usually takes about 3 hours. Then I find the closest McDonalds (my drive is almost all interstate), stop, and BF the baby. Then I go inside, order some food, and sit down. I eat while letting the baby move around as much as possible on my lap or in the stroller. After eating we go to the bathroom, get back in the car and hit the closest gas station, and get back on the road. It is important on a long trip to get as far as possible that first leg because the intervals between stopping will get shorter and shorter. And the last 40 minutes is always awful. I don't know how they always know that we're getting too close to stop one more time, it's like they have a built in time. Road tripping with a baby can be tough but it's totally doable! gardenergirl0804Message #13763 - 11/15/10 09:17 PMI was reading up on how to fly with an infant. It doesn't seem too bad. If the child is under 2 you are not required to buy a seat, you can hold them in your lap. It's a short flight, about an hour and 20 minutes. But I would be lugging everything through the airport alone and changing her on the airplane presents a challenge. I'm worried about how she will do with her ears popping too. I have no problem driving I've done the drive before alone, just not with a baby! Yes, the whole going to the bathroom presents a problem. I can bring her in the carseat into the bathroom but inside the stall would be a squeeze. I'd have to do the drive mostly at night while she's sleeping and I'm worried about having to stay awake. Hmm, the more I think about it the cons outweigh the pros of going alone, that's for sure. I just have to hope DH can get the time off work! gardenergirl0804Message #13764 - 11/15/10 09:20 PMReflector - thanks for the input. It gives me a little bit of hope to hear that someone else has done this before! Those are really good ideas about going as long as you can before stopping and doing everything at once.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:27:07 GMT -5
PalmettoLadyMessage #13765 - 11/15/10 09:30 PMKGB: I've already noticed since wearing maternity clothes this week the need for some additional miscellaneous pieces. So, definitely adding here and there will be a must! Gardener: Maybe drive it at night? Hoping she will mostly sleep? Or try and break the trip in two pieces and stay somewhere overnight? That could help, to at least have as an option in case baby's fussy, etc. Flying might be easier, DH could help you get your stuff checked and get to the plane, then your family could meet you and help you get your stuff at destination... If family or DH can't pick you up and money would allow you can have a private car pick you up (its not as expensive as you'd think) this was someone can help you carry all your junk, when we had one pick us up at the airport last time they met us right where you get your luggage at. I have some great news! DH went out for a promotion (competing against 3 other people in house) and got it! I haven't seen the actual offer package yet (should this week sometime) but it is a management position and will provide a several dollar an hour raise and quarterly bonuses (normally at least 2K). We are thrilled! DH has actually been fulfilling the job duties for 6 months since the previous employee left on Maternity leave then never came back and it has just been a long drawn out process to formally interview, etc. (Long story short -- in those 6 months a new store manager and direct manager were hired-- so lots of changes). The news couldn't come at a better time as we prepare for baby and as we have been contemplating the purchase of a 2nd vehicle (we are a one car family right now), I was really stressing out about the vehicle because it would be close in the budget yet I just couldn't imaging doing the baby transportation with one vehicle because even with just us two right now it gets stressful and I get a ride home a lot which wouldn't work with baby. So- YAY, I'm super excited! boos_momMessage #13766 - 11/15/10 09:37 PMgardener - Does Olivia enjoy car rides? I'm not sure if I'd brave an 11-hour solo car ride with an 8 month old. If you go by plane, you can get a skycap to check your bags at the curb and then when you land, if you can get a baggage rack and maybe your family can park the car and come and get you at the baggage claim? kgb - Avery looks so cute and what a good girl! #2 wasn't too comfortable with getting haircuts until he was maybe 18 months. I'd have to sit with him on my lap. surf - it's so great that you got to hear the h/b! jenna, econ, kjsh - good luck in the home stretch! Time flies by so quickly! palmetto - congrats on DH's promotion and raise! Great timing! reflector - sorry that DD2 isn't sleeping so well these days! Maybe put baby gates on their door and your door? I may need to do that. I expect #2 to have some trouble transitioning from the crib to a bed, since I can picture it already that he will be coming out his bed into our room all the time. re: the trip -- We have family close by, but my mother isn't exactly reliable and someone who can help out for more than a few hours at a time. The ILs aren't really an option for real assistance either since they help out DH's sibling with those grandkids. My mom can help out with drop-off for one child, but I'll still need to drop off the other one and then do pick up for both. It seems that it may only be for one weekday since the other days will be the weekend or a holiday, and I can put him on the red-eye flight out. So, the next thing is finding reasonably priced flights. We've set a budget for the trip, so if the airfare is more, that'll reduce his gambling and food funds. And he needs to find out what the hotel arrangements are going to be. As far as me getting some comparable time, I don't leave the kids, when I'm not working, for more than a few hours at a time. But, since most of our family is nearby, I wouldn't subject my poor friends to a "vacation" with my kids and just me! surf-n-sandMessage #13767 - 11/15/10 09:41 PMEcon- I remember those cute pics of you when you were starting to show! Time has passed so quickly. It will be so exciting to meet your little one soon! gardenergirl0804Message #13768 - 11/15/10 09:59 PMThat's why I'm thinking driving at night because Olivia gets sick of being in the car pretty quick. She'll nap for a couple of hours and we'll take her out and let her play for a bit but she usually does not want to go back in. That and our last drive up to Ohio she got car sick. We started driving at night but decided to stop half way. We should have just kept driving while she slept. Flying looks pretty tempting. That's a good idea about the private car. Palmetto - great news on DH! Congrats!!!! That must be a huge relief. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #13769 - 11/16/10 12:56 AMPalmetto - Congrats on the great news for DH!! gardener - I'm sorry that I don't have any advice on car riding as we don't have kids (yet - currently TTC for our 1st), but we do travel, we generally only stop for food, gas, and bathroom breaks in basically the same stop. Every once in a while, we do stop a rest stop along the interstate for bathroom breaks. Good luck with whatever decision you make! Actually, we'll be going on a 12.5 drive this weekend to visit family - leave early Friday AM and come home Sunday PM. eternal - I can't believe that you are 22 weeks. It seems like yesterday that you announced you were pregnant. surf - Yeah on hearing the heartbeat. I bet that was so exciting. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13770 - 11/16/10 01:11 AMI can't believe that you are 22 weeks. It seems like yesterday that you announced you were pregnant. I can hardly believe it myself. It feels like yesterday I was telling the girls here about my ER visit and then my surgery and recovery. It is so amazing to me how I have swung from one extreme to the other this year, a second pregnancy loss and the intense heartbreak of how longed for that pregnancy had been plus the physical pain and healing....and then now having what has so far been a 100% healthy normal pregnancy and how excited I am that Cole is on his way. It seems so unreal. surf- YAY for the heart beat!! OK ladies, I have been trying not to think about this since my last appointment but I had a nightmare about it last night so I thought I would mention it and see if anyone has any experience with this. At my 20 week u/s the technician said that Cole had some fluid in each of his kidneys. She said that they see this in like 60 - 70% of babies since the technology is more advanced now and they can see minute amounts, but not that long ago they had considered this a soft marker for downs. There are no other indicators for that so I am not worried about downs at all. However, she did say that it can point to a urinary track blockage....basically the logic is that if there is a blockage in the pipes then you see fluid build up in the kidneys. Cole only had 0.2 CCs (I want to say CCs...maybe milliliters? not sure...tiny amount) at our u/s. She and the doctor both said that this was VERY little and could just be from him not peeing recently or some other non-worrisome reason but they would look at it again at my next u/s. I have another u/s at 24 weeks since he wouldn't hold still enough for all the heart measurements (though what she got looked good). THey said that the most likely thing they would see is that it would either A) resolve itself and be a non issue or B) stay the same and they would just tell the pediatrician to be mindful of it. If it gets worse, obviously it could point to a bigger issue, but my doc said that was unlikely. Anyone else see this on u/s? My doctor didn't say anything about doing any extra u/s's to look for this and the tech said that if the heart measures were good at my next visit it would be my last u/s. I have been REALLY good at not worrying about this at all (almost 3 weeks) but last night I had a nightmare that at my u/s they found more fluid and it was a very serious problem. Any experience with this? I'm not getting worried over it (really)....just thought I would see if anyone else saw this.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:27:21 GMT -5
Meg - Mommy to AverieMessage #13771 - 11/16/10 01:25 AMGardener, we took Averie on a flight from Utah to California when she was 4 months old. I don't remember there being a lot of stuff to bring with us. We took her stroller (which we used to cart our stuff too when she wasn't in it) and her car seat, both of which we gate-checked, then the diaper bag and a carry-on (we were only going to be there for 1 day and 1 night). I brought approx. 12 ounces of pumped BM through security both ways and the security people tested it and that was it. If your DD is on formula (I can't remember), I'd just put a can of powder in your carry-on and then buy bottled water after security. We changed her RIGHT before we got on the plane, and luckily she didn't poop or anything in flight so we didn't have to deal with that. I had DH with me during this time but really, I think I would have managed okay without him. I'd much rather fly alone than drive alone, especially with a rear-facing baby (where you can't see their face to smile at them and such to cheer them up). Plus, if it's an 11-hour drive without a baby, it could easily turn into a 14-hour drive if you're stopping every 3 1/2 to 4 hours for food, diaper change, etc. Can't remember who asked, but we haven't heard anything on the job yet. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #13772 - 11/16/10 01:55 AMGardener - I have no advice, but please tell us how it goes! THis time next year DH and I will be taking an 8month old Cole to visit his family in Indiana which is a 12ish hour drive from us even when it is just the 2 of us. I get nervous just thinking about it and Cole isn't even here yet LOL....good luck!! ladykiMessage #13773 - 11/16/10 01:57 AMAs with ladyki, my DH and I are hugh Dallas Cowboys fans I am a Cowboys fan and DH is a Chicago Bear fan, oh and he haaateees the cowboys. But he has mentioned that he wants to go to Dallas in February because the Superbowl will be there. Gardener- I have no advise either, but let us know what you decide and then how it goes. We are planning to go visit my nephew for a few days after Christmas, he is in San Antonio, which makes it a bout a 8 hour drive. This is the first time we go out on a road trip with Kiani so will see how it goes as well. Eternal- I have no advise either. Just try to be calm and hopefully everything will be okay. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13774 - 11/16/10 02:59 AMBoos - thanks for the advice, I had DD2 CIO tonight and I felt awful! It only lasted about 20 minutes but it sounded like someone was torturing her! I just went in to check on the girls and DD2 was in DD1's bed (hogging it actually) and I moved her to her own. I hope this is a short phase! If it lasts longer I'm thinking about doing the sleeping on the floor thing. Eternal - DS did not have the fluid in the kidneys, but I did end up having a lot of very detailed U/S like you are. They mention a whole bunch of stuff that maybe could mean something possibly down the road if this and that. I don't think this constant nitpicking is doing anything good for the mothers. The U/S techs kept telling me that DS's legs were really small. After DD2 being IUGR I didn't want to hear that ANYTHING was small! I finally asked a doc and she told me that the leg measurements are done in such a narrow window that almost no fetus has a normal femur length. I hear this after stressing for 6 weeks that DS could have some kind of abnormality. When DS was born, his legs were a little short but no one but DH and I noticed (after those U/S we were really looking for it). They have lengthened out in the last couple of months and they're not small anymore. Even though the docs seem to think that these U/S tell them so much (and sometimes they do - heart defects, etc.) sometimes they are just looking for things to be wrong, KWIM? gardenergirl0804Message #13775 - 11/16/10 03:10 AMDH is suggesting he drive us up there and he fly back. That way I can stay for about a week and he can come back to work. He'd then fly back up and drive us back. I have a friend that works for Delta that can get him a cheap flight about $60 round trip. After he suggested that I felt better so tomorrow I'll look into arranging all that. That's if he can't get the time off work, which he still has not heard. Nothing like leaving it to the last minute - Thanksgiving is next week! I will definitely let you all know what we decide and how it all goes! Looks like a lot of you have plans to travel with your LO's. We've already made the drive twice now with Olivia but flying with her and driving with her by myself would be new. I think I would much rather fly with her than drive. It would be much quicker. eternal - I wouldn't worry too much about the fluid since the docs don't seem to be. I think it is just your subconscious working out your fears in your dream which is a healthy way to do it. Not sure if you remember but a lot of women on this board have posted about having nightmares before and after being pregnant. It's normal. Once you are pregnant it's like the worrying never ends! And once baby is here you worry and just want to protect your baby like crazy. I had a dream after having Olivia that she was being taken away from me. I sort of slept walked and got up in bed and started pounding on the wall and yelling don't take my baby! It's crazy and scary, but dreams are normal! GusitaRenkrMessage #13776 - 11/16/10 04:10 AMEternal- I wouldn't worry too much if the doctor didn't seem too concerned. I hope the next ultrasound gives you a little more clarity, but it sounds like one of those things that is relatively common. Palmetto-Congrats on DH's promotion! That's awesome. Surfnsand-Congrats on such a good appointment. I just love getting to hear the heartbeat. It's always interesting I think to see where they find it at too. Regina-I want to get ours installed soon, so we'll have it done, but the backseats in both of our cars are such a mess right now I think we'll try to get them cleaned and vacuumed out this weekend so we can get them in and inspected. Glad your class went well! We are going on the hospital tour tomorrow, so I am excited to see the delivery room and the recovery room in person. kgb-This might sound weird, but I think Avery looks more like a little girl than a baby now. She's so precious! I can't believe so many of you ladies are so close to having your babies! Time has just flown by.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:27:45 GMT -5
GusitaRenkrMessage #13777 - 11/16/10 04:35 AMTo all the ladies who recommended JC Penneys for pics, thank you! I got my maternity pics done Saturday, and I am very pleased with how they turned out. The photographer was quick, very efficient and easy to work with. Here are a few of my favorites: KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #13778 - 11/16/10 01:27 PMThanks everyone on the compliments about Avery. I think she's awfully cute, but then again, I am just a little biased. Gusita, your pictures are cute. You're much more brave than I am. I didn't want to expose my tummy at all when I was pregnant. And I agree with you that Avery is starting to look more like a little girl and less like a baby now. It makes me a little sad that she's growing up so fast. palmetto, Congrats on your husband's promotion. That's great. Perfect timing too. Meg, I'm thinking about your DH and his job. gardenergirl, Avery and I will be in the Cleveland area the day after Thanksgiving. Having your DH make the drive with you sounds like a good plan. He's a good guy to do all of that traveling. reflector, hang in there with the sleeping thing. Hopefully this phase will pass quickly. The Reflector - WIRMessage #13779 - 11/16/10 01:51 PMGusita - those pics are great, you look gorgeous! Thanksgiving plans - we run the gauntlet every year. We're driving 2 hours for brunch with DH's dad's family, stopping by DH's best friend's house on the way back (I was hoping to cut this out this year but they just had a baby so it's kind of necessary), then get home hopefully in time to put together our potluck dish and head to DH's mom's family celebration for dinner. Then early Friday we go to FIL's mountain cabin (also about 2 hours away) and stay overnight. I am really hoping to talk DH into coming home late Saturday so that we can have Sunday off. By then we'll be so exhausted that we will need some rest! We do this every year and it is difficult and stressful, but we get to see pretty much all of DH's family in one day. It's usually the only time we get to see some of them. DH's cousin will be at the brunch and bringing her twins that were in the NICU in the spring. She's coming all the way from Germany with 3 kids, I can at least drive 2 hours to see her. gardenergirl0804Message #13780 - 11/16/10 02:12 PMGusita - I can't see your pics All I see are X's where the pics should be. I'll have to wait and see if I can look at them at home. But I am sure they are beautiful! kgb - I really want to try to get together with you while I'm up there! Even if it's just coffee for a half hour or something we should try to meet. I have to figure out my travel plans first then I'll let you know what's happening. And I agree, Avery looks like a little lady She looks like she's going to be quite an independent little girl! I forgot to mention yesterday - Olivia's tooth broke through over the weekend! We finally saw it on Sunday! I let her suck on my finger and I felt it! I was like, Oh my goodness! You have a tooth!! It's hard to get her to show it to us because every time we pull down her lip to look at it she sticks her tongue out! Hee hee. The only time we can see it is when she smiles REAL big or when she's crying. Here's a pic I took of her on Sunday. She's wearing a sweater her great-grandmother knitted for her. I can't believe how fast she's growing up. She's even trying to pull up on things. I think she is going to be like DH. Walk and just not even bother crawling. She really wants to walk and she's able to push up on her legs all on her own. We hold her by the tips of her fingers and she has perfect balance. It's crazy. ElfQ1015Message #13781 - 11/16/10 02:33 PMEternal I would try not to worry too much, I agree with Reflector that for some reason U/S techs feel the need to tell you EVERYTHING that could possibly be wrong, which does no good for a hormonal pregnant woman, all it does is make us freak out. I posted about it on here already, but the lab f-ed up my alpha fetal protein test. They ran it as a NON-PREGNANT woman! So my levels came up "high" (because, duh, non-pregnant women don't have AFP in their bloodstream!) before double checking my OB calls me to tell me that I have to come back in for a speacil ultrasound with a perinatologist because a high level of AFP indicates possible down syndrome BUT "it's probably nothing". Uh... yeah that made me feel so much better! You just said the words DOWN SYNDROME and PERINATOLOGIST in the same sentence, saying "it's probably nothing" is not going to soothe me. I get a call an hour later saying "Oops, the perinatologist caught that it was a mistake when we forwarded your file for the u/s". I have never been so angry in my life. DH had to stop me from going down there and tearing their lab to pieces. For some reason they think that it is better to tell you so you "know" than keep you in the dark. In some aspects I agree, but for pete's sake double check before you say things like "Down's Syndrome". Would it have really killed my OB to wait till the perinatologist saw my charts before she called me? Would it kill the U/S technician to wait and let the doctor who analyzes your ultrasounds tell you about the fluid? NO. I would not worry about what a technician says personally. Wait to see what your doctor says after your u/s slides are analyzed properly. surf-n-sandMessage #13782 - 11/16/10 02:37 PMPalmetto- Congrats on your DH's promotion! Gusita- I was surprised at how low the baby still is. I thought it would be a little higher by now. I guess that will come. It was a strong heartbeat though, and the doctor found it immediately. Then my smile followed immediately! Great preggo pictures!!!!
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