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Post by oped on Jan 16, 2020 20:34:12 GMT -5
Son’s awards came in lower this year and when I looked I realized he hadn’t gotten his portfolio scholarship wasn’t listed... and in fact was never given last year although it was guaranteed at acceptance. I called about it and not only did they put the portfolio on, refund me the portfolio from last year, they also bumped the other one back up... I sometimes do think they will do what they can get away with .,.? So I agree call and ask and suggest it might be the deciding factor... can’t hurt.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jan 16, 2020 22:09:47 GMT -5
I don't think you're supposed to accept at more than one place at a time even if it's not ED. Either way, putting several hundred down on more than one wasnt really affordable. This school just happens to have a refundable deposit so we figured why not. Get in line for housing early. Most dont refund those deposits. Eh, I worked in the admission office in college and it happens all the time, especially with people who can afford to do so. In would feel zero hesitation or guilt about making them think you are second guessing your decision.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 17, 2020 7:18:49 GMT -5
E had 1 bug bite on her back 2 nights ago. Last night she had 20 of the same kinds of bumps. She had a stomach ache but fell asleep quick. But she woke up nauseous with diarrhea. I dont do vomit and we have an ample supply of zofran for the kids so gave her one and we're happily coloring at dark-oclock. Rash looks the same this morning so probably just a virus but I need to decide if she can go to school.
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Post by alabamagal on Jan 17, 2020 7:41:39 GMT -5
Son’s awards came in lower this year and when I looked I realized he hadn’t gotten his portfolio scholarship wasn’t listed... and in fact was never given last year although it was guaranteed at acceptance. I called about it and not only did they put the portfolio on, refund me the portfolio from last year, they also bumped the other one back up... I sometimes do think they will do what they can get away with .,.? So I agree call and ask and suggest it might be the deciding factor... can’t hurt. Lesson I always had trouble getting into my kids head was “trust but verify”, especially when money is involved. They assume everything will be correct, but there are always errors or sometimes intentional mixups.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 17, 2020 9:14:55 GMT -5
I picked up C from school yesterday and he was trying so hard not to cry in school. He had a fight with his best friend. Poor kiddo. We talked a bit and snuggled some. He was feeling better last night. Not sure about this morning. We're all discombobulated. Thank God it's Friday. He did ask me not to talk to his friend's mom about it. I told him I'd only talk to her about it if she brought it up (at some point he physically pushed his friend) and he was ok with that.
K's cramping. I'm crushing up pamprin type pills because she can't swallow pills.
We're all happy about a 3 day weekend. Well, DH isn't because he's got to go in on Sunday and Monday is a normal workday for him.
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Post by azucena on Jan 18, 2020 18:45:52 GMT -5
Mpl - about 20 yrs ago I had a higher scholarship offer at my second choice school that I then took to first choice and told first choice that I really wanted to attend but was going to have to choose the option that cost me less since I was on my own for school funding. I figured it didnt hurt to ask. First choice found money to match second choice which made my choice easy
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Post by justme on Jan 18, 2020 23:09:57 GMT -5
You might as well ask the colleges. I had several that gave me free application fees but none were willing to meet the scholarships I got from an in state school. (Including my room I was for sure under $10k total for all four years of college.) For my grad degree another school was calling me all the time to go - I told them to match my scholarship (I graduated with $6k in savings) and they wouldn't.
So my track record isn't the best but I do know some negotiate.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 11:06:03 GMT -5
I guess it's worth a try, but I'm not real confident the state schools have that much money to throw around. Private seem to be the ones that will work with people more. We thought the grants were a sure thing too and if they don't come through then it's really not going to be affordable. Thank goodness he got into UMN. It's a very good option with everything he wants that is affordable (probably...we're still waiting for the FA from there too!), he just didn't have the "I love this place feeling like he did at Iowa State.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 20, 2020 11:28:01 GMT -5
I guess it's worth a try, but I'm not real confident the state schools have that much money to throw around. Private seem to be the ones that will work with people more. We thought the grants were a sure thing too and if they don't come through then it's really not going to be affordable. Thank goodness he got into UMN. It's a very good option with everything he wants that is affordable (probably...we're still waiting for the FA from there too!), he just didn't have the "I love this place feeling like he did at Iowa State. Can he live at home and go to UMN?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 11:35:17 GMT -5
I guess it's worth a try, but I'm not real confident the state schools have that much money to throw around. Private seem to be the ones that will work with people more. We thought the grants were a sure thing too and if they don't come through then it's really not going to be affordable. Thank goodness he got into UMN. It's a very good option with everything he wants that is affordable (probably...we're still waiting for the FA from there too!), he just didn't have the "I love this place feeling like he did at Iowa State. Can he live at home and go to UMN? No. It's 2 hours away. The two local colleges don't have engineering programs. Well, the one does, but only composite engineering.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 12:06:06 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady If you don't ask, the answer is no. If you don't ask, they can't say yes. Oldest DGS applied to a couple of private schools, a couple of out-of-state schools, four in-state schools. He was accepted at all of them, and what it boiled down to was money. The school he wanted most was UGA, offering the least. So he told them what was offered by his next choice. The difference was more than a few thousand dollars. They matched it. Ask. They aren't going to say "You can't come here after all because you asked for more money." Here's what I want to know today. Why is it that all the daffodil and tulip bulbs are not sprouting at the same time? In all three flower beds, some are sprouting, some are not. In each bed, they are in the same growing conditions, same soil, same amount of sun. What gives?
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 20, 2020 12:08:56 GMT -5
Can he live at home and go to UMN? No. It's 2 hours away. The two local colleges don't have engineering programs. Well, the one does, but only composite engineering.
That's not bad. Far enough away that he gets some independence yet close enough that you can get to him in a reasonable amount of time if he had an emergency.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 12:18:06 GMT -5
No. It's 2 hours away. The two local colleges don't have engineering programs. Well, the one does, but only composite engineering.
That's not bad. Far enough away that he gets some independence yet close enough that you can get to him in a reasonable amount of time if he had an emergency. Yeah, it would be convenient. And being in downtown Minneapolis, he's close to other family. My dad and brother and sister and their spouses are all within about 20 minutes of the U if he ever needs anything and he could catch rides with them back to our town as they come down fairly frequently to visit.
Iowa State is about 3.5 hours (3 with how I drive) and nobody we know down there. Still not bad and the drive is only like 3 total turns from our house! Very boring drive though. All interstate with no towns so you have to plan your gas stops carefully.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 20, 2020 14:12:11 GMT -5
Found DH has lost about 50 pounds. Last time he wore his suit was when my grandpa died. Tried it on for his interview on Friday and the pants fell off. There was no way for me to tuck that much in and even if I could the legs pooled around his knees. He looked like he was borrowing his best friend's clothes who is 6'3'.
So he wore his jeans along with a nice shirt and the jacket. Fortunately the jacket still fits but the arms could be taken in a tad. He got a second interview and a job shadow out of it so they must not have been too upset with his attire.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 20, 2020 14:52:11 GMT -5
I went to the gyno today and she said "I'll let you get dressed. I'm going to go pop an IUD into your next door neighbor here and then I'll come back and we'll talk more about your options so you can think a little." Next I heard a bunch of screaming from a seemingly young girl next door. I wanted to go over there and say "If you think that hurts try pushing a baby out of that thing. Woman up!" I figured that would be frowned upon though.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 20, 2020 15:38:21 GMT -5
Honestly I found getting the IUD to be worse than child birth. Your mileage may vary.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 15:42:23 GMT -5
Honestly I found getting the IUD to be worse than child birth. Your mileage may vary. You must have had a really bad IUD experience. Even my easy second birth was way worse if only for the fact that it was 12 hours of labor vs. 2 minutes of putting in the IUD.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 20, 2020 16:02:48 GMT -5
I tilt to the right which makes insertion difficult. Apparently for shoving kids out tilting didn't make a world of difference but it sure as shit made one getting an IUD.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 20, 2020 17:24:18 GMT -5
I guess I'll find out. I'm tilted too and when my period starts I'm supposed to call so I can go get an IUD.
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Post by justme on Jan 20, 2020 20:38:26 GMT -5
I went to the gyno today and she said "I'll let you get dressed. I'm going to go pop an IUD into your next door neighbor here and then I'll come back and we'll talk more about your options so you can think a little." Next I heard a bunch of screaming from a seemingly young girl next door. I wanted to go over there and say "If you think that hurts try pushing a baby out of that thing. Woman up!" I figured that would be frowned upon though. The first thing I said after I stopped screaming from my first IUD was "good thing that's for birth control cuz there's no way in fucking hell I'm having a kid if that little thing hurts that much". Made my doctor crack up laughing. Second IUD wasn't bad at all but my doctor gave me misoprisrol so that probably helped.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 20, 2020 20:50:49 GMT -5
I nearly passed out from IUD insertion and I took the rest of the day and the following day off work. It was terrible. Worth it, but still terrible.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 20, 2020 21:45:54 GMT -5
I was planning on still going to the gym that evening. I figure if I've sat through 12 tattoos, 8 piercings, two children born, and a tummy tuck in a pear tree that I'll be golden.
Both girls said it wasn't that bad.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2020 22:04:31 GMT -5
I had mine put in over lunch hour at work, so you might be fine.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 20, 2020 22:10:56 GMT -5
I went to the gyno today and she said "I'll let you get dressed. I'm going to go pop an IUD into your next door neighbor here and then I'll come back and we'll talk more about your options so you can think a little." Next I heard a bunch of screaming from a seemingly young girl next door. I wanted to go over there and say "If you think that hurts try pushing a baby out of that thing. Woman up!" I figured that would be frowned upon though. The first thing I said after I stopped screaming from my first IUD was "good thing that's for birth control cuz there's no way in fucking hell I'm having a kid if that little thing hurts that much". Made my doctor crack up laughing. Second IUD wasn't bad at all but my doctor gave me misoprisrol so that probably helped. I'm making a note to ask for this next time. Not only do I tilt my cervix is abnormally tight thanks to that LEEP I had when I was 19. The first two I got at my 6 week appointments so I was still pretty loose up there. This last one in 2018 was awful. I make myself do it because it's worth it for the no periods (I'm lucky mine stop completely) and no side effects compared to the pill. I'm debating at least one more that'll take me to at least 46-47 and my mom had her last period in her early 50s so I could ride out menopause. But I'm drugging my ass up the next time. I can't do another sober.
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Post by justme on Jan 21, 2020 1:01:04 GMT -5
The first thing I said after I stopped screaming from my first IUD was "good thing that's for birth control cuz there's no way in fucking hell I'm having a kid if that little thing hurts that much". Made my doctor crack up laughing. Second IUD wasn't bad at all but my doctor gave me misoprisrol so that probably helped. I'm making a note to ask for this next time. Not only do I tilt my cervix is abnormally tight thanks to that LEEP I had when I was 19. The first two I got at my 6 week appointments so I was still pretty loose up there. This last one in 2018 was awful. I make myself do it because it's worth it for the no periods (I'm lucky mine stop completely) and no side effects compared to the pill. I'm debating at least one more that'll take me to at least 46-47 and my mom had her last period in her early 50s so I could ride out menopause. But I'm drugging my ass up the next time. I can't do another sober. She also gave me a xanax and percocet (the script was 1 pill each) to take in office after I signed everything. She originally had mentioned valium but gave me xanax. Unfortunately my ride had to back out last minute so I did it sans that. Though it wasn't anywhere near as painful (I had a decent amount of bleeding and mad cramps for 24 hours after the first time). I ended up taking the percocet later in the day, but the cold I started getting the night before turned awful by the night so I was taking it for non uterus pains lol Way less cramps this go round and way less spotting. Still some so that's kinda annoying. I still have killer cramps randomly but way less than the first time. The first go round was downright awful but I loved the 5 years no fuss. I just told my doctor I wasn't doing it sans meds this time and assuming that helped. I'll be asking for them again in 4 years.
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Post by chen35 on Jan 21, 2020 10:07:52 GMT -5
I was so nervous about getting an IUD that I cancelled the appointment and told DH he needed to get a vasectomy (which still hasn't happened, but allowing our infertility and too tiredness to have sex to act as birth control worked fine for when I really didn't want to get pregnant, lol). I do have a fibroid that pushes my cervix closed a bit, so I was really concerned.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 10:17:24 GMT -5
Can you imagine if it was men who had to deal with IUDs? Imagine they would not appreciate being told that "it's worth it to not get pregnant". Same goes for any other form of birth control that women are expected to just suck it up and endure the side effects of. A huge reason why men's birth control is not on the market is because even the smallest side effect is deemed unacceptable and they refuse to take it. So thousands of dollars get poured down the drain in the name of side effect free birth control for men but I have to suck it up. Nice.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 21, 2020 10:56:35 GMT -5
True. Here's the kicker. I had my tubes tied long ago. I can't get pregnant. I'm just getting the IUD to help with the awful bleeding from my "healthy" uterus which no one wants to take out even though I don't need it.
Men will never understand, yet feel the need to tell women to just suck it up. While we're at it, we're expected to look a certain way, do women's duties at home, and not speak unless spoken to basically.
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Post by chen35 on Jan 21, 2020 11:16:46 GMT -5
I will give DH props for that one. When I told him how worried I was he told me he would just get a vasectomy. "It's not that big of a deal". He had one before, so he knows. He had it reversed so we could have kids.
Like I said he hasn't done it yet, but that has been more of a timing/inconvenience for both of us more than anything. We also wouldn't have been too upset if I would have gotten pregnant, the timing just would have been hard. So it wasn't an urgent issue for us. I did tell him at the beginning of the year that now that I'm approaching 40 I don't want to get pregnant outside of our frozen embryo's, so it's on his list for sooner rather than later.
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