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Post by swamp on Jan 21, 2020 12:22:53 GMT -5
they can fuck right off, keep fucking off, and fuck off again.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 21, 2020 13:19:59 GMT -5
I'm making a note to ask for this next time. Not only do I tilt my cervix is abnormally tight thanks to that LEEP I had when I was 19. The first two I got at my 6 week appointments so I was still pretty loose up there. This last one in 2018 was awful. I make myself do it because it's worth it for the no periods (I'm lucky mine stop completely) and no side effects compared to the pill. I'm debating at least one more that'll take me to at least 46-47 and my mom had her last period in her early 50s so I could ride out menopause. But I'm drugging my ass up the next time. I can't do another sober. She also gave me a xanax and percocet (the script was 1 pill each) to take in office after I signed everything. She originally had mentioned valium but gave me xanax. Unfortunately my ride had to back out last minute so I did it sans that. Though it wasn't anywhere near as painful (I had a decent amount of bleeding and mad cramps for 24 hours after the first time). I ended up taking the percocet later in the day, but the cold I started getting the night before turned awful by the night so I was taking it for non uterus pains lol Way less cramps this go round and way less spotting. Still some so that's kinda annoying. I still have killer cramps randomly but way less than the first time. The first go round was downright awful but I loved the 5 years no fuss. I just told my doctor I wasn't doing it sans meds this time and assuming that helped. I'll be asking for them again in 4 years. If you have Mirena you can go longer than five years now! I thought I was going to have to get a new one this past summer but my gyno said the research shows they can go longer. When my period starts to come back I'll get a new one, and heavily drug myself. Hubs still plans on getting a vasectomy even though I have a Mirena. I think he's looking forward to a day off work and me being nice to him, lol.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 13:28:46 GMT -5
7 years currently and the midwife said it's possible they could end up being able to go even longer.
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Post by swamp on Jan 21, 2020 13:32:45 GMT -5
She also gave me a xanax and percocet (the script was 1 pill each) to take in office after I signed everything. She originally had mentioned valium but gave me xanax. Unfortunately my ride had to back out last minute so I did it sans that. Though it wasn't anywhere near as painful (I had a decent amount of bleeding and mad cramps for 24 hours after the first time). I ended up taking the percocet later in the day, but the cold I started getting the night before turned awful by the night so I was taking it for non uterus pains lol Way less cramps this go round and way less spotting. Still some so that's kinda annoying. I still have killer cramps randomly but way less than the first time. The first go round was downright awful but I loved the 5 years no fuss. I just told my doctor I wasn't doing it sans meds this time and assuming that helped. I'll be asking for them again in 4 years. If you have Mirena you can go longer than five years now! I thought I was going to have to get a new one this past summer but my gyno said the research shows they can go longer. When my period starts to come back I'll get a new one, and heavily drug myself. Hubs still plans on getting a vasectomy even though I have a Mirena. I think he's looking forward to a day off work and me being nice to him, lol. make sure you get him his own special bag of frozen peas to ice his junk.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 13:46:25 GMT -5
If we didn't live in a land of sexism to me it would make FAR more sense for men to have to be in charge of birth control. Yeah I am the one who can get pregnant but I can only get pregnant every nine months. How many babies can a man make in that same time period? You don't want to be "trapped' then take your damn pill. Don't take your pill, then get 5 jobs to support all your kids because you aren't receiving one single dime from tax payers you immoral whore. Personal responsibility and all that yanno.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 21, 2020 14:06:20 GMT -5
If you have Mirena you can go longer than five years now! I thought I was going to have to get a new one this past summer but my gyno said the research shows they can go longer. When my period starts to come back I'll get a new one, and heavily drug myself. Hubs still plans on getting a vasectomy even though I have a Mirena. I think he's looking forward to a day off work and me being nice to him, lol. make sure you get him his own special bag of frozen peas to ice his junk. He will use the ice packs we already own and he will like it!
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Post by justme on Jan 21, 2020 14:06:40 GMT -5
She also gave me a xanax and percocet (the script was 1 pill each) to take in office after I signed everything. She originally had mentioned valium but gave me xanax. Unfortunately my ride had to back out last minute so I did it sans that. Though it wasn't anywhere near as painful (I had a decent amount of bleeding and mad cramps for 24 hours after the first time). I ended up taking the percocet later in the day, but the cold I started getting the night before turned awful by the night so I was taking it for non uterus pains lol Way less cramps this go round and way less spotting. Still some so that's kinda annoying. I still have killer cramps randomly but way less than the first time. The first go round was downright awful but I loved the 5 years no fuss. I just told my doctor I wasn't doing it sans meds this time and assuming that helped. I'll be asking for them again in 4 years. If you have Mirena you can go longer than five years now! I thought I was going to have to get a new one this past summer but my gyno said the research shows they can go longer. When my period starts to come back I'll get a new one, and heavily drug myself. Hubs still plans on getting a vasectomy even though I have a Mirena. I think he's looking forward to a day off work and me being nice to him, lol. I'm not sure how the rules are on all of that. I actually got mine switched out just over a year ago but it was like a week or two past insertion day of the original one and they made me wait for a pregnancy test before the procedure. I think they still said 5 years when I got the new one too.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 21, 2020 14:51:56 GMT -5
If you have Mirena you can go longer than five years now! I thought I was going to have to get a new one this past summer but my gyno said the research shows they can go longer. When my period starts to come back I'll get a new one, and heavily drug myself. Hubs still plans on getting a vasectomy even though I have a Mirena. I think he's looking forward to a day off work and me being nice to him, lol. I'm not sure how the rules are on all of that. I actually got mine switched out just over a year ago but it was like a week or two past insertion day of the original one and they made me wait for a pregnancy test before the procedure. I think they still said 5 years when I got the new one too. I got mine in June 2014 and still have it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 14:53:03 GMT -5
I was told seven years is approved by the FDA now and I got mine in 2018.
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Post by justme on Jan 21, 2020 15:13:02 GMT -5
I honestly didn't press because my insurance paid for the whole visit. Or like all but $10.
I think I got the first in 2013 though...yeah 2013 because mine got replaced in 2018.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 15:20:40 GMT -5
I didn't have to press she just told me because we were talking about scheduling hassles and she said the nice thing is the FDA has now approved it for seven years, no more having to make sure I get in either before or exactly at five years. The data has apparently been out for awhile but she said doctors couldn't say anything until official approval had been given by the FDA. I got mine in November of 2018.
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Post by justme on Jan 21, 2020 15:27:58 GMT -5
Well I meant like it sounds like my first one hit 5 years right when the approval went out by the FDA since I got my 2nd one the same month you did. I asked why they were making me taking the pregnancy test (mainly because I had heard about it being 7 years now), but when they were like oh it's right after 5 years so we have to test because it's expired I didn't press about them being approved for 7 years.
I honestly have no idea what they told me for the new one in terms of years but I know they mentioned something. I was sick as hell when I got it switched out and just wanted to get back to bed ASAP.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 10:23:36 GMT -5
I am doing so much better, but I still really struggle not telling Ex 2.0 off.
Friday there is a Cub scout overnight. It's his weekend. He agreed to let him go to the meeting, but then I'm taking him to his house and he's not spending the night. In two weeks (also his weekend), is the Winter camp day on Saturday 2/8. They ice fish, sled, play hockey...stuff like that. I am currently trying to negotiate a "deal" to get him that day.
Meanwhile, he tells me how he's trying hard to get back in the Scouts and but it's so slow with everything being through snail mail. Then he says, "I feel so sorry for Carrot". Um...Carrot is fine. He has not once in the past year said "Man, I wish my dad could be here" at meetings or acted sad about him not being there. Lots of kids just have mom (or nobody) there with them at all, so it's not like he's the only kid without a dad at a scout meeting. He has fun. His biggest obstacle is not being able to do the things on his dad's weekend because his dad is completely inflexible it seems.
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Post by finnime on Jan 22, 2020 12:52:32 GMT -5
For Carrot's sake I hope you're able to work out something with Ex 2.0, minnesotapaintlady. And I empathize. My X was obdurate when it came to any changes in the visitation schedule. My DS refused to see him often, and eventually, not at all, when he was old enough. It sucks. Is it possible your ex would be willing to look at the Scout calendar ahead of time with you and agree to switch off on weekends when he is supposed to see Carrot and an event is being held? If he's saying that scouts is good for Carrot and that he wishes he could go, then maybe... It would beat running uphill every event trying to negotiate again.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 22, 2020 13:26:58 GMT -5
From what you have said, Ex 2.0 is not getting back in the Scouts.
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Post by justme on Jan 22, 2020 13:35:40 GMT -5
If he's trying so hard to get back in scouts, why is he not allowing his son to participate in scouts when it's his time. Oh wait...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 13:36:59 GMT -5
I have no idea. I'm not apart of that process and don't ask him how it's going. According to him they think there is still a no contact order with Carrot and I, which there isn't.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 13:41:17 GMT -5
If he's trying so hard to get back in scouts, why is he not allowing his son to participate in scouts when it's his time. Oh wait... Because he's selfish. It's HIS time. I get him, "ALL the time".
Meanwhile, half the weekends I have him I have to work or my mom takes him somewhere. Last year she took him on a vacation over spring break where he missed one of Dad's weekends and one of mine. I gave into the whining and let him have another weekend to make up for him missing his. Nevermind that it means I didn't get him for 4 weekends straight, because I have him "ALL the time" I think he attributes way too much to the weekdays. We get home between 5 and 5:30 if we don't have scouts or piano or whatever else, then it's do barn chores, make dinner and get him to bed by 8. Weekday mornings? LOL There's some quality time.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 22, 2020 17:55:31 GMT -5
C won his school spelling bee and gets to go to the district. I know he didn't work that hard, but it was still a good boost for him. And I think he'll practice some at home now to prep for the next one.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 22, 2020 19:51:40 GMT -5
If he's trying so hard to get back in scouts, why is he not allowing his son to participate in scouts when it's his time. Oh wait... Because he's selfish. It's HIS time. I get him, "ALL the time".
Meanwhile, half the weekends I have him I have to work or my mom takes him somewhere. Last year she took him on a vacation over spring break where he missed one of Dad's weekends and one of mine. I gave into the whining and let him have another weekend to make up for him missing his. Nevermind that it means I didn't get him for 4 weekends straight, because I have him "ALL the time" I think he attributes way too much to the weekdays. We get home between 5 and 5:30 if we don't have scouts or piano or whatever else, then it's do barn chores, make dinner and get him to bed by 8. Weekday mornings? LOL There's some quality time.
Your ex is forgetting that parenting isn't supposed to be about him. He's supposed to be inserting and contorting his life to fit into carrots not the other way around. My dh was really sad a while back that the kids didn't seem to notice/remember/talk about the fun things he did with them and only ever focused on him sleeping (or yelling). I tried to tell him that fun weekly outing is great but the drudgery is really what life is about so if you can't be around and emotionally available during those times no amount of fun times can make up for it.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 22, 2020 19:58:34 GMT -5
At dad's eulogy, we talked about how he used to sleep in an ugly green recliner but always knew what station the television was on and we couldn't change it. Two little girls remember the color of the ugly recliner. We talked about some fun things, too, but the thing that stuck out in both of our minds was the ugly green recliner and not being able to change the channel on the television. We didn't mention that for years (while he still drank when he bowled on Friday nights), we were not allowed to bother him while he slept in the ugly green chair until he had a Pepsi.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 20:09:11 GMT -5
My kids remember that their dad got so ticked one evening at dinner that he left the table and stomped outside. We (the kids and I) got a serious case of the giggles and just couldn't stop.
Whatsisname, their dad, was raised like an only child in a very conservative and undemonstrative family. His only brother was already gone to boarding school when he was born to over-40 parents. One was discouraged from talking at the table. Then he went to boarding school at age 12 where talking at the table wasn't just discouraged but forbidden. Therefore, he believed that children simply did not speak at the dinner table. Breakfast and lunch, okay. Dinner not okay.
One evening we spoke. Then we laughed. Then we got the giggles. Then Whatsisname left the table. They remember that.
Whatsisname has mellowed since then. He remembers that occasion, too.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 20:43:41 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady, that boarding school was St. John's Prep in Collegeville. Small world.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2020 20:53:00 GMT -5
Tonight I told Carrot I was wondering if Grandma was going to take him on a trip for spring break again like she did last year, and that I thought it would be really nice if she did now that he wasn't afraid to fly anymore. He said, "Well, not for you, you'll still be here in the cold missing me". I told him it made me really happy when my kids got to experience things and enjoy life. I don't care if I get him every other weekend. My older son hasn't been home most weekends for the past several years.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 24, 2020 8:26:40 GMT -5
So debate for your ladies. To relieve stress and get my mind off stuff I've been browsing tattoos because I'd like to get one more to round out the pattern on my arms.
I found one of a female budha which I am in love with. DH says absolutely not because the figure is naked. He mansplained to me that the naked female body on my arm is inappropriate and "I am aware that tattoos are permenant right?" (no really I only have three of them already). I pointed out plenty of men have naked women tattooed all over them and nobody says squat.
It's not like we're talking a porn spread. The legs are closed, all you can see are breasts. Whoopee. I see bigger more offensive titties every time several male neighbors take off their shirts to mow the lawn.
It'd be the same size as my others and on my upper arm so I can cover it up if I needed to. His attitude makes me want it even more.
The piece is art. I get really pissed when people treat the female body like it's something gross that needs to be hidden and that I must be "modest". I've decided I want a tattoo that represents my feminist side so now I want this tattoo even more to drive the point home.
So setting aside personal opinion on tattoos themselves, anyone else find the idea of a female body tattoo on an actual female body "offensive?"
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2020 8:41:27 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015 Nope. I find swastikas offensive. I find daggers offensive, especially if they're dripping blood.
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Post by CCL on Jan 24, 2020 8:48:59 GMT -5
I think when deciding if something is "offensive" you do need to consider whether it is offensive to others, not just yourself. If you can easily cover it, though, I wouldn't worry about it either way. If that's what you want and you can afford it, then go get it.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jan 24, 2020 8:56:57 GMT -5
I think when deciding if something is "offensive" you do need to consider whether it is offensive to others, not just yourself. If you can easily cover it, though, I wouldn't worry about it either way. If that's what you want and you can afford it, then go get it. I don't care for tattoos at all but other people love them and as it's their bodies then they can do whatever they please. I also don't find an artistic representation of the female form to remotely be pornographic. I do wonder, however, if you would be so opposed to your husband's strenuous dislike of this particular image if you weren't so mad at him right now. Is this another way to emotionally separate yourself from him?
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Post by Pants on Jan 24, 2020 9:03:20 GMT -5
So debate for your ladies. To relieve stress and get my mind off stuff I've been browsing tattoos because I'd like to get one more to round out the pattern on my arms. I found one of a female budha which I am in love with. DH says absolutely not because the figure is naked. He mansplained to me that the naked female body on my arm is inappropriate and "I am aware that tattoos are permenant right?" (no really I only have three of them already). I pointed out plenty of men have naked women tattooed all over them and nobody says squat. It's not like we're talking a porn spread. The legs are closed, all you can see are breasts. Whoopee. I see bigger more offensive titties every time several male neighbors take off their shirts to mow the lawn. It'd be the same size as my others and on my upper arm so I can cover it up if I needed to. His attitude makes me want it even more. The piece is art. I get really pissed when people treat the female body like it's something gross that needs to be hidden and that I must be "modest". I've decided I want a tattoo that represents my feminist side so now I want this tattoo even more to drive the point home. So setting aside personal opinion on tattoos themselves, anyone else find the idea of a female body tattoo on an actual female body "offensive?" I would not put a tattoo of a naked female body on my body because it reminds me too much of all the gross “pinup art” that dudes get tattooed on themselves. But I have no moral objection to it, just the historical connection with female objectification. None of that matters - it’s your body, you do what you want with it.
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Post by CCL on Jan 24, 2020 9:24:07 GMT -5
I think when deciding if something is "offensive" you do need to consider whether it is offensive to others, not just yourself. If you can easily cover it, though, I wouldn't worry about it either way. If that's what you want and you can afford it, then go get it. I don't care for tattoos at all but other people love them and as it's their bodies then they can do whatever they please. I also don't find an artistic representation of the female form to remotely be pornographic. I do wonder, however, if you would be so opposed to your husband's strenuous dislike of this particular image if you weren't so mad at him right now. Is this another way to emotionally separate yourself from him? Or you could reverse that and question why he dislikes it so much.
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