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Post by swamp on Oct 7, 2019 13:20:43 GMT -5
I went grocery shopping yesterday, and Ben and Jerry's pints were on sale. DD looked through the freezer and saw them.
DD: Oh, there's Ben and Jerry's. Can I have some. DH: No, that's mom's. It's her anti crabby medicine DD: It's not working.
Fuckers.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 8, 2019 9:42:48 GMT -5
E wrote me a note this morning that said, "Dear Mom I love you and I hate you. So Thier".
It is so hard to be a 6 year old with big emotions. And even though the strep test was negative, I won't be at all surprised if I get a call today that the culture was positive. She has wanted to go to school so we've let her, but both kids put themselves to bed before 7pm last night.
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Post by geenamercile on Oct 8, 2019 19:03:27 GMT -5
Drama when the girls shared a room we had a loft bed for each and even a curtain we hung from the ceiling that they could close and have their own space.
ODD made it about 1/2 way through the 4-H meeting that she wanted to go to. Then her anxiety was to much and we left. I think she will do better with the time at the farm working with the animals this was a business meeting and electing officers for the new year. They have the business meetings once a month. Also if she can get to know some of the other kids one on one, when they are working with their animals it will be better too. Fingers crossed we can get this to work. There was only like 12 kids and their parents there. This weekend we have six flags with A and her daughter on Saturday for their freight feast thing, and the apple festival on Sunday.
ETA-It is so much harder as a parent then a mentor or teacher. I really wanted to push her to stay more, and we did stay for a bit longer after her first I want to go stage. But even though one side of me was saying we are pushing into the danger zone, the other side wanted to push. Beginning to pick at her skin on her arm, hunching over more ect, I still just wanted to tell her to stop and get through it... I don't have that 2nd side with my students. I also don't want to break in tears, like I did when talking to on of the people in charge who stepped to the side and talked to me when leaving so we could still set up the farm time, when talking about things to my co-workers.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 9, 2019 8:07:39 GMT -5
One the kids we hang out with after school just got tagged with anxiety and something else by her pediatrician. It's technically not an official diagnosis because the pedi isn't supposed to diagnosis that. It's also more of a confirmation to what the mom assumed/suspected. The Mom's making appointments but it's 3 months before she can get her daughter in to be seen by a therapist. The school's got a social worker available but my friend doesn't think that will help.
C's class has started my favorite school project - the Castle project. They have to draw or construct a Castle. C is opting to use Legos to construct one. We started it over the weekend, before we had the official instructions. C is going to have to rebuild a couple of walls as the door needs to be on the long side and he built it on the short side, like I'd suggested. Oops. He's got to label at least 7 parts of the Castle, in German. He's also got to write a story about it. He and I have been digging through all the Legos bins in the house, looking for the right shaped bricks for what he's building. My Mom's agreed that he can dig thru her Lego collection for additional bricks as needed. Rough drafts of the writing portion are due on the 23rd. I'm not sure what the final due date is.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 9, 2019 8:33:12 GMT -5
That sounds fun Beth!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 9, 2019 8:48:46 GMT -5
It is. K wanted to do hers out of cardboard and paper so we did that, 2 years ago. Hers in in the basement but we may pull it out to 'cheat' on what parts of the castle are called in German.
And the website www.guidelon.fr is now translated into German, so I've tossed the link up on the school FB page.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 10, 2019 17:07:10 GMT -5
Being the mother of a nine year old girl is driving me crazy.
I want her to have friends and a social life but there aren't any kids in our neighborhood nor has Gwen yet demonstrated that she's ready to be walking back and forth to her friends houses alone.
So we do the shuffling. I'm cool with weekends and occasional week days but I'd like to have my house to myself other days. DH and I have not really met these parents so we have no clue if their cool with Gwen randomly showing up either.
All I ask is she let us talk to the other girl's parents so we know we're all on the same page.
You'd think I asked her to be a hermit. We had it out at Kids & Co today over it.
Am I totally out of line to ask that her friend not come over or go over there 6 nights a week? Like I said I'm cool with Friday nights and weekends just limit Monday thru Thursday.
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Post by steph08 on Oct 10, 2019 18:16:38 GMT -5
You know those parenting times when you just want to crawl in a hole and die?
Today was chloe's swim lesson day. She loves to swim. But the last few weeks, she has been fighting about putting her face under water. Not uncommon. Harper hated doing it for the longest time, too. Today she wouldn't even get in the pool. Yelling and crying and everything. Of course, it was the day DH was hunting and Harper came along to hang out. I gave her multiple chances to get in and then I drug her out of there, threw her in the van and came home. She is not going back for her final class next week and probably not for several months.
I know it's a phase but damn did I feel like a terrible mother and judged by the other parents whose 3 year olds weren't being jackasses.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 10, 2019 20:50:04 GMT -5
Being the mother of a nine year old girl is driving me crazy. I want her to have friends and a social life but there aren't any kids in our neighborhood nor has Gwen yet demonstrated that she's ready to be walking back and forth to her friends houses alone. So we do the shuffling. I'm cool with weekends and occasional week days but I'd like to have my house to myself other days. DH and I have not really met these parents so we have no clue if their cool with Gwen randomly showing up either. All I ask is she let us talk to the other girl's parents so we know we're all on the same page. You'd think I asked her to be a hermit. We had it out at Kids & Co today over it. Am I totally out of line to ask that her friend not come over or go over there 6 nights a week? Like I said I'm cool with Friday nights and weekends just limit Monday thru Thursday. We have so many neighborhood kids that I've given up having house privacy. There are kids in and out 7 days a week. I don't always love it, but I think the benefit outways my desire to hermit. Ours aren't roaming that far yet though. They walk home together from school which is a half mile, but the farthest neighborhood friend is down the next block around the corner.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 10, 2019 20:51:46 GMT -5
You know those parenting times when you just want to crawl in a hole and die? Today was chloe's swim lesson day. She loves to swim. But the last few weeks, she has been fighting about putting her face under water. Not uncommon. Harper hated doing it for the longest time, too. Today she wouldn't even get in the pool. Yelling and crying and everything. Of course, it was the day DH was hunting and Harper came along to hang out. I gave her multiple chances to get in and then I drug her out of there, threw her in the van and came home. She is not going back for her final class next week and probably not for several months. I know it's a phase but damn did I feel like a terrible mother and judged by the other parents whose 3 year olds weren't being jackasses. Those parents will get theirs. Its just too bad you won't get to see it.
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Post by lurkyloo on Oct 10, 2019 20:58:15 GMT -5
Beth, I love that assignment! Anyone have a good script for requesting a younger sibling be left home occasionally? A couple of the neighbor kids come over frequently, which is great, and the older boy is very sweet and self sufficient, but his 5yo sister is sometimes more than I’m willing to handle especially if I’m flying solo. DS and PP are already a full time job on their own! I don’t want to exclude her all the time, but it gets old pointing out that it’s kind of rude to come over to someone’s house then demand to be left alone to play with their toys. Plus she throws a pretty impressive tantrum
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Post by azucena on Oct 11, 2019 7:34:11 GMT -5
Drama - we have neighborhood friends across the street and both families have agreed that weeknights are just to short for playdate what with getting home at 5, homework, baths, dinner, bedtime. It's hard for the kids to understand but we try to make up for it over the weekends.
My 11 yr old is finally realizing that she can't make plans on her own, parents have to be involved and parents don't like spur of the moment even if it is to study for a test. You had several days notice so plan your study date and I'll gladly say yes and even do more than my share of the driving so the other friend(s) can make it.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 11, 2019 7:44:58 GMT -5
No cavities for either kid! C needs to floss though because he's starting to get gingivitis. K still needs braces so DH and I need to get our butts in gear and decide how to handle paying for them.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 11, 2019 7:46:36 GMT -5
Drama - we have neighborhood friends across the street and both families have agreed that weeknights are just to short for playdate what with getting home at 5, homework, baths, dinner, bedtime. It's hard for the kids to understand but we try to make up for it over the weekends. My 11 yr old is finally realizing that she can't make plans on her own, parents have to be involved and parents don't like spur of the moment even if it is to study for a test. You had several days notice so plan your study date and I'll gladly say yes and even do more than my share of the driving so the other friend(s) can make it. That's my beef. She's not getting she can't make spur of the moment plans. Apparently she made plans last week for her friend to stay the night without us knowing on Saturday. DH and I both work on Saturday night right now. The kid showed up on our doorstep and nobody was home. I told her all we want is to talk to her parents because they've sent Gwen home because it's too last minute so I'm sure they aren't super thrilled either. What is really pissing me off though is when I tell her not tonight she throws a tantrum like she is Abby's age. She isn't going to have friends over at all if she can't start acting her age.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 8:09:34 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 8:14:07 GMT -5
Being the mother of a nine year old girl is driving me crazy. I want her to have friends and a social life but there aren't any kids in our neighborhood nor has Gwen yet demonstrated that she's ready to be walking back and forth to her friends houses alone. So we do the shuffling. I'm cool with weekends and occasional week days but I'd like to have my house to myself other days. DH and I have not really met these parents so we have no clue if their cool with Gwen randomly showing up either. All I ask is she let us talk to the other girl's parents so we know we're all on the same page. You'd think I asked her to be a hermit. We had it out at Kids & Co today over it. Am I totally out of line to ask that her friend not come over or go over there 6 nights a week? Like I said I'm cool with Friday nights and weekends just limit Monday thru Thursday. My kids get all their social interaction at school and activities. We have ZERO kids over ever and neither has ever been to a sleepover...although older son started camping with the Troop about 30 nights a year starting in 5th grade.
One of the advantages of living in the country!
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2019 9:13:40 GMT -5
From my limited experience those epic 9 year old tantrums are age appropriate. I'm scared of what they'll look like on E after living through C's. Definitely made me doubt myself and everything. Thankfully that stage has passed and I can wait for the next seige of age and hormones to overtake us.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2019 9:21:47 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. I'm not always a big fan of therapy but I think I'd look into it for that and see if they can help with some coping mechanisms? I'm sorry you are dealing with this. That has to be so hard to deal with. Eta...I hope he feels better soon.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2019 9:32:06 GMT -5
Beth, I love that assignment! Anyone have a good script for requesting a younger sibling be left home occasionally? A couple of the neighbor kids come over frequently, which is great, and the older boy is very sweet and self sufficient, but his 5yo sister is sometimes more than I’m willing to handle especially if I’m flying solo. DS and PP are already a full time job on their own! I don’t want to exclude her all the time, but it gets old pointing out that it’s kind of rude to come over to someone’s house then demand to be left alone to play with their toys. Plus she throws a pretty impressive tantrum There is one neighbor boy who is a few years younger than C and another neighbor friend. He asks to come over because he knows the older 2 are together, and I usually end up saying no because I'm not able to supervise (and that the other 2 are older so they don't need as much supervision). But that is with the younger kid directly when he comes over, and he absolutely needs a lot of supervision. If it's with the parents and you're setting up play dates, maybe preface it with you'd love to have them both over, but you're on your own and can only keep an eye on the 2 boys, and you want them both to come over for the next play date? Hopefully it will help reset the other parents expectation. It's great to get both kids at the same place, but I try to make sure my kids aren't crashing somewhere when they're not the intended guest.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 11, 2019 10:18:50 GMT -5
From my limited experience those epic 9 year old tantrums are age appropriate. I'm scared of what they'll look like on E after living through C's. Definitely made me doubt myself and everything. Thankfully that stage has passed and I can wait for the next seige of age and hormones to overtake us. I figured as much but I am a poor reference for what "normal" 9 year olds act like. My mom always says I was born a mini-adult. The thing is she starts to remind me of my brother and I end up reacting to her the same way. I really need to stop that.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 10:20:39 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. I'm not always a big fan of therapy but I think I'd look into it for that and see if they can help with some coping mechanisms? I'm sorry you are dealing with this. That has to be so hard to deal with. Eta...I hope he feels better soon. What's really crazy is I think he inherited this. I was also terrified of anything medical, but I was also so terrified of making a scene that I didn't fight, I'd usually just pass out. It wasn't until I was pregnant with my first that it started to get better because I was getting used to it somewhat. I get blood drawn all the time now checking my thyroid (well a couple times a year is all the time to me). I still don't like it, but this would have been majorly traumatic to me 20 years ago. Despite that, I've always loved medical shows, he can't even be in the room with Grey's Anatomy on.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2019 10:46:06 GMT -5
From my limited experience those epic 9 year old tantrums are age appropriate. I'm scared of what they'll look like on E after living through C's. Definitely made me doubt myself and everything. Thankfully that stage has passed and I can wait for the next seige of age and hormones to overtake us. I figured as much but I am a poor reference for what "normal" 9 year olds act like. My mom always says I was born a mini-adult. The thing is she starts to remind me of my brother and I end up reacting to her the same way. I really need to stop that. I was terrified of what kind of kid C was turning into. It just didn't make sense, and they were over anything. No one else seemed to have this snarky moody kid and I said 9 1/2 was going to kill me. Once his friends started hitting that same age I'm hearing they're dealing with the same stuff. I know the current stage won't last either, but so far 10 has been great. He's still snarky but in a fun way and I haven't been tempted to make a tape outline of him as he sobs on the floor in positions that make it look like he feel from a 20 story building.
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Post by finnime on Oct 11, 2019 15:33:01 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. Sorry he's having such a hard time. My DS(now25) had tremendous medical anxiety. He felt sick when I talked with his pediatrician in front of him about anything at all when he was young. Worse yet, he actually fainted and had a mild seizure during the first day of fifth grade sex ed. He had to get an EKG, but there was no real problem. His doctor understood completely and assured me the EKG was just SOP. He did make it through the rest of sex ed without incidents and was interested in high school in training as an EMT. I don't think he has any problems at all now. Maybe you could ask his pediatrician about it? Just a thought. It will get better.
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Post by seriousthistime on Oct 11, 2019 22:01:01 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. My DD was like that. In the early elementary years she was deathly afraid of skeletons and bones. Halloween was hell for us because skeletons were on porches and walking around in costumes. At school they couldn't sing any song with a reference to bones in it without her becoming completely unglued. She hated going to the doctor because she was panicked about getting a shot. Even if I said it wasn't time for a shot, she would shiver at the thought of going to the doctor. If it was time for a shot, all hell broke loose. We had to go see about stitches a few times, and that was absolutely traumatic. I think she would have preferred amputation to getting a knee stitched up. She had her wisdom teeth out, under anesthesia, and it was like the end of the world before and after. Even into the later high school years she had an absolute fear of injections. When it came time to decide on a college I informed her she'd need an additional injection to attend one college, but the other college she was considering didn't require it. She scoffed and asked, "You think I'm going to choose a school based on having to get another shot?" So she got the shot and went to that college. Then she went to medical school. Now she sees blood and guts and gore every day, stitches people up, gives injections, looks at and feels bones (sometimes poking outside the body and sometimes just on an x-ray), and sometimes even pops a dislocated joint back into place. Kids outgrow some fears. The trouble is, you don't know at the time which ones.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 22:34:40 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. Sorry he's having such a hard time. My DS(now25) had tremendous medical anxiety. He felt sick when I talked with his pediatrician in front of him about anything at all when he was young. Worse yet, he actually fainted and had a mild seizure during the first day of fifth grade sex ed. He had to get an EKG, but there was no real problem. His doctor understood completely and assured me the EKG was just SOP. He did make it through the rest of sex ed without incidents and was interested in high school in training as an EMT. I don't think he has any problems at all now. Maybe you could ask his pediatrician about it? Just a thought. It will get better. I would faint ALL THE TIME and have seizures occasionally with the fainting. It got so bad that it went from being afraid of medical things to just being afraid of passing out in a high school class so that just going to school brought on the fainting. I ended up dropping out of school over this. So...I know what he's going through, but at the same time I know what he needs to do to get past this is to face it and that the avoidance behaviors are going to just make it worse. I gave up on the flu shots for him, but he's going to have to have 2 or 3 before going to 7th grade and I'm seriously dreading this. I have no idea what we're going to do. Physically hold down a 12 year old boy?
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Post by lurkyloo on Oct 12, 2019 7:16:14 GMT -5
Beth, I love that assignment! Anyone have a good script for requesting a younger sibling be left home occasionally? A couple of the neighbor kids come over frequently, which is great, and the older boy is very sweet and self sufficient, but his 5yo sister is sometimes more than I’m willing to handle especially if I’m flying solo. DS and PP are already a full time job on their own! I don’t want to exclude her all the time, but it gets old pointing out that it’s kind of rude to come over to someone’s house then demand to be left alone to play with their toys. Plus she throws a pretty impressive tantrum There is one neighbor boy who is a few years younger than C and another neighbor friend. He asks to come over because he knows the older 2 are together, and I usually end up saying no because I'm not able to supervise (and that the other 2 are older so they don't need as much supervision). But that is with the younger kid directly when he comes over, and he absolutely needs a lot of supervision. If it's with the parents and you're setting up play dates, maybe preface it with you'd love to have them both over, but you're on your own and can only keep an eye on the 2 boys, and you want them both to come over for the next play date? Hopefully it will help reset the other parents expectation. It's great to get both kids at the same place, but I try to make sure my kids aren't crashing somewhere when they're not the intended guest. It’s typically pretty casual-either we’ll pass their house while walking PP and they’ll race DS on the scooter then follow us home, or sometimes they’ll knock to see if we’re home. Parents generally try to enforce manners, but the kids are more free range than I’m used to. I want to be considerate, bc 1. neighbors and 2. DS is That Kid and I’m honestly grateful our neighborhood is so accepting and understanding. But by the same token I’d never send DS anywhere without supervision at this point bc I know he’s a handful. I think I’ll tell OB that he’s welcome to drop by, but if YS is coming they need to have their parents text first to make sure both DH and I are home. It’ll also help when DH gets the fence staked so PP can’t wiggle underneath and bolt anymore-one less thing to be hypervigilant on! Thanks for weighing in
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Post by debthaven on Oct 12, 2019 10:07:05 GMT -5
Wisconsin Beth I think you mean guedelon.fr (with an e). That place is fabulous! I accompanied DD's class there when she was in primary school (she's 27 now).
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2019 10:13:13 GMT -5
Well, Ex 2.0 is handling the being kicked out of scouts in stride. He texted last night asking if he could take Carrot selling popcorn in their neighborhood later today. I thought for sure he'd say screw raising money for them. It's probably technically "representing the scouts" which he's supposedly prohibited from, but I hate selling popcorn, and they do a good job. He also said he sent a letter to whoever he was supposed to contact about an appeal and hopes they'll let him back. I don't know what angle he took in trying to explain himself.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2019 0:36:57 GMT -5
Oh man. I took Carrot to urgent care last night and his medical anxiety is really getting bad. He was terrified to get a throat culture. He's had MANY in the past, but now he's convinced they're going to do something excruciatingly painful to him and he refused to open his mouth. They finally got it after 10-15 minutes of coercion and threats of bringing in help to hold him down, but he fought it and made it really difficult. I don't know what to do for him. Earlier they were talking first aid in scouts and he had to leave the room and it was super benign stuff like what do you do if you get a sunburn or find a woodtick on you, kind of talk. My DD was like that. In the early elementary years she was deathly afraid of skeletons and bones. Halloween was hell for us because skeletons were on porches and walking around in costumes. At school they couldn't sing any song with a reference to bones in it without her becoming completely unglued. She hated going to the doctor because she was panicked about getting a shot. Even if I said it wasn't time for a shot, she would shiver at the thought of going to the doctor. If it was time for a shot, all hell broke loose. We had to go see about stitches a few times, and that was absolutely traumatic. I think she would have preferred amputation to getting a knee stitched up. She had her wisdom teeth out, under anesthesia, and it was like the end of the world before and after. Even into the later high school years she had an absolute fear of injections. When it came time to decide on a college I informed her she'd need an additional injection to attend one college, but the other college she was considering didn't require it. She scoffed and asked, "You think I'm going to choose a school based on having to get another shot?" So she got the shot and went to that college. Then she went to medical school. Now she sees blood and guts and gore every day, stitches people up, gives injections, looks at and feels bones (sometimes poking outside the body and sometimes just on an x-ray), and sometimes even pops a dislocated joint back into place. Kids outgrow some fears. The trouble is, you don't know at the time which ones. Well this is timely. Ex 2.0 had Carrot out selling popcorn and he absolutely refused to go up to a house that was decked out for Halloween! It was broad daylight and most of it was more comical than anything, but...bones. Skeleton firefighters putting out a fire on his roof with skeleton dogs sitting on the firetruck. The guy saw them at the end of the driveway and came outside and asked if he was selling popcorn and was happy and nice and offered him an advance on Halloween candy, but Ex 2.0 had to physically drag him up the driveway. It was just bizarre. We can skip the flu shots, but before he goes to 7th grade he's going to need like 2 or 3 shots. I just don't know what I'll do! There will be no holding him down at that age. I really think I need to talk to somebody and get ahead of this. I think the poor kid is just doomed to have anxiety issues with his genes. I know he got the needle phobia from me. Never thought that could be genetic, but it sure seems that way and his dad's side has mental health issues galore.
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chen35
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Post by chen35 on Oct 13, 2019 14:20:34 GMT -5
My DD was like that. In the early elementary years she was deathly afraid of skeletons and bones. Halloween was hell for us because skeletons were on porches and walking around in costumes. At school they couldn't sing any song with a reference to bones in it without her becoming completely unglued. She hated going to the doctor because she was panicked about getting a shot. Even if I said it wasn't time for a shot, she would shiver at the thought of going to the doctor. If it was time for a shot, all hell broke loose. We had to go see about stitches a few times, and that was absolutely traumatic. I think she would have preferred amputation to getting a knee stitched up. She had her wisdom teeth out, under anesthesia, and it was like the end of the world before and after. Even into the later high school years she had an absolute fear of injections. When it came time to decide on a college I informed her she'd need an additional injection to attend one college, but the other college she was considering didn't require it. She scoffed and asked, "You think I'm going to choose a school based on having to get another shot?" So she got the shot and went to that college. Then she went to medical school. Now she sees blood and guts and gore every day, stitches people up, gives injections, looks at and feels bones (sometimes poking outside the body and sometimes just on an x-ray), and sometimes even pops a dislocated joint back into place. Kids outgrow some fears. The trouble is, you don't know at the time which ones. Well this is timely. Ex 2.0 had Carrot out selling popcorn and he absolutely refused to go up to a house that was decked out for Halloween! It was broad daylight and most of it was more comical than anything, but...bones. Skeleton firefighters putting out a fire on his roof with skeleton dogs sitting on the firetruck. The guy saw them at the end of the driveway and came outside and asked if he was selling popcorn and was happy and nice and offered him an advance on Halloween candy, but Ex 2.0 had to physically drag him up the driveway. It was just bizarre. We can skip the flu shots, but before he goes to 7th grade he's going to need like 2 or 3 shots. I just don't know what I'll do! There will be no holding him down at that age. I really think I need to talk to somebody and get ahead of this. I think the poor kid is just doomed to have anxiety issues with his genes. I know he got the needle phobia from me. Never thought that could be genetic, but it sure seems that way and his dad's side has mental health issues galore. DD15 stood up on the table so they couldn’t reach her for 7th grade shots. I think it’s a pretty common fear 😂
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